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Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 06:29 AM Mar 2015

"All women are selfish by nature" claims ‘moderate’ imam...

Last edited Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:30 AM - Edit history (1)

http://www.france24.com/en/20150329-moderate-imam-who-claims-all-women-are-selfish-islam-france-montpellier-mohamed-khattabi/



An imam in France has claimed in a sermon that selfishness is part of “the nature of women”, comments that have shocked all the more because of his reputation as a progressive influence on Islam in the country.

“No matter how much good you bestow upon a woman, she will deny it. Her selfishness drives her to deny it.” These were the words of Imam Mohamed Khattabi, delivered during a Friday sermon at the Aicha Mosque in Montpellier, southern France, on March 6, two days before International Women’s Day.

Standing high in the mosque’s minbar (pulpit), Khattabi continued: “This holds true for all women, whether Western, Arab, Muslim, Jewish, or Christian. This is the nature of women.

“If a woman overcomes her nature and acknowledges (the truth) … Allah grants her a higher place in paradise. But if she succumbs to her nature, and refuses to acknowledge the man's rights – or rather, the goodness that man bestows upon her – she is destined to go to (hell)…”
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'Moderate', mon cul (my ass). Damn, if this guy can be qualified as moderate, the future for 'entente' between religions in France looks to be in trouble.
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"All women are selfish by nature" claims ‘moderate’ imam... (Original Post) Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 OP
Well, they will insist on flaunting their ankles GCP Mar 2015 #1
No need, LOL! Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #3
Looks like someone can't get a date!!!! MADem Mar 2015 #2
Yeah, as the French say, he's 'mal-baisé'... Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #5
Men, on the other hand, are totally not selfish. DetlefK Mar 2015 #4
Say what? But, this circular argument sadly Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #6
idiot Marrah_G Mar 2015 #7
The problem is this guy's influence and reach in Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #8
I agree Marrah_G Mar 2015 #11
This thorny question is the crux of the debate in 'proudly secular' France, as we speak... Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #20
Fine. All Imams are sexist piecesof shit, honey. cali Mar 2015 #9
Ding! Ding! Ding! liberal N proud Mar 2015 #10
See post just below yours. Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #13
Right? I grew up hearing the same stuff in my Southern Baptist Church. antigone382 Mar 2015 #108
Wow, where are you coming from? Here's what I had to say Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #12
If it didn't have such dire consequences for so many women, it would be almost Skidmore Mar 2015 #14
I can see that scenario in my mind's eye--all of those Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #15
Catholic clergy Demeter Mar 2015 #16
They were implied under the heading of 'whatever'...sadly. Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #18
It would look like when these male religious asswipes testified against women in the US Congress: Arugula Latte Mar 2015 #74
Excellent analogy! Good find! Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #75
I'm going to get shit for saying this, but here's the BIG difference cali Mar 2015 #17
And there are many who just sit silently Skidmore Mar 2015 #19
sure, and there are many who actively pursue the demise of these teachings cali Mar 2015 #22
Well, D'uh! The men keep killing them off Demeter Mar 2015 #34
Many more. Skidmore Mar 2015 #58
Hear, hear! Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #60
Yes. cwydro Mar 2015 #128
Look to the 'fundamentalist' extremes of all of these diverse faiths to find the misogyny... Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #23
Yes, and that's precisely what I said. cali Mar 2015 #27
I resent your qualification of me as 'obtuse'. I really wish you Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #31
the "you" was generic. I wasn't referring to you. cali Mar 2015 #35
Point taken. That generic 'you' in English causes so much misunderstanding. Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #37
I find it a little sad that you have to post "I'm going to get shit for ..." BlueJazz Mar 2015 #40
You have that right get the red out Mar 2015 #53
There are, however, no Catholic women clergy KamaAina Mar 2015 #97
Orthodox Jewish women clergy - has 840high Mar 2015 #130
....x10 840high Mar 2015 #129
Religion just twists people Bettie Mar 2015 #21
TRUE that: "Doesn't matter what religion it is", on the Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #24
That's simply not true. It's not true in much of Buddhism. It's not true cali Mar 2015 #25
In my personal experience Bettie Mar 2015 #26
Yes,of course, but the fact remains that in Christianity and Judaism there cali Mar 2015 #30
My kids are exposed to spirituality Bettie Mar 2015 #38
Up with the Sufis!-- they represent the sane and truly humanist current in Islam. Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #41
FWIW, many devoted Buddhists would contend that their Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #61
And so are all men. The difference is, as demonstrated by the Imam, we don't have a higher nature... marble falls Mar 2015 #28
Yes, the tendency to selfishness is part of the human condition... Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #48
Neglected to answer your question... Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #59
That's my point. The Imam doesn't have a low opinion of women because of Islam, but because... marble falls Mar 2015 #123
Project much? nt peace13 Mar 2015 #29
Beg your pardon? Project what onto whom? Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #32
My guess is the poster is referring to the Imam in the story. n/t cali Mar 2015 #33
Ah, thanks for the clarification...wish people would put themselves in their reader's shoes. Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #36
Sorry I laid into you like that...intertube misunderstanding. Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #49
No trouble! peace13 Mar 2015 #120
You too! Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #121
Let s/he who is truly selfless BlueMTexpat Mar 2015 #39
