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My husband is going to the emergency room. (Original Post) murielm99 Nov 2018 OP
Oh, no. Sending thoughts your way. Please let us know. catbyte Nov 2018 #1
*hugs* *hugs* *hugs* a kennedy Nov 2018 #2
Hoping he's fixed and back soon splat Nov 2018 #3
Take care - both of you malaise Nov 2018 #4
Sending good thoughts TEB Nov 2018 #5
Hope all goes well and he's back home soon. AJT Nov 2018 #6
He'll be home in no time! spanone Nov 2018 #7
Oof. I'm sorry. Have faith. They are very good with hearts. nolabear Nov 2018 #8
he's where he needs to be right now renate Nov 2018 #9
OMG. CousinIT Nov 2018 #10
Hoping it all goes well Bettie Nov 2018 #11
Sending best wishes for a fast recovery. Take care still_one Nov 2018 #12
It sounds serious but please try not to worry. lpbk2713 Nov 2018 #13
I hope it all goes well for him. Ilsa Nov 2018 #14
Deep breaths, rock steady, muriel Leghorn21 Nov 2018 #15
Very best wishes. n/t DemSoc Nov 2018 #16
.... handmade34 Nov 2018 #17
Healing vibes on the way, muriel. sheshe2 Nov 2018 #18
Hoping for the best for you both (n/t) Moostache Nov 2018 #19
I pray the best for both of you. Take care of yourself, he's in the hands of professionals. marble falls Nov 2018 #20
Strength and healing vibes being sent your way 💕💕💕 arthritisR_US Nov 2018 #21
Best wishes to both of you Apollyonus Nov 2018 #22
Hoping for a speedy recovery vishnura Nov 2018 #23
All the best wishes in the world to you both Hekate Nov 2018 #24
Lean on us. Nevilledog Nov 2018 #25
Sending good vibrations. The Wielding Truth Nov 2018 #26
good vibes DonCoquixote Nov 2018 #27
A candle for you TrishaJ Nov 2018 #28
Positive thoughts! slumcamper Nov 2018 #29
You put it right where you needed to bluecollar2 Nov 2018 #30
Hoping everything turns out great. sdfernando Nov 2018 #31
Stay positive and vigilant. Take nothing for granted. Question docs, be persistent, an advocate for Pepsidog Nov 2018 #32
I'm joining the chorus of well wishers on DU to both of you. in2herbs Nov 2018 #33
I had that last winter. Jane Austin Nov 2018 #34
Been there. Here's hoping it's in time!! DFW Nov 2018 #35
Keep us posted when you can, please. Solly Mack Nov 2018 #36
I'm holding all good thoughts for you both today and in the days ahead eleny Nov 2018 #37
Wishing your husband well. Take care. gademocrat7 Nov 2018 #38
Prayers on their way for you and your hubbie! pazzyanne Nov 2018 #39
I hope everything goes well with the surgery. Love and hugs. littlemissmartypants Nov 2018 #40
Good vibes coming your way lillypaddle Nov 2018 #41
I hope it's successful brer cat Nov 2018 #42
Best wishes. n/t FSogol Nov 2018 #43
I hope the surgery goes well. LisaM Nov 2018 #44
Prayers for him and for you as well... BadGimp Nov 2018 #45
I'm sorry.... sending best wishes! NT Adrahil Nov 2018 #46
I hope all goes well. George II Nov 2018 #47
All the best Botany Nov 2018 #48
PRAYING FOR YOU. Good luck... Demsrule86 Nov 2018 #49
Wishing the best for both of you! smirkymonkey Nov 2018 #50
Sending Good Strong Healing Cha Nov 2018 #51
Happy wishes for him and you.. SoCalDem Nov 2018 #52
... shenmue Nov 2018 #53
They do amazing things these days. Liberal In Texas Nov 2018 #54
My grandmother had this done & it did not keep her down for long . A short recovery usually but lunasun Nov 2018 #55
Take this very good suggestion to heart Sucha NastyWoman Nov 2018 #59
