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yewberry Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 06:38 PM
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Hating gay people and calling it morality
Your wife is dying.

One moment everything was fine. You were in your stateroom on the cruise ship -- it was to be an anniversary cruise -- unpacking your things. The kids were in the adjoining stateroom playing with your wife. Suddenly, they banged on the door crying that mom was hurt.

So now you're in the hospital -- Ryder Trauma Center at Jackson Memorial Hospital -- waiting for word, and it's not coming. They tell you, Joe (we'll call you Joe), you can't be with her. You plead with them, to no avail. No, Joe, sorry, Joe, we can't tell you anything.

One hour turns to two, two to four, four to six. Your wife is dying, and no one she loves is there.

Finally, in the eighth hour, you reach her bedside. You are just in time to stand beside the priest as he administers last rites.

Your wife is dead. Her name was Lisa Marie Pond. She was 39.


http://www.miamiherald.com/living/columnists/leonard-pitts/story/903192.html


I'm so angry I can barely see. This is why a patchwork of laws and inequalities is unacceptable. It's a nightmare scenario for lesbian & gay families. What if my mom gets sick when she's traveling? Will her partner of over 25 years even be allowed to see her, despite their civil union and all of the trouble they've gone to to make their life together legally "acceptable?" Will the hospital call me, though I live 3000 miles away from her? Will my mom die alone?

How dare strangers try to impose their personal beliefs on others? What does it cost them to respect us and give all families the same rights? Nothing. It would cost them nothing, and they're still unwilling to be decent enough see that.

This story is proof positive that the people who are behind DOMA and Prop 8 are flat-out evil. There are stones buried in their souls and their hatefulness is unforgivable.





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ZombieHorde Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 06:42 PM
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1. K&R
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cliffordu Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 06:48 PM
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2. K&R
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david13 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 06:50 PM
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3. +1
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Shakespeare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 06:51 PM
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4. Kick.
Heartbreaking, and so, so wrong. :cry:
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KittyWampus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 06:53 PM
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5. Heartbreaking story. Change seems to come slowly until all the sudden it zooms in
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Seldona Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 06:54 PM
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6. If I may...
-This story is proof positive that the people who are behind DOMA and Prop 8 are flat-out evil. There are stones buried in their souls and their hatefulness is unforgivable-

I simply couldn't have said it better myself, and felt it bears repeating.

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Maru Kitteh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 06:54 PM
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7. Thanks for bringing this to us. It's important that stories like this be repeated as long as it
takes - until EVERY human being has equal marriage rights.
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 06:56 PM
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8. This can be avoided by all people.........
In an ER bay, where they're working to save someone with an aneurysm, no one, even family members, is allowed in, so that part of the story is omitted. That she was able to be with Lisa at the end is an indication that she wasn't necessarily kept away because of anti-gay bias. Those medical people work feverishly in those situations, and anyone not on the team is in the way, and a danger to their patient.

Everyone who travels with another person should carry with them a copy of their Health Care Power of Attorney, duly executed, so as to bypass what could turn out to be a tragic scene, if true idiots were in charge and tried to bar a same-sex partner from a patient's bedside.

The hospital came to Janice for permission to perform procedures, so that makes this writer's outrage a bit strained. It seems to me, except for that alleged encounter with a social worker, she was treated with respect and quite properly. Yeah, Joe would have been barred from his wife's bedside, should that have been the case, because aneurysm patients are fragile and require constant monitoring until they're out of the woods. It doesn't happen in eight hours, and, sadly, in this case, it sounds like the outcome was doomed.

I don't see how a negligence suit will stand, and the intentional infliction tort is also questionable, given that it appears proper medical procedures were followed. But, it'll be interesting to see what happens.

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Bluebear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 07:06 PM
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12. "I need you to know you are in an anti-gay city and state" - that's treated with respect?
"I need you to know you are in an anti-gay city and state, and you won't get to know about Lisa's condition or see her" - how can you gloss over hearing that has an "alleged encounter"? I assume you don't believe her, hence your use of "alleged".