^^^This!^^^ Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #43
That's what I say when I can't get laid lame54 Mar 2015 #42
See here, LOL! Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #44
Aw. Show us on the doll where the bad woman questioned you. n/t Orsino Mar 2015 #45
LOL! Good one! Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #46
Yep totally selfish, PumpkinAle Mar 2015 #47
How dare we ? His anti-female indoctrination of men Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #50
Moderate and Imam go together get the red out Mar 2015 #51
^^^This!^^^ Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #54
Classic case of dweeb getting shut down by the pretty girls tavernier Mar 2015 #52
LOL! 'Imam undergoes radical makeover--wows his congregation... Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #56
True Beacool Mar 2015 #93
sick. riversedge Mar 2015 #55
Twisted view of humanity, for sure... Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #57
Well, isn't he special?! Selfish prick. nt stillwaiting Mar 2015 #62
Pot accusing kettle of selfishness... Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #64
If that's "moderate" Islam, it still has no place in modern society. Coventina Mar 2015 #63
Like I said upthread, I hope the French authorities are revising Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #65
I hope so as well. Sadly, I think the link between misogyny and terrorism is one that is often Coventina Mar 2015 #66
Yes, if you can verbally ostracize 51% of the population, Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #67
Especially since "Allah" has created them to be intrinsically inferior, and they only have the Coventina Mar 2015 #68
What I CANNOT understand is that Muslim women put up with this crap... Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #69
They put up with it because the alternative is "hell". Both here and the hereafter. Coventina Mar 2015 #70
Trembling in fear of 'hell' IS one way of structuring your time, I guess... Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #72
Like I said, it's a trap. The problem is, attempting to leave the mass delusion earns you a death Coventina Mar 2015 #73
True dat. Converting out of the faith can lead to a death fatwah. Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #76
Wow. I've seen that look before. Reminds me of a few teachers I had in college. Rex Mar 2015 #71
Hubris, arrogance and superciliousness...have I missed any qualifiers? Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #77
I think some of them are also straight up women haters Rex Mar 2015 #94
In his particular case, I'd say that comes top of the list... Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #95
He's just an ignorant, dangerous asshole, teaching other dangerous, ignorant assholes how to be Zorra Mar 2015 #78
Well, yes... Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #80
This message was self-deleted by its author Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #79
Preach it, sister! Bring on hell, then, if this is his Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #82
sorry Surya, I deleted before I saw you had replied. but, yeah - Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #85
Kinda hard to juggle the 'incomings and outgoings' sometimes. LOL! Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #89
another view here guillaumeb Mar 2015 #81
Hey, thanks for looking into the 'back story' on this... Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #87
See, it's all in the definition of "selfish". Any time a woman doesn't agree with a man mnhtnbb Mar 2015 #83
I'll get behind that 'firewall' with you and say I couldn't agree more Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #90
There's a lot of similarity between patriarchal religions mnhtnbb Mar 2015 #91
Absolutely, I'd say even identical attempts to 'manage' women Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #98
"Refuses to acknowledge the rights - or rather the goodness that man bestows upon her..." riderinthestorm Mar 2015 #84
And yet, paradoxically, he holds himself up as a Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #92
Paternalistic bullcrap!!! Beacool Mar 2015 #86
I'm sure I don't know, but he holds himself up as a Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #99
Well guessing he won't recieve yuiyoshida Mar 2015 #88
I don't give a damn about the guy's personal Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #101
I am pretty sure his personal heartbreaks yuiyoshida Mar 2015 #106
In that case, he's not fit to preach or teach to young Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #107
I think you will find many examples of yuiyoshida Mar 2015 #110
'Not much policing among their own peers.' Certainly Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #111
I've heard the same kind of sexist crap here in the U.S. Manifestor_of_Light Mar 2015 #96
"It's not funny when you realize that people take this crap seriously." Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #102
If he's moderate, what do the not-moderate imams in France think? LittleBlue Mar 2015 #100
The really radical ones preach behind closed doors and on the secret websites... Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #103
The Abrahamic god is a sexist, cruel, capricious asshole Dems to Win Mar 2015 #104
Oh, they do exist, but only when educated enough Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #105
Thank you!!! Coventina Mar 2015 #114
Another woman-hating religulous asshole. hifiguy Mar 2015 #109
Oooh, looks like someone's woman gave him some sass at home. Hekate Mar 2015 #112
'Mal-baisé' is an insult in France...LOL! Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #113
I like it. Hekate Mar 2015 #118
He'd certainly find plenty of 'entente' with the likes of Pat Robertson et al! LeftishBrit Mar 2015 #115
^^^This!^^^ Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #116
What with our defective 'lady brains' and all Matariki Mar 2015 #117
And, our scary 'lady parts'--what's a poor phallocrat to do? Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #119
"phallocrat" Matariki Mar 2015 #131
Kicking for more visibility.... Coventina Mar 2015 #122
Thanks Coventina...wanted to say, what a nice screen name! Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #124
The Patriarchy is strong in this one. n/t Little Tich Mar 2015 #125
Not to mention the blinkered ignorance! Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #126
POS premise. merrily Mar 2015 #127

