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jwirr

(39,215 posts)
Thu May 8, 2014, 06:44 PM May 2014

In need of prayers, good feelings any thing that might help. I have written about my severely

disabled daughter her often. She has seizures, developmental disability and digestive problems. Does not talk, can no longer walk, needs full care. I cared for her for the first 45 years of her life and she is now in a foster home at the age of 56.

For the last year she has gone from 8-10 seizures a month to 2 a month. Several days ago she had a terrible seizure. It lasted 12 minutes and she was rigid during the whole thing scraping the inside of her arms and other damage. We have no idea what is happening to her or why. Have a full physical scheduled in two days.

Please pray for her or whatever form of thoughts you use in emergencies. Her name is Terri. Thank you.

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In need of prayers, good feelings any thing that might help. I have written about my severely (Original Post) jwirr May 2014 OP
Will do - KT2000 May 2014 #1
Positive thoughts and hugs.... a kennedy May 2014 #2
I will send positive thoughts Lifelong Protester May 2014 #3
I will send all the positive thoughts I can... Wait Wut May 2014 #4
WITH you and Terri, jwirr. elleng May 2014 #5
Sending positive alsame May 2014 #6
Absolutely. Squinch May 2014 #7
Holding both of you in my heart. Coventina May 2014 #8
positive thoughts coming your way frylock May 2014 #9
Done. Nt newfie11 May 2014 #10
Keeping you in our thoughts here in CA. May you find peace in this difficult struggle and we wish louslobbs May 2014 #11
{{{Terri and you, jwirr}}} WinkyDink May 2014 #12
Positive thoughts!!!! nt msanthrope May 2014 #13
Lord have mercy shenmue May 2014 #14
((((HUGS Terri and jwirr)))) freshwest May 2014 #15
For you jwirr and Terri. sheshe2 May 2014 #16
. JI7 May 2014 #17
Strength and peace to you. kairos12 May 2014 #18
My positive thoughts are with you and your daughter. In_The_Wind May 2014 #19
Positive thoughts... StarryNite May 2014 #20
Damn. I'm so sorry to hear this. calimary May 2014 #21
For Terri HangOnKids May 2014 #22
Prayers for both of you. winter is coming May 2014 #23
My most sincere hopes for your daughter rurallib May 2014 #24
Definitely will onecaliberal May 2014 #25
Thoughts Sassysdad May 2014 #26
Will do, jwirr. brer cat May 2014 #27
Thoughts and prayers for Terri, and for you, jwirr. pnwmom May 2014 #28
Sending good vibes for Terri malaise May 2014 #29
Yes DUgosh May 2014 #30
Will do. historylovr May 2014 #31
Good vibes to Terri, what a beautiful child. NYC_SKP May 2014 #32
Awwww... my heart goes out to you! I will surely send out a prayer to the powers that be, to be secondwind May 2014 #33
My good vibes go out to BOTH of you HockeyMom May 2014 #34
Prayers... and more prayers for your strength! FailureToCommunicate May 2014 #35
Consider it done. Also, consider it ongoing........for both of you. WillowTree May 2014 #36
more healing vibes headed your way, for Terri and for you... magical thyme May 2014 #37
Sending good thoughts lovemydog May 2014 #38
good thoughts to you and your loved ones hopemountain May 2014 #39
Bless you, jwirr. democrank May 2014 #40
Blessings. cilla4progress May 2014 #41
... Mnemosyne May 2014 #42
Positive thoughts to your dear daughter mcar May 2014 #43
I hurt for you... fadedrose May 2014 #44
Prayers, certainly. Marshall III May 2014 #45
Sending you good thoughts wishes and (((vibes))) for Terri.. KoKo May 2014 #46
Sending you both positive vibes TBF May 2014 #47
May she be healed. meti57b May 2014 #48
so sorry ... good vibes to you and your daughter LiberalEsto May 2014 #49
We will keep Terri and all her family in our thoughts and prayers Peacetrain May 2014 #50
... Mz Pip May 2014 #51
Peace to her. I know it has to be frustrating. Lint Head May 2014 #52
Thinking of you and your daughter locks May 2014 #53
Yes, MN Senate has voted to legalize medical mj for that very reason. I have been lobbying our jwirr May 2014 #58
Have you considered making an OP about this subject? It's certainly important enough. n/t nomorenomore08 May 2014 #69
Sending healing thoughts and prayers. gademocrat7 May 2014 #54
(((Hugs))) Starry Messenger May 2014 #55
K&R DeSwiss May 2014 #56
Jwirr, the care, love and devotion Iwillnevergiveup May 2014 #57
