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Actually, this is an "oh shit, what can we do now to keep things from sliding even further down the hole..."
My now 17 year old stepdaughter is special needs - she has serious self-esteem, emotional(serious anger) and control based issues because of her mother's emotional rollercoaster of a life, previous physical and emotional abuse, and also has mild ADD and severe Rapid Cycle Bi-Polar syndrome. (Both biological parents also have these issues, as well as clinical depression under treatement) She is under treatment, but is often non-compliant, because, of course, she needs to be "in control" more than she needs to be in control. She has "fired" four therapists because as soon as they stop listening to her talk about her latest friends and everything she thinks she should be doing and start asking her about her past (other than her mother being a bitch or a whore - her words)or what she thinks her problems really are, she clams up and doesn't want to see them any more. We got custody from her mom who had her out of state when she was 13, mid-way through 7th grade. Their school system was about two years behind ours. Now for the crux - She has been dropped out of her "last chance" school option before being sent to state school with the gang-bangers and dopers as she still not completed the 9th grade and has refused to go to class in a one-class-a-week charter/homeschool set up for the past three months. (Emotional issues with her friends problems) She was "graduated" out of 8th grade, but dropped from regular high school in the middle of the 9th grade and subsequently listed as a special needs student. Apparently, in her mind, she can't go to school if she has friends, or vice versa, so she's spent the last two years bouncing between various types of "friends" she meets when she does go to class, because she can fake being nice and calm for a couple months and she's still cute. Before we get jumped on, no, we try to be consistant with the parenting and don't spoil her, but there's a point she gets to before she's stuck pouting and locked up in her bare room with nothing but schoolwork for a month - we have let her out occasionally or she'll destroy the house and everything in it. And that's where she "meets her friends", and the cycle starts up all over again - just when she starts to show some progress.
Sorry, I digress, I'm still upset.
They just kicked her out of charter school today - came by and picked up the books. We will be contacted by the school district as to her options. :(
We had contacted Job Corps - and at this point, she's willing to give it a try because they would train her, pay her, have her get her GED and handle the "anger issues" and self esteem issues - and she'd be out of the house, but until she's 18 and "on her own", we "make too much money" for her to be enrolled. Not enough money to send her to a private school, and there is none around that would take her anyway without wanting so shove some sort of happy-sunshine-religion into her for her problems. Her mom has always been a whacked 'thumper of the Southern Bab'tist" flavor and she views religiosity as hypocracy.
Oy, this is a mess. We really have no idea what is going to happen now...
So what other options could there be for her? Right now, it's either gang-banger high, which will eat her alive even more because she's "got enemies" there already from when she was in a standard school setting, or getting the crap fined out of us (which might be happening already, we don't know yet) for her not going to school until she's eligible for Job Corps.
I don't know, perhaps this is just a vent and we've got no options. It's all up to the San Diego Unified School district. :(
Haele
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