GCP

(8,166 posts)
1. Well, they will insist on flaunting their ankles
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 06:33 AM
Mar 2015

Thus selfishly driving men into an uncontrollable lust.
No need to do the sarcasm emoticon is there?

MADem

(135,425 posts)
2. Looks like someone can't get a date!!!!
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 06:34 AM
Mar 2015

The lads who don't have any social graces sometimes will blame the woman for their own failings--it not only doesn't work the first time they roll it out, it doesn't get any better with angry repetition, either!!

Who knew that "Khattabi" was arabic for "Loser!"

DetlefK

(16,423 posts)
4. Men, on the other hand, are totally not selfish.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 06:36 AM
Mar 2015

They are so un-selfish that women have to cover up their bodies, otherwise those un-selfish men would be unable to control their selfish desires.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
6. Say what? But, this circular argument sadly
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 06:44 AM
Mar 2015

reflects a lot of the misogynistic crap you see coming from the fundamentalist imam nut-jobs on the Web.

I suspect the French authorities are revising his qualification as 'moderate' on their terror watch list.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
8. The problem is this guy's influence and reach in
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 07:12 AM
Mar 2015

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a country that's very much on edge right now (post-Charlie Hebdo).

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
13. See post just below yours.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 07:59 AM
Mar 2015
'Yes, many muslims would be as shocked by these

over-the-top remarks as we are.

The problem is this guy's influence and reach in a country that's very much on edge right now (post Charlie Hebdo).'

http://www.democraticunderground.com/1016118735#post2

antigone382

(3,682 posts)
108. Right? I grew up hearing the same stuff in my Southern Baptist Church.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 02:13 PM
Mar 2015

My church had divorced members, etc. Compared to Eric Robert Rudolph, or even Pat Robertson, that church was moderate.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
12. Wow, where are you coming from? Here's what I had to say
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 07:57 AM
Mar 2015

on a parallel thread...

http://www.democraticunderground.com/1016118735#post2

"Yes, many muslims would be as shocked by these over-the-top remarks as we are.