Sending healing prayers and good thoughts to Terri. Auntie Bush May 2014 #59
check your PM, jwirr nt grasswire May 2014 #60
That must be a mountain of worries for you, jwirr. pacalo May 2014 #61
Be well Teri ! lunasun May 2014 #62
Sending prayers for healing to your daughter Boomerproud May 2014 #63
Prayers for you and Terri. 840high May 2014 #64
Sending Reiki energy to Terri PADemD May 2014 #65
Good vibes. nt Demo_Chris May 2014 #66
Love and light libodem May 2014 #67
Prayers and good vibes for you and Terri. cherokeeprogressive May 2014 #68
Good thoughts to your family. Whatever happens, I hope her suffering is minimized nomorenomore08 May 2014 #70
You are yours are in my thoughts RainDog May 2014 #71
I second this demigoddess May 2014 #104
(((hugs))) and prayers for you and Terri. sueh May 2014 #72
..... spanone May 2014 #73
I'll pray for Terri. Ilsa May 2014 #74
Sending you and Teri PumpkinAle May 2014 #75
Prayers for Terri stevil May 2014 #76
sending positive vibes, healing energy and peacful prayers to Terri and you. Tuesday Afternoon May 2014 #77
...... alittlelark May 2014 #78
You are indeed a special mom Jenoch May 2014 #79
Prayers and positive thoughts Unknown Beatle May 2014 #80
Best wishes for you both in this hard situation Hekate May 2014 #81
best wishes to both of you !! unionthug777 May 2014 #82
Best wishes for you both. mia May 2014 #83
My heart is with you both. myrna minx May 2014 #84
Blessings to you and your family. appacom May 2014 #85
God bless you and Terri MannyGoldstein May 2014 #86
At least try a CBD adjunct sorefeet May 2014 #87
Your daughter will be in my prayers Gothmog May 2014 #88
(((vibes))) irisblue May 2014 #89
This is so sad. Prayers sent. n/t cntrygrl May 2014 #90
I am so sorry to hear your loved one can't live with you with all the assistance she and you deserve Jefferson23 May 2014 #91
We actually had a lot of assistance and I am very grateful for those years. What ended with her jwirr May 2014 #93
I am glad to hear you had relief, you both deserve it, very much so. Jefferson23 May 2014 #94
Many thanks for the love. So far she has not had another seizure. And this time her foster parents jwirr May 2014 #92
Wishing and praying for blessings. merrily May 2014 #95
Yes, when she was small the doctors told me her life expectancy would be 30 years old. Medicine jwirr May 2014 #99
I doubt anyone can ever be prepared, even for the passing of a beloved parent, merrily May 2014 #100
. warrior1 May 2014 #96
{{{Terri}}} {{{jwirr}}} Amaril May 2014 #97
My best wishes for you daughter and family. nm rhett o rick May 2014 #98
Sending positive vibes your way! MynameisBlarney May 2014 #101
Sending Nam Myoho Renge Kyo to Terri right now! Please post updates. DesertDiamond May 2014 #102
Positive thoughts coming your way. LoisB May 2014 #103
I send both of you love and energy! peace13 May 2014 #105
So far she has not had another seizure like that one. I am going to be out of touch for the weekend jwirr May 2014 #106
Seizures AlaneGrayGoddess May 2014 #107
Thank you. jwirr May 2014 #110
Terri and I are the same age... ladyVet May 2014 #108
Thank you for your wishes. jwirr May 2014 #109
Are you in a state where medical marijuana is legal? liberal_at_heart May 2014 #111
No, our senate voted yes but the house has not yet addressed it. jwirr May 2014 #114
You got it! lunatica May 2014 #112
No more seizures like that one and I think she is safe for now. The physical did not show any other jwirr May 2014 #113
Prayers for Terri. McCamy Taylor May 2014 #115
Sending positive thoughts your way deek May 2014 #116
Yes, that is what we are looking at now also. jwirr May 2014 #117
Went to Terri's staffing yesterday. She looks great except older. Each time I see her I notice that. jwirr May 2014 #118

Lifelong Protester

(8,421 posts)
3. I will send positive thoughts
Thu May 8, 2014, 06:48 PM
May 2014

and prayers your way.

I'm not sure if this helps, but as I read this a lovely ruby-throated hummingbird came up to my feeder-so I am sending the good feeling from seeing that your way (I'm sorry if that seems a little 'out there' but I see nature as healing).

Squinch

(50,941 posts)
7. Absolutely.
Thu May 8, 2014, 06:50 PM
May 2014

Hang in there jwirr. I wish you and Terri health and peace, and quick relief from this terrible worry

45 years is amazing. There is nothing harder, and you did it for 45 years.

