names

[ccharles000]

What do you call yourself or prefer to be called? I prefer gay or queer. I do not mind being called fag as long as it is not negative. :hi:

[Creideiki]

1. Gay

If I use another word my friends know the sarcasmotron is operating at full power.

[davidinalameda]

2. I prefer SIR

:bounce:

[LeftCoast]

20. Well I know what kinda bars you go to now

:D

[racaulk]

23. Well then! Could I give you a call sometime, sir?

;)

[WillParkinson]

3. Well, I prefer...

Will.

But you can call me Will. :-)

[Fearless]

4. I'm a fan of sir as well.

Mr. is also fine. I'd even accept "Hey you!" once in a while. If I have to be named based solely on my sexuality, which I'd hope I didn't in an average day, gay would also be fine. I've always found homosexual a little too clinical and massively annoying in British accents (odd pet peeve I know). I don't like fag because of what the word was based off of. I don't care for queer because it connotes "odd". It's just preference really, I can tell the difference between someone who says it lightly and someone who means one of those words harshly, and when it comes down to that, that is all that matters.

[terrya]

5. I call myself gay

NEVER, under NO circumstances will I call myself nor allow anyone else to call me a fag. :grr:

[LostinVA]

7. Yeah -- I've got to question how gay someone who allows that is

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. queer. dyke from friends. gay. but mostly just pri.

[UncleSepp]

8. Queer. "Gay" is too confusing for me.

As a bio female, I dated mostly men, and a few women. As a transman, I haven't been dating anybody, but I still mostly like men with a few exceptions. I like other transfolk, too - I have met transwomen who I have found very attractive. I think it's the self-knowing and the willingness to take risks to step toward self-actualization that I find sexy. That, and the way so many bio women hate their bodies is different from the love transwomen have for bodies they worked so hard to get.

"Straight" never quite fit me. "Gay" doesn't really tell the story. "Pansexual" sounds to me like I have a fondness for cookware or goat-legged flute players. So "queer" is okay by me. I wouldn't call anyone else that, though, unless they use it for themselves.

[qb]

9. Gay

I don't mind queer or homosexual either.

[gaspee]

10. Different things

Depending on who's doing the calling.

I call myself a dyke, as do the women I hang with -- we call ourselves dykes but don't want anyone else calling us that.

Gay and queer work too. To me, queer is more of a political statement.

[lightningandsnow]

11. Queer.

I'm not a big fan of "lesbian" in regards to myself, as while I'm primarily attracted to women, I've also been attracted to some men (and trans people) here and there. Although I wouldn't identify as bisexual, since I'm really mostly attracted to women.

I also use the word "dyke"... I love how radical and reclaim-ey it sounds.

[Rowdyboy]

12. I'm 50ish and faggot and queer still hurt too much for me to want to reclaim...

I make do easily with gay.

[mitchtv]

13. I'm a" bit" older than Rowdyboy

and I'm ok with Gay. I find fag and Faggot more than hurtful , to me they are inflammatory. I get so little sex these days that homosexual is a misnomer. I object to straight I prefer Strait or strate. The "strait" spelling is actually a better use than what they think they are, straight. I have no objection to fag being used with members of the club.

[BillSam]

15. Get more sex!

Sorry if this is a bit off-topic, but remember that they now say that when it comes to sex and much more "51 is the new 21!" So if you're, say, fifty-four, you're really only 24 in today's sexual terms. Guys over 50 are apparently getting laid in record numbers these days, due to the Internet and other venues. (I'm not quite 50 but judging from some bars I go to the 50+ crowd is doing A-OK!)

Play safe, stay safe, and have a ball!

Oh, yes, I prefer GAY. I know queer has a new meaning but I'm old enough myself to remember its old meaning, and for that reason I can do without queer and certainly fag or fairy etc.

[mitchtv]

16. Well the partner might feel left out

We are both very affectionate but the drooling passion is a thing of the past. He has seen the downhill side of 70. I waited for many years to not be a slave to my dick, so it don't hurt so bad to lose your body and looks. We are both considering rentals.

[davidinalameda]

18. you make me drool!

:evilgrin:

:loveya:

[Fearless]

26. Also the group with the highest growth in STD's... Wrap the tool.

:evilgrin:

[Mapman923]

14. Gay here,

but I admit that I do love using the term "faggot," if only for the giggly shock that people express when I use it.

"Queer" is just too "alternative" for me.

I long for the time when there is no need for a term that differentiates the many flavors of "GLBT" from the many, many, many flavors of "normal."

[Moloch]

17. I prefer to be called David..

but gay will do when someone is describing my sexual orientation..

[libnnc]

19. If someone (anyone) ever calls me a fag...

It will surely be the last word they utter. :hi:

[TechBear_Seattle]

21. Anything except Late To Dinner

:toast:

It doesn't make much difference to me, as long as it is not used in a derogatory fashion. I've been called "pansy faggot" by close friends who meant it as an endearment and I've been called "gay" in a way that made it clear I was being insulted. Context is everything.

[swimmernsecretsea]

22. **Fabulous** nt

[racaulk]

24. A hot mess

No, wait, that's Chovexani...
















Kidding!!! :hi:

:hide:

[SacredCow]

25. Mary....

:hide:

That's the usual name my group tends to use when teasing the other... "Have another drink, Mary..." or "Mary, don't EVEN go there!" I don't know how that stuck... :eyes:

[BillSam]

29. I didn't know there were so many gay guys still

calling each other "Mary!" I thought the whole pet female name thing was a thing of the past. I'm not putting you down, but are you and your friends older men? Younger guys? Would you say more stereotypical or less? Is this just peculiar to your particular group of friends or do you hear it a lot?

At least it's just not done in the bear community. I've met only one man who has a "female" name for himself but while he looks like a bear he's actually a "femme" -- not that there's anything wrong with that. And I know another fairly youngish guy who occasionally refers to gay men as "Marys."

Don't call me Mary, Mary!LOL

[DarkTirade]

27. I am me.

And I expect to be called by my name. :)

*edit* - I might make exceptions for certain people to be allowed to call out things like, "oh baby" or "oh god" or something along those lines...


Seriously though, what I mean is that I don't like being labeled for my charactaristics... I prefer to be called who I am, not what I am.

[mondo joe]

28. Gay, I guess. I don't really care.