The problem is this guy's influence and reach in a country that's very much on edge right now (post Charlie Hebdo)."

Go off half cocked much?

Skidmore

(37,364 posts)
14. If it didn't have such dire consequences for so many women, it would be almost
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:03 AM
Mar 2015

laughable to sit imams in the same room with many fine Christian pastors/priests and some rabbis to see how many ways they could collectively find to justify these "submission" doctrines. I am so done with this type of religiosity.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
15. I can see that scenario in my mind's eye--all of those
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:08 AM
Mar 2015

upstanding 'spiritual' leaders of all stripes, sitting at a round table collectively expressing their hatred and fear of women.

Fundamentalist X-ians, ultra-orthodox Jews, whatever...

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
17. I'm going to get shit for saying this, but here's the BIG difference
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:12 AM
Mar 2015

Yes, there are pastors and rabbis who mirror this guy's "philosophy", but there are lots and lots of past pastors and rabbis who don't. There are lots of Christian and Jewish women clergy. There are large numbers of Christians and Jews who don't espouse anything like women having to be submissive to men. That doesn't hold true within Islam.

That's why "they're all the same" is bullshit false equivalency.

Skidmore

(37,364 posts)
19. And there are many who just sit silently
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:16 AM
Mar 2015

and acquiesce while these teachings flourish. It doesn't take active participation to create the dynamics that make this possible. It takes a lot of good people willing to look aside.

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
22. sure, and there are many who actively pursue the demise of these teachings
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:19 AM
Mar 2015

However you slice and dice it, there are large numbers of liberal Christians and Jews. There is not a corresponding, flourishing movement within Islam. And nowhere within "Christian nations" are people arrested and punished for apostasy. And sorry, but that's a significant difference.

 

Demeter

(85,373 posts)
34. Well, D'uh! The men keep killing them off
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:40 AM
Mar 2015
Malala Yousafzai (Malālah Yūsafzay, Pashto: ملاله یوسفزۍ? [məˈlaːlə jusəf ˈzəj];[1] born 12 July 1997)[2][3] is a Pakistani activist for female education and the youngest-ever Nobel Prize laureate.[4] She is known mainly for human rights advocacy for education and for women in her native Swat Valley in the Khyber Pakhtunkhwa province of northwest Pakistan, where the local Taliban had at times banned girls from attending school. Yousafzai's advocacy has since grown into an international movement.

Her family runs a chain of schools in the region. In early 2009, when she was 11–12, Yousafzai wrote a blog under a pseudonym for the BBC detailing her life under Taliban occupation, their attempts to take control of the valley, and her views on promoting education for girls in the Swat Valley. The following summer, journalist Adam B. Ellick made a New York Times documentary[3] about her life as the Pakistani military intervened in the region. Yousafzai rose in prominence, giving interviews in print and on television, and she was nominated for the International Children's Peace Prize by South African activist Desmond Tutu.

On the afternoon of 9 October 2012, Yousafzai boarded her school bus in the northwest Pakistani district of Swat. A gunman asked for her by name, then pointed a pistol at her and fired three shots. One bullet hit the left side of Yousafzai's forehead, travelled under her skin through the length of her face, and then went into her shoulder.[5] In the days immediately following the attack, she remained unconscious and in critical condition, but later her condition improved enough for her to be sent to the Queen Elizabeth Hospital in Birmingham, England, for intensive rehabilitation. On 12 October, a group of 50 Islamic clerics in Pakistan issued a fatwā against those who tried to kill her, but the Taliban reiterated their intent to kill Yousafzai and her father, Ziauddin Yousafzai.

