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not sure how to respond. My sis says my dad is really depressed about the whole thing. I almost just want to avoid the topic altogether, but it's inevitable that it will come up. How do you guys handle this stuff? I hate getting into policy debates or shoot down wingnut paranoia because those discussions go no where.
Zoeisright
(8,339 posts)You don't have to mention Faux Noise specifically. Just tell them there's more to life than politics and to go outside or read a book.
MrSlayer
(22,143 posts)"Yeah, that sucks, huh?" "How's the golf game?" or whatever other activity is appropriate.
charlyvi
(6,537 posts)Told me O had it locked down, and congratulated me. He's a Faux News guy, 24/7. I don't understand it, but he's still a decent person. I think the union stuff up in Wisconsin kind of pried his loyalty to the repubs away a little bit. Anyway, it warmed my heart.
Narkos
(1,185 posts)southernyankeebelle
(11,304 posts)for our family to move on. If he wants to continue just tell him you don't want to discuss politics anymore because it is to stressfull on the family. Before long the holidays are going to come and this should be off the table. If you want to keep talking about it you'll be talking to yourself because I will go home. I want to enjoy the family without politics. That should do it. But stick to your guns and I promise it will work. It did for me and our whole family enjoyed each others company with religion or politics.
narnian60
(3,510 posts)My mom, stepdad & I do not discuss politics because of a meltdown my mom once had. Have not talked with them since the day before the election but will be meeting them at church tomorrow. I wish my mom would say something like Congrats!" but I doubt it. The elephant will continue to remain uncomfortably in the room. Sigh.
Doodler71
(443 posts)1) don't start the conversation about the election. If they bring it up first that is fine, but don't be the instigator.
2) if they do bring it up just listen. If they go off the deep and start saying, "the county is dead," etc...
Use these phrases:
1) I hear how upset you are and I care about you, but I think that we should talk about something else that is less upsetting.
2) I hope those things won't happen
3) I hear how worried you are
4) I understand you believe "insert whatever", I don't see it that way, but I love you and I think that we should talk about something else
Those are my key phrases for in laws and rep. family.
Engaging beyond that is fruitless at this point. Try in a couple of years or 18 mo when some thing's have visibly started to turn for the better and they have had time to realize the world is still spinning. Give Obama some time to work and then showing will work better than telling.
Good luck.
narnian60
(3,510 posts)I will use #4.
Patiod
(11,816 posts)A friend was ranting about
1) Petreaus' resignation being some sort of Obama conspiracy related to Benghazi (but then again, isn't everything)
2) Obama not allowing Lockheed Martin to tell their employees they were being fired (I had to google that one, and she neglected to mentioned "they would be fired...IF we go over the fiscal cliff" and that Lockheed wanted to put the notice out in order to scare their employees into voting for Mitt)
I could have argued both or either, but I just kept saying "there you go". I wasn't going to get anywhere, and what she and her wingnut family was so upset about was "this country will never again be what it was".
She's been a friend since we were 10 years old, and only recently turned into an insane wingnut, so it was worth letting her rant and get it out of her system.
Narkos
(1,185 posts)Mme. Defarge
(8,027 posts)Please proceed, Governor.
"Governor" could be optional.
narnian60
(3,510 posts)Jane Austin
(9,199 posts)It'll be all right. This is America. We can do anything!"
Marrah_G
(28,581 posts)If it comes up try to change the topic quickly.
reflection
(6,286 posts)and he immediately launched into the election. I told him "I don't mind having this conversation, but I'd rather just spend time with you. Our politics are different, but I love you to pieces." My two daughters were with me, staying quiet, just sponging it all up. He grinned and told me he loved me too and we had a nice dinner. We caught up on stuff and just left it untouched.
I don't know if that method will work with you, but if it does, maybe just acknowledge your differences, ask if you can table it for later when the scars have healed a bit, and move on. Every family dynamic is unique.
Narkos
(1,185 posts)Jennicut
(25,415 posts)Good luck. Conservative parents....always a fun time to be had. They are nice people when not discussing politics. But wow. My mother threatened to move to some southern state to fit in better. I guess Connecticut is too blue.