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Sun May 27, 2018, 02:35 PM

 

My wife was upset today, she told me she is not pretty anymore.

I told her, when you are 63 years old you are not supposed to be pretty. Your supposed to be beautiful, a beautiful person. You are.

I made her day.

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Reply My wife was upset today, she told me she is not pretty anymore. (Original post)
shockey80 May 2018 OP
No Vested Interest May 2018 #1
SallyHemmings May 2018 #2
cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #3
Aristus May 2018 #4
Delmette2.0 May 2018 #17
Aristus May 2018 #18
Delmette2.0 May 2018 #24
Canoe52 May 2018 #35
Aristus May 2018 #41
Canoe52 May 2018 #56
Aristus May 2018 #57
Scarsdale May 2018 #49
MoonchildCA May 2018 #44
rickford66 May 2018 #5
seleff May 2018 #7
Chemisse May 2018 #6
smirkymonkey May 2018 #8
LuckyLib May 2018 #9
SCantiGOP May 2018 #10
greymattermom May 2018 #11
kag May 2018 #25
mcar May 2018 #32
calimary May 2018 #53
moreland01 May 2018 #12
bdamomma May 2018 #38
NRaleighLiberal May 2018 #13
BlueJac May 2018 #14
ailsagirl May 2018 #15
Bernardo de La Paz May 2018 #16
MBS May 2018 #19
malaise May 2018 #20
keithbvadu2 May 2018 #21
Vinca May 2018 #23
Vinca May 2018 #22
Liberty Belle May 2018 #26
applegrove May 2018 #27
leftyladyfrommo May 2018 #31
TexasBushwhacker May 2018 #46
leftyladyfrommo May 2018 #50
Ohiogal May 2018 #33
Ohiogal May 2018 #28
Chalco May 2018 #29
mcar May 2018 #30
samnsara May 2018 #34
Honeycombe8 May 2018 #36
bdamomma May 2018 #37
Botany May 2018 #39
secondwind May 2018 #40
GulfCoast66 May 2018 #42
kimbutgar May 2018 #43
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BobTheSubgenius May 2018 #47
DFW May 2018 #48
Docreed2003 May 2018 #51
Soxfan58 May 2018 #52
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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 02:37 PM

1. A supportive spouse! One of the best things in life. nt

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 02:59 PM

2. Good for you both!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 02:59 PM

3. Made my day too!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 03:02 PM

4. I'm glad you made her day.

I can't do that for my wife. I tell her she's beautiful, and she replies: "That doesn't count. You're my husband!"

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Response to Aristus (Reply #4)

Sun May 27, 2018, 04:58 PM

17. Your wife is wrong.

My now ex husband during 14 years together never once told me I was pretty or beautiful. That is just one reason he is my ex.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Reply #17)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:04 PM

18. It's not like she's vehement about it.

She still smiles and blushes a little when I tell her.

I'll take it...

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Response to Aristus (Reply #18)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:27 PM

24. Oh good.

Everyone needs to know that someone thinks they are beautiful or handsome.

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Response to Aristus (Reply #18)

Sun May 27, 2018, 06:54 PM

35. Flowers, buy her flowers too, giving a woman flowers tells her

you think she is beautiful. Doesn’t have to be expensive florist flowers, from the grocery store on sale is great. Take the price tag off, don’t forget the hug and kiss.
My wife melts whenever I do this.

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Response to Canoe52 (Reply #35)

Sun May 27, 2018, 08:46 PM

41. You have clearly never met Mrs. Aristus:

Flowers: allergic.
Chocolates: "How could you? They'll make me fat!"
Jewelry: She'd rather pick it out herself and say: "This is from you!" rather than rely on my taste in jewelry.

That's all right. She's worth it...

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Response to Aristus (Reply #41)

Mon May 28, 2018, 11:54 AM

56. I'll go out on a limb here and assume a puppy wouldn't be good either?

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Response to Canoe52 (Reply #56)

Mon May 28, 2018, 12:18 PM

57. You're safe on that limb.

She dislikes dogs.

I dislike cats.

So we have neither.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Reply #17)

Mon May 28, 2018, 05:33 AM

49. When I met my first

husband, I was with a friend. I asked him later what he thought the first time he saw me? He said "I thought how pretty Brenda was" Never, ever gave me a compliment. Stupidly, I had three kids with that loser. I kept hoping things would improve. Never did. Second husband was just the opposite.

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Response to Aristus (Reply #4)

Sun May 27, 2018, 10:29 PM

44. When my husband complements me...

I tell him, as long as he feels that way, that’s all that counts.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 03:24 PM

5. The day my wife passed away at 71, she looked like 24 when I met her.

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Response to rickford66 (Reply #5)

Sun May 27, 2018, 03:52 PM

7. I feel the same

My wife just turned 62. I find her more beautiful Each and every year.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 03:49 PM

6. I am exactly her age so I know how she feels.

And your response was perfect.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 03:57 PM

8. You are a very sweet husband!

 

And she is a lucky woman to have you!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 03:58 PM

9. Our culture has pounded female beauty standards

into us since we were little girls. The laments of older women are so sad. Author Gertrude Stein: “We are always the same age inside.”

