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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 10:29 PM Original message |
Okay, so my drunk fiance smacked me a good one tonite... |
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flvegan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 10:31 PM Response to Original message |
1. Keep packing and leave. |
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chrisa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 10:38 PM Response to Reply #1 |
79. +1 |
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Lex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 10:35 PM Response to Original message |
2. Here's what I know . . . |
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Flaxbee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 10:36 PM Response to Original message |
3. Really? And he's still your fiance? |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 10:48 PM Response to Original message |
4. He's never behaved like this...ever... |
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CaliforniaPeggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 10:51 PM Response to Reply #4 |
5. Sounds to me as though he has a problem with alcohol. |
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A HERETIC I AM (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 11:24 PM Response to Reply #5 |
16. Spot-on, Peggy. Sounds like he is a reactionary, mean drunk. |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 11:00 PM Response to Reply #4 |
8. Yes you do. Harsh answer. But it is the truth from an unbiased person |
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Aristus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 11:01 PM Response to Reply #4 |
9. If he's blaming you for the fact that he hit you, that's a true sign of an abuser. |
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MorningGlow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 10:13 AM Response to Reply #9 |
48. +1 |
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Common Sense Party (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 12:08 AM Response to Reply #4 |
17. Drop him like the sack of shit he showed himself to be. |
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MajorChode (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 08:00 AM Response to Reply #4 |
41. It WILL happen again |
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Brickbat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 10:27 AM Response to Reply #4 |
50. Reread your own post carefully. |
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Kaleva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 10:55 PM Response to Original message |
6. Did you try to convince him not to drive? |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 10:57 PM Response to Original message |
7. Get out while the getting is good. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 11:05 PM Response to Original message |
10. everything in this post from drunk driving, to grabbing wheel to him hitting you and coming after |
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LiberalAndProud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 11:08 PM Response to Original message |
11. Please get out. |
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auntAgonist (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 11:11 PM Response to Original message |
12. This time it's a bruise, next time |
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Dystopian (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 11:12 PM Response to Original message |
13. Advice... |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 06:07 AM Response to Reply #13 |
35. Thank you. |
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elehhhhna (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 12:15 PM Response to Reply #35 |
94. honey, you will never bring him up -- but he will surely drag you down |
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nolabear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 03:44 PM Response to Reply #13 |
66. 1. Leave. 2. Get support and help. 3. Never, never let anyone treat you badly. |
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grasswire (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 11:22 PM Response to Original message |
14. driving while drunk? |
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Kali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-17-10 11:23 PM Response to Original message |
15. don't be stupid |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 12:17 AM Response to Original message |
18. wow get safe then aa or alanon (from someone who did similar stupid when young) |
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Kaleva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 12:24 AM Response to Reply #18 |
20. Excellent advice. |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 06:05 AM Response to Reply #18 |
34. thx for the reality check |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 06:10 AM Response to Reply #18 |
36. Money???? |
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Brickbat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 10:30 AM Response to Reply #36 |
51. He's not a good guy. |
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cherokeeprogressive (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 12:23 AM Response to Original message |
19. Your fiance is less than a man. |
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Biker13 (609 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 06:34 PM Response to Reply #19 |
74. Good On You! |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 12:39 AM Response to Original message |
21. This guy says DUMP HIS ASS! |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 12:44 AM Response to Original message |
22. hitting while drunk is still hitting |
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OmahaBlueDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 12:47 AM Response to Original message |
23. Blueamy |
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Jamastiene (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 12:51 AM Response to Original message |
24. Get the fuck outta dodge and don't look back... |
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Starry Messenger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 12:52 AM Response to Original message |
25. What would you tell a good friend who came to you and asked this? |
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mcctatas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 02:51 AM Response to Original message |
26. I was where you are 17 years ago, I didn't leave him, I married him... |
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old mark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 03:30 AM Response to Original message |
27. Leave him before he kills you....nt |
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Sweet Charming Dem (207 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 03:47 AM Response to Original message |
28. Get the fuck out |
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Inchworm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 04:22 AM Response to Original message |
29. What the hell was he drinkin' ? |
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Drunken Irishman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 04:34 AM Response to Original message |
30. I'm sorry that happened. But why would you even allow him to drive if he was drunk? |
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Drunken Irishman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 04:35 AM Response to Reply #30 |
31. And this coming from a professional drunk who NEVER drives drunk. |
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Paladin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 02:38 PM Response to Reply #30 |
64. You're Blaming The Victim. Piss Off. (n/t) |
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Drunken Irishman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 06:16 PM Response to Reply #64 |
71. Piss off yourself. |
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proteus_lives (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 04:52 AM Response to Original message |
32. First off: Leave. |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 06:16 AM Response to Reply #32 |
37. Yes, I was drunk |
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proteus_lives (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 11:36 AM Response to Reply #37 |
54. Well, then leave. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 02:10 PM Response to Reply #54 |
62. +1. nt |
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DevonRex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 04:23 PM Response to Reply #37 |
97. IMO you were driving drunk, too, then. You grabbed the steering wheel while you were drunk. |
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underseasurveyor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 07:06 PM Response to Reply #97 |
102. Agreed a thousand percent plus |
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TorchTheWitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 05:03 PM Response to Reply #37 |
99. by not thinking highly enough of yourself |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 06:02 AM Response to Original message |
33. Thanks to all of your replies. |
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MrMickeysMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 11:10 PM Response to Reply #33 |
