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Soph0571

(9,685 posts)
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 10:43 AM Jan 2019

''...I'm not here to be likeable. I'm here to fix this sh*t."




Every single woman running for president in 2020 should announce by saying: "My name is [@KamalaHarris/@SenWarren/@amyklobuchar], and I'm not here to be likable. I'm here to fix this sh*t."


Perfectly this.

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''...I'm not here to be likeable. I'm here to fix this sh*t." (Original Post) Soph0571 Jan 2019 OP
Why even bring it up Ohiogal Jan 2019 #1
+1 dalton99a Jan 2019 #4
because the likability crap is already here. niyad Jan 2019 #30
+1 Power 2 the People Jan 2019 #44
Castor oil is good for you. n/t Guppy Jan 2019 #2
So, women candidates are as horribly distasteful and unlikeable as castor oil? Really? (nt) ehrnst Jan 2019 #6
It is all about messaging Guppy Jan 2019 #8
You're saying that "Castor oil is good for you" is a good message? ehrnst Jan 2019 #11
I believe Guppy was saying ... aggiesal Jan 2019 #15
You have it right Guppy Jan 2019 #22
So what's your point? watoos Jan 2019 #49
the more charismatic/likable candidate almost always wins NewJeffCT Jan 2019 #23
Exactly right. Likability is not a female/misogynistic thing. thesquanderer Jan 2019 #34
re: "many many unllikeable male candidates have won" thesquanderer Jan 2019 #24
Ted Cruz DBoon Jan 2019 #27
Ted Cruz, whom nobody likes, vs. Beto O'Rourke, who is about as likable as you can get. The Velveteen Ocelot Jan 2019 #28
Okay, I have to give you that one. ;-) thesquanderer Jan 2019 #32
Moving the goal posts to 'national elections?' Richard Nixon, Donald J. Trump ehrnst Jan 2019 #33
Nobody liked Nixon; Humphrey was much more personally likable, The Velveteen Ocelot Jan 2019 #36
And in 1972? (nt) ehrnst Jan 2019 #37
The war was still a huge issue. The Velveteen Ocelot Jan 2019 #40
McGovern was way more likeable. He lost by a landslide. No one ever asked him to apologize for it. ehrnst Jan 2019 #42
I don't think McGovern ever recovered from the Eagleton problem. (n/t) thesquanderer Jan 2019 #55
He didn't handle that very well at all, and it certainly did hurt him. The Velveteen Ocelot Jan 2019 #58
Point taken, but we'd still benefit from a charismatic candidate in 2020, regardless of gender. (nt) thesquanderer Jan 2019 #39
The "charisma" bar is set very differently for femaile candidates. That's the point. (nt) ehrnst Jan 2019 #43
Very true. Women have to figure out how to be interesting and passionate without seeming The Velveteen Ocelot Jan 2019 #56
That seems like conjecture, and hard to substantiate with fact. thesquanderer Jan 2019 #57
Newt Gingrich, Ted Cruz, John Kasich, Richard Nixon, Mitch McConnell, Chris Christie, Ron Paul, ehrnst Jan 2019 #31
Trump Soph0571 Jan 2019 #59
Responded to your message with #15. n/t aggiesal Jan 2019 #17
And JFK made it something to aspire to. FoulMouthRepublicans is all they got onit2day Jan 2019 #47
Disrupted poorly. MrsCoffee Jan 2019 #46
I want a woman president. Farmer-Rick Jan 2019 #3
There are many progressive women who are more than qualified. ehrnst Jan 2019 #7
I never said they weren't qualified Guppy Jan 2019 #9
You just think that they are distasteful like castor oil. ehrnst Jan 2019 #10
I said that message stated like that is a loser Guppy Jan 2019 #12
I agree with you Guppy Jan 2019 #14
As I said - that messaging has worked for men, and rather unlikeable men. (nt) ehrnst Jan 2019 #21
Good campaign slogan "I'm here to fix this shit". Pepsidog Jan 2019 #5
Ironically, if they actually said that, they'd be instantly likeable. VOX Jan 2019 #13
Yes PatSeg Jan 2019 #16
Delete the profanity and I'm ok with it, elleng Jan 2019 #18
Well, Gretchen Whitmer won Governor of Michigan... llmart Jan 2019 #20
When she called them "damned roads", she was being kind. JustABozoOnThisBus Jan 2019 #41
Trump is pretty disgusting and unlikeable IronLionZion Jan 2019 #19
Trump has a certain kind of charisma/likability, unfortunately. thesquanderer Jan 2019 #26
remember when George Dubya was greenman3610 Jan 2019 #25
I just can't get behind this message. nt Ferrets are Cool Jan 2019 #29
This! Yes! nt TwistOneUp Jan 2019 #35
That is a fail, because you have to work with the other branches treestar Jan 2019 #38
Now, I apologize, watoos Jan 2019 #50
But you are not going to fix any shit treestar Jan 2019 #54
Being liked by voters is a component of getting elected. Honeycombe8 Jan 2019 #45
I love Elizabeth Warren. She's like Bernie Sanders for grown ups Bucky Jan 2019 #48
I must say, that is a right wing talking point. watoos Jan 2019 #51
I implied no insult to any Democrat in that post Bucky Jan 2019 #52
It's a great slogan to banter around on an Internet forum defacto7 Jan 2019 #53
Want to get more men votes? wroberts189 Jan 2019 #60
Every single Dem running for or holding any office AndJusticeForSome Jan 2019 #61

