Just a personal rant
I have a good friend, Sara, who lives about a thousand miles away, so we don't get to go out and play very often. We've been talking about me making the trip out her way in the next couple of months and beginning to make some plans and now this morning if find that she's invited another friend, I'll call her Karen, come, too, for the duration (several days). And this is where my problem lies.
I acknowledge up front that Sara is well within her rights to invite whomever she wants to visit her, and if it was a matter of just an afternoon it would be fine, but the fact is that Karen is one of those people whom I can take either long distance or in close proximity, but only in very small doses. Other than that, she seriously gets on my nerves. A little too loud, a little too brash, and tends to put on airs. So, since I wouldn't dream of asking Sara to un-invite Karen, would never do that to her or anyone, I find myself in the position of either saying nothing and resenting it the whole time or not going at all.
I don't understand why people do that, but it seems to happen to me with amazing frequency. It just seems rude to me to have plans with someone and then for one party to invite a third party join without first checking. It's to the point where it's achieved "pet peeve" status. Why do people do that?
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