I don't know how much more I can take.
My husband died after a surgical procedure on Wednesday and my daughter who was going to come down to be with me just tested positive for Covid. It looks like 2021 is going to be just as mind-numbingly bad as 2020.
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Please accept my deepest condolences. I hope your daughter recovers quickly. Again, I'm so sorry.
I am down to the last thin wire.
Please take care of yourself, so you are well when your daughter is better, and can come to you. All the best wishes for your daughters uneventful recovery.
Here's to a quick recovery for your daughter. I would recommend a women's one a day multivitamin and daily melatonin intake to help her with her recovery.
I wasn't even logged in when I read your devastating news. I know it's not the same as another person being in your actual presence, but we are here for you, Stage Left.
Sending you strength and hugs.
over the next week or two? a cousin or aunt or sister? maybe there's a good neighbor you're friends with who could come over and talk, cook, or just check in with you.
i'm very sorry to hear about your husband's passing and then your daughter testing positive. i imagine this is a LOT of stress for you--maybe check with your doctor and see if they can recommend something that might help alleviate some of the stress. does your daughter have someone that can help her through this if she doesn't feel well?
mostly i am concerned about you. please check back in here with us.
I have a sister. My daughter doesn't seem to want me to tell anybody her "business." But since I'm pretty anonymous here. I just couldn't keep it inside. You know?
I feel like I've been living with my body and my teeth clenched for four years and this year has, of course, been worse.
I was quite the loner until four years ago when I became very active with an indivisible group and I've made some good friends. It was the only good thing that happened to me during the Trump regime. I'm lucky in that regard.
It is a lot of stress. I've already been taking anti-depressives for awhile. My daughter has a partner and a couple of friends in her building that will help her. I keep hoping it's a false positive. Her partner, who works at Trader Joe's tested negative and right now my daughter is asymptomatic.
We must have one lucky star, right?
sounds like both you and your daughter have a support system in place that you can go to or ask for help/company/dinner maybe?
i lived with my mother forever and when she died it was horrible for me--i was so lost. my daughter was there for a few days and had to return to college (and then she came home a week or two later--or a month later and stayed for a couple months. i can't even remember--it was such a traumatic time). but i had great neighbors across the street & next door that looked in on me, called me, brought me dinners, etc.
i just googled what helps to relieve stress and found a uk website that has various suggestions--some of which i feel are not exactly practical in this era (such as massage or acupuncture). but one of the things that was mentioned was ecotherapy (getting outside, in the green, in nature) and also aromatherapy.
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/stress/treatment-for-stress/
my daughter has one of those diffusers (or whatever they're called--it has a plug and she melts scented wax in it) and it's really nice. i'm not sure where she got it but i see yankee candle has some of that https://www.yankeecandle.com/browse/car--flameless/home-fragrance/wax-melts-and-warmers/_/N-cfe?view=Grid
wishing you peaceful and easy days ahead
I'm so sorry about the loss of your husband. I hope your daughter can join you soon.
me, too.
Paz
..my son tested positive .last month and had to quarantine for 10days; he had mild symptons-- is ok now.
Take care. Paz
I hope your daughter is ok & that you can be together soon!
Lease take good care of yourself!
Yale is offering their very popular Science of Well Being course free. It is really great material & the 1st videos are available immediately upon completing a brief registration.
Folks who have tried it say they felt better after the 1st video.
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I sure hope your daughter has only a mild case & is able to be with you soon!
Stay safe, my friend!
Strength to you.
Peace to you.
Healing to your daughter.
I'm so sorry you're having to go through that profound loss on your own.
Thanks, I will keep that in mind. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother.
So sorry for the loss of your husband. Best wishes to your daughter for a speedy recovery. And as for you,
Hang in there ...
I hope your daughter remains healthy and is able to join you in person to comfort you after her quarantine is finished.
and that your daughter has tested positive.
Sending light and love to you, with hope that your daughter will not experience a bad case of the coronavirus.
Take care of yourself. Get outside for a walk if you can every day. Listen to music. There will be so many details that require your attention, don't let them overwhelm you. One day at a time.
My heart goes out to you.
Use the technology to see and talk to your daughter daily as that is important.
Deepest sympathy on the death of your husband
just know that there is ALWAYS someone on DU, we are here for you
I really am, just saw this.
I am so sorry for this tragic loss of your husband. Sorry about your daughter and I hope she heals well and fast.
2021 will be hard for sure because you will morn your husband but it doesn't have to be as bad as 2020.
Sending you warm thoughts.
loss. We are here for support.
