Well, my 14 year old daughter hates me - had a lil tiff over the halloween costume

[debbierlus]

She was going out trick or treating with a group of nice kids & going to a Halloween party after.

I looked in her plastic pumpkin and pulled out what she was planning to wear.

Fishnets

Super short mini skirt

& a couple of other accessories....

I said I do not think so.

So, a pillow was thrown at my head and she told me she hates me.

Ah......the joys of parenting a teenager :)

[Joe the Liberal]

1. Lol n/t

[XemaSab]

2. Tell her if she wants to dress like that

you can drop her off downtown and pick her up at 3. And you get 50% of the haul. :P

[debbierlus]

4. I would but in the mood she is in - I might be inviting more then a tossed pillow

Might be more like a seen from the Exorcist...

:)

[Odin2005]

33. OMG, you did NOT say that!

:wow: :rofl:

[kid a]

3. my 16 yr old daughter going to a party as lady gaga...lady gaga doesn't like to wear pants

that was a fun costume challenge, but we compromised with leggings and a short skirt - VERY high heels, had to cover the cleavage - she went all out on the make-up and hair.

i'm usually referred to by her as the "devil" to her friends.

[debbierlus]

5. That sounds really great - I was open to compromise but she is in one of those famous teenage girl

Moods

Anyone who ever had a teenage daughter will know what I am talking about.....

:)

[Iggo]

20. I have a 14 yr old niece living with me.

Sometimes I'm the greatest. Sometimes she hates me. Comes with the territory. Thank goodness I've been through this once already. The 20 yr old is in college and is a well mannered, pleasant human being. I have no doubt the current brat will turn out just as good.

Yep. I know what you're talking about.:hug:

[liberaltrucker]

6. If it weren't the costume, it'd be something else

Trust me on that.

:banghead:

[debbierlus]

7. Oh, I know it.

My son is 22 and I got off easy.

She is making up for him and quadruple x 100.

Love her madly, but she drives me NUTS sometimes.

[Whisp]

17. I can't believe I survived those years.

I still pinch myself. man, what torture.

It will get better, really ;) but best to you in the meantime. There are many many out there struggling with same. I felt very alone tho. That was bad.

[kentauros]

8. She could still go in that costume, as

[jonnyblitz]

14. I have that movie but never watched it. nt

[kentauros]

15. I saw it in the theater when it came out.

It's fun and funny :)

Maybe pull it out tonight, eh? ;)

[LeftyMom]

9. You know she's changing after she leaves the house, right?

Even if you confiscate any article of clothing she has that covers less than a full length raincoat, she'll borrow something from friends.

[debbierlus]

11. Well, she has wasted so much time having a fit, she won't even have time to change

She is ending up with NO costume.

Stubborn as the day is long. My little Taurus girl.

[pink-o]

24. Well, at least you know how to deal with her Taurus personality!

You can only wait it out. Trying to push one of them is like trying to move a boulder, the harder you push or cajole, the deeper the heels dig in.

(Yes, I'm the secular Jewish agnostic who puts stock in astrology. So sue me! I'm in good company with Lewis Black.)

[Capn Sunshine]

10. Halloween = exploring

Teen age girls usually do stuff on Halloween that they would like to "try" but haven't the guts or upbringing to do otherwise.

Can you find a flesh colored body stocking to wear underneath? Is that a compromise? At this age, the costume is all about style points, and sadly , the sluttier the better. In a way it's a statement against objectification. In a way. It's also round one in the skirmish between the kid inside her and the adult she longs to become.

[debbierlus]

12. I understand that - however, the mood does NOT allow for talking

She hates me. End of story.

[Capn Sunshine]

16. Maybe YOU should dress up

really slutty. Might be shock therapy.

[janx]

19. HA!

Cap'n...yes, there are times when our children don't understand what we're talking about until we illustrate it ourselves.

[janx]

18. She doesn't hate you. She's fighting with you!

:rofl:

Fight-fight-fight! Teenage girls. It's not very much fun, but it's normal. ;-)

[debbierlus]

25. Oh, at that moment, she hated me. Loathed would be the better word.

That's okay. She will be laying in bed with me watching videos while I play with her hair tomorrow.

[pokerfan]

13. Are you married to Jim Lovell?

Barbara Lovell: Dad, can I please wear this?
Jim Lovell: Sure.
Marilyn Lovell: Jim!
Jim Lovell: No! No, absolutely not.

[EndersDame]

21. I hid my fishnets , corsets, lacy underthings from my mom

I was a "good" girl I waited until I was 20 to even go out on a date with a boy. I just like lingerie and the whole glamourous pin up girl/ burlesque aesthetic .

Perhaps compromise by wearing red or some neon color tights/legging underneath the fishnets for a cool effect

[Inchworm]

22. Thunk 'er in teh head!

:rofl:

Mine's big now thank goodness.

:)

[rug]

23. This belongs in GD. The soda/food stamp thing has died down.

[old mark]

35. Needs a food stamp/halloween candy thread now, before it's too late!!!!

[UndertheOcean]

26. You know that once she turns 18 she will rebel like crazy .....

The forbidden fruit is always the sweetest.

[tonekat]

27. Reminds me of when I lived with my parents

If I went shopping and bought outfits I didn't want to show the 'rents, I'd leave my shopping bags in the bushes on the way from the car, go in the house say hi, go to my bedroom, open the window, then retrieve my bags later and throw them in my bedroom window.

[elshiva]

28. How about this:

[Captain Hilts]

29. You done good. nt

[Orrex]

30. Tell her that she can wear it...

As long as she doesn't mind you wearing the same thing when you walk her to school on Monday morning.

[proteus_lives]

31. One of the ways I realized I was a grown-up was...

That I began thinking that teenage girls dressed like street-walkers and "Their parents let them out the house like that??"

Good for you. This country needs parents willing to put their foot down.

She'll get over it.

[Odin2005]

32. ROFL!

:rofl:

[debbierlus]

34. She finally stopped pouting after making herself an HOUR late for her halloween fun

And, my husband spent a half hour playing good cop to help convince her to stop saboataging her evening and she finally put on a beautiful silk Renaissance Dress (a costume from Shakespere & Co that I picked up at a clothing sale) and braided her hair on the sides.

She looked lovely.

By the time we got to the party to drop her off, she was grudgingly smiling and she hopped out of the car to join a throng of 8 girls (none of whom were remotely dressed in the type of outfit my daughter planned on wearing, she might have been even relieved that she didn't end up wearing that outfit!)

I just talked to her friend's mother and she is staying the night.

So, all is well that ends well.

The only thing I want to know is where the hell she bought the thigh high black fishnets. I have never been able to buy them around here :)!

[lillypaddle]

36. Being hated as a parent

goes with the "good parent" territory. Congrats! And of course, she will get over it -- in about 10 years. LOL! :)