Am I a bad person?

[Hepburn]

My neighbor died early this morning. Since I moved to this development, this woman has been absolutely horrible to me. In fact, I have a friend with a bi-racial child and this woman made some racial remarks to the child and to my friend. So, that should give you an idea of what a monster this lady truly was.

My problem: I felt relieved when I knew she died. I watched the first call car from the funeral home show up and wheel her out and take her away. I did not feel one slight bit of grief. This woman is now gone and cannot not bitch, moan, swear, cuss at me any more and she can no longer tell lies about me and everyone else. Guess I just had to get this off my chest because I am feeling kind of guilty about feeling relieved she is gone.

[hobbit709]

1. No reason to feel bad.

You didn't do anything to cause the situation.

[Hepburn]

4. Yeah, you are right...

...I guess some times I think that everyone has some redeeming traits. This one across the street from me ~~ seems to have been the exception.

Thanks for putting the situation into perspective.

[Demoiselle]

2. You are not a bad person...

If, in the next few weeks, you were to pop over to her house and tell her relatives what a total monster she was, I might withdraw that statement.
You're not gonna do that, because that's not who you are. Maybe in a while you'll be able to feel sorry for her for having a shriveled little prune where her heart should have been..
I have no doubt that she paid a heavy price for being a monster.

[Hepburn]

3. Yeah, I think she did pay a heavy price for being as hateful as she has been to others.

One sorta friend was there this AM ~~ and I think she was there to see what she could get. The woman had some money and things. And the sorta friend arrived with her brother driving a BIG white pick up truck.

Thanks for the kind words. :hi:

[Old Troop]

5. Don't feel bad, she apparently died too old.

[jp11]

6. Not in my book.

[petronius]

7. Not in the slightest - a lack of grief, or even a feeling of relief at the passing

of an unpleasant person is perfectly natural. Your only obligation is to let her relatives grieve in peace (they at least are obligated to fake it, at least a little bit).

I think nil nisi bonum is a good rule (although it comes with a host of exceptions). She's gone, and you can start the process of forgetting her.

(I may be mixing up my stories, but are you the poster who was harassed by a neighbor for being Wiccan?)

[Hepburn]

9. Yep....

...I am. The lady that died ~~ both she and her two friends harassed me because of my religion. Said I hexed people and did voodoo, that I worshipped the devil. One of them would sprinkle my house with this holy water thingy and make the sign of the cross. Real lovely threesome. Weird, too ~~ one of the other two, her house burned down recently and the third one, she had to get a restraining order against her own son because he threatened to kill her.

Seems like Karma bites.

[Arugula Latte]

8. Nah.

Why should you grieve? She sounds awful.

[DerekG]

10. No, you're a lucky person

A lot of folks are situated next to malcontents, drug dealers and psychopaths--and most of them don't get to see these rotters hauled away in an ambulance.

Consider yourself fortunate. My suggestion: Celebrate with a turkey dinner, and donate a few extra cans to your local food bank.

[AllenVanAllen]

11. People "pant seeds" their entire life,

and they do eventually bloom. Apparently all she planted your community was "weeds." Don't feel bad for too long, be kind to yourself and others and you can rest well.

[Skittles]

12. no

as long as you are not expressing your relief to her family and friends, you're OK

[Hepburn]

13. No, I could not do that no matter what she has done.

Not even a temptation. I am am just relieved that I do not have to put up with her ugliness anymore.

[stewartcolbert08]

14. You are not a bad person

I would have felt the same way. Even though you may feel for her family or something doesnt really mean you were sad to see HER go. Make sence? Plus, she sounds like she was a dick. LOL dont feel bad! ;-)

[Indi Guy]

15. You Must Be Joking -- Or You're Ayn Rand Incarnate...

Has it crossed your mind that your deceased neighbor might not have been the "monster" you depict her as -- maybe she had a troubled past?

Does the fact that you resort to this kind of name calling (after her death) tell more about you than her?

I used to be extremely insensative & judgemental (raised that way). Through much pain, I've learned to be sympathetic to the sensative & insensative alike. Please grow to be sensative -- it will save you much pain.

[hobbit709]

17. From the original post I would say she is sensItive.

[Dr Morbius]

16. I think the fact that you're asking indicates you aren't. (nt)