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meegbear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:34 AM
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xpost: Texas Judge Beats Disabled Daughter on Video
Warning: The video is graphic and prolonged. Don't watch if you can't handle, or don't want to see, serious physical and emotional abuse.

The YouTube video is accompanied by a fairly detailed summary:

2004: Aransas County Court-At-Law Judge William Adams took a belt to his own teenage daughter as punishment for using the internet to acquire music and games that were unavailable for legal purchase at the time. She has had ataxic cerebral palsy from birth that led her to a passion for technology, which was strictly forbidden by her father's backwards views. The judge's wife was emotionally abused herself and was severely manipulated into assisting the beating and should not be blamed for any content in this video. The judge's wife has since left the marriage due to the abuse, which continues to this day, and has sincerely apologized and repented for her part and for allowing such a thing, long before this video was even revealed to exist. Judge William Adams is not fit to be anywhere near the law system if he can't even exercise fit judgement as a parent himself. Do not allow this man to ever be re-elected again. His "judgement" is a giant farce. Signed, Hillary Adams, his daughter.

Though the video was uploaded on October 27, it wasn't until today that it began to receive attentionthanks to the popular link-sharing site Reddit, where a poster identifying herself as Hillary Adams shared it (with the title "Family law judge beats own daughter for using the internet, please spread"), writing that she'd decided to post the video (which she'd been "holding onto... until the right time") after receiving "a barrage of harassment" from her father over the phone.

Posting to Reddit was the right move. The site, which has a strong protective streak, quickly sprung into action. Posters, encouraging others to call and write, provided links and phone numbers to news outlets, the Texas Department of Family and Protective Services, the State Commission on Judicial Conductand to the judge's place of work. As is not uncommon in situations like this, the official Aransas County website is down as of this post, likely thanks to heavy traffic from Reddit.

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http://gawker.com/5855478/reddit-video-apparently-shows...

You can see the video by clicking on the link above or by clicking here.
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Odin2005 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:36 AM
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1. Words fail me!
:grr:
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lillypaddle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:38 AM
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2. Man, he was hitting her HARD!
motherfucker.
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lebkuchen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 03:36 PM
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49. As hard as he could, from what I could see
If he treats his own daughter this way, imagine being black in his court.
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Scuba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:42 AM
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3. I won't watch, but will advocate for the harshest possible punishment if proven guilty. n/t
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 12:32 PM
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44. Same her.
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efhmc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:47 PM
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59. Also.
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onethatcares Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 04:31 PM
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50. I can't watch,
the past isn't far enough back for me to see that.
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Liberal_in_LA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:17 PM
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54. it's horrifying. OMG
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Xithras Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:46 PM
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57. Saw earlier that he probably won't face prosecution over it.
In Texas, felony child abuse charges require evidence of physical injury. While the tape shows a beating, it doesn't show her bleeding or otherwise show any injury that can be prosecuted under the states felony statutes. He would have to be prosecuted under the states normal non-felony child abuse laws.

The statute of limitations for non-felony child abuse charges in Texas is 5 years. Even though the video just came to light, it was actually filmed in 2004. Unless they can figure out a way to indict him under a felony count (which has a 10 year statute of limitations), he can't be charged. The clock has run out.

At this point, it looks like the best route may simply be to get him thrown off the bench. Even if they can't prosecute him, this guy has no business sitting in judgement of others.
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kag Donating Member (548 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:46 PM
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58. I kinda wish I hadn't...
but then again, it does toughen me to know that assholes like that exist in the world. I wanted to climb through the computer screen (and back seven years) and kick that waste-of-skin in the nuts. Unbelievable that idiots like that are allowed to SIT IN JUDGMENT ON OTHERS!!! Please tell me he is in prison now.