The assassination attempt sparked a national and international outpouring of support for Yousafzai. Deutsche Welle wrote in January 2013 that Yousafzai may have become "the most famous teenager in the world."[6] United Nations Special Envoy for Global Education Gordon Brown launched a UN petition in Yousafzai's name, demanding that all children worldwide be in school by the end of 2015; it helped lead to the ratification of Pakistan's first Right to Education Bill.[7]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Malala_Yousafzai


Sometimes, they miss.

Skidmore

(37,364 posts)
58. Many more.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 09:51 AM
Mar 2015

Check this site out.

http://www.clarionproject.org/understanding-islamism/muslim-womens-rights-activists

Nothing at all superior about the other two monotheisms. Here we have the state as a layer between religion and its excesses. However, we are seeing that wear thin as successes toward instituting theocracy are occurring.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
60. Hear, hear!
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 10:04 AM
Mar 2015
'However, we are seeing that wear thin as successes toward instituting theocracy are occurring.'
 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
23. Look to the 'fundamentalist' extremes of all of these diverse faiths to find the misogyny...
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:20 AM
Mar 2015

n/t

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
27. Yes, and that's precisely what I said.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:29 AM
Mar 2015

But if you can't see the difference in degree in Islam or the lack of alternatives, you're being obtuse. There isn't another religion that oppresses women to the degree that Islam does- or LGBT folks for that matter.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
31. I resent your qualification of me as 'obtuse'. I really wish you
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:35 AM
Mar 2015

would be more restrained in your use of inflammatory language.

Nowhere have I said I don't see differences in degree, or that I don't see alternatives.

You certainly do have a tendancy to shoot from the hip...

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
35. the "you" was generic. I wasn't referring to you.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:41 AM
Mar 2015

I have a tendency to shoot from the hip? Hey, look in the mirror. YOU castigated (with lots of angry smilies) another poster for his/her comment about "projection", which was pretty clearly about the Imam. You took it personally.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
37. Point taken. That generic 'you' in English causes so much misunderstanding.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:45 AM
Mar 2015

Wish we used the French 'on' or 'one' more frequently.

But, it just sounds too stilted:
'One is obtuse'...sounds like the Queen in her public pronouncements.

 

BlueJazz

(25,348 posts)
40. I find it a little sad that you have to post "I'm going to get shit for ..."
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:54 AM
Mar 2015

Your words should be common knowledge on a forum such as this. I read nothing in your post that could be "put down" or argued with.

get the red out

(13,460 posts)
53. You have that right
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 09:42 AM
Mar 2015

I'm always afraid of being called terrible names for saying that, but since you put it out there, I totally agree. Thank you cali.

I care way too much about women's rights in the world to ever be a "good" liberal.

 

KamaAina

(78,249 posts)
97. There are, however, no Catholic women clergy
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:03 PM
Mar 2015

or Mormon or Orthodox Jewish women clergy, for that matter.

Bettie

(16,072 posts)
21. Religion just twists people
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:17 AM
Mar 2015

I get having belief and faith, but that whole framework that gets put around it tends to make people really rigid and unpleasant.

Doesn't matter what religion it is, it spawns the idea that "X (mine)" is better than "Y (others)".

It gives otherwise decent people an excuse to feel superior to others simply because of differences in their belief in an invisible higher power. It turns people who would be jerks anyway into giant ones with a sense that they are "right" in their beliefs because they can twist that framework to tell themselves that.

That is sad.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
24. TRUE that: "Doesn't matter what religion it is", on the
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:22 AM
Mar 2015

fundamentalist fringes of that religion you will find misogyny.

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
25. That's simply not true. It's not true in much of Buddhism. It's not true
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:23 AM
Mar 2015

for many Christian sects. It's not true in Reform or even Conservative Judaism.

Ever read any Thomas Merton?

Bettie

(16,072 posts)
26. In my personal experience
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:29 AM
Mar 2015

I've never seen any religion without its share of people looking for an excuse to feel superior.

I may not have been as concise as I might have (I did not sleep much last night, so I'm not as on the ball as I'd like), but in any religious group you're going to have those people. Some groups are made up primarily of them, for example, very conservative sects of almost any religion.

