General Discussion
Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsDid you belong to a Greek organization in high-school or college?
If so, did you enjoy the experience? Would you recommend it to others?
If not, why not?
48 votes, 0 passes | Time left: Unlimited | |
Yes... in high-school | |
1 (2%) |
|
Yes... in college | |
15 (31%) |
|
Yes... in both high-school and college | |
0 (0%) |
|
NO ... I did not | |
32 (67%) |
|
0 DU members did not wish to select any of the options provided. | |
Show usernames
Disclaimer: This is an Internet poll |
leftstreet
(36,209 posts)NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Ocelot II
(119,542 posts)We were able to be drunk and obnoxious on our own, though.
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)rsdsharp
(9,924 posts)Still can!
Dorian Gray
(13,702 posts)Catholic universities tend not to have frats/Sororities. We did well enough on our own, and I was super happy not to have it be there. There were still friend groups/athlete divisions/etc. But it wasn't as pronounced and movement felt free enough to go to parties wherever you wanted.
NewHendoLib
(60,379 posts)jimfields33
(18,266 posts)Second they are very selective on who even gets first invitation and then the rush week of hell and then a year of chores. Sounds wonderful. Lol. No thanks.
kcr
(15,493 posts)I didn't join one but some of my friends did and it was all they could talk about when we'd get together over breaks. It sounded like a PITA to me, but they loved it.
Glorfindel
(9,884 posts)I did enjoy the experience, but that was a different era. I can't imagine my nieces & nephews of today enjoying it, even if the club still exists. I just looked it up; it does still exist.
https://www.betaclub.org/about
Thanks for an interesting question, NurseJackie!
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Apparently I'm not exactly at 100% approval on that front. Oh well. Ya can't please everyone.
gratuitous
(82,849 posts)I think I drank Ouzo back in those days.
jcgoldie
(11,888 posts)... or so they claimed. Somehow they didn't seem like bastions of intellectualism to me.
milestogo
(17,132 posts)Lots of required extra expenses.
Journeyman
(15,124 posts)Didn't have the requisite foreign language classes and they wouldn't accept three years of Latin in high school.
I haven't missed it.
DenaliDemocrat
(1,523 posts)Not really what I think they are talking about here.
Ron Obvious
(6,261 posts)So, no.
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)That's a great line!
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)I went to a fairly small school in the middle of nowhere, so it was kind of a big part of one's social life and living in the house was fun.
DFW
(56,088 posts)But that movie was 14 years in the future when I entered college.
Therefore, the closest I got to a Greek society was the great avgolemono soup at one of the local restaurants in Philadelphia.
obamanut2012
(27,519 posts)As elitist and classist, and if anyone was found to have formed one off campus, they were expelled.
A private college.
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)A tennis club. A polo club. A golfing club. A cricket club. A classic-literature book club.
But, I take your point... a lot of the girls I knew who were in sororities were snobs. Karens before Karens were a thing.
obamanut2012
(27,519 posts)Everyone could join any actual club, but Greek societies are by default almost always exclusionary and elitist.
JustAnotherGen
(33,139 posts)ARPad95
(1,671 posts)Last edited Wed Sep 15, 2021, 07:04 PM - Edit history (1)
No hazing whatsoever and I wasn't a drinker. I was only in it my sophomore year because I transferred to another college.
My husband was a Phi Beta Kappan due to his high GPA in college.
ProfessorGAC
(68,969 posts)I'm not a joiner, in that way.
At my undergraduate school, frats were allowed to recruit 2 players that weren't in their group for the basketball league.
I got asked by 8-10 frats each year.
I chose the one I played with based on 2 criteria:
1. The frat with the least guys that played HS football. In my experience, most football players aren't terribly good at basketball. That eliminated the TEKs, even though I liked one of them a lot.
2. Most importantly, the group with the least objectionable people. That pretty much eliminated all but 2 others.
Frat life just seemed like the last thing I'd fit in to.
BootinUp
(48,458 posts)At the annual Christmas mountain retreat. The chapter was closed due to shenanigans.
Wink
moonscape
(5,219 posts)and was a way to meet people. The women I met were terrific, many stayed friends, but I dropped out of it my Sophmore year because I was over it.
So yes, but wanting credit for the sayonara.