:puke:
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Angry Dragon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:44 AM
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4. perhaps pRick Parry should put him on the list
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get the red out Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:46 AM
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5. If faced with prison
That brave little girl beater would probably break down and cry. He can never possibly get what he deserves in this country because too many conservatives would agree with him and liberals are way too soft.
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mod mom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:47 AM
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6. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH HIM!
That man belongs behind bars and his children deserve to be placed in a safe place permanently!
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panzerfaust Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 01:03 PM
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45. Texas State Commission on Judicial Conduct
Just heard on the radio a statement from someone at the Texas State Commission on Judicial Conduct to the effect that We won't confirm that we've received any complaints or are investigating any judge at this point in time.

In other words "Don't worry, we State Officials will take care of it. Go back to sleep."

Texas State Commission on Judicial Conduct

P. O. Box 12265
Austin, TX 78711

Telephone: (512) 463-5533
Toll Free: (877) 228-5750
Fax: (512) 463-0511
TDD: (800)-RELAY-TX
Email: Cannot find

The first two numbers are busy.

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TorchTheWitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 09:30 PM
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65. She is 23 years old now and no longer in the house
She filmed the incident seven years ago and just finally made it public a week ago because she was sick of his "harassment" and it was escalating. She apparently decided to post the video on YouTube following a particularly abusive telephone conversation with her revolting father. According to another article, her mother had left him at some point between that incident and now due to emotional abuse she suffered from him and has apologized to her daughter. Her mother also apparently suffered similar abuse from her own parents when young.

I'm not only sickened by his abuse but the fact that he is a FAMILY court judge and has made controversial (ie: disgusting) rulings concerning abused children. Ugh!


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Name removed Donating Member (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:48 AM
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rurallib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:54 AM
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11. some kind of real poetic justice in this, isn't there?
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Serve The Servants Donating Member (187 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 09:01 PM
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63. You got that right.
I made a similar comment on one of the other threads about this story.
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workinclasszero Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:52 AM
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9. Thats some serious fucked up shit
That SOB judge and his wife should be sitting in a jail cell for severe child abuse. Sick bastards!
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Lyric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:53 AM
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10. I'm STILL crying. Jesus fucking Christ.
I hope someone beats the ever-loving-FUCK out of that bastard. He deserves to die in fucking prison for that shit.
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mod mom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:57 AM
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13. Both parents need to go to prison! and if TX won't do it becuz he is a judge
then the Feds should step in! I wish I didn't watch that. SICK MOTHER FUCKERS!
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Lyric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:58 AM
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15. The daughter posted this note about the video:
"2004: Aransas County Court-At-Law Judge William Adams took a belt to his own teenage daughter as punishment for using the internet to acquire music and games that were unavailable for legal purchase at the time. She has had ataxic cerebral palsy from birth that led her to a passion for technology, which was strictly forbidden by her father's backwards views. The judge's wife was emotionally abused herself and was severely manipulated into assisting the beating and should not be blamed for any content in this video. The judge's wife has since left the marriage due to the abuse, which continues to this day, and has sincerely apologized and repented for her part and for allowing such a thing, long before this video was even revealed to exist. Judge William Adams is not fit to be anywhere near the law system if he can't even exercise fit judgement as a parent himself. Do not allow this man to ever be re-elected again. His "judgement" is a giant farce.

Signed, Hillary Adams, his daughter."
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Lyric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:07 AM
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18. Yep. At the very least.
I don't know what the statute of limitations on child abuse in Texas is. You'd think that there wouldn't BE a statute of limitation on something like that, but sadly, there probably is.

And some of the comments on the video from psychos who think that this was JUST FINE make me want to beat THEM.
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sammytko Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:14 AM
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23. There is no limitation for child abuse
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Xithras Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:52 PM
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60. Unfortunately that's not correct.
Saw a discussion posted on this on another board earlier. The poster cited the relevant sections of Texas law. In Texas, the child abuse protection limits are:

10 years from the child's 18th birthday for sexual abuse.
10 years from the abuse date for felony nonsexual abuse.
5 years from the abuse date for non-felony, nonsexual child abuse.