You are in my thought.



louslobbs

(3,232 posts)
11. Keeping you in our thoughts here in CA. May you find peace in this difficult struggle and we wish
Thu May 8, 2014, 06:55 PM
May 2014

all the best for Terri. I can't even Imagine how painful this is for everyone involved.
With heartfelt thoughts and love,
Lou and family

calimary

(81,198 posts)
21. Damn. I'm so sorry to hear this.
Thu May 8, 2014, 07:13 PM
May 2014

All I can say is - I certainly will keep you in my prayers. I know we all will. I just wish we could do more.

secondwind

(16,903 posts)
33. Awwww... my heart goes out to you! I will surely send out a prayer to the powers that be, to be
Thu May 8, 2014, 08:02 PM
May 2014

vigilant over Terri...

 

HockeyMom

(14,337 posts)
34. My good vibes go out to BOTH of you
Thu May 8, 2014, 08:08 PM
May 2014

Your daughter is so, so fortunate to have a parent like you. From your post, I will assume you must be a Senior yourself. Having worked with adults with these special needs, I know how difficult it is, especially for someone who is older themselves.

Your love for your daughter has gotten her this far in her life. You are a wonderful parent. Good vibes to BOTH of you.

locks

(2,012 posts)
53. Thinking of you and your daughter
Thu May 8, 2014, 09:13 PM
May 2014

Over 100 families from around the world have moved to Colorado so that their children who have uncontrolled seizures could be given a strain of cannabis high in CBD and low in TCH. It is called Charlotte's Web after 7 yr old Charlotte Figi from Colorado Springs whose parents had tried every possible medicine and whose life literally has been saved by taking this strain of cannabis in oil form. It has helped so many that it is getting amazing publicity. Please refer to Realm of Caring and CNN for more information.

jwirr

(39,215 posts)
58. Yes, MN Senate has voted to legalize medical mj for that very reason. I have been lobbying our
Thu May 8, 2014, 09:35 PM
May 2014

reps. That may be one of the hopes we have.

Iwillnevergiveup

(9,298 posts)
57. Jwirr, the care, love and devotion
Thu May 8, 2014, 09:32 PM
May 2014

you have shown your daughter for so many years qualifies you for sainthood. I'm sending positive, healing thoughts your way for Terri. And for you, peace and comfort in the knowledge of your incredible good deeds as her mother. Please report back to us on the outcome of Terri's physical. We care about you both.

(((((Terri))))) (((((jwirr)))))

Auntie Bush

(17,528 posts)
59. Sending healing prayers and good thoughts to Terri.
Thu May 8, 2014, 09:35 PM
May 2014

Bless you too jwirr...get some sleep tonight and good luck with her physical.

pacalo

(24,721 posts)
61. That must be a mountain of worries for you, jwirr.
Thu May 8, 2014, 10:02 PM
May 2014

I'll pray for both Terri & you. I hope the physical will reveal to the doctor how to help Terri.

I'm so sorry for your pain.

lunasun

(21,646 posts)
62. Be well Teri !
Thu May 8, 2014, 10:08 PM
May 2014

hope it was a one time experience
For the last year she has gone from 8-10 seizures a month to 2 a month. that is a good thing

RainDog

(28,784 posts)
71. You are yours are in my thoughts
Thu May 8, 2014, 10:49 PM
May 2014

Are you aware of the reports among parents with children with epilepsy and autism about the positive results of medical marijuana for those with these issues?

also - marijuana causes remission of symptoms in Crohn's disease and is also used for people with IBS.

For someone in such a situation, simply eating a small amount of marijuana butter before sleep would be enough to see if your daughter would benefit.

http://www.epilepsycolorado.org/index.php?s=10784&item=5985

http://www.cghjournal.org/article/S1542-3565(13)00604-6/abstract

demigoddess

(6,640 posts)
104. I second this
Fri May 9, 2014, 11:52 AM
May 2014

I have a 42 year old severely handicapped daughter with many of the same problems you describe. Marijuana butter has been a real help. Adding to the prescription drugs that did not complete the job, she has been happier, not hitting herself nearly as much and eating better.

 

Jenoch

(7,720 posts)
79. You are indeed a special mom
Fri May 9, 2014, 01:14 AM
May 2014

who has taken care of of a special child for so many years.

My family and I will this Sunday will be praying for peace for your daughter.

