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Liberalynn

(7,549 posts)
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 09:32 AM Sep 2014

A friend tried using the "Queen Anne" call out on Facebook

that the Democrats are making up the "Republican War on Women" as a political stunt and said she is getting sick of all
'Republican being accused of being anti women." This was in response to my re-posting a quote from Eliizabeth Warren, calling out the Republican party for their anti women votes.

Here is my response how did I do?

You are a friend, I respect and admire. You are a talented artist both of words and images. You are also a compassionate person both to humans and to animals. Know I do not personally believe that every individual Republican is anti-woman.

The thing is every single Republican in Congress, and I mean every single one voted against equal pay for equal work, to me that is just unfair. It goes beyond party affiliation. It goes to the pledge of allegiance: "with liberty and justice for ALL" shouldn't be just words we speak without meaning them."

Yes I understand companies sometimes spend lots of money training women who then leave to become a stay at home parent, thus causing a loss of investment. The same thing can be said though of a man who develops an illness, gets a better offer, or decides to move to an area where that company doesn't have a branch. It's not a valid excuse for injustice. Neither is" it will raise the cost of goods", so will a man's pay increase. Will laws change discriminatory behavior, no, but at least it gives those discriminated against a tool to fight back against it. I will vote for any politician on either side of the aisle who proves to me through their votes that they are willing to to honor the pledge, period. I will never believe that a woman should be paid less than a man for doing the same job. I don't view it as"playing the victim card' but rather as speaking out for basic fairness. When the Republican party as a whole demonstrates through action that they at least are willing to consider that it is unfair no matter the lame justifications and excuses, I will vote for them, but until then I can't and won't apologize for calling them out on their vote, and voting for people who will cast their votes in Congress for equal pay for equal work.


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A friend tried using the "Queen Anne" call out on Facebook (Original Post) Liberalynn Sep 2014 OP
Besides, if women need more money they can just sell some of their stocks. Scuba Sep 2014 #1
Thank You! Liberalynn Sep 2014 #3
Well said! JNelson6563 Sep 2014 #2
Thank You Liberalynn Sep 2014 #4
One of the benefits of the way you did it JNelson6563 Sep 2014 #5
Yes, you did. You make an excellent, common sense arguement, in terms so simple that I can't maddiemom Sep 2014 #13
Thank You! Liberalynn Sep 2014 #17
And if you paid women equally ... knightmaar Sep 2014 #6
I just don't understand why other women in particular are willing to accept the excuses? Liberalynn Sep 2014 #18
The only thing that I would have added would have been Skidmore Sep 2014 #7
Very good points. Liberalynn Sep 2014 #19
I have worked at my job for almost 30 years...getting ready to retire Sheepshank Sep 2014 #8
Exactly! Liberalynn Sep 2014 #20
Look at the voting record over the past 6 years and you will notice that ALL Republicans world wide wally Sep 2014 #9
True Liberalynn Sep 2014 #21
Nicely done... Grey Sep 2014 #10
Thank You Liberalynn Sep 2014 #22
Very well done ... 1StrongBlackMan Sep 2014 #11
So far silence. Liberalynn Sep 2014 #23
I love the way you replied Liberalynne kmlisle Sep 2014 #12
Thanks. Liberalynn Sep 2014 #24
Good reply. I'd also add in that it is Republicans who are fighting Arugula Latte Sep 2014 #14
They don't seem to see the contradiction in that. Liberalynn Sep 2014 #25
It is fucking ridiculous that anyone would challenge equal pay for equal work. SunSeeker Sep 2014 #15
Thank You! Liberalynn Sep 2014 #26
Corporations are not people..... AlbertCat Sep 2014 #16
Very True Liberalynn Sep 2014 #27
 

Scuba

(53,475 posts)
1. Besides, if women need more money they can just sell some of their stocks.
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 09:41 AM
Sep 2014

Good reply, thanks Liberalynn.

JNelson6563

(28,151 posts)
2. Well said!
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 09:42 AM
Sep 2014

I think you did a very good job of making excellent points in a non-confrontational manner.

Julie

 

Liberalynn

(7,549 posts)
4. Thank You
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 09:50 AM
Sep 2014
I am trying to remember to rein in my temper. Deep down I know that even people who are Republican have a decent side. There must be a part of some of them that knows being sexist, racist etc is wrong,as is making excuses for it, or it wouldn't bother them being called out on it. We just have to gently remind them of the better side of their nature.

JNelson6563

(28,151 posts)
5. One of the benefits of the way you did it
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 10:14 AM
Sep 2014

is that, by keeping temper in check, you avoided putting in a satisfying barb that could serve as a handy distraction to focus on and thus avoid addressing the point of your post.

