Hello ladies, women..... help me please. When a man hits you and then

[7wo7rees]

says it was just "a tap".:Where do you go with that?
I scream foul.

[hlthe2b]

1. I'd reach for the pepper spray, myself.

Zero tolerance unless it was clearly an accident.

[Demovictory9]

2. Did u get hit?

[Kali]

3. um, a right cross and then out the door?

fuck that shit. here is a "tap" for you, asshole

[mahina]

4. It never gets better. It only gets worse. Sooner out the better

I know

[artemisia1]

25. This. /nt

[Skittles]

5. see, the guy would not have a chance to say anything

because I would be gone finding the nearest baseball bat

[hamsterjill]

6. Where do you go?

Anywhere! But get out and away. Violence has no place in a relationship.

[agingdem]

7. assault and battery...

call the cops...

[sheshe2]

8. "Where do you go with that? "

Divorce court.

[Shrike47]

9. Out the door and ending the relationship. If it's not a lover, file a police report & follow up.

If Mr. Jerk was ‘just being funny “, maybe he’ll learn something. I include relatives in the group who should be reported to the police, although if it’s your bratty brother, maybe you explain to him why he can’t do that and what you will do if he ever hits you or any other woman again. Explain there is no such thing as ‘just a tap.’

[ananda]

10. Or "It was just a joke."

I told him in a very strong forcefull manner,
let's go outside and talk about it.

He declined. Anyway, I reported him to the
center and he never acted like a bully again
because he didn't want to get kicked out.

[catbyte]

11. That's a dealbreaker. A hit, no matter if he wants to justify it as a "tap," and he's done. Because

that "tap" will inevitably escalate to a punch, and a punch will likely escalate into a life-threatening attack. Nope. No. Nada. Uh uh. No way. He's outta there.

It could be because I was raised by a cop and my dad told me to never, ever let a man put his hands on me. In fact, his first rule was, "Don't be afraid to hurt someone who's trying to hurt you." He knew that girls were conditioned to be passive and not make a scene. He wanted to make sure that nobody messed with his little girl and I've been way grateful to him ever since. A man has never laid a hand on me in anger. I miss my dad so much.

[Me.]

12. As You're Asking THe Question, It Was More Than A Tap

Trust yourself and if you feel you are being abused, get help. Drop him, kick him out, file a police report.

[peggysue2]

13. You walk out

Leave, vamos, never look back.

I told my husband early on. You ever hit me, you're done forever. No excuses, no pleas for forgiveness. The first time is the last time, period.

It worked.

[Victor_c3]

14. Context is everything

If it’s just a “tap” during a heated argument, I’d treat it like an assault. I’d very loudly make it clear that if I’m ever tapped like that or hit again I’m calling the cops and getting a restraining order.

Being alright with a “tap”, even if it didn’t physically hurt, is opening the way for more serious assaulting in the future.

My ex wife used to like to hit me and throw things at me when she was mad at me. Even though I’m much larger and stronger than her and I can take a hell of a beating, I made it clear that I would never stand for it again - and it stopped.

As far as context goes, I hit my two daughters all the when I’m playing or joking with them. I also pull their hair and bite them and I’m certain I’ve given them bruises while playing. I rough-house with them like I would if I had boys. In return, my kids jump on me when I’m napping on the couch, drop ice cubes down my “plumber’s crack” when I’m working on something, poke me with sticks, and generally give me a hard time whenever they get the chance.

There is a very obvious difference between playful bantering and full blown anger and arguing. As has been said, don’t ever accept abuse.

[dmr]

23. That's all affection.

My dad taught me the difference between affection and malice.

He'd tease me with affection, and I lovingly teased him back.

I'd never, ever put up with malice.

[elleng]

15. Call the police,

speak with District Attorney and decide whether or not to press charges, and LEAVE! (I did these things.)

[Aristus]

16. 'Tap' him in the testicles, and let his anguished cry of agony be the last thing you ever hear out

of him.

Put some daylight between him and yourself. For good...

[Arkansas Granny]

17. Walk away, call the cops. That is totally unacceptable.

[Trailrider1951]

18. I got the Hell away from him and

divorced his sorry ass. My life got a whole lot better after that.

[LizBeth]

19. Firstly, not when, if. A man has never hit me. A man is simply disrespectful I turn around and walk

away. I am done. I do not have any leeway on this boundary. It simply is not in me. When I was younger, I was lucky not ever being in that environment. As an adult, I certainly have the power to not have to allow. Striking another human is not ok, bottom line. Not for power over, intimidation, out of anger. I am not ok with that.

[LakeArenal]

20. I say that's the last tap he'd give me.

Buh-bye.

A year of anger management and marriage therapy may help. Talk to me then.

[WhiskeyGrinder]

21. The intent has little to do with anything. The effect -- physical, mental, emotional -- is what

matters. And if this is happening to you, you deserve better in your life.

[stillcool]

22. the boys in the house...

I grew up in said that when they got caught smacking me around. Sometimes it worked, but there was never any doubt. It got to the point where a raised hand would illicit a scream..like a reflexive action on my part.

[MLAA]

24. I say one 'tap' and you are OUTTA there 💕💕💕💕

[handmade34]

26. I go to the phone and call the cops

and then go away... far away from that man and stay away

I used to shelter abused women and there is NO excuse... and there is help out there