Have you ever had a "straight" person make a pass or suggest it?

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I have a friend who is married with 3 kids, a part-time bodybuilder who has a sticker that says, "NO FAGS" on his home gym equipment, and told me he votes for Republican candidates. He came to my house once to buy something from me, and he was wearing cologne, on an early Sunday morning, dressed in a T-shirt and sweat pants he was wearing cologne, and while he was in my house he said, "I feel so decadent when I come here." I just laughed and he also did, but afterwards I thought he was subtly trying to send me a message or suggestion. Has this kind of thing ever happened to you?

[Vanje]

1. No. thats never happened to me

I dont invite anyone who displays 'No Fag" stickers, to my home.

[Imagine My Surprise]

11. Ditto...

though I can say that I went through a period where I was a magnet for straight men. Some of whom I had affairs with.

[BlueEyedSon]

2. Was he wearing cologne?

[Rowdyboy]

3. Oh, God, the stories I could tell about "straight" men in rural, smalltown

Mississippi. The details would curl your hair! Short answer? I could name a half dozen off the top of my head, back in my single days. Not only yes, but HELL YES!!!

[William769]

7. Ok now you have peaked my curiosity!

:evilgrin:

[Rowdyboy]

14. I think a lot of straight guys are just curious....If they know someone

who is gay, and they trust him, once in awhile they decide to experiment. An old joke I love goes-"What's the difference in a straight man and a gay man?" "A six-pack and a joint"

Believe me, I'm no catch. These guys were really straight, just a little curious. Not a single one ever "converted", they just wanted an experience.

[Kikosexy2]

20. An old ...

neighbor of mine--a young 26 y/o--once propositioned a 3-way with me. I remember it well. I was out in my front porch putting up Halloween decorations. He lived with his parents at the time. He was home alone--parents had taken off--I guess to Mexico? but gone for a couple of days. Anyhoo, young neighbor comes home from work and walks up to his fence and ask if I'd like to have a beer with him. I said sure--stopped what I was doing and went over. We stood out in his front yard drinking and talking. Mind you, he already knew I'm gay because of a previous conversation we had. So sure enough the topic is all gay oriented (i.e. gay sex). He wondered also if I would consider doing it with a female or make the switch. I said no. My hunch already was the guy was horny period. So he proposed we'd go over to his ex girlfriends and have a 3-way. I said I'm okay with that but I have no intentions on playing with his ex. I would be mainly engaging with him. And he's all like but I'm not into (gay sex) even though he mentioned back in high school he participated in a circle jerk with other guys. I told him I'd prefer that we go inside his house (since he was alone) and play. But he was nervous about that and afraid someone might find out. Well duh? don't say anything about it--hello? Anyways, I decided to decline the 3-way invitation. He took off over to his ex's but returned quick because she wasn't home. So poor guy was left lonely and horny. And to think I was very obliging to give him a very nice blowjob (sigh)!! just one of the many straight/gay encounters.

[swimboy]

10. Yeah, my hair is much too straight. Tell me some stories!!

:evilgrin:

[Rowdyboy]

16. I could get this thread locked SOOO quickly!

Better keep quiet. Hell, two weeks ago my best friend of 30 years (agressively straight, married and a daddy) had way too much to drink and was EXTREMELY suggestive. I told him to drop by the house anytime he was sober and we'd see what the three of us (my partner included, of course) could work out. So far, he hasn't turned up but you really never know.

Its amazing some of the misconceptions some straight men have about gay sex and relationships.

[Gildor Inglorion]

31. Me, too, Rowdyboy! We should collaborate on a book...

even now, when I'm "a certain age" *ahem* I STILL get hit on by straight guys. Flattering, but I'm not interested; life is complicated enought without that shit!

[Chipper Chat]

4. I wouldn't read too much into it.

Maybe he just wanted a beer and a game of pool?

[William769]

5. Take my advice.

If you think he's straight, don't even bother. Could have dire consequences.

If you want though you could ask him what that sticker that says "FO FAGS" mean. Should give you an answer to your question.

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13. I was at his house weeks later and noticed the "NO FAGS" sticker was gone.

[MsUnderstood]

6. he is one of those self loathers

The kind who is gay but doesn't want to admit it--so he acts straight, gets married, then picks up guys on the side.

IMO anyway

[Strathos]

9. It's happened to me time and again

I even had a man's wife ask me once if I would have sex with her husband while she watched.

If men were truly honest with themeselves and everyone around them, more than half the world would be bi-sexual.

I'm from a very small town in Tennessee and have always had men chasing me, but always whispering in my ear, "don't tell anyone".

[swimboy]

12. Welcome to DU, Strathos!

:hi:

[OldLeftieLawyer]

18. Welcome, Strathos, to DU

It's not always this dirty.

<wink>

[Strathos]

22. Thanks swimboy and OldLeftieLawyer!

I don't mind the the dirt at all, sometimes the dirtiest places are the most fun to hang out. ;-)

[Touchdown]

8. I have.

I told her to "Get off of me PREVERT! I ain't no breeder! GAWD what? Do you think I'm one of THOSE????!!!" ...and I did it so that EVERYBODY knew that I was gay...Then I waited out in the parking lot and beat her boyfriend up while I made her hold my jacket.;)

[teenagebambam]

15. I wish I had a nickel for every time

and they're usually Baptists, to boot.

[OldLeftieLawyer]

17. The stories I could tell you

from my faghag days, they would curl your toes........

The downlow is real, and, honestly, I worry about straight women, wives, who don't have a clue what their men are up to.

[kweerwolf]

19. I make it a rule to avoid "straight" guys wanting to "experiment" ...

... because I just don't need that sort of drama in my life. But I have been hit on by straight guys on a number of occasions.

