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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 10:53 AM Original message |
The dilemma of the stay at home mom/wife |
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treestar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:02 AM Response to Original message |
1. It proves what hypocrites conservatives are |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:27 AM Response to Reply #1 |
11. There does appear to be a split in their conservative values. |
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treestar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 12:14 PM Response to Reply #11 |
30. True, their hero Raygun blamed women working for unemployment |
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SoCalDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:03 AM Response to Original message |
2. It's all of the above |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:32 AM Response to Reply #2 |
14. It took me about eighteen years to realize that, in the end, this was |
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glowing (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:04 AM Response to Original message |
3. I think some are mean and many are very jealous... |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:36 AM Response to Reply #3 |
15. My mother was that tired mom, coming home from work. |
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calimary (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 12:21 PM Response to Reply #15 |
31. My best friend is that woman. Married this cute and much-younger guy, |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 01:40 PM Response to Reply #31 |
42. It was easier when it was easy to network. |
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calimary (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 02:25 PM Response to Reply #42 |
49. Yeah - you have to be able to "get something" out of it, whatever it is. |
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kdmorris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:07 AM Response to Original message |
4. I was a stay at home mom for 8 years |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:39 AM Response to Reply #4 |
17. I certainly feel sorry for the stay at home dad. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:39 AM Response to Reply #4 |
18. well, i would love to be introduced to him, a huge smile and excitement |
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Fuzz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 09:56 AM Response to Reply #4 |
87. I'm a stay at home Dad with two daughters |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 12:01 PM Response to Reply #87 |
92. That had to be a keeper. |
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Berry Cool (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:07 AM Response to Original message |
5. Is the stay-at-home trend really as big as they're claiming it is? |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:43 AM Response to Reply #5 |
20. I have no idea who came up with this poll. |
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Triana (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 10:09 PM Response to Reply #5 |
75. I doubt the trend is anything remarkable but surveys like that are meant to.. |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 08:39 AM Response to Reply #75 |
79. Thanks for a good post. |
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PDJane (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:10 AM Response to Original message |
6. I don't think it's either jealousy or resentment...... |
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CTyankee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:12 AM Response to Original message |
7. "Get a job" AACK! What the hell do they think raising kids is? A big vacation? |
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Berry Cool (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:21 AM Response to Reply #7 |
8. They only have the housework when they get home from the day job if they assume it themselves. |
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wildflower (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 12:52 PM Response to Reply #8 |
39. I think the problem with that is... |
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Berry Cool (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 03:18 PM Response to Reply #39 |
52. And to that I'd say "Hallelujah!" |
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Xithras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 12:36 PM Response to Reply #39 |
96. Yep, that's pretty much my opinion on it. |
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hfojvt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 12:47 PM Response to Reply #39 |
97. are you sure he's not already helping with the chores? |
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CTyankee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 01:07 PM Response to Reply #8 |
40. But that is not taking into account single moms. I know. I was one. |
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Berry Cool (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 03:20 PM Response to Reply #40 |
53. I'm not talking about single moms, obviously. |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:51 AM Response to Reply #7 |
21. There's no question that raising children is extremely stressful. |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 04:50 PM Response to Reply #7 |
66. if it was a job they'd pay you for it |
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Warpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:25 AM Response to Original message |
9. First, if you're a woman with children, no matter what you do |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:31 AM Response to Reply #9 |
13. If conservatives are thrust into your life.... i have become more and more isolated |
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yardwork (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:41 AM Response to Reply #13 |
19. I'm sorry that is happening to you, and I understand. I was there. |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:58 AM Response to Reply #19 |
24. I bet it was easy to find people who could hold a good political discussion |
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yardwork (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 04:50 PM Response to Reply #24 |
65. No, it's still difficult. Most people are willfully ignorant. |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:56 AM Response to Reply #13 |
23. Thank you, seabeyond. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:59 AM Response to Reply #23 |
25. exactly. in my area a peace sign is a bad thing. what does that say. |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:52 AM Response to Reply #9 |
22. Friends are very hard to come by around these parts. |
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Berry Cool (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 03:23 PM Response to Reply #9 |
54. And if you're a woman WITHOUT children, you're going to be wrong too. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:26 AM Response to Original message |
10. prior to marriage and kids i scorned sah. then with babies i didnt like it on one hand, |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 12:00 PM Response to Reply #10 |
26. The world has really flip-flopped |
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Liberal_in_LA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:30 AM Response to Original message |
12. I don't understand turning against NOW just cuz your husband had a bad female boss |
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yardwork (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:36 AM Response to Reply #12 |
16. Yeah, I'm stuck on that too. What happened? |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 12:36 PM Response to Reply #16 |
34. NOW advocates for better *comparative* working conditions. |
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yardwork (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 04:51 PM Response to Reply #34 |
67. What? No way. NOW is not advocating for anyone's wages to decrease. |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 09:24 PM Response to Reply #67 |
73. Then I guess men's pay will continue to drop to attain parity. |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 12:09 PM Response to Reply #12 |
28. I didn't turn against them. They just couldn't give me a reason why |
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Lorien (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 09:14 AM Response to Reply #28 |
85. But if your husband died and you had to work to support yourself |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 09:48 AM Response to Reply #85 |
86. There was no resentment against NOW. |
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Scout (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 10:39 AM Response to Reply #28 |
88. NOW does not blindly support all women and their actions simply because she |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 12:00 PM Response to Reply #88 |
