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Sun Jun 9, 2019, 09:21 PM

Your definition of argumentative

Recently a co-worker remarked that i was argumentative. I've pondered this for quite awhile, to me it means angrily, debating, bickering, disagreeing. I haven't felt any type of negative feelings since I became an empty nester, 5 yrs ago. So curious what would make you call someone that?

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Reply Your definition of argumentative (Original post)
Tink41 Jun 2019 OP
elleng Jun 2019 #1
ProudLib72 Jun 2019 #2
hughee99 Jun 2019 #10
N_E_1 for Tennis Jun 2019 #3
Lint Head Jun 2019 #4
StarfishSaver Jun 2019 #5
Bayard Jun 2019 #6
pnwmom Jun 2019 #7
StarfishSaver Jun 2019 #13
NightWatcher Jun 2019 #8
kentuck Jun 2019 #12
NightWatcher Jun 2019 #15
kentuck Jun 2019 #16
NightWatcher Jun 2019 #17
kentuck Jun 2019 #18
Beringia Jun 2019 #9
earthshine Jun 2019 #11
Baltimike Jun 2019 #14
Tink41 Jun 2019 #19
cwydro Jun 2019 #20
ananda Jun 2019 #21

Response to Tink41 (Original post)

Sun Jun 9, 2019, 09:27 PM

1. To me not 'angrily' anything, but rather frequently disagreeing and speaking out.

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Response to Tink41 (Original post)

Sun Jun 9, 2019, 09:35 PM

2. I would say "looking for cause to disagree with someone"

And maybe "picking verbal fights for no reason."

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Response to ProudLib72 (Reply #2)

Mon Jun 10, 2019, 12:15 AM

10. That's probably closest to my thinking.

Obviously, people who come to discussion boards like this are looking to discuss (or argue), to make a point or possibly convince someone to change their mind. When you run into someone at the water cooler at work, and every discussion turns into a disagreement, a can see where that term might be used.

I'm not saying that's the case for the OP, but I've met people who would disagree with "Nice weather today, isn't it".

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Response to Tink41 (Original post)

Sun Jun 9, 2019, 09:41 PM

3. No negativity at all...

People sometimes think my wife is argumentative but she is an astute critical thinker, she will question you on your beliefs...some think itís an interrogation...but itís just a firm desire to understand you and your beliefs, opinions.

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Response to Tink41 (Original post)

Sun Jun 9, 2019, 11:19 PM

4. Some people will call you a name to shut down the

fact that you are being factual. They have no come back other than personal criticism.

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Response to Tink41 (Original post)

Sun Jun 9, 2019, 11:28 PM

5. In my experience, it's often used to describe women (especially women of color)

who speak and stand up for themselves.

"Why are you so argumentative?" (aka difficult, pushy, angry, bossy, hostile, defensive, combative, aggressive ...)

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Response to StarfishSaver (Reply #5)

Sun Jun 9, 2019, 11:42 PM

6. I've had some people cut right to the chase....

Why are you such a bitch? It usually comes from refusing to back down to bullies.

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Response to StarfishSaver (Reply #5)

Sun Jun 9, 2019, 11:50 PM

7. You forgot "opinionated."

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Response to pnwmom (Reply #7)

Mon Jun 10, 2019, 08:18 AM

13. So many words, so little time to write them all

But we've heard them all, haven't we?

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Response to Tink41 (Original post)

Sun Jun 9, 2019, 11:55 PM

8. You'd really like to know, wouldn't you jerk?

Sorry, that's insulting and not argumentative. I guess I can't help. Good luck on your quest.

Most likely is that your coworker doesn't understand the meaning of Argumentative.

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Response to NightWatcher (Reply #8)

Mon Jun 10, 2019, 07:12 AM

12. We know argumentative and that is not argumentative.

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Response to kentuck (Reply #12)

Mon Jun 10, 2019, 09:12 AM

15. Yes it is

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Response to NightWatcher (Reply #15)

Mon Jun 10, 2019, 09:28 AM

16. Now, that is!

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Response to kentuck (Reply #16)

Mon Jun 10, 2019, 11:17 AM

17. No it's not

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Response to NightWatcher (Reply #17)

Mon Jun 10, 2019, 11:26 AM

18. :-)

Good one!

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Response to Tink41 (Original post)

Sun Jun 9, 2019, 11:59 PM

9. Some people never get into debates of any kind


So they might use that term for someone that does debate.

Then if a person has a vastly different perspective on things than you, and they usually don't explain their position, they might call you argumentative if you asked them to explain themselves.

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Response to Tink41 (Original post)

Mon Jun 10, 2019, 01:33 AM

11. Projection?

 

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Response to Tink41 (Original post)

Mon Jun 10, 2019, 08:24 AM

14. Their need to get you to seek their approval through your tone

it's a passive/aggressive tactic.

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Response to Tink41 (Original post)

Mon Jun 10, 2019, 08:00 PM

19. Thanks all!

I see there are different definitions, and as I like working with the person, I wanted to know how, why I was offending him. I had previously looked on Psychology website along w online dictionaries. And the definition seemed to point to a problematic personality. Geesh!

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Response to Tink41 (Original post)

Mon Jun 10, 2019, 08:02 PM

20. Check out the Monty Python skit "I want to have an argument."

That should answer your question.

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Response to Tink41 (Original post)

Mon Jun 10, 2019, 08:10 PM

21. Speaking out strongly is sometimes mislabelled.

That is what it sounds like here.

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