Sending positive thoughts your way, murielm99. democrank Nov 2018 #56
There is a very active FB page MichMary Nov 2018 #57
Take Heart... The Conductor Nov 2018 #58
Offering prayers for your dear husband's healing. Tanuki Nov 2018 #60
🕯 sprinkleeninow Nov 2018 #61
Good thoughts and vibes, murielm99 sarge43 Nov 2018 #62
Sorry to hear it! denvine Nov 2018 #63
I hope everything turns out well. NurseJackie Nov 2018 #64
sending thoughts your way... FirstLight Nov 2018 #65
Take care-sending good thoughts your way Gothmog Nov 2018 #66
Well wishes for you husband and frogmarch Nov 2018 #67
Good luck. Keep us posted cpamomfromtexas Nov 2018 #68
I send all my good vibes and prayers for your husband!! secondwind Nov 2018 #69
Do keep us updated. All good news we're sure! Roland99 Nov 2018 #70
Stay positive... N_E_1 for Tennis Nov 2018 #71
Sending your Hubby get well soon wishes Niagara Nov 2018 #72
My father had this done when he was 70. airplaneman Nov 2018 #73
I'll keep both of you in my thoughts. TexasTowelie Nov 2018 #74
Best of luck to him. greatauntoftriplets Nov 2018 #75
You put this in the perfect place! displacedtexan Nov 2018 #76
hope surgery is successful. JHan Nov 2018 #77
Holding you and your family in our thoughts and sending healing vibes to your husband. nt woodsprite Nov 2018 #78
Had AVR replacement two years ago... albacore Nov 2018 #79
I am late. Hoping things are going well. rurallib Nov 2018 #80
Will be thinking of you two!! bluestarone Nov 2018 #81
Best hopes. Let us know when you can irisblue Nov 2018 #82
Stay strong! Generic Other Nov 2018 #83
Thinking of you murielm99! Please keep us posted . R B Garr Nov 2018 #84
Hoping to hear that he's doing well. davsand Nov 2018 #85
Wishing the best for him. JudyM Nov 2018 #86
Good thoughts for you and yours. blogslut Nov 2018 #87
I hope everything went OK and your husband is doing well csziggy Nov 2018 #88
If you are on FB, there is a great group for Open Heart Surgery patients Grasswire2 Nov 2018 #89
Wishing your hubby well. denbot Nov 2018 #90
Best wishes sellitman Nov 2018 #91
All my best vibes for a super outcome, my dear murielm99! CaliforniaPeggy Nov 2018 #92
Good vibes from Oregon. Enoki33 Dec 2018 #93
I'm very sorry you have such distressing news come to your house. BobTheSubgenius Dec 2018 #94
So sorry Meowmee Dec 2018 #95
Seven years ago I had the same surgery. He should be fine. usaf-vet Dec 2018 #96
Hugs and wishes that all turns out okay. Honeycombe8 Dec 2018 #97
Good vibes sent to you and your husband....nt Heartstrings Dec 2018 #98
My husband had this Lifelong Protester Dec 2018 #99
Keep the Faith kozar Dec 2018 #100
prayers and healing wishes gopiscrap Dec 2018 #101
Hopeful update here: greyl Dec 2018 #102
Prayers! my thoughts are with you joet67 Dec 2018 #103
God bless your husband and you. Positive thoughts and prayers go your way. BigBearJohn Dec 2018 #104
I'm told I may need that someday; best wishes to you and your family. NNadir Dec 2018 #105
Hope you can share good news about this later on. nt oasis Dec 2018 #106
Hope all goes well kpete Dec 2018 #107
Sending wishes for a successful surgery and recovery pandr32 Dec 2018 #108
Sending good vibes... malthaussen Dec 2018 #109
Positive Vibes for the murielm99 family. Tikki Dec 2018 #110
I hope everything goes well, murielm. lapucelle Dec 2018 #111