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Response to LuckyLib (Reply #9)

Sun May 27, 2018, 04:07 PM

10. Guess that's why I act 22

But look every bit of my 66 years.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 04:11 PM

11. Love that

When I was pretty, 40-50 years ago, I never realized it. Now, the goal is to be healthy.

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Response to greymattermom (Reply #11)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:34 PM

25. Same here, grey.

I look at pictures of myself, and say, "Why didn't anyone tell me how pretty I was back then?" Of course, they did. I just didn't listen.

And yes, the goal now is definitely to be healthy, and it's an elusive goal more and more these days.

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Response to kag (Reply #25)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:52 PM

32. I say the same, kag

Damn, I was a dish. But always with the self-consciousness and criticism. It's taken me a few years with my now chubby, flabby body and droopy face, but I happily pose for pictures with a big smile. I figure if I make it to 80, I'll look at them and say...

Damn, I was a dish!

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Response to greymattermom (Reply #11)

Mon May 28, 2018, 08:34 AM

53. I was decidedly NOT pretty 40-50 years ago. I look better now.

Probably because with age, at the advanced level where topical treatments really don’t help much, anymore, beauty becomes something different.

I find I actually like my crows’ feet and laugh lines. That shows the world that you’ve laughed and smiled a lot in your life. And I love my white hair! It’s been wanting to do that since I was in college.

Back then, I could pluck the stray silver strand. Easy to spot against dark brown hair. But then there started to be so many of them that I turned to hair color to keep things tamed. Spent a fortune in bucks AND time. The TIME it took! Sheesh! I’d be in the salon for almost all afternoon. I reached the point where I just couldn’t afford to take that much time out to get the gray and white out of my hair.

My hair is powerful. Heavy, wavy, medium-texture, and lots of it. Has a mind of its own. Always did. I’d stand at the bathroom mirror with the blow dryer for 45 minutes every morning, to force my hair to do what I wanted instead of what it wanted. Forty-five minutes it took!

I finally gave up and just let it do what it wanted - shape, “style”, and color. Life’s too short to have to struggle like that - with one’s hair for Pete’s Sake. And I love how it looks now! The joys of submission to a “higher power”!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 04:14 PM

12. If my hubby said that to me . . .

I'm sure I'd cry. So sweet. He shows it every day by still chasing me around the house and making me laugh. Sometimes I show him that he's still pretty by letting him catch me!

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Response to moreland01 (Reply #12)

Sun May 27, 2018, 07:30 PM

38. I love it!!!

nt

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 04:36 PM

13. My wife of 38 years is my favorite gazing subject....each year

her beauty, in and out, grows and grows. Best friends since 1979, married since 1980, we remain each other's favorite people.

You said a nice thing - you are both fortunate people!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 04:40 PM

14. You got that right!

You just become beautiful.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 04:55 PM

15. I love that!! Thanks for posting!!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 04:57 PM

16. I have no doubt it is true. Remember that one, folks. Well done. Brilliant. . . . nt

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:09 PM

19. Aw, this thread brought me to tears.

Not just the OP (although that was ace!) - everyone's responses, too.
wow, there really ARE nice guys out there: hats off to you all!

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Response to MBS (Reply #19)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:10 PM

20. +1,000

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:12 PM

21. You done good.

(from the LOL Cats)

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Response to keithbvadu2 (Reply #21)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:24 PM

23. Grandma!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:23 PM

22. I think we all have a day like that. I know I did a few months back and I'm 69.

You handled it perfectly . . . and a few flowers wouldn't hurt tomorrow either. LOL.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:37 PM

26. Treat her to one of those "queen for a day" spa treatments,

if you can afford it. A facial and body wrap to make her skin soft and wrinkles less noticeable, with maybe a manicure and/or hair treatment would be something she'd treasure. Now they have things like paraffin hand wraps that make old hands look young again. Some places have packages for special occasions, too.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:42 PM

27. The joy and beauty is in the laugh lines and the eyes. I feel sorry for

women who get tons of plastic surgery to get rid of wrinkles.

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Response to applegrove (Reply #27)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:51 PM

31. Well, and it just looks weird for a 60 y/o

to look 40. It just isn't right.

I'm 69 and sometimes I look in the mirror and think I look so old. It is hard. The trick is not to look in mirrors.

I don't know why I feel that way about myself because I like old faces.

