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Botany

(70,489 posts)
Wed Nov 20, 2019, 06:58 PM Nov 2019

Damn this one hurts. A friend and a neighbor has ALS.

He just moved back into the neighborhood into a little house he had as a rental
about 4 or 5 years ago after a divorce and busted his ass to fix up his place and
I redid the landscape w/OH native plants, a creeping red fescue lawn, a nice lime-
stone wall, and a bird and butterfly wildflower native grass garden. He redid the
inside of the house, the front porch, and the deck too. His little real estate biz was
picking up and I had him ready to sell my parent's home when my mother is ready
to move.

The disease is moving swiftly so he has to sell his little dream house, move to Florida
to be close to family, and live in an assisted living facility. He leaves on Friday and
I doubt I'll ever see him again. His grown son (30 I would guess) is in the Coast Guard
stationed in San Fransisco but has come back to town to help his Dad move and help
settle things. Great Kid! (A man really.)

I thought my friend would have a little more time in the neighborhood but that is not be
... I am doing everything I can to help but in the end I just feel kind of useless. When I
bumped over his trash dumpster and saw a lifetime of pictures there my heart got heavy.

Anybody who lives in Central OH and wants a cute little house in Clintonville please let me know.
(I will not get one cent from the sale of the property)


American Wahoo fruits ... I have one growing @ the house. They are really this red right now.

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Damn this one hurts. A friend and a neighbor has ALS. (Original Post) Botany Nov 2019 OP
I'm so sorry. Devastating. Nt spooky3 Nov 2019 #1
I am so sorry Botany.. Peacetrain Nov 2019 #2
Botany, I am so sorry irisblue Nov 2019 #3
My brother has ALS. It really sucks. captain queeg Nov 2019 #4
My thoughts are with you and your family. Botany Nov 2019 #6
So sorry, Botany. gademocrat7 Nov 2019 #5
Very sad indeed. Paka Nov 2019 #7
My friend was a ski instructor, a good athlete, and smart. Botany Nov 2019 #10
And it does take a lot of strength. Paka Nov 2019 #19
It's heartbreaking. LisaM Nov 2019 #8
Sorry to hear, old buddy. blm Nov 2019 #9
You've been a good friend. That will be a comfort to him. dawg day Nov 2019 #11
Get him checked for Lyme diseas, I've heard reactions are somewhat similar uponit7771 Nov 2019 #12
Dang.... Bayard Nov 2019 #13
That is really sad. redwitch Nov 2019 #14
My sympathies--that does hurt. panader0 Nov 2019 #15
Damn. It breaks my heart reading stories like this. Tom Yossarian Joad Nov 2019 #16
Perhaps the house you two worked on together can sort of be a fond memory of your ... SWBTATTReg Nov 2019 #17
It's a horrible disease malaise Nov 2019 #18

Botany

(70,489 posts)
6. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Wed Nov 20, 2019, 07:19 PM
Nov 2019

Not really much they can do. My friend's disease is moving very fast.

Paka

(2,760 posts)
7. Very sad indeed.
Wed Nov 20, 2019, 07:22 PM
Nov 2019

My sister died from ALS five years ago and it is truly the worst disease possible. The mind stays alert while the body slowly dies and there is literally no relief available. I went back to Oregon from Thailand where I have been living for over ten years to help with her care. Treasure and remember the memories you have of your friend. I hope his family has the strength to endure this devastating blow.

Botany

(70,489 posts)
10. My friend was a ski instructor, a good athlete, and smart.
Wed Nov 20, 2019, 07:30 PM
Nov 2019

I hope the end is quick and his suffering is not too great. We are all on the same path but
when it gets real sometimes it feels heavy. I have to say good bye tomorrow and I don't
know how I'll find the strength.

Paka

(2,760 posts)
19. And it does take a lot of strength.
Wed Nov 20, 2019, 09:51 PM
Nov 2019

My spirit will be with you. Quick is the best you can hope for. It was two years from diagnosis with my sister and the last year was especially brutal. I had a dear friend who died with ALS ten years prior to that, but still I wasn't prepared.

LisaM

(27,801 posts)
8. It's heartbreaking.
Wed Nov 20, 2019, 07:23 PM
Nov 2019

I feel for everyone involved; what a slap in the face from life.

I guess it's good he has family to go back to, but....

SWBTATTReg

(22,112 posts)
17. Perhaps the house you two worked on together can sort of be a fond memory of your ...
Wed Nov 20, 2019, 07:38 PM
Nov 2019

times together. Best wishes to your friend and you. Indeed a sad time...

malaise

(268,913 posts)
18. It's a horrible disease
Wed Nov 20, 2019, 07:38 PM
Nov 2019

We buried a good friend's son last year . He was in his early 40s - a brilliant medical doctor.

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