I can dig back through my history and dig up the relevant legal sections if you want, but I'm sure you can probably Google it yourself even quicker.
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TBF Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:24 PM
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61. They're going to say it's non-felony and let him off - bet on it. nt
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TorchTheWitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 09:42 PM
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66. unfortunately, proving the felony is nearly impossible
For it to rise to a felony charge the abuse has to produce injury of some sort... bleeding, bruising, etc. From the video it can't be determined that she was physically injured in such a way. Though common sense says she must have been injured given the brutality of the attack the fact remains that no such injury can be seen in the video.

The judge is already claiming that the video makes the incident look worse than it was (yeah, right!), so there's no doubt that he will claim there was no injury. And sadly, I have grave doubts that the young woman herself won't claim the same... she has already made some comments that she doesn't want people to say mean things about her father and what he did (and apparently did often) and has even said that she now regrets exposing the video. This poor young lady needs counseling, and I so hope she is getting it somehow.


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TBF Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 09:46 PM
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67. Agree -
she really needs some psychological help and also agree with the rest of what you said - sadly I can't imagine a prosecutor in South Texas going forward with this given the laws here.
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Arkansas Granny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:24 AM
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27. If the wife had guts enough to leave the marriage, she should have had guts enough
to report the abuse. She can repent until she's blue in the face, but the fact remains that she assisted in the abuse and did nothing then or later to stop it. She's as complicit as he is, as far as I'm concerned.
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 01:18 PM
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46. i dont buy into that shit either. at the point of giving birth, priority shifts...
no cowaring, no excusing, no allowing.

i know many dont agree with me

but ... nope. it is on the mom to get kid away from abuser

children count on, depend on, protection
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pacalo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 04:44 PM
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51. And the wife caused a second round of beating when she said "I told her ___ but she said ___."
Surely she knew she was adding more fuel to the fire. The dad looked as though he despised her.
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Lorien Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:42 PM
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56. Unless you've been in an abusive relationship yourself
please refrain from passing judgment; the daughter didn't judge her mother so harshly because SHE UNDERSTOOD that an abuser can be so terrifying that their victims believe that someone will be killed if they take action. And you know what? Sometimes that's exactly what happens.
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Arkansas Granny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 09:03 PM
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64. You can consider me judgmental if you wish, and perhaps I am. I just know
that a woman who escapes an abusive relationship, but leaves her daughter with her abuser, knowing what kind of abuse she has suffered, gets no sympathy from me. How many times do you think someone is killed because no one takes any action in these situations?
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BlueDemKev Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-03-11 09:52 AM
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72. Hey Judge, come try that on a MAN
...I purchased a copy of Walt Disney's movie "Song of the South" on ebay back in 2007 (since Disney refuses to release the movie for regular sale), and I've let my kids watch it. You gonna come and beat me now, you piece-of-shit? C'mon asshole, let's see you try it. Come on over to Georgia...we're bigger rednecks than you are. C'mon coward, come and meet your match. What's wrong? You can beat a helpless disabled girl, why don't you come try to do that to a man...just make sure you've paid your last life insurance premium before coming over. Then again, I doubt your daughter would want to give you a proper burial....she'd probably rather throw your dead ass off the South Groin Pier in Rockport Harbor and let the sharks feed off you.

:grr: :grr: :grr: :grr:
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Darth_Kitten Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 06:03 PM
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52. Exactly....no more of this "he made me do it' crap.
Sick, rotten parents. :(
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Zywiec Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:00 AM
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16. Do you advocate prison rape? n/t
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snooper2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:57 AM
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14. 361-790-0138 Call the fucker at the Court
301 N. Live Oak St.
Rockport, TX 78382
Phone: 361-790-0138
Fax: 361-790-0185

http://www.aransascountytx.gov/courtatlaw/
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mod mom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:11 AM
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20. Please contact news sources to help make this go viral. Would love KO & Rachel to cover it!
This guy should NOT be allowed to administer justice to anyone! Lock his sick sorry ass up.