Not always easy but it's when we keep emotion in check we're so much more likely to make an unassailable argument.

Julie

maddiemom

(5,106 posts)
13. Yes, you did. You make an excellent, common sense arguement, in terms so simple that I can't
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 12:16 PM
Sep 2014

believe more women haven't been making all along.

knightmaar

(748 posts)
6. And if you paid women equally ...
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 10:59 AM
Sep 2014

... they might stick around longer instead of getting the hell out of your crappy-wage job as soon as they have a kid. They might weigh their careers more heavily in the calculus of which spouse moves for which spouse's next career move.

Instead, these people prefer sexist, self-fulfilling prophecies.

 

Liberalynn

(7,549 posts)
18. I just don't understand why other women in particular are willing to accept the excuses?
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 02:24 PM
Sep 2014

I am not saying I expect men to be sexist. I know there are plenty who aren't. It's just really sad to know that there are women who believe they themselves should be treated as lesser than instead of being equal to.

How can anyone not view being paid less for doing the exact same thing as being valued less?"

It's common sense.

Skidmore

(37,364 posts)
7. The only thing that I would have added would have been
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 11:04 AM
Sep 2014

to point out that the goods and services that women purchase are not discounted for gender--they cost the same as what a man must pony up at the cash register. Many women support families by themselves, and sometimes that is the case with two parents being in the home.

 

Sheepshank

(12,504 posts)
8. I have worked at my job for almost 30 years...getting ready to retire
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 11:13 AM
Sep 2014

I had 3 children while working, I get paid a decent wage, and without bragging too much am an integral part of this machine and have been approached several times over that I should reconsider retiring and stay on to bump up that retirement package.

So mine is one example where the justification for different pay scales falls flat on it's face. I should be paid less because I may have children? Really? I am one of millions that work through pregnancy and return to work after having a child. I'm not special.

There are definitely jobs out there fit for part timers, school kids and people who do NOT want to make long term committements to any employer, but that has NOTHING to do with gender. Those jobs are likely never going to be high paying and are likley fairly equally applied via gender.

But back to my scenario, perhpas "they" could explain one more time how birthing children is a detriment that requires lesser wages for the rest of my life?

 

Liberalynn

(7,549 posts)
20. Exactly!
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 02:31 PM
Sep 2014

The majority of women do go back to work! Plus if maternity leave etc was the real concern then why still pay women who are past their child bearing years less too?

world wide wally

(21,718 posts)
9. Look at the voting record over the past 6 years and you will notice that ALL Republicans
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 11:14 AM
Sep 2014

vote in lockstep. So it seems logical that anything ANY ONE of them says is a shared sentiment of ALL of them.

 

Liberalynn

(7,549 posts)
21. True
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 02:34 PM
Sep 2014

The ones who claim to disagree should speak up more against anti woman policies if they don't want to be labeled anti woman.

kmlisle

(276 posts)
12. I love the way you replied Liberalynne
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 12:06 PM
Sep 2014

First you tell your friend how much you value her and this explains why you are willing to take the trouble to have this difficult conversation with her. That is always a good way to start a dialogue between two friends who disagree. You continue that tone calmly with facts and keep your temper in check again out of respect. I hope to see more of this kind of constructive dialogue here!

 

Liberalynn

(7,549 posts)
24. Thanks.
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 02:39 PM
Sep 2014

I wanted to lash out with hurt but I realized that would cost me a friend. I vented in another post here, becase I needed to let it go among people who would understand, instead of burying it and internalizing it like I used too before I found DU.

 

Arugula Latte

(50,566 posts)
14. Good reply. I'd also add in that it is Republicans who are fighting
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 12:20 PM
Sep 2014

to restrict a woman's autonomy over her own body -- and squawking about "freedom" while doing everything they can to deny it to women at the most basic level.

 

Liberalynn

(7,549 posts)
25. They don't seem to see the contradiction in that.
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 02:42 PM
Sep 2014

They want big government out of their wallets but have no problem with it intruding into women's bodies and bedrooms.

SunSeeker

(51,367 posts)
15. It is fucking ridiculous that anyone would challenge equal pay for equal work.
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 12:28 PM
Sep 2014

And yet Republicans, one of our two major political parties, thinks it's crazy talk. You'd think it's 1814, not 2014.

BTW, great reply Liberalynn. I am glad you still have the patience to try to enlighten people like that. I just unfriend them.

 

AlbertCat

(17,505 posts)
16. Corporations are not people.....
Fri Sep 26, 2014, 12:39 PM
Sep 2014

..... they are BETTER and MORE IMPORTANT than people....

Because it is apparently OK to hurt and screw over real people if it might cause the slightest inconvenience to a corporation.

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