Once I guy used the line on me that his wife was eight months pregnant and couldn't have sex ... and he was soooooooo horny. :eyes: (Needless to say, I strongly suggested that his place should be home with his wife and not out trying to satisfy his urges cruising for dick.)

Another memorable time was several years ago with a friend of mine who started off asking me if I thought he acted gay. He claimed someone he had met was convinced he must be gay. (I told him there is not one gay "type" and he needs to ask himself that question to find the answer.) Later he bemoaned the fact that he'd never had a blow job from a woman that he considered satisfying. At that point I told him, "Look, if you're wanting to play out a script where I say, 'but you've never had one from a man' and proceed to offer my services, be upfront with it." He, of course, denied it. Funny thing was that he moved away a year or so later and I heard through mutual friends that he was engaged ... then as the wedding drew nearer he mysteriously called it off. Hmmmmmm ...

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25. There is a straight guy who has visited me 5 or 6 times, and I don't know

if he is "experimenting" or just seeking an outlet. But frankly I don't mind it.

[closeupready]

21. Oh, yes!

When i was a kid working at the fast-food place, one of the guys who had a reputation as a ladies man made a pass at me - I was so confused and scared, I just laughed it off as a joke or something, but I found out later I wasn't the only guy he'd either flirted with or actually fooled around with.

[TechBear_Seattle]

23. Straight person of the same sex? Never.

On the other hand, I knew a poly couple a few years ago where the wife kept propositioning me. Alas I, like her husband (who I kept propositioning, much to both of their amusement) am hopelessly monosexual. :cry:

Worse was in my late teens, when I was a fair bit heavier and worked a job that kept me clean shaved. I kept getting hit on my lesbians. Now THAT was embarassing.

[foreigncorrespondent]

24. Yes!

One of my friends daughters (over 21 now) has been making passses towards me for the last few years.

I told her a few years ago that number one I am in a relationship. And number two that she happens to be like a daughter to me.

I saw her for the first time in quite a while a few days ago, and sure enough she was flirting with me all over again. Guess she doesn't know how to take no for an answer.

Apart from that, I have had many men believe one night with them would turn me straight. LOL

[kevinbgoode]

26. YES

Even before I came out years ago, I would have straight friends who would come onto me. . .hell, I remember once going with two buds to a straight strip joint and while we were all watching the show (gosh, this was like 1976 or so) this handsome dude next to us starting a conversation. We didn't think anything of it - just had our beers and laughed with him. . and then when we were ready to go, he followed us out.

The other two started ahead to get the car, and this guy was still talking to me. . .and then just hit on me by saying "Are you interested in maybe having a little fun tonight?"

I was shocked...I mean, we were all at a straight strip club. Of course I turned him down and never told my straight buds about it, but I remember wondering where that came from all that night.

[sui generis]

27. I have a warehouse full of toaster ovens from my exploits

I've got spares if anyone wants any. . .

Seriously, though - when it has happened it's been more of a "I'm curious (and drunk)" than an "I think I might be gay" thing, and being a pretty dude helps A LOT too, if I may bang my own drum. That was a figure of speech, not innuendo.

It also depends on the caliber of people you have around you too; if it's not that big a deal either way, it's not that big a deal. If it turns out it is a big deal, then it's best not to get that kind of involved, especially if it's a friend/acquaintance. In this day and age if you're in your 20's or 30's and a liberal surrounded by liberals, it's pretty safe that it's not that big a deal.

But remember, you can be "used" too, so look after yourself.

[BR_Parkway]

29. You're right, they need to have at least 1/2 a can of beer, so they

can play it off later

[TechBear_Seattle]

30. Does anyone remember Romanovsky & Phillips?

They were a rather flamboyant gay music duo back in the 80s. The song this thread reminds me of is "Must've Been Drunk."

MUST'VE BEEN DRUNK

I woke up in the morning with you wrapped inside my arms
Last night the tent got cold so we just snuggled to keep warm
I must admit that you had started feelin' pretty good
And I was feelin' you a little better than I should

Must've been drunk
For us to carry on this way
You don't talk like Mister Rogers
I don't look like Doris Day
Now maybe it's the wine and weed
That made us act so queer
Or maybe homosexuals have bottled up this beer

My girlfriend she's suspicious, she must know there's something wrong
'Cause ever since that night my need for her is twice as strong
And we've avoided sleepin' out or wrestlin' since then
But deep inside I feel this need to hold you once again

Must've been drunk
For us to carry on this way
We don't have the right equipment
For the games we seem to play
Now maybe it's the wine and weed
That made us act so queer
Or maybe homosexuals have bottled up this beer

Now you have long been married and you've got a couple kids
And you swear your wife feels better than your buddies ever did
But me I've found the flaw in our old denial game
I've slept with men cold sober and it feels good just the same!

Must've been drunk
For us to carry on this way
I swear God wouldn't let a former altar boy be gay
Now maybe it's the wine and weed
That made us act so queer
Or maybe homosexuals have bottled up this beer!

Pretty daring stuff for its day, and just as true now :yoiks:

[BR_Parkway]

32. I'm so waiting for Brokeback Mountain to open - those lyrics made me

think about those 2 hotties camping underneath the stars....

[indigo32]

28. Straight Women make passes too

I never had any I felt comfortable acting on, several were coworkers, but it always helped my self esteem a bit ;)

[xchrom]

33. i'm in the ''hell yeah'' column.

from the time i was thirteen until late adolescent all my sexual outlets were with straight boys.

then i was a bartender for many years -- always in straight bars -- and i'll let you guess the rest.

but it's those experiences that finally led me to the conclusion that sexuality isn't a fixed thing -- it's fluid.
moves on a continuum.

in the last ten years almost all of my important affairs have been with bisexual men.

while experiences with gay men far outweigh those with straight and bi men -- there has certainly been diversity.