My sister lost her fight with cancer, yesterday morning

[Siwsan]

Chris was only 57 and has been fighting cancer, on and off, for almost 20 years. She was a wonderful wife, mother, daughter, teacher, and the most amazing sister anyone could ever hope to have. Chris was one of those rare individuals who helped and even improved just about every single life she touched.

And she was a fighter. She held on so much longer than anyone ever expected. Our pleas for her to let go were met with "But I'm not READY to die!" But, at about 2am, yesterday morning, she did finally surrender to the inevitable.

So please allow me to quote a slightly abreviated and altered portion of a Dylan Thomas poem, substituting my sister for his father, because she did not go gentle into that good night.


Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

And you, my *sister, there on the sad height, Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray. Do not go gentle into that good night. Rage, rage against the dying of the light. -

Me, Mom and Chris


Me, my brother in law Brad, and Chris, the day of their wedding

[PeaceNikki]

1. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Peace and comfort to you and all who love her.

Sisters are special.

[Siwsan]

122. Sisters are special

Fortunately I have many, many great memories, and I'll definitely share them with her children.

[MineralMan]

2. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

Truly.

[cwydro]

3. One of my favorite poems.

So sorry to hear.

[YarnAddict]

4. So sorry for your loss

Way too soon.

[GentryDixon]

5. I am very sorry for your loss.

I too lost my sister a few years ago to diabetes complications. 😓

[Historic NY]

6. Sorry for your loss....

[BeyondGeography]

7. A moving tribute

Thank you for sharing her with us.

RIP, Chris.

[lpbk2713]

8. I wish there was something I could do to ease the pain.

Please accept my sympathies for your loss and for the loss suffered by her friends and other family.

[Coventina]

9. Words can't express how deeply I feel for you.

My sister is the other half of my soul.

My deepest, most heartfelt condolences.

[Rowdyboy]

10. I cannot begin to imagine the strength it takes to fight cancer for 20 years....

Your sister was truly an amazing woman-I envy her fortitude and grace.

[Scarsdale]

94. Too soon

Deepest sympathy. I am the last one remaining of 5 sisters and two brothers. Each one was shattering. We stuck together when we had nothing and helped each other. To lose an only sibling is so sad, especially so young. With Cancer Centers being built EVERYWHERE, and after so much $$$$ raised, WHY no cure yet? No to be too cynical, but is it too lucrative?

[etherealtruth]

11. I am so sorry ... I can't imagine losing one of my siblings

[Beaverhausen]

12. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[KT2000]

13. Oh, I am so sorry

Losing your sister is a great loss - You gave her a lovely tribute. Peace to you.

[gwheezie]

14. I'm very sorry for your loss

Cancer is a monster. What a tough sister she was.

[mentalsolstice]

15. May you cherish good memories of your lives and time together! nt

[Gothmog]

16. I am sorry for your loss

[livetohike]

17. My sympathy to you, your family and all who knew and loved your sister

Chris May all of your good memories of her life bring you comfort and peace.

[Mnemosyne]

18. I'm so sorry, Siwsan.

[Faygo Kid]

19. Beautiful. Remember those smile.

Ultimately, that's what we have left - all of us. Take care of yourself, and give yourself time. Remember what her life meant to you, not just her death.

[deurbano]

20. I'm so sorry.

[progressoid]

21. Losing a sibling is very hard.

[onecaliberal]

22. I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious sister.

I hope memories of good times can bring you some measure of comfort.

[ColesCountyDem]

23. I am so very, very sorry for your loss.

[Blue_In_AK]

24. My deepest condolences.

[meaculpa2011]

25. Deepest condolences.

Stuart Scott gave a moving speech about "Losing to cancer."

I hope you take some solace from it.

[riverbendviewgal]

26. so sorry .

[babylonsister]

27. My heartfelt

condolences to you and your family.

[malaise]

28. Deepest sympathy Siwsan

I lost my youngest sister ten years ago this year and it still hurts. But both your sis and mine finally found peace- the pain stopped.

[sakabatou]

29. My condolences

[AgingAmerican]

30. Deepest condolences to you and yours

It's hard losing a sibling.

[riderinthestorm]

31. My deepest condolences Siswan.

[pnwmom]

32. My deepest condolences, Siwsan. Your sister must have been a wonderful woman. n/t

[sabrina 1]

33. That is so sad. And a beautiful tribute to your sister.

I am so sorry

[jimlup]

34. She was my age

I'm so sorry for your loss

[Liberal_in_LA]

35. sorry for your loss

[2naSalit]

36. ...

[spanone]

37. ...

[mnhtnbb]

38. I am so sorry for your loss. Cancer is a horrible disease.

My husband and I lost a colleague and friend recently to esophageal cancer. He was my age--63.