Sorry, it appears you have some bias or issue to dismiss this story so cavalierly.
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 07:09 PM
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13. Bias? No, I don't
I just don't believe anything unless I hear it with my own ears or see it with my own eyes.

After a lifetime of practicing law, I've learned to respect the hearsay rule and understand that people very often don't tell the truth.

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Bluebear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 07:11 PM
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14. This is not the courtroom, counselor. Your doubting her story openly
here makes it sound like this never happens to anybody. It does.
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 07:20 PM
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17. Of course it does
No one disputes that something tragic happened. What the specifics are are what the lawsuit is about. So far, only one side of the story has been heard. I'm not willing to condemn or praise anyone until I know the whole story. To infer bias of any kind because I happen to want more information before I form an opinion is, I think, the intelligent route. It works for me.

Congratulations on knowing the difference between a courtroom and a message board.
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Bluebear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 07:37 PM
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19. Have to get that last nasty word in, do you? I've seen quite enough of this lastest incarnation.
/ignore
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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 07:51 PM
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21. Perhaps a good lawyer can help her. An old leftie lawyer, maybe. n/t
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:23 PM
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24. Old lefty lawyers are the best
I hear they like tangerines.

:rofl:
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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:29 PM
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27. I like tangerines. But I'm not a lawyer.
Edited on Sun Feb-15-09 08:29 PM by QC
But I am a lefty, and I'm getting pretty old, too.
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:43 PM
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32. Sometimes tangerines make me break out, but not oranges, isn't that weird?
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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 09:15 PM
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38. I heard a lady on the radio talking about that. n/t
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Vanje Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 10:45 AM
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58. Too late
Oldleftylawyer sleeps with the fishes

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=user_profiles&u_id=152907

If she were actually here, she'd have to be some kind of fantasma , or like a zombie or something.
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Raster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 11:46 AM
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61. Or a new IP address and a new handle.
There are SEVERAL persons that have been banned and have returned under new moniker. The names may change, but the shit remains the same.
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Raster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 11:43 AM
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60. Or old lefty tangerines, eh?
"Fooling no one, she is." -Yoda
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Bluenorthwest Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 02:51 PM
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63. Funny
I was about to post that on the thread where you believe every word out of Alliance Defence Fund against the LACC teacher with no word but the accuer's. You had no problem with hearsay then. You just bought it as fact, and attacked the teacher.
Do your clients get such consistancy?
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yewberry Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:15 PM
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23. I don't carry a copy of my Health Care Power of Attorney with me.
I married someone of opposite sex, though, so the rules are different. (Forest for the trees right there.)

Regardless of whether or not you believe the suit is valid, this can happen and it does happen. It shouldn't and it's our responsibility to see that heartless, stupid people don't force their prejudices on the rest of us.

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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:26 PM
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25. I don't have Health Care Power of Attorney written up for my wife & I
We're legally viewed as spouses in NJ (and a few other states respect that). However, in other states we're fucked. And, there's no guarantee a hospital will even respect that (I'm looking at you, State of Virginia).

Let's face it, it's just fucked up that gay couples would even need to spend a bunch of money getting documents drawn up that are a given for the mere cost of a marriage license for straight people. And, even if you do get them, there's no guarantee that they will ever even be honored.
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:58 PM
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37. Virginia will honor a duly executed
Health Care Power Of Attorney, but, no, they won't honor a marriage license from, say, Massachusetts. This is the Commonwealth, after all, that figured so prominently in Loving v. Virginia in the 1960s.

I can send you a template for your own HCPOA, and all you'd have to do is fill it in according to the simply directions I can also send you, and then have it witnessed and notarized at your local bank.

