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Wed Nov 21, 2018, 03:58 AM

Where do I start?

So, I'll start here with a caveat,, tough week, Mrs Koz's dad's memory service today, the little left of her family in attendance,and a sarcastic OMG that her church ( where her Dad was a member for 70 years),"forgot to find a sound board operator. SO Dear koz ( me)
left my wife to take on the immediate need. .
While in the loft doing my Koz thing for this,, I watch Mrs K son,niece, and other cousins, family blah blah blah,, leave MY WIFE sitting alone in front row, by herself.
It is 3 Am my time,, IM still livid, her and I have talked of course,,she did not want to cause a stir and asked me to keep quiet. I did out of love for her.

But I still need to vent,,even after all these hours, I look at our public on things like people getting killed by simply going to church,, people getting killed because they wanted to line dance, people getting killed for nothing.

Today, I watched these millenniums go to a service for a great man and veteran for out country, and ignore His sole surviving daughter,
which I believe gives me the right to say, get yer head out of your ass youngsters!!!

The same kids that ignored Mrs K today,also managed to talk to me about "what do they get"

Millennial folks,,it aint all about you..

I could go on and on,,,I am tired because of death, I am tired of politics, as of today,, I am tired of young folks telling me what they "need/deserve" to make our country great.
I am old, I am tired, I still fight for our Country! but today wore me out,and I just want to sleep at 3AM , but I still worry about my wife and her Dad who passed.
Maybe this is the diff between R an d D's,, who is awake at 3AM simply because they care?

Koz out

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kozar Nov 2018 OP
AJT Nov 2018 #1
kozar Nov 2018 #3
AJT Nov 2018 #8
DUgosh Nov 2018 #2
kozar Nov 2018 #4
blm Nov 2018 #5
kozar Nov 2018 #6
procon Nov 2018 #7
lunatica Nov 2018 #9

Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Nov 21, 2018, 04:04 AM

1. I'm sorry your wife lost her father. It's good she has your love and support.

The young people not even giving their condolences to your wife was pretty rude behavior. They seemed to be rather self centered.

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Response to AJT (Reply #1)

Wed Nov 21, 2018, 04:15 AM

3. TY

The point I wanted to make,,, they seem to think they weren't rude.

Where is our country going? I obviously know her son and niece I referred to, they were not raised this way.

But now,when it is not just keyboard talk or water cooler banter,,,what did they show in LIFE?

I am so pissed,, I know we did better and when I see these things, I wonder ,,,who is winning the propaganda crap? Guess our side isn't.
I appreciate the thoughts

Koz

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Response to kozar (Reply #3)

Wed Nov 21, 2018, 01:48 PM

8. Don't underestimate how much tech has affected behaviour.

The millennials are first generation of heavy tech users. I think using computers and phones to communicate rather than face to face has had a negative effect on how people treat each other in person. I have seen texts that say "go kill yourself" and my grandson says that's normal. They are rude to their friends, at least they seem rude, but Gabe says that what I consider rude isn't to them. I'm just thinking that there has been a social shift because of the way people communicate and spend their time(free time is spent on social media)and I don't know if that will change.

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Nov 21, 2018, 04:05 AM

2. I am so sorry

For your loss. What a difficult day you had yesterday! Please accept my condolenses for the loss of your Father In Law.

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Response to DUgosh (Reply #2)

Wed Nov 21, 2018, 04:16 AM

4. TY

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Nov 21, 2018, 04:17 AM

5. Awake here.

And I hear you.

Peace to you and mrs koz.

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Response to blm (Reply #5)

Wed Nov 21, 2018, 04:22 AM

6. TY

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Nov 21, 2018, 05:15 AM

7. Also awake and sharing a somewhat similar grief in the recent death of family

No service or ceremony, just the last four of us gathered at a vista spot up in the foothills and sharing a few remembered anecdotes with a chuckle or a tear as needed as we scattered ashes. It brought closure and strengthen our family bond. No one even asked to join us in remberence; makes me sad that our younger kin are so shallow and self centered and it doesn't occur to them that respect and compassion are basic human traits.

I'm the oldest of our little tribe now and I hold out no expectations for anything different. When my three remaining siblings gather next, I hope they can find good memories of our life together to make them laugh.

Wishing you and your wife the same, good memories of family and friends, both near and remembered, are worthy of being sharing. Thank you for doing that.

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Nov 21, 2018, 02:08 PM

9. Younger people are not mean or indifferent but

like so many they are incredibly clumsy and bad about how to react the grieving members of the deceased. It doesnít mean indifference. Itís more akin to being tongue tied and socially awkward.

When my son died and even over time people I work with are not very good when it comes to dealing with death. Whenever I talked about my son like just mentioning a memory or anything that would be perfectly normal if he hadnít dies, I was met with complete silence. It doesnít mean they didnít care about me. It just means they are at a loss as to how to respond. Itís inadequate, but it is what it is.

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