If someone who was not your sweetie called you "sweetie"

[undeterred]

Poll question: If someone who was not your sweetie called you "sweetie"

[lumberjack_jeff]

1. ... I'd order the bacon and two eggs. And orange juice. n/t

[rhett o rick]

6. Why orange juice? nm

[BlooInBloo]

8. And milk!

[Occam Bandage]

2. Here. Go to town.

[Labors of Hercules]

57. BWAH!!!!

*SPEW* :rofl:

[skiddlybop]

3. Yes, especially if he is a BLACK MAN

addressing a white woman.

Certainly would DISQUALIFY him from being President. At the very least.

And he would have to TRANSFER ALL OF HIS CAMPAIGN FUND to the other candidate when he withdrew

ALONG WITH A PLEDGE FROM ALL OF HIS SUPPORTERS TO MAX OUT FOR THE OTHER CANDIDATE.

That would be the only fair reaction.

[Kool Kitty]

14. Please tell me you're joking.

On edit: I'm too dumb to know a sarcastic post when I see it. Duh. ;)

[dchill]

16. Exsnarkly!

:hi:

[jgraz]

60. Wait... he said that to a WHITE WOMAN???

I think the fact that Hillary hasn't turned that into a campaign commercial is a significant indication of growth on her part.

[QueenOfCalifornia]

78. jgrz

your sig line cracks me up.

I just noticed it.

also - pretty funny post too.

I needed a good chuckle today.

Thanks.

(edited to improve on already okay typing - I can't see apparently.)

[BlooInBloo]

83. hahahah!!!

[mmonk]

4. Well since I'm male what do I do when a woman calls me sweetie

that isn't my sweetie? I've been called that or honey plenty of times, at least a couple of times a month. We don't have a voting option. Carry on, I was just curious.

[undeterred]

21. Sorry sweetie, but we didn't have a voting option for a very long time.

:hi:

[mmonk]

39. True but that was before I was born.

;)

[undeterred]

48. You think we're gonna forget about it?

We want REPARATIONS. :hi:

[mmonk]

49. Sure but what are the reparations?

No sweetie votes by me? Darn.

[undeterred]

54. No more white males in the presidency.

At least for the next 250 years.

[mmonk]

70. So what was wrong with Kennedy?

No Feingold? No Kucinich?

[undeterred]

73. What was wrong with women voting?

Reparation is a bitch.

[Jersey Devil]

5. A barmaid at Vinny's Boom Boom Room called me "sweetie" a few days ago

I'm a guy and she calls all the guys "sweetie". So if I were a woman and the barmaid was a bartender would it be "sexist" or just someone being friendly in their own strange sort of way?

[yellowcanine]

7. I am a man and I have been called "sweetie" many times by women clerks and waiters.

I don't mind a bit. I have noticed it more south of the Mason Dixon line. "Hon" and "Honey" are also used frequently. No big deal, I say. It is just some folks way of talking, a cultural thing.

[JeanGrey]

9. Sugar, obviously you aren't from the south.

We all total strangers sweetie and sugar and other names all the time.

[undeterred]

23. I once worked for a company in the South

and the men and women did talk to each other like that. I got used to hearing it, but if you're a northerner its pretty hard to be a participant!

[TBF]

38. Really? I noticed you are from Wisconsin and I grew up there as well. I now live in Texas.

Not only does everyone call each other honey, sweetie, sugar and more, the men run in front of you to open doors and they bless you at every opportunity. Despite being a "northerner" (or "yankee" as they say down here), I don't take offense at any of it. Do you know why? Because it's harmless. A few more kind words and gestures on the part of all of us wouldn't hurt at all. Do you know what is harmful? Presidential candidates who offer to obliterate other countries. That's a harmful action.