It'll be honored. Believe me, it will be honored in all jurisdictions.
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 09:25 PM
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41. I suggest you read the Virginia Amendment
I believe you sent a template for a HCPOA to my wife, LostinVA, a few years ago actually.
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 09:26 PM
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42. I sent something?
I don't know about that. It's not my practice to send things to strangers. But, if you have properly executed Health Care Power of Attorney documents, you're as covered as you can be for now.
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 07:02 AM
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52. Wouldn't I qualify as a stranger?
:shrug:
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 08:53 AM
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55. No, Virginia WON'T honor it between same sex couples -- it is invalidated by LAW
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:46 PM
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33. On a trip, you should
It's always a good idea to have a valid, duly executed copy of your HCPOA with you whenever you travel. Otherwise, if the worst happens, you, even as a legally married person, could conceivably face problems.

Yes, of course it happens. Nothing I wrote disputes the fact that something happened. Exactly how it happened is what the court will have to determine. As I said earlier, it'll be interesting.

Keep in mind that no one has yet heard the whole story. Any rush to judgment is never a good idea, regardless of which side you're on. An open mind is a wonderful and necessary thing.
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yewberry Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:52 PM
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35. I don't have to.
An open mind is a wonderful thing, but I am not and will not be open to the idea that this kind of legislated cruelty is good or necessary. You seem to be so focused on the particular legalities of this incident that that has escaped you.

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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:55 PM
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36. I'm focused on how it might have been easier
for the surviving spouse.

The horrendous quality of the incident has not evaded me.

I'm more interested in having people protected, and if that offends you, well, we all have our priorities.
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ThomCat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:27 PM
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26. If the hospital staff is bigoted they can claim they don't think the
power of attorney is valid. They can claim it's fake. Then you're only option is to go to court and sue them after the fact and they can claim it was just a mistake.

A power of attorney is only going to help you if they are willing to honor it. There are a lot of horror stories out there of gay couples who have had their Powers of Attorney ignored. That's why it's not enough. Claiming that a power of attorney is a solution isn't enough either.

We need marriage equality. We need it NOW. :(
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:50 PM
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34. Actually, no, they can't
I honestly have never encountered a medical person - or laypeople on hospital staffs - who would deliberately refuse to honor a legal document. The law scares the bejesus out of these people, so they're very responsive.

A Health Care Power Of Attorney, if properly written and duly executed, is honored in every jurisdiction. That's why it must be witnessed and notarized. If a power of attorney isn't properly drawn, then, yes, it can be refused. That's why you need a lawyer experienced in these matters to get it done right. A HCPOA is honored everywhere, just as a marriage license is honored in every state - unless you're gay, and we can all thank Bill Clinton for the DOMA, which I think is completely unconstitutional.

Yes, marriage equality should be available to all. Without question.
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ThomCat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 09:19 PM
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39. You mean, "they shouldn't." That doesn't mean they can't.
Bigots can do a lot of things they shouldn't. Often, things you would swear no decent person would ever do. But that's the thing about bigotry. Suddenly people aren't so decent.

And if hospital staff refuses to recognize a PoA, what consequences are there? They can say someone made a mistake and didn't think it was legitimate. Or claim that you are lying and deny that you ever really presented it. Or claim that it wasn't presented to the right person. There are always excuses or lies that can be made up after the fact.

But that's always after the damage has been done, after you've already been denied your rights. GLBT people have know for a long time that we can spend a fortune on legal documentation and still not have our rights honored. That's because our rights are dependent upon good people not being prejudiced.
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 09:24 PM
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40. I've been a member of a minority
my whole life, and I owe my education to Affirmative Action, so I had to learn how to work the system, even when I ran into the assholes who would gladly deny me my basic rights, simply because I had to be smarter and stronger than they were. I didn't always succeed, but I never stopped fighting.

There are always going to be bigots. But the only way to combat them is to be armed and ready to go to battle with them whenever they start acting out their prejudice at your expense. That's what a Health Care Power Of Attorney is for. Of course it's not foolproof - nothing is when you factor in the human component - but if there's something better, I haven't heard of it yet.

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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 10:07 PM
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43. Yeah, there's something better, it's called equal civil rights
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Bluebear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 10:12 PM
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44. Someone found a letter you wrote me, on the Radio!
Someone found a letter you wrote me, on the radio
And they told the world just how you felt
It must have fallen out of a hole in your old brown overcoat
They never said your name
But I knew just who they meant.

Oh, I was so surprised and shocked, and I wondered too
If by change you heard it for yourself
I never told a soul just how Ive been feeling about you
But they said it really loud
They said it on the air
On the radio whoa oh oh
On the radio whoa oh oh
On the radio whoa oh oh
On the radio whoa oh oh now, now


http://www.lyricsfreak.com/d/donna+summer/on+the+radio_20042369.html
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 11:03 PM
Response to Reply #43
48. Absolutely,
but what I am dealing with is the reality as it is now. That in no way is intended to suggest that the fight shouldn't go forward, for as long as it takes.
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 06:58 AM
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51. And, the reality as it is now, is that HCPOA will mean nothing if you get a homophobe
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 09:08 AM
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56. And, in Virginia, they are actually illegal/invalid PER LAW
The main reason, as you know, why I moved from VA to NJ.
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ThomCat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 10:32 AM
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57. Right. Because the give a right otherwise granted by marriage.
And we are now prohibited by law from getting those rights by ANY means in Virginia. :grr:
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bluedawg12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 10:45 PM
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46. First of all you are wrong about the ER bay and let's apply the same standards for all families.
Edited on Sun Feb-15-09 11:08 PM by bluedawg12


There are two part to this case as I understand it:

1.) Patient care
2.) How the family of the patient was treated.

Let’s start with your first claim about the medical bay.

You are simply wrong.

Family members are brought into the ER bay, or the ER room to obtain a medical history especially if a patient is in critical condition, is anxious, in pain, medicated, in the midst of undergoing emergency studies, suffering from a ruptured cerebral aneurysm, or otherwise altered mentally or obtunded and cannot provide a thorough medical history.

“Working feverishly,” as you claim, means obtaining a thorough medical history from any and all available reliable sources. In the bay or in the hall, is immaterial, a history must be obtained and family members are the ones who most often assist.

Do you know the mental status of the patient at 3:25? At 4:15 PM?

Do you know her Glasgow Coma Scale score?

Do you have information that the patient, who was suffering from a cerebral bleed was in full possession of her mental capacity?

Do you know if she was given any pain medications?

Do you know if she was given any sedatives?

If you do not, then, you cannot state that the family’s additional medical history was not necessary.

Let’s assume that the records will show that the patient was able to provide what appeared to be a reasonable medical history, while suffering an acute cerebral bleed, and that alone strains credibility.

Even if the patient was able to provide some level of a medical history, it is customary, prudent and reasonable, to double check the medical history provided by a patient in an extremely critical condition and double check the facts against the medical history provided by capable and willing family members.

Elements of a complete medical history should include, past medical history, same or similar symptoms, medications, allergies, history of recent trauma, surgeries, family history, etc. etc.

It does not seem credible, that a patient who collapsed of a cerebral aneurysm had full mental capacity to provide such detail. The facts in the records will speak for themselves.

Next, let’s assume that the patient did give a through and complete detailed medical history and the records confirm that, unlikely as that seems, no additional past medical history was required.

Tell me, how would you know if the patient with an actively bleeding cerebral aneurysm omitted some part of that history, unless one checked it against another source, such as a family member?

Next, what about the scene of the incident? It is customary, prudent and reasonable and perhaps necessary, to obtain additional eyewitness history of the events at the time of the catastrophic collapse of the patient from family members who were eyewitness to the events and who are available to provide such a history.

The family, according to the complaint, were not contacted to obtain either a confirmatory medical history, nor to provide an eyewitness description of the incident, nor any of the events prior to the incident on the day of the acute event.

Had the patient complained of any head aches? Struck her head? Complained of nausea? Double vision?

That information, which may have yielded diagnostic clues to the nature of the condition were not obtained as the patient’s family was denied in-put about the patient’s health status prior to arrival.

That does not appear to coincide with prudent and customary medical care.

Would or could that have made a difference? That is what the records will show.

Regardless of the final outcome, one could argue, that, by not obtaining a thorough and timely medical history from family members, that a delay ensued in providing care, and, that the possibility exists, that a record reviewer of the facts of this case may find that even a quick 5 minute discussion with family members could have pointed to a clearer clinical picture. I do remind you, that while we have not had access to the full medical records, plaintiff’s counsel has.

As it stands it is a legitimate question and will be revealed at trial, if the family is allowed it’s day in court.

With regards to the staff being too busy to talk to the family and the concern about the ER bay being off limits while the health care team was “working feverishly.” Surely, you do not suppose that while the patient was undergoing a cerebral aniogram, or perhaps a MRA of the brain, or MRI of the brain, that the entire health care team was huddled on the MRI table or angio-room on the gurney, with the patient?

Moving beyond mental competence to provide a medical history, what about mental competence to provide an informed consent?

If the records show that the patient was in anyway obtunded or medicated, then, with a properly executed health care POA, any treatments, or invasive testing must be performed after obtaining an informed consent from the POA. An informed consent has several elements to it, among them a through discussion of indications, alternative options, risks and benefits.

I am only confining this discussion to the patient care situation and not how the family was treated, in the interest of time.

The patient had the right to see her family, her loved ones, which means not only her partner but her children.

The family arrived at 3:15 PM. A seemingly hurried consent for what appears to be the insertion of a ventricular monitor was obtained from the partner at 5:30 PM. This was not an attempt to repair the aneurysm, in case any one imagines it otherwise. No comment is made, what so ever, on the appropriateness of the probable monitor and care, as I don’t know the facts. However, according to the records, the patient was not allowed to see her family until three hours elapsed and until she went into surgery and not before, and the first time the family was allowed at beside was for the last rites being administered to the patient by a priest.

It appears, based solely on the facts provided in the complaint that the patient, allegedly, was deprived of the love and comfort of her family at beside for the first three hours after arrival, deprived of the love and comfort of her family even before, or while, she was being wheeled into the OR and that it is not in keeping with what is the customary practice in regards to compassionate care of patients who are customarily allowed to see their family prior to surgery and anesthesia.

According to the records the first time the family was allowed to be present and to comfort the patient was after it was too late for the patient to derive any comfort from their presence, at her own last rites.

She expired three hours later, as I recall, the facts.

According to the complaint, there was no medical justification for keeping the family from the patient’s bedside.

According to the complaint:

On page 10 of the complaint, it states that, upon arrival at Ryder, the partner/POA informed the admitting clerk that she was able to provide relevant history regarding the patient's condition.

The partner/POA also advised the admitting clerk (Jane Doe) that the patient's children were present at the time.

Subsequent to that, the partner/POA had a conversation with social worker Fredrick. Page 10 complaint.

Between 3:15 PM and 4:15 PM, the partner/POA had provided verbal information about her status as the POA, and while confirmation of documentation was pending, the staff was alerted and knew to anticipate the confirmatory POA.

At 4:15 PM, the POA arrived by facsimile.

It is my opinion, that the social worker and attending physicians had a duty to enquire about family members and about the presence of any POA, as the patient’s primary condition was an aneurysm of the brain and her mental function, regardless of how good it may have been initially, was subject to deterioration by virtue of the diagnosis.

Medicine was administered at 4:30 PM

The patient was taken to surgery at 5:20 PM

At 5:20 PM a consent was obtained for a “brain monitor,” from the POA.

At 6:20 PM two physicians brought the partner and family up to date, during which conversation, the patient’s condition deteriorated.

At 6:50 PM the family was first allowed at bedside, while a priest administered last rights.
............

