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Fri Dec 26, 2014, 06:16 PM

My foster dad died this morning....

we put him in hospice this week and he passed away at 10:45AM PST today. He was a great champion of civil and lgbt rights...he was my father for 41 years taking me in as an orphan at 15 years old. My dad had died because of the Vietnam war and my mom had a stroke. He was a Lutheran pastor and wonderful person..my heart is aching and I will miss him deeply!

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 06:17 PM

1. You have my sympathy.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 06:18 PM

2. I am so very Sorry, gopiscrap.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 06:19 PM

3. :(

so sorry....

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 06:21 PM

4. I'm so sorry....

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 06:21 PM

5. I'm very sorry to hear this, gopiscrap.

 

Take good care of yourself, his efforts will be with us forever.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 06:21 PM

6. So sorry you lost him. The memories, trust me, live on.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 06:32 PM

7. I am so sorry for your loss, gopiscrap.

I hope your memories will help ease your sorrow. It is never easy to lose a parent.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 06:33 PM

8. Much love and sympathy to you, gopiscrap.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 06:46 PM

9. Deepest sympathy

Treasure all the good memories you two created. He will be the blueprint for you to follow in your own journey as a parent. I understand the loss, and the heartbreak.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 06:48 PM

10. I'm so sorry for your loss.

It sounds like you were fortunate to find each other.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 06:55 PM

11. Prayers sent

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 06:57 PM

12. My condolences



It's sad losing a person you loved especially at this time of year.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:01 PM

13. I'm so sorry, he sounds like a wonderful dad.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:05 PM

14. I'm very sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.

How blessed you were to have a foster parent that truly loved and cared for you. It will probably always hurt, but at least you have the love and memories to sustain you. Take care.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:09 PM

15. My deepest condolences!



PEACE!

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:16 PM

16. My condolences.

 

This is tough, and a tough time of year to take such a loss.

Best wishes to you and yours.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:22 PM

17. My sincere condolences to you and those who knew him.

He hung on for one last Christmas.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:24 PM

18. I'm so sorry to hear that

I'm glad you did get a chance to see him before he passed. He was obviously a very caring person and the fact that you loved him so much is a true testament that he had a very meaningful, important life. All my condolences to you.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:32 PM

19. I am so very sorry gopiscap.

My heart goes out to you and yours.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:32 PM

20. Oh my...

You have my deepest sympathy.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:33 PM

21. How heart breaking. Sincere sympathy.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:40 PM

22. I'm very sorry for the loss of your father.

 

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:42 PM

23. (((((((gopiscrap)))))))...

...I am so sorry! This is such a difficult time of year to lose a loved one.

TYY

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:44 PM

24. peace to you brother (sister?)...

aloha, aloha, aloha no. Send him love, talk to him, it helps.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:55 PM

25. I understand. My dad died a few days ago.

Go in the shower, turn the water on full blast, and scream and cry until you are hoarse.

It helps.

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Response to tavernier (Reply #25)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 08:14 PM

33. Oh my gosh

 

Two DUers have just lost their dads

My heartfelt sympathy goes to both of you. My dad (stepfather), who I adored, died almost 11 years ago and it still hurts just as much today. I think time just makes it not hurt as frequently. The only consolation is in knowing how blessed we were to have shared our lives with them.

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Response to Boreal (Reply #33)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 08:22 PM

38. Thanks, my friend...

In my case Dad was in his nineties and wracked with cancer. For me it was a celebration that he was going home for Christmas. Still and all, I had my meltdown moments... He was much loved.

Thanks for your kindness, sweetie...
the hardest part will be this coming Monday at the wake.

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Response to Boreal (Reply #33)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 07:13 PM

73. Thank you and may all of you on here who have felt loss, find peace!!!!

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Response to tavernier (Reply #25)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 02:50 PM

68. It's hard losing someone special this time of year

 

I still remember osing a three year old cat unexpectedly the day after Christmas. Woke up and found her still in the bed next to me. It still hurts to think about 20 years later.

My sympathies to you both!

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:56 PM

26. I'm so very sorry.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 07:57 PM

27. I am very sorry for your loss

 

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 08:00 PM

28. so sorry about your foster dad

Wishing you comfort in your memories of his kindness.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 08:00 PM

29. He sounds like he was a great man.

I'm glad you knew him & sorry for your loss.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 08:02 PM

30. Condolences. nt

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 08:07 PM

31. ...