Ohiogal

(31,880 posts)
1. Why even bring it up
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 10:47 AM
Jan 2019

unless asked.

Republicans are the definition of hypocrisy because they elected the most vile, repulsive, unlikeable, human being on the whole planet. And I am being kind, here.

 

Guppy

(444 posts)
8. It is all about messaging
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 11:32 AM
Jan 2019

Do you honestly think a message like that would win? Look at our history of electing presidents. A message like that never wins. Man or Women. Think of Dukakis and competence. God that was awful. We might not like Frank Luntz but he is often right on words and messaging.

Also, think of Obama and hope.

Luntz has made liberal toxic.

This would fall flat in a general election.

 

ehrnst

(32,640 posts)
11. You're saying that "Castor oil is good for you" is a good message?
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 11:42 AM
Jan 2019

And yes, many many unllikeable male candidates have won with the "I'm going to go there and shake things up, and fix Washington."

What do you think has been made "toxic" about liberals? Or is it just female candidates you find "librarian-like" and bad "sales people."

I see bad "salesmen" become popular liberal politicians.




aggiesal

(8,903 posts)
15. I believe Guppy was saying ...
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 11:51 AM
Jan 2019

that Luntz made the word "LIBERAL" toxic.
Not that liberals are toxic or that female candidates made liberals toxic.

Also, that "Castor oil is good for you" is really bad messaging.

I'm sure Guppy will correct me if I interpreted that incorrectly.
I certainly don't want to put words in Guppy's message,
but just wanted to clarify.

 

Guppy

(444 posts)
22. You have it right
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 12:22 PM
Jan 2019

messaging is important. Luntz made the word liberal toxic. I still prefer Liberal as it has a great history. Like I am stating.

Hope- Obama makes people feel good.

Fix this shit- awful and depressing.

 

watoos

(7,142 posts)
49. So what's your point?
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 01:42 PM
Jan 2019

The corporate controlled M$M, who you designate Luntz as, also made the mention of the name Nancy Pelosi toxic. So what? There is a reason the right made the name Pelosi toxic, because they fear her.

Liberal has a totally different meaning with the rest of the world, in the rest of the world a liberal is a Libertarian.

When the right demonizes someone or something without actually making an argument why, that tells me the right fears that thing or person.

NewJeffCT

(56,828 posts)
23. the more charismatic/likable candidate almost always wins
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 12:27 PM
Jan 2019

We may despise Trump, but his base loves him and the media loves him, and that allowed him to drive the narrative. The daily scandals of his corruption, incompetence and being a horrible person were balanced by the media with Hillary's emails so that they were 50-50. Heck, in the NY Times, Hillary's emails were a bigger scandal than anything Trump related.

Obama won because he was more charismatic and likable than Romney and McCain.

Bush Jr won because he was the "regular guy" that Chris Matthews wanted to have a beer with, while Gore and Kerry were stiff and out of touch elitists.

Bill Clinton was the likable and charismatic guy compared to Dole and Bush Sr.

However, Bush Sr was more likable that the epically bland Dukakis.

Same with Reagan - likable and charismatic, especially compared to Mondale and the indecisive Carter.



thesquanderer

(11,968 posts)
34. Exactly right. Likability is not a female/misogynistic thing.
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 12:49 PM
Jan 2019

Hillary, Gore, and Kerry were all somewhat unlikable. Stiff, unrelatable to many people.

Obama was so likable that he could be elected despite being black, which in this country is obviously still a huge strike against you (I think more so than being a woman)... and McCain and Romney were not even terrible candidates, as Republicans go.

