I'm Just Saying...

[In It to Win It]

I want to desperately believe that our government is efficiently run and can solve problems, I REALLY WANT TO BELIEVE THAT no matter who is in office.

I'd like to believe that our government took preventative measures minimize the amount of infected people coming into the country because I can't see every decision made and every action being taken.

I want to believe that our government is taking the actions necessary so that life can get back to normal and I don't have to worry if I'm going to be homeless in the near future.

But it's hard to believe if Trump won't give straight answers; it's hard to believe if Trump only gives vague answers; it's hard to believe if Trump is going to tell us it's up to the states but my state's governor (Mr. Ron DeSantis) is saying we'll do what the federal government recommends; it's hard to believe when someone asks the President what is your administration doing and his answer is "a lot." That doesn't help me build confidence at all.

I'm just saying that I'm anxious. Like many others, I could lose everything if something doesn't give. I'm just saying that I need clear guidance, and I have none.

[abqtommy]

1. There comes a time when we have to suspend belief and believe the evidence before our eyes.

tRUMP and his cultists all are traitors; people die as they tell lies.

[Ohioboy]

2. I feel the same way

It's hard to have confidence the right things are being done when there are tweets encouraging protesters. The last thing we need is pressure from mobs that aren't experts.

[tazkcmo]

3. It's not

Your fears are founded in reality. Sociopaths, grifters, thieves, liars and just simply stupid incompetents are in charge. We are fucked until Jan 2021.

[sinkingfeeling]

4. I no longer have any faith in the current federal government and will be

dead (I'm 72) before it can be rebuilt. We once had professionally run agencies and we were making progress in improving people's lives. Prior to the 1980's and Ronnie.

[Bernardo de La Paz]

5. Guidance: do what you can, don't worry about the rest, think just enough to tell two apart

By all means be tuned in to gain info and sense trends. Do think about it. But not too much. Think enough about things to 1) Identify what can be done, 2) Plan how to do it, 3) Do it, 4) Figure out what you can't control, 5) Assign that stuff to "not worry, it will do whatever it is going to do.

Yes, you have to change tack when thoughts overwhelm. But the mind and ego will only let you do that if you have sufficiently processed the material. If you've done that, then you can accept that thoughts and anxieties will come up. Acceptance is key.

Fighting the thoughts or trying to deny the thoughts or trying to crowd them out doesn't work. That generates churn and wears down a worry path in the brain.

When thoughts come up, don't fight them. Check to see if all the points have been duly considered. If they have not, then consider the thing and decide if you can do something about. If you can, do. If not, accept. Open a window in your mind and let a metaphorical breeze waft out the worries. Visualizing it and envisioning it tactilely (feeling a pretend breeze) helps.

Once you've considered and done what you can and accepted what you can't change, then you can much more easily change tack and take an exit to something distracting, be it entertainment or work or home maintenance or hobby or creativity.

Easy to say, harder to put into practice. But practice makes perfect.