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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsWe attended a wedding yesterday
My nephew and his fiancee have been planning their wedding for a year and chose May 22nd as their date. When the coronavirus made it clear that everyone wouldn't be able to attend, they pushed the date back to July. In the last few weeks, however, it became clear that that date wasn't going to work either.
In a sign of our times, they reinstated the original date and got married on Zoom. They had a beautiful day for their ceremony and the groom's brother-in-law performed the wedding. They had to limit the number of attendees to 15 and the ceremony took place outdoors with appropriate social distancing. There appeared to be over 50 people tuned in for the event and it was wonderful to be able to be a part of their wedding.
Some observations that struck me:
-We didn't have to travel 4 hours each way
-We didn't have to get a hotel room
-We didn't have to get dressed up (one couple in their bathing suits was watching from a beach)
-I didn't have to dance at the reception (I suck!)
So, all in all, it was a terrific experience and my nephew and his wife are happily married.
In the future, I guess there will be weddings where the couple will be separated but they'll get married remotely!
Modern life... ain't it great?!
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)getting us there faster.
marble falls
(56,353 posts)in a while, you could miss it."
Congratulations to the couple!
PJMcK
(21,916 posts)Thanks for the congrats. I'll pass it on!
snowybirdie
(5,190 posts)My mountain climbing grandson and his fiancee were scheduled to be married in June on a mountain top in Utah. That's been cancelled and wedding plans are still up in the air!
Maeve
(42,223 posts)Sorry, couldn't resist (but they DID; he was a pilot and the minister was nervous but game)
A dose of humor is so needed these days!
PJMcK
(21,916 posts)...in my beautiful balloon!
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)uponit7771
(90,225 posts)PJMcK
(21,916 posts)Last edited Sat May 23, 2020, 11:20 AM - Edit history (1)
They both have outgoing and friendly personalities and they share many of the same goals. I hope they'll have many years of happiness together!
iwillalwayswonderwhy
(2,598 posts)I live in England, she lives in Florida. His elderly parents live in Virginia. We had all planned to travel for the wedding, but Covid 19 changed all our plans.
It was a lovely ceremony, and they are just as married as any of us.
PJMcK
(21,916 posts)Pacifist Patriot
(24,647 posts)On the beach
limited guests
guest seating arranged by households with each household at least ten feet away from the others
groom is holding the rings so I will not touch them
bringing my own sound system so I can speak softly from a distance
and a number of other precautions being taken
I am curious what this experience will be like. I would never have agreed to do this if they weren't already friends and I officiated the bride's sister's wedding last October.
PJMcK
(21,916 posts)It sounds like you've covered the safety issues.
Love in the era of Covid-19. Weird.
Pacifist Patriot
(24,647 posts)I'm in awe of what he's managing to pull off for his daughter that ticks all the safety boxes. He's one of those people who will walk through fire to help you solve a knotty problem. Great guy!
I learned yesterday that the wedding favors are gift bags with personalized hand sanitizer bottles and other pandemic supplies. LOL!
mtngirl47
(985 posts)I had a hippy wedding in a garden many years ago.....
Maybe the side effect for the virus will be young couples re-thinking the $10k weddings!
oldsoftie
(12,410 posts)And when the hell did "barn weddings" become a "thing"?
Here's a greta idea; lets get married in a barn. In Georgia. In JULY. I had to go to 3 of those things last year. Every bride always says they want their wedding to be "special". Then they all do the same thing as the rest of them
Pacifist Patriot
(24,647 posts)You are so right!
I could count unique weddings that took me by surprise on my digits without having to remove my shoes.
oldsoftie
(12,410 posts)Pacifist Patriot
(24,647 posts)2010 or 2011, can't remember which, I officiated 97. I'll have a grand total of 2 this year. I have to really really like you to agree to do your wedding these days. 😀
Ilsa
(61,675 posts)fulfilling their dreams and finding a way.
JustABozoOnThisBus
(23,282 posts)In person, or virtually.
Maybe none of the attendees got a DUI.
PJMcK
(21,916 posts)But no one had to drive so, I guess it's safer.
Coventina
(26,844 posts)A pox on humanity.
PJMcK
(21,916 posts)My wife and I went before a judge and got married in the well of her courtroom. Following the ceremony, she sentenced us to a life term!
paleotn
(17,778 posts)Ya! Sorry, but I truly detest getting all dressed up. Ties are torture devices.
DFW
(54,047 posts)Did the bride and groom maintain proper social distance on their wedding night?
By the way, my sister and her husband got married 20 years ago yesterday. They had a zoom gathering, too, for their 20th (now that I know what THAT is! LOL!!!) anniversary. I never wold have been able to make a trip over to North America for a day just for that, so it worked out fine for me. My daughter was on from Manhattan, my brother from Langley, VA, a few from New England and some from a galaxy far, far away (they called it "Indiana" or some such foreign name....).
PJMcK
(21,916 posts)I suspect that they didn't bother social distancing from one another.
At least I hope they didn't!
DFW
(54,047 posts)I hope not, too!
Way back when, my brother invited me to my own wedding. Actually, it was originally supposed to be only HIS wedding, but when I said I'd see if my girlfriend could come, too, he said, "well, if you're BOTH gonna be there, why not make it a double wedding?" and so we did. My wife and I had been together for 8 years before the wedding, and my best man said in his speech, "I know all of you think they're rushing into this...."
PJMcK
(21,916 posts)Good for you for making her an honest woman! (wink)
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)Sorry they didnt get a giant shindig, but their hearts should be just as happy, and everyone was able to take it easy! Money saved... Less gas used and car exhaust, too!
PJMcK
(21,916 posts)...I'm all for it.
Generally, weddings are a pain. The travel, hotels, clothes, meals, gifts, etc. just end up costing a lot of money. When you're at the wedding, you'll only get a few brief moments with the couple so, what's the point?
As someone posted above, hopefully this will dent the wedding industrial complex!
DFW
(54,047 posts)A new term has been coined.
Ours wasn't overly elaborate, but the airlines and hotels did just fine. It was held in Washington, but since the two brides were from Germany and Japan, the place looked like an informal gathering of the UN General assembly.
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)And family pressure... all of it is a big unnecessary expense and pain in the butt.
hauckeye
(626 posts)Laurelin
(518 posts)She and her fiance got married in their backyard. It was lovely. The best part was that people who couldn't make it to an in-person ceremony could participate in the Zoom wedding.
They couldn't get the money refunded that they'd already paid, but the venues and caterer she had booked worked with her to push her date to next year, so hopefully the pandemic will allow a recommitment ceremony then. With luck she'll get the Big Event she'd been planning for over a year next May. That seemed reasonable when she pushed everything back, but I guess that ultimately means there will need to be a cure or vaccine before then. Time will tell.