So, Give Me An Honest Opinion Of This...

[SPKrazy]

hypothetical situation (maybe)

a woman tells a man that she is "too confused" right now to date anyone and just needs friends. That she had to learn to be alone and she just needed to focus on herself and her kids before she would be any good for anyone.

The same day she changes her profile on myspace to "single"

a few days later the man sees her profile on OKCupid again with a pic and "single" (dating site)

So this man is thinking that maybe this person thought they were letting the guy down easy :rofl:

but then knowing that the guy would be on both of those sites and see these things, what do you make of the whole thing?

I'm thinking... maybe it was good riddance? :shrug:


Honest answers, I can take it.

[KitchenWitch]

1. "She was just not that into you"

Sorry. Sounds like she has difficulty being honest when it counts.

[SPKrazy]

5. that would be my assessment

yet she denies that she won't ever be "into me"

[supernova]

15. No, she's not into you

at all.

Sorry.

[ogneopasno]

2. Sounds like she's saying "no."

[SPKrazy]

6. One would think

yet she calls still

[KitchenWitch]

9. Run, do not walk, away from that.

One of my biggest red flags is the "Come Here Go Away" game.

[SPKrazy]

12. Yeah, its a sign of

a really mixed up mind

and I don't need that shit

[ogneopasno]

17. That's bad news. Avoid it.

[Lyric]

3. Sounds like she's trying to let you down easy.

It's hard to be honest when someone's feelings are on the line. It's not the "right" thing to do, but it happens.

Sucks for the other side, though.

[SPKrazy]

8. people pleasing way

maybe

its had its impact though

[Nickster]

4. She's trying to let you down easy, but leave enough evidence so you can put two and two together

yourself, that way she avoids the conflict. Time to move on, hypothetically.

[SPKrazy]

11. I agree time to move on

she gave me a phone on her account so we could talk

its going back to her this weekend

we are exchanging christmas presents with our kids

[GOPisEvil]

7. Two and two are not adding up.

While it is true that someone needs to be "ready" (in a Maslow's sort of way) to be in a relationship, someone who truly needed that would have deactivated their account on the dating site. Honestly I don't know enough about the choices on myspace to speak to that.

[SPKrazy]

10. she had it down

and put it up

no two and two don't add up

and then there are other factors that seem to just confuse the guy

[skygazer]

13. The bottom line to me is that this sounds like a person who doesn't know what she wants

And it's never a good idea to risk your fragile happiness on someone in that state.

[SPKrazy]

21. Yes I believe you are right

and thanks :D

[Symarip]

14. Alright, here's my take on it and I'll try to be nice to all involved

Just needs to be friends? That's one of two things: a. I still want occasional sex or b. when the phone's not ringing, that's me not calling. By the way, it's not ringing.

From what's given, she's keeping her options open, at best, or being too chicken shit to say what's really on her mind, at worst. Either way, she's sounds like a space cadet and she's probably going to drag you around the moon and back before you get any answers that are acceptable.

I find it odd the other person involved here is tracking her movements on the internet. I understand because losses can hurt. But in my experience, when someone asks 'can we be friends' I usually say, 'no, because I'm never talking to you again'. That may seem harsh but then no one is renting space in my head.

[SPKrazy]

19. It isn't tracking movements on the internet

when you open your home page on the dating site and there's her freaking picture with a "I took the kinky test and scored 68% kinky", so I checked out her page and saw that it was up. She had taken hers down. I had put mine back up when she broke up with me and announced that she needed probably at least a year to figure out what she wanted and when she might be up to dating.

[Deep13]

16. I don't understand the last part. nt

[SPKrazy]

22. Not sure what you don't understand

except that you don't understand the last part

be more specific and I'll answer otherwise I don't know how to answer

[Deep13]

23. here

a woman tells a man that she is "too confused" right now to date anyone and just needs friends. (SEEMS PRETTY CLEAR) That she had to learn to be alone and she just needed to focus on herself and her kids before she would be any good for anyone. (PERFECTLY UNDERSTANDABLE)

The same day she changes her profile on myspace to "single" (WHICH IS TRUE, OKAY)

a few days later the man sees her profile on OKCupid again with a pic and "single" (dating site) (STILL A TRUE STATEMENT, OKAY)

So this man is thinking that maybe this person thought they (WHO'S THEY? THE MAN? THE WOMAN? BOTH OF THEM?-"THEY" IS PLURAL YOU KNOW. SOMEONE YOU DID NOT MENTION?) were letting the guy down easy ABOUT WHAT? WAS HE TURNED DOWN AFTER A JOB INTERVIEW? WAS HE GIVEN SOME BAD NEWS ABOUT SOMETHING? WAS THE MAN INTERESTED IN DATING THE WOMAN? IF SO, YOU DID NOT SAY SO.

but then knowing (WHO IS KNOWING?) that the guy would be on both of those sites and see these things, what do you make of the whole thing? I DON"T SEE WHAT IT HAS TO DO WITH HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE.

I'm thinking... maybe it was good riddance? HUH? GOOD RIDDANCE OF WHAT AND BY WHOM?

[Taverner]

18. She's not into you dude

Move on

There are more fish in the sea

ON EDIT: If she wants to be speed dial booty call, go for it if you are into it

[SPKrazy]

20. If only

it isn't that way

no speed dial booty

[BarenakedLady]

24. That sucks.

:hug:

[TZ]

25. Moral cowardice.

Too afraid to tell the truth to the man that they just aren't interested in them in that way.
Sorry about that SPK.:hug: