How many here send seductive photos to your significant others?

[devilgrrl]

Wives, husbands, girlfriends, boyfriends?

Anyone?

Just curious?

[CakeGrrl]

1. If Weiner had sent these to his wife, no issue.

Or at least he'd have had more standing to tell everyone to MYOFB.

[PeaceNikki]

2. I wouldn't even have an issue if he sent them to someone he knew well.

Or fuck, knew at ALL.

Only a total fucking idiot would send non-anonymous pics like that to people he didn't know at all.

[kas125]

3. Exactly. He didn't send pictures to his significant other, he sent

them to random strangers. There's a big difference.

[walerosco]

6. hmm

I always thought the problem was the lying, so now its sending it to strangers?

[Liberal Veteran]

15. Don't be absurd. You just didn't know where the goalpost was...

...because we were moving it so quickly.

[PeaceNikki]

30. Some of us have been most bothered by this all along. Let's see, he's pissed off

* Those who are offended by the adultery
* Those who are appalled at the lying
* Those who are flabbergasted at his fucking stupidity
* Those who are angry that he's changed the entire discussion of politics in this country
* Those who are ticked that he's apologized to Breitbart

Everyone with some combination of the some or all of the above

[LadyHawkAZ]

34. I demand photographic evidence of the goalpost

I'm not convinced it ever existed. :shrug:

[CakeGrrl]

35. The point is that he did something he felt he NEEDED to lie about

In the first place.

[customerserviceguy]

40. It's both

Sending, at the very least embarassing, photos to total strangers, leaving yourself open for blackmail and extortion is the first problem, then lying about it is the second problem.

Is it hard to believe that Anthony Weiner was stupid in two respects?

[wickerwoman]

48. I thought it was the stupidity,

because everyone knows that nothing is private anymore.

:shrug:

Who can keep track? Those that want him gone will find their reasons...

[Texasgal]

4. Never.

Don't think I ever would, just not my thing. :shrug:

I especially would never send out to strangers, even If I THOUGHT about sending anything to an SO.

[TheCowsCameHome]

5. Never have, but I'd have no trouble with that.

[Motown_Johnny]

7. strangers.....

kidding

[malaise]

8. Never

I'm beginning to think this is a generational thing.

[TheCowsCameHome]

9. or maybe a

degenerational thing.

[malaise]

12. LOL

:D

[B Calm]

10. I don't give a flying fu. . about others sex life. Now can we discuss something

important?

[pintobean]

16. Sure. Post in a thread you like.

If you can't find one, start one.
Remember, YOU keep clicking on, and posting in these threads. You help to keep them kicked.

[EFerrari]

11. Pictures of the frig or the bank account?

Nope.

[Heidi]

51. !

:rofl:

:spray:

[Liberal Veteran]

13. I have. Guess I should tender my resignation from the party.

[femmocrat]

14. Never. Not even when I was younger.

Definitely not now.

[pintobean]

18. lol - "Definitely not now"

These days, I'd just get laughed at.
:-)

[Arctic Dave]

17. Yes.

And when I was single I let them take many a nude pic of me. And they reciprocated.

[kimi]

19. I have

then had a nasty split with him and deleted it from where it was sent from, he's got no access to it anymore and I hope that he didn't care enough to download it or anything. I don't think I would again, although it was fun at first.

[elocs]

20. Anything posted online is no longer private no matter for whom it was meant.

Any of us who post here are certainly intelligent enough to grasp that simple truth. That is, unless we are so arrogant that we believe that what applies to all others does not apply to us. That would make us fools, arrogant fools though.

[savalez]

29. The OP didn't say anything about posting pics online.

[elocs]

37. I think we all pretty much get what has prompted this thread. n/t

[notadmblnd]

21. My sistr had an entire portfolio done and posted many on facebook

they are tastefully done, but they are provocative. I would never send a naked picture I just don't have that sort of confidence but I've received as few. One recently as last week via text.

[HipChick]

23. Boudoir Photos I have seen are very well done..

[Raine]

22. Yes took them but not STUPID enough to send them

we took pictures of each other and he developed them, NEVER put in the hands of others.

edit: wanted to add this was pre-digital photography, old fashioned film, destroyed the negatives.

[Little Star]

24. My husband can see seductive me in person and sometimes...

oh never mind! lol

[etherealtruth]

25. The phrase "nobody wants to see that" comes to mind

At this point in my life NO POSSIBLE WAY!

20 years ago (possibly even 10 years ago), maybe to a lover ... I've done "stuff" in which imagery was involved .... always with a lover with whom I had a very intense romantic relationship.

[DCBob]

26. Once but then I realized how dumb that was since on-line photos and video..

can be tracked and intercepted and retrieved and reposted on some public site.

[HysteryDiagnosis]

27. Once in a blue moon I'll send a really dirty picture of the

kitchen sink or the laundry... or is it a dirty kitchen sink and dirty laundry.... at my age sometimes I forget.

[Codeine]

28. A bunch of people.

:shrug: That's how I roll.

[Warren DeMontague]

33. If we'd had digital cameras back when I was in college...

well, the mind shudders.

[Warren DeMontague]

31. Pornography hurts women and all living things. Rather than engage in patriarchy-enabling "sex",

people should focus on challenging heteronormative gender stereotypes and participating in the peoples' struggle against degenerative and destructive cultural institutions like penetrative sex and photos of human genitalia which invariably reinforce the oppressive phallocentric male gaze.

Plus, good news! The scientists of the junior anti-sex league assure us that we are only 5 years away from total victory over the orgasm.

[LadyHawkAZ]

41. HA! +1

[Hardrada]

32. I played strip poker with three women and lost.

Luckily two of them did too. Even more luckily, no one had a camera. O bright college days!

[LadyHawkAZ]

36. Yep

Received a few, too.

[emilyg]

38. It's not something I would do.

[customerserviceguy]

39. I'll admit, I have

But it was specifically to her email, not posted on Twitter, Facebook, MySpace, or any other such nonsense 'social networking' website.

[slackmaster]

42. Never, not one of thousands I've taken, and I even took advanced photography classes at UC

I've taken a lot of pics in my life, and not one of them has ever had any content that would not be suitable for viewing by anyone.

[philly_bob]

43. Yes. Happy Valentine's Day, Poodie-Kai...

If responses to this thread are less than 50% "Yes," then I will be surprised or DU viewers are more prudish than I thought...

Question would be a little more useful if it was past tense. (How many here have sent...). Present tense implies ongoing and frequent use of photos. I haven't sent one in over ten years.

Also: I was an early adopter of digital photography equipment.

[laundry_queen]

44. Never. nt

[madrchsod]

45. i am to old for that....

i was way past my prime when all this new tech stuff started..........

[madrchsod]

46. glitch

[WillowTree]

47. I'm way too smart for that. Once they hit the ether, they can go public.......permanently.

I wouldn't even allow Weiner is smart enough to have known that.

[TorchTheWitch]

49. hell no - and let it come back and bite me?

It's epically stupid juvenile behavior. People simply cannot be trusted to do the honorable thing and destroy them after they get them, not share them with unauthorized persons, not leave them unsecured, and not use them against you at some time in the future. I'd never set myself up for embarrassment or blackmail like that. It's unbelievably stupid, stupid, stupid, fucking stupid. Putting such photos into cyberspace is as stupid as it gets because then it isn't just the person you send it to (or intended to send it to) that you need to worry about. Photos are forever and can't be guaranteed to remain forever private. Basically, once you put something on film it automatically becomes something that may not be forever private, and with the advent of the internet can now easily be shared with the entire world.

We used to be intelligent enough to easily understand this. I don't even know why this requires any explanation.

[Forkboy]

55. You shouldn't feel the need to be embarrassed.

The act of sex, or just nudity itself, is nothing to be embarrassed by. That's a self-imposed emotion brought on by a society that tells us that sex is dirty and nasty and never meant for fun (all the while using sexuality to sell everything from cars to toothpaste), and that only a certain type of person (i.e. handsome or pretty) is allowed to be sexual. Not saying this stuff is for everyone or that there's anything wrong with NOT doing it, nor am I saying that people who don't do this are prudes at all, just that I don't see anything wrong with people doing it either, and certainly don't feel that we need to be ashamed or embarrassed by our sexuality. I don't know why anyone would want to see me dressed, let alone undressed, but people have asked and there are some things out there. If the world at large wants to take a gander I'm ok with it, or I wouldn't have done it in the first place, for the very reasons you state. But those reasons don't apply to everyone, so neither does the stupid charge. It may be stupid for some, but not all.

I can understand the blackmail part, if there's something to be blackmailed for, I guess. I'm not sure what I could ever be blackmailed for, but everyone's mileage is different. I guess after being homeless a couple times that I feel that the world has given me it's best shot already, and don't see how anyone could ruin my life any worse than it already was. I survived that, I could survive pictures of my private parts coming to light, I'm quite sure lol.

Like I said below to another poster, if you feel it's wrong for you, or that it could come back to haunt you in some way, you've made the right choice. But people have different circumstances, or approach things differently, and that's not stupid, that's just being different from how you approach things. There's nothing wrong with either position. It all comes down to the individual.

[Codeine]

57. Embarrassment? Use them against me? Blackmail?

Why would I care if someone went public with a picture of my dong? One out of every two people has one, and they all basically look the same.

[Xithras]

50. I've never, but she sends them to me regularly.

Nothing puts a smile on your face faster, and puts crappy work days in persective quicker, than getting a midday text from your wife showing her doing something "entertaining" :evilgrin:

It's pretty hard to embarrass her about sex (she's very open and matter-of-fact about her sexuality), but she obviously trusts me and expects me to refrain from showing them off or forwarding them to others. I've never done so.

[Liquorice]

52. I think you would have to be pretty naive or else crazy to take explicit photos of yourself

and send them to anyone. There's just too many ways they could get out. I would never even consider it.

[Forkboy]

54. Mine are out there lol.

I suppose it comes down to what's a stake for each person separately. I'm not really sure how they could be used against me, as I'm pretty open about my sexuality anyways and don't care if someone sees my penis, I don't have kids to embarrass, I don't have a boss that would freak out, and it wouldn't shock a single person that knows me well anyways, including my family, who would just laugh and chalk it up to me being me. It would become a running joke at the holidays, to be honest (my family has a seriously good sense of humor).

As for anyone being offended by them, that can't be my problem. One would have to dig to find them, and that's someone literally looking to be offended.

Your situation is probably different from mine, so for you it could be a risky and silly thing to do. If you feel it could come back to haunt you then you're making the right choice for yourself. Not a bad thing to think ahead, so to speak. :)

[Codeine]

59. It's not naivete if you don't particularly care.

I'm not a public figure. I'm not ashamed of my body. I'm un-blackmail-able because my net worth is measured in pocket change. I've sent a lot of private photos and a few have "gone rogue" and been showed to others -- it honestly didn't faze me. The chance it might "get out" is more than outweighed by the chance that it might get me laid. ;)

Seriously, it's a wang. You've all seen one, I'm sure. It looks about the same as the rest.

[Lucian]

53. I have.

[eridani]

56. For people of my age, it wasn't possible to do that unless you or a friend--

--had a darkroom. Drugstores back then would never develop the film for you.

[FLPanhandle]

58. Never and not a chance in hell I would ever.

Besides the lack of control over the image, I'm not that immature.

[Codeine]

60. I would contend that there's nothing inherently immature

about two adults exchanging pictures of their junk. Seduction evolves -- sexting is merely the latest incarnation of brightly-colored baboon butts being flashed to each other across the watering hole.

[Rebubula]

61. No...for several reasons..

..I am sure that my photos would not be considered sexy by most anyone. :)

Also - I know that nothing is private on the Internet - people are always searching and hacking accounts\sniffing lines for data - anything you put on the web is public.