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)... it makes for a well-rounded college experience and understanding one's peers and having a clearer view of the world. (Or something.)
getagrip_already
(16,967 posts)NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)getagrip_already
(16,967 posts)Food was great! Social pressures sucked......
beaglelover
(3,916 posts)the marching band all 4 years, so I had plenty of friends through the band.
Response to beaglelover (Reply #25)
Name removed Message auto-removed
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)First semester of college I hung with 'em, but they were hard core drinkers of hard core alcohol, and I was more into smoking pot.
It was fun, and I met a LOT of girls (which was a big deal to the otherwise shy and nerdy little guy that I was at the time), but I'd kept my circle of friends from high school (and still do) and the crap we were into (D&D, movie weekends, getting high and pretending we smart. etc.) was more my thing; so I just kinda stopped going to the frat house until I realized I hadn't been in a month.
I'd recommend it to anyone to try (if it were the same as it was in the early 80s), just to see if it's their thing. I'd also recommend seafood to anyone to try, 'cause even though it's not my thing, it might be someone else's.
edhopper
(34,459 posts)I would not change it for anything. I still have friends from then 40+ years later.
Fraternities are as varied as the people in them. I hate the movie driven stereotypes people think they are.
LeftInTX
(29,398 posts)BornADemocrat
(8,177 posts)I initially thought "no!", but then remembered that they picked me.
I tutored some students, wasn't that much fun.
I should clarify that this was an honors type fraternity for engineers in college.
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Hoyt
(54,770 posts)Bettie
(16,801 posts)I was not one of them.
Totally Tunsie
(10,885 posts)Sigma Lambda Theta signing in...
Efilroft Sul
(3,713 posts)The men in our chapter were hard to stereotype ("jock house," "geek house," "stoner house" ) because the house had all three of the aforementioned types, plus military, DJs and rockers, hunters, D&D players, etc. Half the guys were cool and half the guys were assholes (and still are), but I grew tremendously as a person taking on responsibilities and learning how to have a blast. It was a great experience for me and I wouldn't change a thing.
I'm not sure if I would recommend Greek life to my sons, who go off to college soon enough. But in looking at promotional materials from colleges and universities, and having written a lot of their websites in the last five years, schools have placed more emphasis on student life in the last 20 years. It seems as if many have broken the power of the fraternities and sororities as the center of social life. And I think that's a good thing.
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)... I think (hope) you're right.
Xolodno
(6,633 posts)Had a job during college.
whistler162
(11,155 posts)NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)... classic... ageless.
Klaralven
(7,510 posts)NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Which one/s were you a part of?
Klaralven
(7,510 posts)https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tau_Beta_Pi
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)gldstwmn
(4,575 posts)It was the late 70's. We had our own hotel rooms, went to a legit disco, Tavern on the Green, stayed out late and had a blast. I think we visited the UN on this trip too. I still have my jacket.
Retired Engineer Bob
(759 posts)Took the City bus to school. Worked weekends, spring, and summer break. Wasnt even aware of their existence.
TlalocW
(15,577 posts)Because honor societies I was in like Kappa Mu Episolon (Math) and Alpha Mu Gamma (Foreign Languages) had Greek letters. Do they count? As for frats, a couple of fellow freshmen came to my dorm room looking for more recruits, and I laughed at them and closed the door before going back to my nap.
TlalocW
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)TlalocW
(15,577 posts)Called I Tappa Kegga. Bunch of guys rented a house and put up ITK letters on the front, etc. Does that also count?
TlalocW
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Stallion
(6,539 posts)there are both negatives but also some very big positives-depends who you looked up to in the fraternity-the drunks or the leaders. Generally a positive maturing and social experience for me
tirebiter
(2,582 posts)It had no structure whatsoever. We essentially took over one floor of the mens dorm. We were open with no card keys 24/7. Nothing ever got stolen. We were like Animal House without having to have double secret probation rules placed on us. Its not like they didnt want to.
Owl
(3,679 posts)Tarc
(10,550 posts)Take every stereotype one can think of, every cliched scene from Animal House or Revenge of the Nerds, and it was done there.
I had a few friends within that were tolerable, but for the most part they were a bunch of insufferable clods. Male & female alike.