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through this all that this person is attuned to a wave length that is cultish. No judgment. He has told me he wants someone to take him by the hand, which I did, and lead him. No one is capable of doing that for another person. I have struggled my own way through and each much do so on their own. I do have some understanding because I too used to want a formula. Just tell me the answer, and I will follow. That kind of thing. That is where he is stuck. I have released him to find Freedom of Thought and Feeling. I don't want to control him. I know others do want to control him. I wish him Freedom.
I spoke with a very wise friend tonight and he gave me this: "Let It Go". I cannot do "God's will". I cannot go with "The Universe is all as it should be". I can go with "Let It Go".
This person is trapped in a cultish mindset. I don't know how to reach that. I don't know that it is my business to do so. But unless he lets go, as I am struggling to do, then, each his own.
As far as deciding how we act .. I am highly sensitive. I have to use sage and every means possible, which I have neglected, which probably could have been put to good use, although I gave this person all kinds of Reiki and Clearing for HIM, not for me .. but I have to Let Go. Which I believe is what you are saying. It takes a couple of sticks up side my head sometimes to get me to understand. I cannot move this person off his personal pursuit. I believe he was better off when we were pursuing together. But I always felt a stress. Like I was responsible for him "getting it". I'm a great teacher. But even the best teacher cannot make a student learn. I can't see that he offered anything in the way of my personal advancement. He admits he is a taker. He claims he destroys women's lives. I take that as a challenge and a prophecy. I won't go down without a fight. I have felt like I was down for the count. Everyone tells me to "dump him". Not so easy. But I've been reading the Secret thread and am watching the movie. Only the strong survive? I wish everyone Freedom. No one should be in bondage. He is in bondage to his own limited belief systems, even though he saw in me a Free Spirit. I can't hold that against him.
I have so much to learn. The best teacher learns all the time. I've been called to be healer/teacher. I can't help it. I falter. But then I learn more.
And yes, control is central. That's what my sage told me tonight. I am fortunate in that I have a sage. Someone I sought eight years ago, and he appeared. He is still in my life. Attraction, manifestation and intention. These are my lessons. And the ability to use them correctly.
I don't know that I will be any more able to finish things. But I will set my intention on doing so. Much unfinished business is so heavy. No, it is not only my responsibility, but I must feel that I've done what I can.
I know the part about the only "right" answer. Right on. I've actually been glad he is not here today and tonight, even though I was having heebie jeebies all weekend. No. I don't have to work out his stuff. That's what makes it so wonderful to grow. We do it. Like, this may be an old cliche', but what if someone holds a child up all their life and they never learn to walk on their own? How does that help? Who does that help? This may seem so elementary to those of you who are so far more advanced than I.
Believe it or not, I do have access to Power. Just as everyone does. How do we express it? How do we make it manifest? As mentioned in another post, this is such a growth experience for me. I'm falling down and getting up. Falling down and getting up. I'm so glad to be with friends who don't mind me falling down. No one minds when a child learning to walk falls on her butt. I feel so much like a little child learning to walk. And so privileged to be among encouragement to go ahead and stand back up and try again. Fall down 7 times, get up 8, was always my motto. But the 8th time has been a bitch for me. I won't deny it.
I don't know how to reach someone who is intent on finding the one solution. I was there before, and was just not satisfied with the non-solutions. Maybe I can be there for someone else in the same situation. Maybe not. But I already feel this situation has made me stronger. And especially the response from this community. Wise souls.
I have to Let It Go. ... My actions are to take the best control of myself I can. And wish he and all do the the same. This experience has made me stronger. And so it is.
What does this have to do with DU? Please don't think that I don't care about the world torment. But don't we have to deal with this one on one? I may be wrong. But We must start healing here in our own environments before we see world healing. Correct me if I am wrong.
I don't know what to do about the regional conflicts. It is all one on one. If one brother can offer another peace, then what? Each is his own brother, in peace. I wish Freedom for All. If I had a God, I would pray. The only God I know is Brotherhood/Sisterhood. ... I know there are sick SOB's on the planet, and I don't know how they got here or why they are here. Maybe the same reason we all struggle. I don't know. I can't stand the violence. I used to cry myself to sleep praying for the middle east in the '80s. It didn't help evidently. But I won't give up any more on them than I will on my personal situation. We have Power. Watch The Secret. Pray. Meditate. Grieve. Cry. Care. This is our only stand. History. We all perish. But how. In honor or disgrace?
I call Honor.
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