[undeterred]

50. I've only lived in WI and IL

The company I worked for was Florida based, but I lived in Chicago and travelled to our clients in the "north". The weirdest thing about the Southern guys (from Alabama, Tennessee, Georgia) was that they didn't own coats! They considered going to LaCrosse, Wisconsin in March a fate worse than death. I actually fell in love with WI after travelling up here for clients.

I actually prefer "sweetie" to "maam"; the latter makes me feel OLD.

[CottonBear]

84. We Southerners use ma'am as a term of respect no matter what your age! n/t

[JeanGrey]

76. That's okay! We'll forgive you! (smile)

[EFerrari]

10. That kind of language may affect younger women more than

those of us who were young when God was in a stroller. lol

When I was in my 20s, that kind of stuff upset me. Now, it doesn't seem to be about me at all but more about the speaker. Can't muster the outrage but, I remember it.

ETA: It may be a matter of when you learn how to navigate the world as a woman, the world with all its warts.

[GreenPartyVoter]

36. "When God was in a stroller" Bwahahahahaha!! Agree with your comment too. :^)

[rhett o rick]

11. Not only do i get called sweety all the time, but they also speak very loud to me. Just because I'm

old don't mean I'm deaf. WHAT?

[TahitiNut]

12. Sweaty?

:dunce:

[billyoc]

13. Where's the option for strippers calling me sweetie?

Because frankly, I think it's rather forward.

[Frustratedlady]

15. Good grief! If this is your only problem, you are lucky.

Lighten up. It's getting to the point where you can hardly breathe in this country.

Look around the world and see all the suffering and deaths from these disasters. And you are concerned about being called "Sweetie"?

:banghead:

Put things in perspective, people!

[Posteritatis]

61. "This is what we call a First World Problem." (nt)

[Withywindle]

17. Partial list of people who've called me "sweetie" in the past couple weeks.

1. My mom.

2. An elderly guy on the bus I gave up my seat to.

3. Three of my (female) co-workers. (also all above 50 or so)

4. One of my (female) editors when I helped talk her down from an anxiety attack. (she's younger than me).

5. A (young, male) store clerk trying to flirt with me. It was playful and friendly so it didn't bother me a bit. (Flirting isn't harrassment - I know the difference when I feel it.)

6. A (young, female) Starbucks barrista apologizing for getting my order wrong and giving me a free coffee.

7. A (middle-aged, male) bartender.


None of these offended me in the least.

[BuyingThyme]

18. Happens all the time. Generally when I buy lunch or gas.

I like it.

[Yael]

19. Non. Issue.

JMO

[Beacool]

20. It depends........

In a professional setting, as it was in Obama's case, it's totally inappropriate.

If it's a waitress or cashier at some store, no big deal. I would let it slide.

[Captain Hilts]

45. Exactly. You don't talk that way to a stranger in a professional setting.

It's fine in a diner, etc.

[Madam Mossfern]

53. Whoa there!!!!

Do we have less "respect" for a waitress or cashier than we do for colleagues in a professional setting?
Isn't that sentiment some sort of classism? Are you an elitist?

[undeterred]

69. Reporter not ok

Waitress and cashier ok

Go figure.

[Beacool]

72. You people appear to live in an alternate reality.

What do I care? Let him continue to call women "sweetie". If you think that's professional, then you obviously don't work in a corporation.

[Madam Mossfern]

74. You just don't get it,

I have worked in "corporations" whatever that means. Obviously you believe in a caste system where it is appropriate for some to be called sweetie, while not for others.

[TheZug]

22. Is that someone a hard-working American, a white American?

[CoffeeCat]

24. Oh maaaa land!

I'd be...well, I'd be...UPSET! <twirls frilly parasol>

I'm a WOman. I'm not a sweetie. Or a honey. Or a sweet honey pumpkin muffin. And no,
I'm not the kind of woman who can suck an orange through a garden hose. So don't ask!

So please...treat me with the respect I DESERVE and save your smut talk for your smoke-filled poker
rooms!

Hoodlums!!

And stay off of my lawn too!!