nolabear

(41,959 posts)
8. Oof. I'm sorry. Have faith. They are very good with hearts.
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 05:38 PM
Nov 2018

I know from experience. Mr. bear has had a ton of stuff done over the last 20+ years and he’s doing great.

renate

(13,776 posts)
9. he's where he needs to be right now
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 05:38 PM
Nov 2018

He's being taken care of--this is harder on you right now than it is on him. Just remember that he's in good hands.

Sending best wishes and saying a prayer for him (I didn't know which you'd prefer).

Keep us posted.

lpbk2713

(42,751 posts)
13. It sounds serious but please try not to worry.
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 05:42 PM
Nov 2018



I was in Cardiac Intensive Care for five days about two and a half years ago but I'm doing pretty good now. Today's medical science is the closest thing to miracles we humans have.




Nevilledog

(51,064 posts)
25. Lean on us.
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 06:09 PM
Nov 2018

This is an amazing community and we are here for you and your family.

Healing vibes coming your way

slumcamper

(1,606 posts)
29. Positive thoughts!
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 06:14 PM
Nov 2018

AVS is quite routine and highly successful these days. It used to be nip and tuck.

My mother had it in June '17. Pig valve! She was out in a day, her recovery went well, no complications--and it saved her life.

All will go well and be well!

bluecollar2

(3,622 posts)
30. You put it right where you needed to
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 06:16 PM
Nov 2018

Among friends.

Good luck to you and your husband.

I'm sure everything will be fine. I ended up in the emergency and wound up ok after a triple-bypass.

These doctors know what they're doing.



Pepsidog

(6,254 posts)
32. Stay positive and vigilant. Take nothing for granted. Question docs, be persistent, an advocate for
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 06:24 PM
Nov 2018

your husband. If it doesn’t look right say something. My mother passed away 15 years ago during placement of 1 stent. Myself, my father and brother,all lawyers who know something about medicine all stood there and watched as my mother bled to death. She should not have died. It made such an impression on my son that he decided to go to medical school and wants to be a cardiologist. I wish you luck and alll the best.

Jane Austin

(9,199 posts)
34. I had that last winter.
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 06:26 PM
Nov 2018

Wonderful procedure, and I didn't feel a thing, during or after.

It's a medical miracle, as far as I'm concerned.

Tell him to enjoy his stay in the hospital.

eleny

(46,166 posts)
37. I'm holding all good thoughts for you both today and in the days ahead
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 06:28 PM
Nov 2018

Thanks so much for letting us know.

littlemissmartypants

(22,631 posts)
40. I hope everything goes well with the surgery. Love and hugs.
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 06:42 PM
Nov 2018

I'm sending healing juju your way. I have been in the hospital, off and on, with mom for four days. She's had surgery twice now, once the 27th and again today. An ultrasound she had in the ED revealed a cyst full of ecoli on one of her kidneys, that was six times the size of the kidney. We are so lucky she didn't go into septic shock.

I truly hope that the doctors in your husband's case are able to help him as much as the doctors here have helped mom.

Thinking of you, murielm99.

All the best.

SoCalDem

(103,856 posts)
52. Happy wishes for him and you..
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 06:57 PM
Nov 2018

Heart surgery these days is not as big of a deal as it once was.. The fact that they know exactly what to do and that he was treated quickly should be a plus for him..

hugs to you both

Liberal In Texas

(13,542 posts)
54. They do amazing things these days.
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 07:02 PM
Nov 2018

Had a quintuple bypass in May and rode my bike 3 times this week.

Keeping fingers crossed for you and your husband.

lunasun

(21,646 posts)
55. My grandmother had this done & it did not keep her down for long . A short recovery usually but
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 07:07 PM
Nov 2018

take care it will still be some time of not ordinary days for you both. Ask for help from anyone who offers

Sucha NastyWoman

(2,745 posts)
59. Take this very good suggestion to heart
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 07:26 PM
Nov 2018

It will be good for both of you

Take care of yourself and update us when you can.

MichMary

(1,714 posts)
57. There is a very active FB page
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 07:10 PM
Nov 2018

devoted to Heart Valve Surgery. A support group. Lots of info, lots of empathy.

Best of luck to you and your dh.

The Conductor

(180 posts)
58. Take Heart...
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 07:25 PM
Nov 2018

I had the same surgery in June, now having a cow valve (yes, really). It went well, and I am now in pretty decent shape to hang around another couple of decades. The first weeks are not easy, as everything hurts from having your chest opened up the same way they pop the hood of a car, but I had no memory loss or other side effects, so that went about as well as it could. It takes a little working through, and you have to be patient. Cardiac Rehab is a great idea, and a good way to get back normal function and flexibility, even if it starts a bit slow. For the first couple of months, I was good for about 4-6 hours a day, then napping again. OK now though, and up to walking and doing pretty much as I like.