Hugs to you.

[femmocrat]

39. I am so sorry, Siwsan.

I lost my dear sister 3 years ago. The bond between sisters is forever.

[boston bean]

40. I am very sorry for your loss. To young.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

[Demeter]

41. Deepest condolences

Peace to your family, and grace on us all from knowing of such a fine person as your beloved sister.

[WillyT]

42. (((((((Siwsan)))))))

Peace...

[sheshe2]

43. My deepest sympathies siwsan

[irisblue]

44. I am so sorry

[Chemisse]

46. I'm so sorry for your hard loss.

And I'm sorry this happened to her before she was ready.

[joanbarnes]

47. So sorry Siswan. Thank you for reminding me to cherish my three sisters...

[peace13]

48. Love and healing energy headed your way.

My sister died a year ago this month, but she visits my dreams from time to time. Our sisters know the answer to the mystery. I am sorry for your loss. Peace and love, Kim

[kelliekat44]

49. Condolences to you and your family.

[arthritisR_US]

50. A beautiful tribute. I'm so sorry for your loss

[Lifelong Protester]

51. I am so sorry for your loss

Peace and good memories to you.

[nclib]

52. Very sorry for your loss.

[villager]

53. Condolences to you and your family, and all whose lives her light is now taken from

I'm glad for the 20 years of additional memories she was able to make, in the time she had...

[williesgirl]

54. I can't imagine your grief. My heart breaks for you.

[eridani]

55. Safe passage for this beautiful soul

[Yo_Mama]

56. Very sorry for your loss.

It sounds like she was a wonderful sister to have, though.

[IcyPeas]

57. so sorry for your loss

[brer cat]

58. I am so sorry for your loss, Siwsan.

Sisters are the best friends of our lives. I know you will miss her.

RIP Chris.

[NewDeal_Dem]

59. RIP.

[Ink Man]

60. Sounds like

she was loved by many and a great woman. Very sorry for your loss.

[840high]

61. My condolences.

[herding cats]

62. My condolences.

[ClusterFreak]

63. My sincerest sympathies for the loss of your courageous sister.

[sulphurdunn]

64. Please accept my sincerest condolences

for your loss.

[ewagner]

65. So sorry for your loss. n/t

[dflprincess]

66. I am so sorry

I know how hard it is to lose your sibling.

[Skittles]

67. you both look so much like your mum

my sympathy to you

[smirkymonkey]

68. I am so sorry for your loss.

I can't imagine the pain you must feel. I would be lost without my sister. Peace be with you and your family.

[LyndaG]

69. Beautiful tribute

Your sister sounded like a sweetheart.

[marions ghost]

70. Sorry for your loss Swisan

Many blessings to you as you carry on for your dear sister and all who loved her.
Our time is short--it matters how we live, not how long.

[Bonobo]

71. My deepest, deepest condolences to you.

I'm sure you are beyond devastated. Time will ease the bite of the intensity of the pain though you will always feel the loss.

May your pain fade soon and be replaced with nothing but warm memories.

[GoCubsGo]

72. I'm so sorry.

[Hekate]

73. I'm so very sorry for your loss, Siwsan. May Time be gentle with you, may your sister's name....

... be remembered for a blessing.

[LibDemAlways]

74. What a lovely tribute to your courageous sister.

Sincere condolences. I wish you and your family peace and healing in the days and weeks ahead.

[mike dub]

75. So sorry, Siwsan

My wife's best friend (50 years old) passed from cancer this fall. Cancer is total crap. Sorry I can't say anything that will really help you all right now.

[Cha]

76. ..

[FailureToCommunicate]

77. Cancer sucks. I am so sorry that you have joined those of us who have lost

someone near and dear.

[GitRDun]

78. I'm a cancer survivor. Lost my brother, best friend to cancer 25+ years ago

I'm sorry for your loss.

My hope for you is that you kept in your mind what she asked you to. Those who are about to die know it. What she said to you over the past few visits are what matters most to her. As a cancer patient you KNOW if you are going to make it.

I apologize if you find this offensive. I've had a great deal of experience over the years with folks that have had cancer. Funny how we cancer patients have no problem talking about it.

Godspeed to your sister, and God bless you and your family.

[Manifestor_of_Light]

79. I am very sorry for your loss.

I lost my sister to cancer over 24 years ago.

My thoughts go to you.

[Paka]

80. My condolences for your loss.

Sisters are special. I have one three years older that I am weeks away from losing to ALS. I can truly feel your pain.

[grossproffit]

81. I'm so sorry for your loss. May your sisters memory be a blessing to all who knew and loved her.

[A Little Weird]

82. I'm so sorry

[liberal_at_heart]

83. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother and grandmother to cancer.