I think Warren is pretty likable. On the other side, so is Nikki Haley.

thesquanderer

(11,968 posts)
24. re: "many many unllikeable male candidates have won"
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 12:29 PM
Jan 2019

Who? And specifically, in the age of television, when would you say an unlikable candidate has won against a candidate who was more likable?

thesquanderer

(11,968 posts)
32. Okay, I have to give you that one. ;-)
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 12:42 PM
Jan 2019

But yeah, it was Texas... and also, he was an incumbent. I wonder how likable his first opponent was?

Anyway, I was really talking about national elections, which tend to factor out the regional extremes. Presidentially, it's a pretty safe bet that New York will vote for the Dem and Utah will vote for the Republican, no matter how likable or unlikable either candidate is.

The Velveteen Ocelot

(115,547 posts)
36. Nobody liked Nixon; Humphrey was much more personally likable,
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 12:55 PM
Jan 2019

but the controversy over the Vietnam war, divisions within the Democratic party, and 3rd party candidate George Wallace skewed the whole thing. And the popular vote was very close; Nixon won that by less than 1%.

The Velveteen Ocelot

(115,547 posts)
40. The war was still a huge issue.
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 01:01 PM
Jan 2019

McGovern's antiwar position was unpopular with a lot of the general public, and Nixon's campaign managed to paint him as weak. Nixon's unlikability was spun as strength, and McGovern's association with the antiwar movement and all those nasty hippies did him in. He was the first presidential candidate I voted for.

The Velveteen Ocelot

(115,547 posts)
58. He didn't handle that very well at all, and it certainly did hurt him.
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 05:44 PM
Jan 2019

I clearly remember that whole mess, and I cringed a bit even at the time.

The Velveteen Ocelot

(115,547 posts)
56. Very true. Women have to figure out how to be interesting and passionate without seeming
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 05:41 PM
Jan 2019

"aggressive" or "shrill," sexist descriptions that women with charisma often get stuck with.

thesquanderer

(11,968 posts)
57. That seems like conjecture, and hard to substantiate with fact.
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 05:43 PM
Jan 2019

I think Warren is more charismatic than Kerry, for example. They're from the same area of the country, and of the same generation, and if anything, to the extent that physical attractiveness matters, Kerry is probably more "classically" attractive than Warren is. But Warren is personally engaging in a way that Kerry is not.

 

ehrnst

(32,640 posts)
31. Newt Gingrich, Ted Cruz, John Kasich, Richard Nixon, Mitch McConnell, Chris Christie, Ron Paul,
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 12:39 PM
Jan 2019

Rudy Giulianni, David Vitter, Trey Gowdy.

Farmer-Rick

(10,129 posts)
3. I want a woman president.
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 11:22 AM
Jan 2019

It's about time. AND just think how the Traitor Trump would feel...if he has feelings...being sandwiched in by an amazing black man (who got elected twice) and an amazing woman.

I do not want another rich old white man. As a middle class old white man, I'm tired of supporting the uber rich white investors and the American/Russian mob. A woman probably doesn't have those invested interests. A minority woman has
an even a better chance of not being in with those criminals.

 

ehrnst

(32,640 posts)
7. There are many progressive women who are more than qualified.
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 11:30 AM
Jan 2019

But there are those who find them as distasteful as "castor oil."

 

Guppy

(444 posts)
9. I never said they weren't qualified
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 11:38 AM
Jan 2019

I said it would fall flat as a general campaign message. The first thing in sales is never come across in a course fashion. This is a sales job. When you go out and buy a car do you like the sales person to knock the competition or do you find it distasteful. Most people like to feel good about their choice.

 

ehrnst

(32,640 posts)
10. You just think that they are distasteful like castor oil.
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 11:39 AM
Jan 2019

Who is "knocking the competition" in your metaphor?

And who is being "coarse?"

 

Guppy

(444 posts)
12. I said that message stated like that is a loser
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 11:47 AM
Jan 2019

It is not a slight on women. It is a slight on stating a message like that. It would be disastrous for either gender.

Can you see Amy Klobacher saying that. It would be so against her persona. It is just a cringeworthy message.

 

Guppy

(444 posts)
14. I agree with you
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 11:51 AM
Jan 2019

Castor oil is a terrible message. That is exactly my point. Think of Obama and hope. That was a great message. It was uplifting. fixing this shit and I am not her to be liked is awful.

VOX

(22,976 posts)
13. Ironically, if they actually said that, they'd be instantly likeable.
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 11:48 AM
Jan 2019

Because every American who still thinks freely, appreciates democracy, and hates what’s happening to this country would be overjoyed.