[DearAbby]

25. Floozies/ Huzzies and Man whores, call people Sweetie!

the nerve...I bet they call the opposite sex on the tele-o-phone too! First they call you sweetie...then, you know where that will lead? WELL DO YOU??!! Exclamation point 111!!

[Drum]

26. lol...the ? is gender free but the choices all pronoun-laden.

:eyes:

[rhett o rick]

27. I get "sweety" a lot nows days. I have gone thru a number of stages in my life.

First as a boy not knowing my ass from shinola. Then a young man chasing (without much success) the skirts. Middle age was a stage some would call lecherous, a term i always thought was a little harsh. But at a certain age the young ladies stopped frowning at me and hurrying away and started smiling at me. I first thought wow they are finally seeing me as the handsome man I am. Then it dawned on me. I could read clearly in their smiles, "what a sweet, harmless old man." Harmless, omg please not me. That's when they started calling me sweety. What a cruel thing to do.

[TechBear_Seattle]

28. I've never used "sweetie" as an endearment, quite the contrary

Usually, my calling out of "Sweetie?" is followed by something like, "Did you remember to pay the electric bill last month?"

[sfaprog]

29. If it was an attractive woman calling me "sweetie", I would probably fantasize about her later

you asked

[NeedleCast]

30. Sweety-gate is so last week

Next non-issue please.

[madmom]

31. Depends on the age difference... if it was a much younger person saying it to an older person

I would think it was condescending.

[Dbdmjs1022]

32. I call girls I'm friends with "baby" all the time. Neither they or my gf find it disrespectful.

It's just something I say, I don't intend it to be demeaning, and I'm sure Obama doesn't either.

[intaglio]

33. Depends on the candidates background

If a Mancunian calls you "Loov" (either sex) don't be offended

If a Cornishman calls you "M'ansum" (male) or "Moy Burrd" don't be insulted

[TheDoorbellRang]

34. As a woman and an Obama supporter

I would guess that reporter cured him of the habit of calling women "sweetie" for good. Through the years I've been called "hon," "doll," and "shuge" (short for "sugar"). Depending on who it was, it was OK, eyebrow raising, or icky. OK was people I knew who called everyone that because they weren't good with names. Eyebrow raising when someone I didn't know called me that, and icky was when I was called that by some old fart trying to flirt. In Obama's case, it would have been eyebrow raising for me. He really should have known better, and now he does.

I cured many an old fart by laughing (not angrily) and replying, "Hello there, snookums."

[Perry Logan]

35. But if a Clinton called someone who wasn't their sweetie a sweetie--that would be SOME BAD SHIT.

[graycem]

47. Hmm.. really?

What about "baby"?

Hillary calls Chris Matthews "baby" and where's the outrage? She even pats his lil' cheek...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gjsqDrdvIPw&feature=related

[HiFructosePronSyrup]

37. Shirley, you're joking.

[BlooInBloo]

41. I'm SERIES!!! And don't call me Shirley!

Funniest movie of all-time.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=midrADL_kHI

[XOKCowboy]

40. Is "darlin" just as bad?

I wanna make sure since I use it all of the time. I don't mean anything sexist or disrespectful though. Or do I? I'm confused.

[stray cat]

42. I've been called sweetie and honey by each sex and realized quickly its cultural

Thankfully before I punched out the poor guy the first time in St. Louis.

[DemGa]

43. It depends - is there a clear power differential?

Then I would think that person "cutesy" - or perhaps an arrogant ass.

[Captain Hilts]

44. It better be at a diner OR the man saying it better be over 70 years old. nt

[graycem]

46. This will go down in history

as the dumbest "gate" of all time. If he had called her cupcake, well, then that would be a whole other matter. :P

Edited to add "baby-gate"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gjsqDrdvIPw&feature=related

[haymakeragain]

51. Lather, rinse, repeat.

snooooooooze

[ecstatic]

52. Sweetie-gate is offensive to me. People making noise about it are willing to abandon Roe v Wade

What a bunch of stupid hypocrites! Obama is NOT a sexist. To imply that he is only takes away from women who are truly experiencing TRUE sexism and inequality.