I speculate that neither you nor I have reviewed the medical records. We don't have the chronology of events, or the facts, to form an opinion about standard of care. However, the legal complaint raises some serious questions. It is a little premature to speculate who would or would not win the case pertaining to a deviation from standard of care and without a thorough review of facts we cannot know. The complaint however, paints a picture that is horrific.


Disclaimer:
I relied on the legal complaint that is available on line for the sake of a forum discussion and have discussed my speculation of the allegations as they are found in the complaint available to the public on line and in various public lay sources from news outlets.

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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 11:05 PM
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49. Presumption of innocence
only applies in criminal cases. This is a civil case, so there's not going to be any "guilty."
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bluedawg12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 12:47 AM
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50. Verdict for the plaintiff
or for the defense, or settlement and the right to trial.
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 07:11 AM
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53. Excellent post
:thumbsup:
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 08:51 AM
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54. Except a Medical POA between unmarried couples is INVALID in Virginia -- even if you say it isn't
IT IS. That's the special nastiness of the VA Amendment: it invalidates contracts between private citizens, POAs included. Yes, it does, and will, unless it's taken to the USSC and overturned. It's why I no longer live in Virginia.

Regardless, this is why we need gay marriage, because of this garbage.
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yewberry Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 01:33 PM
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62. Lost, the VA amendment
contains exceptional language to specifically exclude POAs between private citizens? How did they sell that to people--I mean, how could they make that sound like something people should want? How could that not come across as a punitive, completely discriminatory act?

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barbtries Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 06:59 PM
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9. you nailed it
they put a face of morality over their true face of hate. it is so wrong.
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liberalmuse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 07:03 PM
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10. This is fucking barbaric.
And makes no sense whatsoever. And yes, people who support Prop 8 and want to rip apart gay families, AMERICAN families are evil. They should know better, so ignorance is no excuse.
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The Doctor. Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 07:03 PM
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11. You're talking about people with no imagination.
They can't put themselves in other people's shoes... they can't understand.

Too often, religion and 'morality' are just excuses to be intellectually lazy.
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tbyg52 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 07:57 PM
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22. Exactly.
Anybody who can't understand the analogy in the OP will never understand, IMHO.
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Lucky Luciano Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 02:57 PM
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64. "Too often, religion and 'morality' are just excuses to be intellectually lazy."
Ain't that the fuckin' truth! nt
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Lex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 07:16 PM
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15. Inhumane.
nt
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EFerrari Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 07:18 PM
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16. Social conservatism is not social and it's not conservatism.
It's destructive bigotry.
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LibertyLover Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 07:23 PM
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18. How horribly wrong -
I have no words to describe how sorry I am that this family had to go through this experience. I grieve for this nation and the hate some of her citizens hold for others who only ask to be allowed to love.
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JNelson6563 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 07:39 PM
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20. Hate is never moral.
Love is never a sin.
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alphafemale Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:29 PM
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28. Thank you Mr Pitts.
:cry:
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lunatica Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:31 PM
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29. Not only inhuman but it's barbaric to even let this happen whether it's legal or not
Do the people who minister to the dying get away with this crap because they say they're just following the rules? Yes. To hell with doing no harm, the First Rule.

Anyone who can actually do this is simply cruel and heartless. Truly without a human heart. If you can't empathize or suspend your judgment long enough to do an act of true kindness (espoused so highly as being a Christian) then you deserve the same treatment.
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Starry Messenger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:32 PM
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30. It is evil.
There is no excuse.
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JerseygirlCT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 08:33 PM
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31. I agree with you. It's simply hateful prejudice
and it's wrong, period. And not to be tolerated.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 10:38 PM
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45. recommend
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TrogL Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-15-09 10:49 PM
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47. It's actually easier to get in to see someone if you're a "friend"
Had that problem a few years ago.
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vssmith Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 11:06 AM
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59. They say, "Hate the sin, love the sinner."
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Bluenorthwest Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-16-09 02:59 PM
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65. Yeah, they say that
because in reality the Bible book tells them to love your enemy as yourself, and leave the sin stuff to the higher power.
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