91. Hindsight is everything. |
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LWolf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 12:07 PM Response to Original message |
27. I was a stay-at-home mom for about 6 years. |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 12:12 PM Response to Reply #27 |
29. Thanks for bringing this up. |
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InkAddict (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 02:35 PM Response to Reply #27 |
51. I too have dealth with the very issues you describe. |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 04:29 PM Response to Reply #51 |
61. Damn It sounds like you didn't just fall through the cracks. |
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LWolf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 05:07 PM Response to Reply #51 |
68. There are too many of us |
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Marrah_G (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 12:30 PM Response to Original message |
32. I wish I could be stay at home mom. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 12:43 PM Response to Reply #32 |
37. i just cannot fathom what the two working family has to experience |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 12:30 PM Response to Original message |
33. It is at least as bad for stay-at-home dads. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 12:42 PM Response to Reply #33 |
36. my middle brother would have made the best stay at home out of all of us |
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JerseygirlCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 02:06 PM Response to Reply #33 |
45. Totally agree with your last point |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 09:23 PM Response to Reply #45 |
72. Anecdote time. |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 08:43 AM Response to Reply #72 |
81. We value you, lumberjack |
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krabigirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 12:41 PM Response to Original message |
35. I like being a SAHM, but I am starting to do some work on the side. |
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JerseygirlCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 02:07 PM Response to Reply #35 |
46. That's the only way to decide what to do: |
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rucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 12:48 PM Response to Original message |
38. It's simply a luxury most families can't afford anymore. |
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Toucano (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 01:22 PM Response to Original message |
41. Kicking to comment later when I have more mental energy. n/t |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 01:46 PM Response to Reply #41 |
43. God bless you. |
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JerseygirlCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 02:02 PM Response to Original message |
44. Oh yes. This is a constant thing, I think. |
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NashVegas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 02:18 PM Response to Original message |
47. To Answer Your Question |
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tjwash (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 02:25 PM Response to Original message |
48. Heh...you guys are in the minor leagues of push polling horse shit in your papers. |
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Berry Cool (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 03:30 PM Response to Reply #48 |
57. OMG, that's bad. |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 04:36 PM Response to Reply #48 |
62. Shameful. |
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earth mom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 02:34 PM Response to Original message |
50. Frankly, I don't give a damn what people think about me being a stay at home mom. |
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CTyankee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 03:30 PM Response to Reply #50 |
56. Well, I was both. I stayed home with my kids when they were little. |
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earth mom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 04:01 PM Response to Reply #56 |
59. I salute all single moms/dads, and my hat is off to you. Good for you for doing a great job! |
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CTyankee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 04:46 PM Response to Reply #59 |
63. For the first 6 years that I was working, I was still living with my husband. |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 03:26 PM Response to Original message |
55. I stayed home with my son for a few years, then worked from home for several more. |
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kimmerspixelated (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 03:51 PM Response to Reply #55 |
58. This is pretty much my experience. |
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mnhtnbb (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 04:21 PM Response to Original message |
60. I have been a stay at home mom for almost 22 years--and I become an empty-nester |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 04:46 PM Response to Original message |
64. it shouldn't be acceptable for a mentally and physically person to be a parasite |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 05:38 PM Response to Reply #64 |
70. Sounds like you're ... bitter. |
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ismnotwasm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 05:09 PM Response to Original message |
69. It's bullshit |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 05:40 PM Response to Reply #69 |
71. Thank you. I really appreciate your post. |
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femrap (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 09:54 PM Response to Original message |
74. No matter what a woman does, |
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Triana (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 10:11 PM Response to Reply #74 |
76. Yep. That is the truth. Damned if she does. Damned if she doesn't. n/t |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 08:41 AM Response to Reply #74 |
80. You know, as long as I'm hearing that this experience is common to everyone, |
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knitter4democracy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 10:46 PM Response to Original message |
77. "You don't get a say. You don't pay taxes." |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 08:47 AM Response to Reply #77 |
82. We all need a good public relation specialist. |
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knitter4democracy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 09:03 AM Response to Reply #82 |
84. Divided we fall, that's for sure. |
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emmadoggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-10-08 11:26 PM Response to Original message |
78. Ugh. Assholes. |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 08:57 AM Response to Reply #78 |
83. I think that first guy... |
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hunter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 11:09 AM Response to Original message |
89. We are a nation of sado-masochistic Puritanical misogynist morons. |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 12:04 PM Response to Reply #89 |
93. Playing on your last line... |
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hunter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 02:20 PM Response to Reply #93 |
101. I've always been the stay at home parent. |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 11:41 AM Response to Original message |
90. I have been a SAHM for several years now. |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 12:07 PM Response to Reply #90 |
94. Wonderfully encapsulated |
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AspenRose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 12:29 PM Response to Original message |
95. I don't regret staying home with my kids |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 01:39 PM Response to Reply #95 |
99. Good advice. |
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LibertyLover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 12:47 PM Response to Original message |
98. To be honest, for me it's a bit of both jealousy and resentment |
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The Backlash Cometh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-11-08 01:45 PM Response to Reply #98 |
100. Well, I see from your post that a woman can't seem to win, even |
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Hidden Stillness (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Aug-12-08 10:43 AM Response to Original message |
102. Several Responses to Things on This Thread |
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103. I saw a story on CNN about this... |
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