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 08:14 PM

32. Very sorry to hear it. Take care.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 08:16 PM

34. I am so very sorry!

My heart goes out to you. He sounds like a wonderful man.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 08:17 PM

35. Deepest sympathy

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 08:18 PM

36. It sounds like someone who rolled up their sleeves and got involved to make this a better place, for

 

you and others.

I learned from the death of my father that grief becomes manageable over time, but what will always stay with you are the lessons you learned. He will always be with you, and that will help you go on.

Thank you for sharing this with us.






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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 08:18 PM

37. I'm saddened to hear this. Sounds like such a wonderful person!

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 08:54 PM

39. Deepest condolences to you, and honor to his name

 

"For all flesh is as grass, and all the glory of man as the flower of grass. The grass withereth, and the flower thereof falleth away. "

Brahm's Requiem, translation.



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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 08:59 PM

40. So sorry to hear.

 

Peace.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 09:15 PM

41. Words cannot take away the hurt

but know that we at DU are sending you love and hugs and hoping that soon the pain will be assuaged by the beautiful memories of, obviously, a great human being.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 09:19 PM

42. I'm so sorry for your loss.

He sounds like he was a wonderful man.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 09:32 PM

43. My condolences.

Peace be with you and your family during this difficult time.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 09:47 PM

44. I am so very sorry for your loss.

 

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 11:09 PM

45. I am sorry for your loss.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Fri Dec 26, 2014, 11:33 PM

46. So sorry for your loss. He sounds like such a wonderful, loving person. Be well.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 12:50 AM

47. I am so sorry. I wish you peace and hope. I think people this great are there to

make us live better lives. I hug you tightly.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 01:09 AM

48. I know it's a tough time for you

and I say this a lot to but never stop talking to him. My Father died in 2008, never met anyone quite like him, beyond uber liberal. Anyway I still talk to him, everyday, he's my voice of reason always. My best to you and yours as you work through your grief.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 01:15 AM

49. I am so sorry for your loss!

 

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 04:46 AM

50. Arms around you

 

you welcomed me to DU, my arms around you.

Tight.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 05:56 AM

51. We support you. It's so hard to lose someone you love who had cared for you.

Peace, but it takes a while.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 06:31 AM

52. So sorry

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 08:03 AM

53. I'm very sorry for your loss

Even when you anticipate death coming it's still so hard to deal with the loss.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 08:57 AM

54. I am so sorry. Losing him must hurt so bad.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 08:59 AM

55. I feel your pain.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 09:53 AM

56. My condolences....

may his love live on in your heart for eternity.

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Sat Dec 27, 2014, 10:18 AM

57. ...

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 10:36 AM

58. Very sorry to hear this...but it sounds like he had a very good life...

 

And is now at peace.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 10:44 AM

59. I am sorry you lost him.

But so happy that you had him in your life, and that he took you in at such a crucial time.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 11:00 AM

60. I'm so sorry for your loss...

 

May you and your family find peace.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 11:14 AM

61. So sorry for your loss.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 11:42 AM

62. I am so sorry.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 12:43 PM

63. so very sorry for your loss ((((((((gopiscrap))))). prayers for peace and healing and comfort

for you and all who love him. your du family is here for you.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 12:54 PM

64. He sounds like a wonderful man and father.

I am sorry that you have lost him ...

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 12:56 PM

65. I'm so sorry

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 01:51 PM

66. My sympathies. You don't mention his age when he took you in, but I hope he lived

a very long life because he must have been a wonderful man.

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Response to maddiemom (Reply #66)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 07:14 PM

74. he was almost 95

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 01:55 PM

67. My deepest sympathy.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 03:48 PM

69. My deepest sympathy, gopiscrap n/t

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 03:58 PM

70. My husband and I are so very sorry for your loss. . .

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 04:15 PM

71. my condolences. you are lucky to have had a foster father you loved who loved you. love ripples

 

through the world and never dies.

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Response to gopiscrap (Original post)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 05:27 PM

72. He sounds like a wonderful guy.

I'm sorry for your loss gopiscrap.

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