Dying is as natural as being born but I am certainly in no hurry. I know if I had cancer I would be fighting to stay with my family too.

[adirondacker]

84. So Sorry for your loss.

It's been 8 years since I lost my only sibling to cancer. I miss her every day.





Wonderful photos!

[tblue]

85. I am so so sorry!

Take care, sweetie. I wish I could fix it.

[roguevalley]

86. there are no words. My sister is also named Chris and

we almost lost her in an accident ten years ago. I wish you the peace that only time will give you. I hope you hear and see her around you. It will be time passing to make it bearable. God bless you and yours. I am so sorry to hear this.

There are just no words.

[area51]

87. I'm so sorry.

[stonecutter357]

88. .

[montana_hazeleyes]

89. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

The love and closeness you shared is very evident in the lovely wedding photo.

[DesertDiamond]

90. I send my heart to your beautiful sister, to you and to your family, with the hope that you can feel

her warm and loving presence all around you.

[TorchTheWitch]

91. I'm so very sorry for your loss

Losing a loved one is always a crushing blow.

[bearssoapbox]

92. I'm so sorry for your loss.

If the pictures are any indication though, you have some beautiful memories.

Take care.

[raven mad]

93. Condolences and prayers.

[marym625]

95. My deepest sympathy

[Ilsa]

96. My sincerest condolences on

this terrible loss. She was too young.

[bobGandolf]

97. Sorry for your loss! n/t

[Warren DeMontague]

98. I'm very sorry for your loss.

My Dad was the same way with it- fought it right to the end.

We carry some part of those close to us we've lost, inside of us, I think. I find that thought at least a little comforting.

Please, though, take care of yourself during this time.

So very sorry, again.

[marble falls]

99. My condolences and prayers for you and the rest of her family. G*d bless.

[mountain grammy]

100. I'm so sorry, my heart goes out to you..

7 years this June since I lost my sister.

[MrMickeysMom]

101. My condolences, too, Siwsan...

It's so very hard to hold on after a long fight. I personally believe she lives on in your heart.

May you and family somehow be helped in staying strong through by your DU friends.

[cordelia]

102. My deepest condolences, Siwsan.

I cannot fathom the pain of losing a sibling.

May you find peace and comfort.

[TBF]

103. I'm so sorry ~

[onecent]

104. My thoughts are with you and your family!!

[catbyte]

105. I'm so very sorry, Siwan.

You and your family are in my thoughts.

[barbtries]

106. i'm so sorry for your loss

she was lovely.

[appalachiablue]

107. What a beautiful family & sister. So sorry for your loss. It's so painful, we lost a little brother

far too young. Peace & prayers to your family.

[Joey Liberal]

108. Good vibes headed your way:)

Your sister was a fighter and proud of her for not going gentle into the good night.

[gademocrat7]

109. Condolences on the loss of your sister.

[PumpkinAle]

110. Oh Siwsan

may the tears turn to beautiful thoughts and memories soon for an obviously well loved sister.

[IdaBriggs]

111. ...

[juajen]

112. I also love that poem. Hope she had a gentle passing. Prayers.

[ladyVet]

113. So sorry for your loss.

That was a loving tribute to her. I believe the best thing someone could say about another was that they loved and were loved.

[mazzarro]

114. Sorry for your loss. Sincere condolences to the family at-large - n/t

[calimary]

115. Much love and sympathy to you, Siwsan.

It's a beautiful tribute you've created for your sister. Thank you for sharing it, and allowing us to keep this vigil with you. I always appreciate it when someone here, even in their private grief, reaches out to invite us in - at such a painful intimate moment. You do not mourn alone.

[Oilwellian]

116. Very sorry to hear this sad news, Siwsan

Time will help heal your family's deep wound.

[deek]

117. i'm sorry for your loss

a friend shared this with me recently:

I think the hardest part of losing someone isn't having to say goodbye, but rather learning to live without them. Always trying to fill the void, the emptiness that's left inside your heart when they go.

[nradisic]

118. :(

God Bless...

[blackspade]

119. My condolences.

[SalmonChantedEvening]

120. I'm so very sorry, Siwsan.

My deepest sympathies to you, and your family.

[lostnfound]

121. Sisters rock.

She will live on in your heart and you are so lucky to have had her for all these years.
Her life well-lived was shorter than anyone wanted, but the power, quality and beauty of a book can not be judged by the number of pages but by its content.

The book with her name on it is a work of art.

I am sorry that you are going through this difficult time. But I'm glad that you had a sister who was so worth having. Carry her memory forward proudly, and when you cry, do so with the knowledge that your tears are a tribute to your special sister.. A sign of gratitude for all that she meant to you.