N_E_1 for Tennis

(9,713 posts)
71. Stay positive...
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 08:19 PM
Nov 2018

Doctors are really good nowadays...personal experience...quad bypass....aorta surgery...my wife was my rock. First person I thought about coming out of anesthesia.

airplaneman

(1,239 posts)
73. My father had this done when he was 70.
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 08:25 PM
Nov 2018

It significantly improved the quality of his life but is a 6 month to a year recovery process. I wish the best for all of you and a steady recovery.
-Airplane

displacedtexan

(15,696 posts)
76. You put this in the perfect place!
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 08:35 PM
Nov 2018

We are all here with you in this super crowded DU family waiting room, wishing your husband a speedy recovery.

albacore

(2,398 posts)
79. Had AVR replacement two years ago...
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 08:50 PM
Nov 2018

... and I'm still kicking. I had lots of other surgeries - I beat up my body pretty good - and this was the worst. I say that not to scare you, but to prepare you.
It's one of those bungee-jump things. NOT a roller-coaster... that's too smooth. The ups are really high, and the downs are really down.
Luckily, the best hotshots in the business, from the nurses and doctors to the most modern equipment is there to take care of him. The surgeons are megalomaniacs who will NOT let their patients die! The nurses have seen it all before, and are totally cool with the setbacks and are ready for them.
Think of it this way. Without surgery i had 2 months to live.... probably the same with your husband. Now I bike 20 miles with no sweat....about 70 miles a week, I can do 60 minutes at the gym going full bore, and I feel great. (Oh... I'm 75.)
That's where your husband will be in 6 months. Never mind what they tell you...that shit hurts. And he'll be tired. But he'll get better and better. Not day by day...but week by week he'll get his strength back. And maybe more strength than he's had in years. My little pig valve will outlive me.
Be worried... that's fair. But don't despair. He's joining the "zipper on the chest" fraternity. There's lots of us.
Lots of good wishes going out to him - and you.

davsand

(13,421 posts)
85. Hoping to hear that he's doing well.
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 10:09 PM
Nov 2018

Cardiac is very scary stuff in spite of how very skilled the docs are now. Carrying you in my heart.



Laura

csziggy

(34,135 posts)
88. I hope everything went OK and your husband is doing well
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 10:39 PM
Nov 2018

I had my aortic valve replaced last year - just went for my one year check up and everything was perfect.

Sending healing thoughts!

Grasswire2

(13,565 posts)
89. If you are on FB, there is a great group for Open Heart Surgery patients
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 11:12 PM
Nov 2018

Lots of wonderful people who are very supportive and informative. Called Zipper Club.

And be encouraged. My pal who had aortic valve replacement three years ago at age 66 has summited Mt. Kilimanjaro last year and is right now climbing Mt. Meru (14,000 feet).

So many people do so well with cardio rehab after surgery and feel better after a few weeks.

Best wishes.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,580 posts)
92. All my best vibes for a super outcome, my dear murielm99!
Fri Nov 30, 2018, 11:44 PM
Nov 2018

Lots of good advice and vibes in this thread, which sure is in the right place!

BobTheSubgenius

(11,562 posts)
94. I'm very sorry you have such distressing news come to your house.
Sat Dec 1, 2018, 01:02 AM
Dec 2018

I have what I hope is helpful news, though. I had both my aortic and mitral valves replaced, as well as a piece of heart muscle ruined by Staph A. That was in the spring of 2010.

This past spring, my annual go-round with my cardiologist led him to utter this phrase "Like a teenager."

I'm 66.

If you can, start looking for an electric liftrecline chair. A GODSEND for someone who has just had their sternum split in two, and can't use their hands or elbows to got to their feet. Also good for napping, which will also be prevalent.

My sincerest best wishes to you and yours!

usaf-vet

(6,178 posts)
96. Seven years ago I had the same surgery. He should be fine.
Sat Dec 1, 2018, 01:09 AM
Dec 2018

Recovery will be slow. If he has the valve replaced with an artificial valve he will in all likelihood need to be on blood thinner for the rest of his life. He will have to have monthly finger stick blood test. 20 mins tops. To check his INR.

Good luck!

kozar

(2,108 posts)
100. Keep the Faith
Sat Dec 1, 2018, 02:05 AM
Dec 2018

I have been told I should be dead, double pulmonary embolisms,
Mrs K was told same, the big C
and we have a hcp daughter who "they said" wouldn't live past 20 years,, she just turned 30.

We are hoping for you and understand the immediacies of your situation, and you are now in our thoughts


Koz

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