 

MannyGoldstein

(34,589 posts)
86. God bless you and Terri
Fri May 9, 2014, 07:46 AM
May 2014

So much love for your daughter. To have a child with disabilities is such heartbreak, so difficult.

sorefeet

(1,241 posts)
87. At least try a CBD adjunct
Fri May 9, 2014, 08:35 AM
May 2014

call Colorado and have someone send you an extract of cannabis cbd or drive there and get some. You are a wonderful caring and amazing person and you owe it to your daughter, yourself and the many others with the same problem. If it works, great, spread the news. After 56 years I would have to know the answer It has worked for hundreds, just maybe it will work for Terri.

Jefferson23

(30,099 posts)
91. I am so sorry to hear your loved one can't live with you with all the assistance she and you deserve
Fri May 9, 2014, 09:44 AM
May 2014

I hope for her and you the results of her physical finds her some relief.

For Terri, may you receive all the help you need and to you jwirr, the strength to endure
such a painful time as you stand by her.

jwirr

(39,215 posts)
93. We actually had a lot of assistance and I am very grateful for those years. What ended with her
Fri May 9, 2014, 09:53 AM
May 2014

going into a foster home was that I cannot lift and move her anymore. One blessing I was able to totally train her foster family into taking care of her my way. We have also had very good doctors and health care. There are benefits to being poor when there is an illness in the family.

Jefferson23

(30,099 posts)
94. I am glad to hear you had relief, you both deserve it, very much so.
Fri May 9, 2014, 09:56 AM
May 2014

Peace and all the best to your daughter and you.

jwirr

(39,215 posts)
92. Many thanks for the love. So far she has not had another seizure. And this time her foster parents
Fri May 9, 2014, 09:49 AM
May 2014

are ready to help her with the damage that was done to her arms, etc. We had never seen a seizure like this before. She has always had 5 different kinds of seizures - mostly under control except the one kind. This came as a complete surprise especially when she had seemed to actually getting better.

When we go to the physical we will get Dilantin levels and that will help us understand some of it. I hope.

jwirr

(39,215 posts)
99. Yes, when she was small the doctors told me her life expectancy would be 30 years old. Medicine
Fri May 9, 2014, 10:54 AM
May 2014

has improved since then but that is what I fear that it is her time and we will not be able to do anything about it. I also thought I was prepared. Ha.

merrily

(45,251 posts)
100. I doubt anyone can ever be prepared, even for the passing of a beloved parent,
Fri May 9, 2014, 10:57 AM
May 2014

let alone one's child.

jwirr

(39,215 posts)
106. So far she has not had another seizure like that one. I am going to be out of touch for the weekend
Fri May 9, 2014, 06:04 PM
May 2014

and will get back to all of you wonderful people on Sunday evening. Thank you for all of your concern.

ladyVet

(1,587 posts)
108. Terri and I are the same age...
Sat May 10, 2014, 05:39 AM
May 2014

Sending energy and strength to you both, that you may be able to handle whatever comes.

My ex-husband has a cousin who was born profoundly mentally disabled, and was not expected to live more than a couple of years. She is in her sixties, and sometimes I think she will outlive me. Until recently, she lived at home (her mother has passed now), with some help from caretakers for several years now, and is loved and cherished by her family, and those who know her.

liberal_at_heart

(12,081 posts)
111. Are you in a state where medical marijuana is legal?
Sun May 11, 2014, 03:01 PM
May 2014

The strain Charlotte's Web has been shown to dramatically decrease seizures. I hope Terri gets better.

jwirr

(39,215 posts)
113. No more seizures like that one and I think she is safe for now. The physical did not show any other
Sun May 11, 2014, 09:08 PM
May 2014

problems so we are just assuming that she had a fever or something like that. For now it is going to just be wait and see.

Thank you DU. This is truly our home away from home. We care about each other. This is a good place to be.

deek

(3,414 posts)
116. Sending positive thoughts your way
Mon May 12, 2014, 02:22 AM
May 2014

I also have a daughter who has severe disabilities. She is 30 yrs old and has had prolonged seizures. Perhaps hormonal changes? I often overlooked non-disability related causes for various changes, but learned it's just sometimes due to a "normal" stuff.

jwirr

(39,215 posts)
118. Went to Terri's staffing yesterday. She looks great except older. Each time I see her I notice that.
Fri May 23, 2014, 11:27 AM
May 2014

She was alert and happy . No more of the really bad type of seizure and blood levels for Dilantin seem to be stable. We are starting to track a new behavior that will be used to lobby for persons who are not deaf or blind but rely on signing to communicate. We have begun recognizing many more actions she uses to communicate her needs and as we talked about it we realized she uses them in both of the locations she spends her days. One interesting thing is that her primary physician says he envies Terri's labs as they are better than most of his patients. This despite the seizures.

She recognizes me by my voice since I often call and talk to her over the speaker phone.

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