I wonder if his daughter was too afraid to post it earlier. :mad:
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Lyric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:12 AM
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21. She said in her note that his abuse of her continues.
Makes me wonder what the hell is going on with that family.
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mod mom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:18 AM
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24. Someone needs to get those children in protective custody since this will go viral.
If he got mad over game downloading he is going to be even more dangerous to those children. His daughter Alison looked young.
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Blue_Tires Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:33 AM
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32. maybe she wanted to wait until she was fully independent and far away from home
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BlueDemKev Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-03-11 09:53 AM
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73. Whew! Talk about getting even
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TorchTheWitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-03-11 12:06 AM
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70. she has commented that she posted the video after a particularly
abusive telephone conversation with her father.


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SidDithers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 02:29 PM
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48. CNN has picked it up...
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Arkansas Granny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:13 AM
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22. The mother is as much to blame as the father. I don't care how much emotional abuse
she claims to have suffered, it is a parent's duty, DUTY, to protect their children from this kind of abuse. She could have reported this to the authorities anonymously, if nothing else. She failed her daughter and should share the blame and the punishment.
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boston bean Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:36 AM
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33. This is a very difficult subject. I understand your point of view.
I have a different point of view that comes from a childhood of experience. I would really rather not discuss it, and request that you don't ask me too. I'll leave it with this.... the dynamics in these types of situations are never clear cut. The abuse we witnessed in that video......, I am sure was not suffered by only one person in that household. And it's not as easy as you think it is to do what you think should have been done by the mother.
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Arkansas Granny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:45 AM
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35. I realize that every story is different, but in this situation, the mother got herself out
of the abusive household, but apparently left her daughter there. Even if she was afraid of the husband while she was living with him, she could have reported the abuse to the daughter after she had removed herself from the household.
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boston bean Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:48 AM
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37. A lot of women finally get themselves out and are murdered. You don't think the scars
still exist, the fear still exists?

I probably won't make another comment to this, suffice it to say, we have differing points of view.
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Lyric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:57 AM
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38. FWIW, I share your point of view here.
I had a lot of abuse in my past, and I recognized what the mother was doing. Deflecting. Trying to appease without turning the rage onto her. "Look...see, I yelled at her and hit her once. Now you don't have to hit her fifty times. See? I upheld your authority. Now you don't need to beat her anymore."

Oh yes. I saw it too.
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 09:32 AM
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40. deleted
Edited on Wed Nov-02-11 09:38 AM by redqueen
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chervilant Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:13 PM
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53. You could not be more wrong.
And, you would benefit from reading the literature on relationship violence. I have done advocacy for survivors of relationship violence for better than 30 years. I can assure you that the abuser in such families wields incredible power. Since you don't know the specifics of this case, you tread on thin ice when you assert such a judgmental and hurtful blaming statement.
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TBF Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 10:14 AM
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42. Agree. I don't know how she could leave without her children -
Edited on Wed Nov-02-11 10:14 AM by TBF
I didn't watch the video but if she left the house without her children (and without calling authorities) she needs some serious help. In my past have been involved in abusive situations so I'm not just passing judgment without understanding what it's like. Will leave it at that.
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chervilant Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 07:21 PM
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55. Well, now...
Consider situations where the abused partner successfully leaves the abuser: if the abuser has inordinate power (this guy is a JUDGE, for goodness' sake!), the abused partner is unlikely to have the necessary resources to gain custody of the children.

I advocated for a mother of three who HAD to escape her abuser or die. She fought a long and costly battle to gain custody of her children, only to lose even visitation. Why? Because her abusive husband had strong political and economic ties in their insular community. He pulled strings, and successfully deprived her of all her parental rights. At the time I met her, she had not seen or held her children in months.

If you want to express outrage, be outraged that our society STILL does not acknowledge that CHILDREN in abusive households are just as much victims of the abuse, even if they are NEVER physically abused by the abuser!