84. Have him read this thread, then examine how he reacts... |
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sarge43 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 06:31 AM Response to Original message |
38. Run, run like the wind. |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 06:36 AM Response to Original message |
39. Leave now, leave forever. |
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LaurenG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 06:39 AM Response to Original message |
40. Do what it takes to extricate yourself from this relationship |
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Monique1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 08:51 AM Response to Reply #40 |
42. Don't usually give advice |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 08:57 AM Response to Original message |
43. wtf...driving drunk and you allowed it? |
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peacefreak (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 08:58 AM Response to Original message |
44. Wait, wait, wait.... |
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Monique1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 09:12 AM Response to Reply #44 |
46. I forgot your last sentence in your thread |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 08:49 PM Response to Reply #44 |
75. and if she's paying his way now |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 09:09 AM Response to Original message |
45. I just want to thank everyone for their responses... |
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Pool Hall Ace (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 10:17 AM Response to Reply #45 |
85. People who are coming across as harsh or mean |
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Generic Brad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 09:16 AM Response to Original message |
47. No advice. It's clear you know what you must do |
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Brickbat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 10:24 AM Response to Original message |
49. Get out now. |
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m00nbeam (125 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 10:44 AM Response to Original message |
52. Leave him |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 11:31 AM Response to Original message |
53. This is how all abusive behavior begins. With one smack |
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zanana1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 11:43 AM Response to Original message |
55. Sounds like a shortened version of my first marriage. |
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Solly Mack (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 11:46 AM Response to Original message |
56. Leave. Now. If you put it down to just being drunk then you're choosing to overlook |
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frogmarch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 12:06 PM Response to Original message |
57. Leave and |
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Iggo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 12:07 PM Response to Original message |
58. You're lucky to be alive...twice over. |
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TroglodyteScholar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 12:23 PM Response to Original message |
59. Run, don't walk. n/t |
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GoneOffShore (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 12:35 PM Response to Original message |
60. As Dan Savage would say - DTMFA |
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Callalily (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 01:46 PM Response to Original message |
61. (((blueamy66))) |
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Paladin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 02:32 PM Response to Original message |
63. Cut Your Losses And Leave Him Immediately. No Second Chances. (n/t) |
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LisaL (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 03:08 PM Response to Original message |
65. Don't get in the car with someone driving drunk. |
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Iggo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 04:20 PM Response to Reply #65 |
68. yeah, don't do that again either (n/t) |
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mzteris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 03:49 PM Response to Original message |
67. LEAVE!! and don't look back. |
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Pool Hall Ace (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 04:36 PM Response to Original message |
69. Your drunk fiance? Oh my gosh. |
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grasswire (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 10:49 PM Response to Reply #69 |
82. emotional abuse is abuse |
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Pool Hall Ace (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 10:20 AM Response to Reply #82 |
86. I do not have any family who can take me in. |
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grasswire (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 10:41 AM Response to Reply #86 |
88. once again, a womens shelter is a huge source of help |
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foxfeet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 05:00 PM Response to Original message |
70. How are you doing today, blueamy66? |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 05:52 PM Response to Reply #70 |
100. I'm okay |
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LiberalAndProud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 06:30 PM Response to Reply #100 |
101. Good luck with the therapy. |
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GreatCaesarsGhost (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 06:28 PM Response to Original message |
72. and change your locks on the house.. |
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cwydro (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 06:33 PM Response to Original message |
73. Very sad and disturbing post. |
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Ilsa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 09:07 PM Response to Original message |
76. I hope you're okay. |
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struggle4progress (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 09:25 PM Response to Original message |
77. 1. Listen carefully to everybody who complained about allowing a drinker behind the wheel |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 10:18 PM Response to Reply #77 |
78. my brother and his wife were drinkers. you could see them revin' up the dance |
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laundry_queen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 10:41 PM Response to Original message |
80. It'll hurt like hell |
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applegrove (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 10:45 PM Response to Original message |
81. Go to the hotel and keep moving on from there. Sounds like he was drunk driving too. This is a bad |
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grasswire (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-18-10 10:52 PM Response to Original message |
83. If you are afraid to leave him, you can take refuge at a womens shelter for victims... |
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The Velveteen Ocelot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 10:24 AM Response to Original message |
87. I think you know what you have to do. |
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TheManInTheMac (512 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 11:10 AM Response to Original message |
89. Get away from him. |
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Dora (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 11:30 AM Response to Original message |
90. Get out. Get out. Get out. |
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stray cat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 11:36 AM Response to Original message |
91. Driving drunk and hitting people - not good traits |
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underseasurveyor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 11:44 AM Response to Original message |
92. He was drunk and driving and you were a drunk passenger. |
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DevonRex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 11:57 AM Response to Original message |
93. Honestly, you both need help. Apart. |
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elehhhhna (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 12:18 PM Response to Original message |
95. from now on, when you meet a man, or even a new female friend, |
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rurallib (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 03:33 PM Response to Original message |
96. Please let us know what you do. We really do care here. |
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Bucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-19-10 04:42 PM Response to Original message |
98. If this was truly out of context, then stand firm and make him fix what he did wrong. |
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