My views of religion are colored by my own experiences as well. Religion has done very real harm to me and mine.

I keep my kids away from churches and the damage they can do to people.

There may be some decent ones out there, but I cannot trust in that, nor can I bring myself to truly believe it.

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
30. Yes,of course, but the fact remains that in Christianity and Judaism there
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:33 AM
Mar 2015

are flourishing competing strains of beliefs.

I too kept my kid away from organized religion as I was. But with a difference: My parents didn't acknowledge spirituality at all- and yes, I think that was damaging too.

Oh, and there absolutely are some more than decent ones out there. I've experienced them. Ever been to Unitarian Church? Many Presbyterian Churches are progressive. Reform Jewish Temples, and many more. You're just wrong.

I also want to add that I've known quite a few Sufis and their philosophy is far more inclusive than any other sect of Islam that I'm aware of.

Bettie

(16,072 posts)
38. My kids are exposed to spirituality
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:49 AM
Mar 2015

they also learn about the beliefs of various religions.

The interesting thing is that they have come to the conclusion through evidence in their daily interactions with kids in their school that the ones who talk the most about religion/church are the nastiest kids in school.

We live in a small town in Iowa, so our local choices are ultra-conservative, slightly-less-conservative, and Mormon or JW.

I have many good friends who are religious, even some decent relatives who are.

There are decent people within religions, but for those who are predisposed to being unpleasant, religion offers a convenient excuse and a sense of rightness in their choice to be that kind of person.

And, unfortunately, the loudest voices of religion come from those who would use their beliefs to oppress others.

The guy discussed in the OP is really no different than the loudest voices of Protestantism or Catholicism in this country, though they couch it in slightly more palatable terms.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
61. FWIW, many devoted Buddhists would contend that their
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 10:08 AM
Mar 2015

spirtual practice is NOT a religion, but rather a 'method for right living'.

marble falls

(57,010 posts)
28. And so are all men. The difference is, as demonstrated by the Imam, we don't have a higher nature...
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:31 AM
Mar 2015

A lot of Christian men say that about women, too. Why the emphasis on Islam? Are you sure he isn't a Teapublican?

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
48. Yes, the tendency to selfishness is part of the human condition...
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 09:15 AM
Mar 2015

and sincere spiritual practice in all faiths is intended to overcome it.

But, viewed through the woman-haters' twisted prism, we females are uniquely guilty of this deadly sin.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
59. Neglected to answer your question...
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 10:00 AM
Mar 2015
Why the emphasis on Islam?

This is a piece from a reputable French source, in a country that's very much on edge following a traumatizing incident back in January involving radical Islam (Charlie Hebdo).

The choice of article is mine, but the topic is of general interest here at ground zero, where proudly secular France is trying to come to terms with the potential radicalization of 10% of its population.

marble falls

(57,010 posts)
123. That's my point. The Imam doesn't have a low opinion of women because of Islam, but because...
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 10:01 PM
Mar 2015

he an imperfect man.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
32. Beg your pardon? Project what onto whom?
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:38 AM
Mar 2015

What the hell are you talking about?

The article quoted is from a reputable French source. Where is there projection and of what?

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
36. Ah, thanks for the clarification...wish people would put themselves in their reader's shoes.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:42 AM
Mar 2015

Just a short aside would sometimes prevent so many misunderstandings.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
49. Sorry I laid into you like that...intertube misunderstanding.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 09:18 AM
Mar 2015

Last edited Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:31 PM - Edit history (1)

It has been brought to my attention that you were referring to the imam and not to me.

 

peace13

(11,076 posts)
120. No trouble!
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 05:51 PM
Mar 2015

You got it! I posted that and then went out and about! Sorry it took so long for me to get back to you! Have a great evening! : )

BlueMTexpat

(15,365 posts)
39. Let s/he who is truly selfless
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:52 AM
Mar 2015

cast the first stone.

This imam does not qualify as selfless, IMO. But he also has many kindred spirits in the so-called "Christian" world.