(Furthermore, it is WAY past time that abusers be held solely responsible for their behavior.)
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TBF Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:30 PM
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62. You're preaching to the choir here -
and as I stated in my previous post I do not wish to discuss the previous abusive relationship I was in.

But I stand by my answer - she is married to a judge and thus has resources. She could've taken the girl to the hospital, called the police from there, etc ... Instead she participates in the abuse. Sorry, but that is too much for me to excuse.

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chervilant Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 10:32 PM
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68. Really?
I'm not preaching at all. I am STATING--after years of advocacy for survivors, after attaining a higher degree with an emphasis on the dynamics of relationship violence, after hearing countless stories of courage and survival--that ANY spouse of an abuser must develop survival strategies for every moment of every day. ANY spouse of an abuser struggles with a sense of normalcy, often having no frame of reference for what the rest of us consider 'normal.' ANY spouse of an abuser has little to no personal power, and rarely any economic power.

You say that this woman "is married to a judge and thus has resources." I say that you have NO IDEA what resources are available to HER, because her abusive partner may control every single penny of his income AND her income. I've done advocacy with amazing survivors who've used subterfuge and clever strategies to gather the cash they needed to escape their abusers--in one case, it took the survivor three years to amass enough money for bus tickets for herself and her children.

Frankly, I am concerned that you aver that you "do not wish to discuss the previous abusive relationship" that you survived, yet you feel justified in making evaluative statements about this particular survivor. I wonder if you might have experienced hurtful, judgmental statements from those to whom you looked for help in your time of need. If so, I encourage you to remember how inappropriate are blaming and shaming statements towards ANYONE who must find the courage and the strength to survive abuse at the hands of someone they should be able to trust, and toward whom they should feel no fear.
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chervilant Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 10:37 PM
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69. BTW,
I suppose I should mention that I too am a survivor--of every abuse you can imagine, including relationship violence. Consequently, I possess more than mere "book larnin'" about this pervasive, pernicious, and incredibly difficult issue.
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TBF Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-03-11 07:20 AM
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71. Thanks for your comments -
I will think them over, maybe do a little more reading myself. I got out of the relationship quickly after the abuse started. I keep thinking folks should be strong enough to pick up and leave as I did - but then again I had my own good job, no kids to worry about, and family/friends for support. That may make all the difference. Thanks again.
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 01:20 PM
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47. i posted above on your post, but want to post again here. agreed. mom does NOT get off the hook
i dont give a shit what was going on in the womans life. in any of this. she had a priority adn failed
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aikoaiko Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:20 AM
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25. May both parents get much jail time.

I couldn't watch but 30 seconds of the beating.
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UnrepentantLiberal Donating Member (747 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-03-11 11:52 AM
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74. Me either.
I watched it until the mother asked for the belt. That was enough to leave me very disturbed. Count me as one who thinks the mother is as guilty as the father. I don't buy her excuse that she was a victim too. She asked for the belt. I hope both of their lives are made miserable for a long time for this.
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Generic Other Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:30 AM
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28. Will the state protect this young woman from that man?
Because he should be in jail and never have the right to unsupervised visitation, nor should he ever be allowed access to the smaller child he ordered out of the room. So upsetting. And a judge no less.
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mod mom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:32 AM
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31. There is a younger daughter seen in the beginning of the video.
All children need to get out of the parent's custody IMMEDIATELY as this goes viral.
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boston bean Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:31 AM
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29. This was very difficult to watch. I watched it over in Political Videos
and it made me sick and sad.

I hope the prick gets what's coming to him.
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Taverner Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:32 AM
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30. I hope that fuckwad ends up sued into the 16th century...
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mod mom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:38 AM
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34. Anyone know of any TX News agencies who might be willing to take on this asshole?
Edited on Wed Nov-02-11 08:42 AM by mod mom
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StandingInLeftField Donating Member (382 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 09:42 AM
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41. Here's an interesting post by a Police Detective concerning corporal punishment.
Edited on Wed Nov-02-11 09:43 AM by StandingInLeftField
"Christian Police Officer Speaks Out on Corporal Punishment

By Det. Robert R. Surgenor
Berea, Ohio Police Department
Dear Mr. Benedict

I am a Christian police officer in charge of our citys Juvenile Crime Unit. For years, I have compiled statistics that indicate when parents eliminate corporal punishment from their discipline plan, the child grows up with an attitude of "no fear."

