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3 Photos That quash the 'She Was Asking For It' Defense (Original Post) tpsbmam Jan 2013 OP
Kick.... rppper Jan 2013 #1
Me too MynameisBlarney Jan 2013 #2
on point! excellent! SemperEadem Jan 2013 #3
Claims made without evidence can be dismissed without evidence... Deep13 Jan 2013 #4
Thank you ismnotwasm Jan 2013 #5
I would like to see that little black dress marketed. Heavily. KittyWampus Jan 2013 #6

Deep13

(39,154 posts)
4. Claims made without evidence can be dismissed without evidence...
Mon Jan 21, 2013, 04:54 PM
Jan 2013

...so the response to "She was asking for it" is "No, she wasn't."

If she says "let's have sex," THEN she was asking for it.

One problem is that there is an unstated cultural assumption that ones outer appearance reflects inner intentions. While there are rapists who simply do not care what the woman (or man sometimes) wants, others honestly (or self-delusionally) expect the woman will melt in his arms and are surprised when that doesn't happen. In some parts of the world, people still openly assume ones dress makes his her gendered status. In Jordan when I lived for six weeks, men plainly assumed that an immodestly dressed non-Arab woman (by Jordanian standards) meant she was a prostitute.

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