Is it true that..........

[stewartcolbert08]

Everything happens for a reason? There is someone for everyone? and is there such a thing as "the love of your life", "the one", fate, destiny? And any other types of cliche bs you can think of name it and tell me your personal opinion on it. Right now I am kinda going w the idea that people say all that crap when they run out of stuff to say back to you and/or they just dont know what to say........:shrug: anyone??????

[Droopy]

1. None of that's real except for the love of your life deal.

The love of your life is not just one person, though. There are millions of people out there who could be the love of your life. That said, I don't understand why it is so hard for some people to find someone. I'm having a rough time myself. I think some folks just have impossible standards or they have an idealized person in their head that they are looking for that probably doesn't exist. If you are carrying some extra weight like me, that can make it harder, too. There are lots of chubby women out there, but for some reason they aren't going for me either.

[stewartcolbert08]

3. True.

I agree w/ the impossible standards thing! And i also believe that people in general are just assholes LOL I thought i had the love of my life for the last 5 years till he turned NOT to be but ...........IDK how much shit can one person pull before you can not let yourself forgive them ya know.

[MedleyMisty]

2. My husband is the love of my life

But I don't think destiny or fate had anything to do with it. I just happened to meet him through a series of circumstances and we got along really well, and here we are almost 10 years later still getting along really well.

In watching discussions about this on other forums, it seems like some people want an ideal supermodel live-in therapist who will cure all their problems and make them complete and focus totally on them. They don't want an actual partner. They want a beautiful mirror.

I don't know - I don't really feel qualified to give advice because my husband just sort of fell into my lap on the first day of college. I had made a friend at orientation and then met her again when school started and we were walking around campus when he went by on his bike and she reached out and stopped him and invited us to a luau at his dorm that night. They'd gone to high school together.

So it's not like I know anything about the adult dating scene, except that my brother goes to clubs and picks up loser skanks. If I was still looking for someone, I'd probably hang out around the books I liked in bookstores and libraries or look for local clubs based around things I enjoy.

I think that there are people out there you would be compatible with. I think it's just a matter of being open to finding them as opposed to being closed off with ideals and expectations and narcissism.

[stewartcolbert08]

4. lmao

loser skanks are the only things i ever see in clubs too! LOL