PatSeg

(47,212 posts)
16. Yes
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 11:55 AM
Jan 2019

As long as you smile a lot, don't raise your voice too often, dress nicely, and don't gain any weight.

Actually, over the years I could tell when Hillary was being over managed and poorly advised by political consultants. You could hear someone in the background telling her to be stronger, but not too aggressive or laugh more to come across as likable. The Hillary of the early nineties was refreshingly open and spontaneous. In 2007-08, she had advisers pulling and pushing her in all directions, until she was barely recognizable as the very effective senator from New York. So without realizing it, they were succeeding in making her appear inauthentic.

I can see the same thing happening to other women running for higher office, if they allow political consultants dictate their every word, gesture, and body language. And I am assuming much of this advise is coming from male consultants!

It won't be easy for any woman who decides to run. Hopefully, they can stay true to themselves and tune out a lot of really bad advice and criticism, especially from the television pundits!

elleng

(130,670 posts)
18. Delete the profanity and I'm ok with it,
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 12:00 PM
Jan 2019

but there's too much vulgarity these days. They behave that way, but we don't have to articulate it so often, do we?

llmart

(15,527 posts)
20. Well, Gretchen Whitmer won Governor of Michigan...
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 12:14 PM
Jan 2019

with the slogan "fix the damned roads". People loved that ad.

JustABozoOnThisBus

(23,314 posts)
41. When she called them "damned roads", she was being kind.
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 01:01 PM
Jan 2019

Those of us who have to drive on them have much more colorful and profane adjectives.


IronLionZion

(45,380 posts)
19. Trump is pretty disgusting and unlikeable
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 12:10 PM
Jan 2019

Any Dem woman would be better liked by me at least, and would fix this shit.

thesquanderer

(11,968 posts)
26. Trump has a certain kind of charisma/likability, unfortunately.
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 12:32 PM
Jan 2019

It worked for him on The Apprentice. TV is not kind to people who lack these traits.

greenman3610

(3,947 posts)
25. remember when George Dubya was
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 12:30 PM
Jan 2019

'The guy you'd like to have a beer with" while Gore was all wonky and
smart, and well informed. How boring, when you're a stupid journalist, and
drinking beer is what you do best.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
38. That is a fail, because you have to work with the other branches
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 12:57 PM
Jan 2019

That's basically the Orange Dolt's attitude.

 

watoos

(7,142 posts)
50. Now, I apologize,
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 01:52 PM
Jan 2019

but that one made me laugh out loud.

Yeah, that's the message, Democrats need to work with Republicans, Republicans who have vowed to vote against anything that Democrats propose even if it benefits the country.

Until Republicans stop making everything political, stop putting party over country, they deserve condemnation, they deserve to be called out. Frankly we need more Maxine Waters not less.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
54. But you are not going to fix any shit
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 02:45 PM
Jan 2019

but stay at a stalemate. At least, in the Senate. So it is still a dumb thing to say. For anyone in government, it's not what you want on your own that will happen.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
45. Being liked by voters is a component of getting elected.
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 01:17 PM
Jan 2019

Review the list of Presidents and consider how many of them in recent decades were not liked by voters in their party.

It can be overcome by other assets (like being an incumbent from the White House...or having an extraordinary military background when elected in war time, or being especially adept in debates, etc.), but generally, people who are elected President have been well liked by their party voters.

There are other components. Being in denial of the characteristics that voters vote for doesn't mean those characteristics don't exist.

Being liked vs not liked isn't an either-or proposition. There's a range. But it is a characteristic that is important to voters. They care about issues, too. But most of the candidates in a party will agree on the major issues. Once you get passed that, the individual's characteristics and qualifications come into play.

defacto7

(13,485 posts)
53. It's a great slogan to banter around on an Internet forum
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 02:02 PM
Jan 2019

but it's not a good idea for a campaign. It would alienate people and cause the same division we can see right here in this thread.

wroberts189

(4,105 posts)
60. Want to get more men votes?
Thu Jan 3, 2019, 11:21 PM
Jan 2019


Hillary just came across to me as my evil aunt... even though I am not superficial...

I know men that are ....

Warren does not come off that way ...but I know some others do..

Just sayin...

I used to vote for the ideal candidate... but now I have to look at elect-ability because of Electoral college...and watched too many elections.

We have to run someone with broad mass appeal.

AndJusticeForSome

(537 posts)
61. Every single Dem running for or holding any office
Fri Jan 4, 2019, 07:39 AM
Jan 2019

ought to have that as their mantra! And mean it. And do it.

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