[PoliticalAmazon]

55. "Sweetie" is okay with me. I draw the line at "Honey-Bunny-Boo" though.....

I have to know someone in the Biblical sense to get that intimate.

[tokenlib]

56. I protest the sexist wording of this thread!!! LOL!!!

The thread presumes it's guys saying "sweetie" all the time...

I'm a guy who gets called sweetie by women sometimes...of course I think it's kind of nice..:) :)

[shaniqua6392]

58. Goodness gracious..Are we still talking about this crap??

He apologized. It is over. Ugh. :crazy:

[RUMMYisFROSTED]

59. Other. I'd get me some digits.

:woohoo:

[last1standing]

62. Really. Why ARE we discussing this?

Obama has a habit of calling women sweetie. I bet most of the women he's known in his life find it endearing, otherwise he wouldn't say it.

Regardless, he said it to someone who was apparently so offended she made it into a national story. He called her and apologized, immediately.

Now, one week later, some people at DU are still so distraught by the event they can't leave their homes without worrying that Obama might show up on their street and start screaming "SWEETIE" at them.

This is nothing but manufactured fauxrage meant to cause disruption.

[Indenturedebtor]

63. Lol who hasn't it happened to? I've heard it from women about 500 times and from men about 50

Who cares? It's not disrespectful. This whole "sweetie-gate" thing is rediculous. F-off already Clinton.

[IronLionZion]

64. It wasn't that long ago that he would have been murdered for that

(black man saying anything to a white woman) so consider how far we've come.

[undeterred]

65. Whistling.

[NaturalHigh]

66. Other:

I'm a male who seems to get called sweetie by older waitresses all the time. My wife has even commented on it. I'm a middle-aged fat guy, so it's not like they're flirting with me. It doesn't offend me at all, but I don't quite understand it.

[Mimosa]

67. Sweetie is a friendly term, no dissing was intended

In New Orleans nearly everybody uses baby, darling, sweetie. It's often used by blacks everywhere. My guess is Obama won't be using it anymore, though.

[emilyg]

68. I would call him dick.

[Scout]

71. i'd use an inappropriate term of endearment right back at him, with a smile of course

then tell him what my name is...

[derby378]

75. Y'know what? Fuck political correctness...

I've had enough of both Air Fleischer and certain Democrats telling me to "watch what I say." Nuh-uh. I don't seek to ruffle feathers here, but I've done it before and I'll probably do it again if I think a few feathers need ruffling.

[McCamy Taylor]

77. Just call him "Stud-muffins" back. That will make him think the next time before he does it.

Nothing makes a point of how offensive sexism is like doing something even more offensive back.

[Occam Bandage]

80. ...and you think that would dissuade him?

Most guys I know would be encouraged.

[McCamy Taylor]

85. Not a Senator in a public forum. If a guy called me "Sweetie" in private I wouldn't care.

We are talking about a public forum where "Sweetie" is disrespectful. So, you disrespect him back in public, where "stud-muffins" or something similar would make people laugh--at him.

In private, who gives a shit? I call guys "sweetie" and "honey". I'm from the South.

[NightWatcher]

79. Ever been to the South? Women call me Sweetie all the time, and I love it

[QueenOfCalifornia]

81. Other

BURN HIM!

[CottonBear]

82. I'm from the South. We call people sweetie all the time, even strangers!

;) We're justiendly like that. We also use the term "honey" a lot too!

Edit: Sweetie and honey are affectionate nicknames used for men, women and children!

[backscatter712]

86. Being called "sweetie" isn't something I find worth getting upset about.

I've been called sweetie by waitresses, female friends, etc. and I've been called "sweetie" sarcastically by male friends who were trash-talking. Doesn't bother me.