Even when the parent is diligent in other areas of discipline, such as taking away privileges and grounding, when that one element of discipline, spanking, is taken away, the parent usually experiences defiance problems throughout the teen years.

Since 1982 in my city, the incidents of Domestic Violence cases where children physically assault their parents has increased 700%. The national statistics show an overall increase of almost 400%. I am responsible for compiling all information on those offenses.

I conduct interviews with the parents and child, along with school officials and employers of the child. What I find startling, is that of all those kids arrested in my city for hitting their parents, only 1.9% received any type of corporal punishment as they were being raised. Less than 2% of these aggressive, angry children were spanked! The non-spanking "experts" contend that spanking a child makes them angry and aggressive. The exact opposite is true!

The non-spanking crowd are a close-knit group who are attempting to convince the public to stop spanking their children. Their attitude is one of arrogance. Their movement is humanistic. Their religion is atheistic.

There are prophesies that refer to children and the mindset of the younger generation in the last days. 2nd Timothy 3:1 states "This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents......" Along with all of the other changes in attitude, is the predicted change in the attitude of children toward their parents.

I believe that the anti-spanking movement has, and will continue to have, a hand in the fulfillment of Biblical prophesy. Unbeknownst to the non-spanking advocate, they are helping to cause children to be "disobedient to parents,"

something that was predicted in 2nd Timothy in the year 66 AD. I believe that the elimination of corporal punishment is the major factor in the attitude of "no fear" that we are now experiencing in our youth.

Think about it. When you got grounded as a child, it was a real inconvenience, but you werent afraid of it. When you had the TV taken away it was real boring, but you werent afraid of it. What made you move fast was hearing the leather coming out of dads belt loops! Thats what really made you respect your dads authority!

I believe as Christians, we have a responsibility to educate parents as to their responsibility and authority. I have recently written a book called "No Fear," and hope to have it published in the near future. We are being inundated by numerous sources telling us we cant spank our kids. Psychologists, the Department of Childrens Services and Public School Counselors are telling us we cannot discipline our children. Enough is enough!

The law protects a parent who wishes to spank their child, most parents just dont know it! A parent must know the LIMIT of his or her power to avoid exceeding it, and the EXTENT of the power to exercise it fully. Once a parent knows to what extent they can go to control their child, they can move forward without fear of arrest or interference from the authorities. And once the child realizes that the parent is in total control, the will is broken, and compliance results.

The dedicated Christian, like those in Acts 17:11 "received the word with all readiness of mind, and searched the scriptures daily, whether those things were so," will see that Gods Word plainly advocates spanking in child rearing. In order for the Christian to effectively use the Bible as a reference to advocate corporal punishment, he must know exactly what the Bible says about spanking. That is why I believe your message is so important. I encourage you to keep up the good work.

Your message on the Internet was of great encouragement to me. May God bless you in your efforts. In His Name,

Det. Robert R. Surgenor
Berea, Ohio Police Department
(440) 234-1234"

http://www.christian-parents.net/Children/C101_Police_O...

Christian indeed....

The above link was supplied by a poster to the Arkansas Times website
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TBF Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 10:44 AM
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43. And folks wonder why the police aren't sympathetic to the 99% -
if they are willing to do this to their own family members just imagine what they will agree to do to folks they don't know.
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mrs_p Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:47 AM
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36. there truly are no words
to describe how much i hate this fucker right now. please, let there be some justice for this woman.
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Brickbat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-02-11 08:59 AM
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39. Facebook page:
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