A 21-Year-Old Has Been Charged After Allegedly Encouraging Her Boyfriend To Kill Himself

[IronLionZion]

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/davidmack/boston-college-suicide-manslaughter-charges-girlfriend

Prosecutors say former Boston College student Inyoung You was so physically, verbally, and psychologically abusive that she caused her boyfriend to kill himself.



A former Boston College student has been charged with involuntary manslaughter over her boyfriend's suicide in May, Massachusetts officials announced Monday, in a case that has parallels to the Michelle Carter trial.

Inyoung You, a 21-year-old from South Korea, was so "physically, verbally, and psychologically abusive" toward Alexander Urtula during their 18-month relationship that she caused the 22-year-old to kill himself, Suffolk County District Attorney Rachael Rollins told reporters at a press conference.

"[The investigation] also determined that abuse became more frequent and more powerful and more demeaning in the days and hours leading up to Mr. Urtula's untimely death," Rollins said.

Urtula, himself a student at Boston College, died just 90 minutes before his graduation ceremony on May 20. His family had traveled from New Jersey to attend the event.

is wrong with people like this?

This one served prison time:

[FM123]

1. Heartwrenching to read!

These people who can do this to their "loved ones" are like psychological terrorists.

[defacto7]

2. Psychopaths

[Sneederbunk]

3. Not a good look for Me Too.

[tishaLA]

5. It has less than nothing to do with Me Too

[cwydro]

7. Wtf?

What are you even talking about?

[Dorian Gray]

21. Me Too?

What does this have to do with me too?

Did she claim sexual abuse? Did she sexually assault him? No!

He was verbally and mentally abused throughout their relationship. She preyed on his depression, and he killed himself shortly before a huge moment for himself (graduation) when his family was visiting to celebrate his achievement. She's cold hearted, possibly a sociopath, and she deserves to be put on trial.

[Baitball Blogger]

4. Vile and hateful.

[Maru Kitteh]

6. Where do these predators find people willing to tolerate their sadism?

It boggles the mind. Do they have to go on like, 12K first dates to find someone willing to stick around through that kind of abuse?

[IronLionZion]

8. It doesn't start out abusive

but builds up gradually over time in a way that the person doesn't know or want to accept that they are being abused but it's apparent to outsiders who see it.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boiling_frog
The boiling frog is a fable describing a frog being slowly boiled alive. The premise is that if a frog is put suddenly into boiling water, it will jump out, but if the frog is put in tepid water which is then brought to a boil slowly, it will not perceive the danger and will be cooked to death. The story is often used as a metaphor for the inability or unwillingness of people to react to or be aware of sinister threats that arise gradually rather than suddenly.

[vercetti2021]

14. Because its also the mentality of we can't get better

I was in a very long relationship like this and it turned physical too. We believe we couldn't do better. Thinking we deserve the pain and suffering because we mess up somehow. Sometimes it just isn't enough to overcome and some like this poor man saw no other way out of it

[IronLionZion]

18. Predators look for people with low self esteem

and deep insecurities who need their partner's approval or they feel worthless. It's a match made in hell.

Here's some reading on empaths and narcissists.

https://medium.com/@vlogmail/the-relationship-between-an-empath-and-a-narcissist-is-a-true-match-made-in-hell-f1c0ce599df0

https://www.businessinsider.com/why-empaths-and-narcissists-are-attracted-to-each-other-2018-1

[Opel_Justwax]

19. I had a family member that seeked out abusive relationships

No matter how the family tried to help the person they would get in another abusive relationship. They died as a result of the physical abuse.

[smirkymonkey]

9. How sad. Because of her, he jumped just before he was about to graduate.

His parents had come up from New Jersey to be there for the event, but never got a chance to see him. What on earth possesses people to be so awful? I cannot understand such cruelty.

RIP Alexander. My condolences to his family.

[dustyscamp]

10. They looked like a happy couple in that picture

Shame

[Demovictory9]

15. another article reports 74,000 texts between them in 2 months..that 800 per day

[NCLefty]

11. Men will kill you with their hands; Women will kill you with their words.

/shrug :p

[vercetti2021]

12. Kinda true

Nearly went that way in my second attempt. Women can play an extremely good psychological game.

[Skittles]

16. could you two be any more sexist?

[vercetti2021]

20. How is that sexist?

Women are indeed smarter. They really can play psychological games better.

[Skittles]

22. not EVEN gonna bother

[vercetti2021]

24. Well just a question

Sorry it pissed you off.

[cwydro]

23. Jesus, no shit.

Wtf?

[vercetti2021]

13. I can relate

My ex was like this. So was a girl I was interested in. And one of my current best friends. They all knew my weaknesses and used the psychological game to completely ruin me. Poor guy didn't deserve it.