Update on my sis in law

[PA_jen]

So my sis in law isn't doing good. Background- she is in renal failure type 1 diabetic. Because she went for years without taking care of her diabetes and was known by her co-workers as the functional drunk in her 20s her brain has A LOT of calcium on the brain. In july/August doctor told my TIL she has 6 months to live (I was teleconference in for the meeting) but the doctor said I've seen people given 6months but live 3 years. Father in law was granted custody by courts sister in law was living in the nursing a home that sent her to the hospital 2 weeks ago as her blood sugar spiked to 1100 (we seen it before) they were about ready to discharge back to the home but last night start having issues breathing rushed her up to ICU. They her on Dyalsis like machine that runs 24 hours and she is in a bypap machine 40 liters of oxygen.

My Father in law change DNR orders to do CPR. He doesn't want to lose a second child in 2 years. My husband would be the only child left.

I am thinking with this 40 liters of oxygen and this machine pulling the fluids she is close to the end. The family relies on me to talk to medical staff and explain what is happening so they understand but my medical! Understanding come from working home health and just keep asking questions.

I needed to vent so that I you for reading. My question 40 liters is a sign that it is really bad, right?

I am on tablet so sorry for any weird words or spellings

[Walleye]

1. I can't answer your question but I would like to express my sympathy

I sometimes think we have to deal with way too much grief and decisions that are way too difficult. Make sure to take care of yourself

[PA_jen]

2. Thank you.

[Maru Kitteh]

3. Yes, I'm sorry. 40L is really bad, and it's highly unlikely she'll be recovering from this.

Her poor body is worn out. CPR will not change that.

I'm sorry but your FIL should think more of his daughter right now then himself and let her go with dignity - as difficult as that is.

HUGE hugs to you and your family.

I'm an RN. You can DM me if you want, I'll try to answer whatever I can to the best of my ability.

[PA_jen]

4. Thank you.

[blm]

5. ((Jen))

[TexasTowelie]

6. My brother is a respiratory therapist and I overhear him speaking about patients inadvertently.

I believe that he does have a patient in a hospice situation that is receiving a high volume of oxygen in that range and the patient is still living several months later after he was set up with the O2 concentrators. The renal failure issues are what will determine when she passes though.

Whether 40 liters of oxygen is significant is going to depend on your SIL's weight. The heavier she is, the more oxygen is required. That would be a significant volume of oxygen for a woman that is of average weight.

[PA_jen]

8. Thanks. She actually is losing weight she 109 and is 5'8"

[electric_blue68]

7. Oh, dear... Rough stuff. Strength to you all ...

For my parents many emergencies before they were even elders, then in the nursing home my sis would do admin work, and other issues

I'd be the one to go to the hospital, and then explain the medical stuff to her since I was the science buff.
So I know a little of what you might be feeling.

Vent away...

[PA_jen]

9. Thank you.

[KatK]

10. Sending empathy, strength, rest and ease. Take care of yourself along the way! n/t

[Hekate]

11. I'm so sorry to hear you are going thru this. We are here when you need to talk.

Take care of yourself.

[LoisB]

12. I am so sorry for what you are going through. I especially feel sorry for your father-in-law. May

he find peace.

[No Vested Interest]

13. DNR vs CPR-

This is how it was explained to me during my husband's long illness, as he lost weight and his illness (brain disease) progressed:

If CPR is done, the necessary compression would break his ribs and he would be in terrible physical shape, and possibly not survive anyway.
As it turned out, he expressed his desire to not return to hospital if he became critical; his weight was down to near 100 lb., 6 ft. tall.

Sorry you are going through this.

[3catwoman3]

14. How sad and difficult for all involved.

Wishing you strength.

[Karadeniz]

15. So sorry this is happening... wishing you strength.