now i find my flashes are directly related to stress. Boy, isn't that the truth. All the more reason to live a laid-back lifestyle.
The T-shirts are a great idea and here's another: black cohosh. There are studies that show it circumvents the hot flash. If you're interested, post here or PM me and I'll look the research up. It's helped me enormously.
Oh and can I say a good word for fans!? Fans are great. I have them everywhere in my house. I love to have a fan going on my shoulders and back as I sleep, even in the dead of winter.
There's a pillow called the "Chillow." I had one for awhile (until my cats dug their nails into it). Great thing for sleeping cool.
Yet another thing I found that's helpful is some type of cold pack that you put in the frig and it doesn't "sweat" as it warms up. I like to put this under my pillowcase.
All of these ideas/devices/activities are not just for hot flashes--I just like to be cold. My husband (a Scotsman) likes to be cold, too. We hate the heat.
Cher