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Response to leftyladyfrommo (Reply #31)

Mon May 28, 2018, 12:18 AM

46. Yeah, I just saw Book Club with Jane Fonda

Diane Keaton, Candice Bergen and Mary Steenbergen. She's 80, but for all the plastic surgery Jane has had, as well as the heavy makeup, false eyelashes and wigs, she doesn't look a day over 75. She is certainly thin and fit, but it just looks weird to be trying so hard to be something she isn't. The other 3 actresses look like they have had little if any PS.

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Response to TexasBushwhacker (Reply #46)

Mon May 28, 2018, 05:57 AM

50. I saw Madonna on tv not long ago.

She has had a lot if sonething and it really just looked off.

It would be so hard to be in a business that depended so much of appearances.

It isn't just the women, either. Some nen have had disastrous ps results, too.

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Response to applegrove (Reply #27)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:59 PM

33. I agree.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:42 PM

28. I know how she feels.

You two are so lucky to have each other!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:45 PM

29. I love you! nt

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 05:49 PM

30. You are a good husband

I'm 59 and often feel the same as your wife. My husband of 33 years demonstrates with his words and actions that I am still attractive to him, as he is to me with his bald head and whacky eyebrows!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 06:39 PM

34. Im 67 hubby says im beautiful all the time...

..i smile and say aaaaa ur fulla shit

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 07:26 PM

36. 63 isn't old. That's the new 43. Christie Brinkley is about 65.

You have it right, though. This is a time in life to focus on others, appreciate what you have, work on having good health. But hey...looking as good as we can affects us all. Our personalities are related to how we perceive we look.

There's nothing wrong with trying to look younger or better. That's why some wear makeup, color their hair, dress a certain way. You can be beautiful inside and be beautiful outside, too. She can make improvements, if she wants to.

A beauty day may be in order, and splurging on some beauty products. A day at a spa...nails, hair treatment, maybe a yoga class. Then the products for the face...face masks, hair masks, firming cream. A long bubble bath or whirlpool bath with candles & nice scents. And an exercise plan. A new nightie. So she'll end up feeling refreshed, and will look more glowing and youthful. It's fine if she doesn't want to, but it sounds like she may need a pickmeup. If she wants to go further, she can try injections for the naso-labial folds, which are not permanent.

Wrinkles are not nearly so aging as sagging. And there's not much one can do about sagging except a facelift. It's what happens when you get older, esp if you had full cheeks when young. I call it the Angela Lansbury or Paul McCartney syndrome. But you can make your complexion glow and emphasize your eyes and have super hair, to detract.

I wonder if someone said something that hurt her feelings?

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 07:27 PM

37. how sweet

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 07:46 PM

39. tell her this ....

when you lay your head on my chest I'm the richest man in the world and your
beauty has no limits .....

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 08:05 PM

40. What a great response! K&R

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 08:59 PM

42. My wife and I have been together for 31 years.

She is pushing 60.

When looking at 30 year old photos of us I commented, and firmly believe, that she is more beautiful now. Our wrinkles have been hard earned and when I see her gardening in a skirt or shorts, all flushed and sweaty, she is the most beautiful woman on earth.

The fire may not burn as hot at 52 as at 21, but the coals are banked really deep!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 09:04 PM

43. I know the feeling

You get to a certain age when you feel like you are no longer considered a woman men want to check out. You feel invisible. But I take delight that I was young and kind of not. I got checked out and whistled at.

And sometimes my hubby will say you look good in those pants and your ass looks good also. To him I’m still the woman he saw across the dance floor at a nightclub 33 years ago. Take comfort and joy wife of shockey80 your hubby thinks you’re still hot!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Sun May 27, 2018, 11:00 PM

45. I'm glad I'm not the only one

Who struggles with losing our youth. Somehow it takes a part of your confidence. Thank goodness you tell her she’s beautiful because some days you just don’t feel it!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon May 28, 2018, 01:28 AM

47. That is some wisdom there, shockey!

I'm not saying one way or the other, but I *may* steal this, if the occasion arises.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon May 28, 2018, 03:46 AM

48. Good answer

Depending on how long you've been together, you could add that you hadn't noticed any changes.

One of the few things my wife sometimes comes out with in English is "I'm getting old." I just tell her "oh come on, you're the best looking woman your age in the world, and you know it." We've been together 44 years now, and I think I almost have her convinced, but not quite. A sixty-year-old woman doesn't have to look like a beautiful thirty-year-old. All she has to do is look like a great sixty-year-old. Just ask any sixty-year-old guy that has his head screwed on straight.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon May 28, 2018, 06:11 AM

51. And that's how you win "Husbanding 101"

The love you and your spouse share must be infectious!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon May 28, 2018, 07:57 AM

52. The thing is, thats not a line

Its the truth, I dont see how the trumps of the world need a woman half their age. There is so much more to enjoy with someone close to the same age.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon May 28, 2018, 08:40 AM

54. Yep! You sure did! Good job!

My husband is like that, too. Mighty nice, I must say!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon May 28, 2018, 08:44 AM

55. Makes me think of Billy Joel

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