PumpkinAle

(1,210 posts)
47. Yep totally selfish,
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 09:11 AM
Mar 2015

wanting to be treated as equals and ignoring what the small-minded, religious indoctrinated fools out there.

Just how could they??!!

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
50. How dare we ? His anti-female indoctrination of men
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 09:30 AM
Mar 2015

and his insistence on the natural culpability of women is just beyond belief.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
54. ^^^This!^^^
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 09:43 AM
Mar 2015

At least for Southern Baptists!

There are moderate imams, but they are never heard in the press...

Is that due to fear of blowback from the Islamist nut-jobs?

tavernier

(12,369 posts)
52. Classic case of dweeb getting shut down by the pretty girls
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 09:41 AM
Mar 2015

and holding a grudge for life.

I mean, really? Do you think any big brown-eyed beauty (and possibly the only part of her body she was allowed to uncover) would take one look at dork boy and want to hop on his magic carpet?

I think not.

Maybe if Imo got a makeover (a shave, some new frames, a hat with a sexy brim??), he could get a date and be a little less cranky?

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
56. LOL! 'Imam undergoes radical makeover--wows his congregation...
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 09:48 AM
Mar 2015

Last edited Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:33 PM - Edit history (2)

becomes suprisingly tolerant and open-minded.'

The French call the syndrom 'mal-baisé', which means 'he ain't gettin' any'.

Beacool

(30,247 posts)
93. True
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:57 PM
Mar 2015

I find that a lot of men seem to have an overinflated view of themselves. How many times do guys comment on the internet about whether some woman is "doable"? As if the sum total of these women's value was to be considered attractive enough to have sex with them. The funny thing is that most of these women would probably not even look twice at these guys.

The same self delusion seems to be how many guys think that they are good lovers, when the reality is the opposite. Cosmo printed a poll recently that stated that 67% of women had at one point or another faked orgasms (mostly to get the whole thing over with or just not to hurt their partner's feelings).

"Cosmopolitan surveyed over 2,300 women aged 18-40 in an online poll about the female orgasm, and the results were eye-opening. The majority of respondents (67 percent) said they have faked an orgasm with a partner, and 72 percent have been with a partner who climaxed but didn't attempt to help them orgasm. Women also reported that their partners orgasmed 95 percent of the time."

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/03/23/cosmo-orgasm-survey_n_6923934.html

Yeah, women are the selfish gender........

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
64. Pot accusing kettle of selfishness...
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 10:39 AM
Mar 2015

Ignorant prick, besides selfish.

And, the alarming part is, this guy preaches to hundreds of impressionable young Muslims every Friday, in a country that is in crisis mode after the recent trauma involving radical Islam. (Charlie Hebdo)

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
65. Like I said upthread, I hope the French authorities are revising
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 10:43 AM
Mar 2015

his qualification as 'moderate' on their terror watch list. And, agree with urge to .

Coventina

(27,059 posts)
66. I hope so as well. Sadly, I think the link between misogyny and terrorism is one that is often
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 11:06 AM
Mar 2015

overlooked.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
67. Yes, if you can verbally ostracize 51% of the population,
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 11:09 AM
Mar 2015

what's to stop you from torturing and murdering them at will?

Coventina

(27,059 posts)
68. Especially since "Allah" has created them to be intrinsically inferior, and they only have the
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 11:35 AM
Mar 2015

rights men deign to give them.

Excuse me, I have to go


I'm sick and tired of this bronze-age crap........

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
69. What I CANNOT understand is that Muslim women put up with this crap...
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 11:42 AM
Mar 2015

enabling and abetting the men in their lives.

I guess if you're brought up under a patriarchal regime, and are indoctrinated with the idea that you are inherently inferior to your male master, you can only believe it.

And, yes, once again.

Coventina

(27,059 posts)
70. They put up with it because the alternative is "hell". Both here and the hereafter.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:05 PM
Mar 2015

Patriarchy has a certain appeal: it presents a structure where you "belong" and if everyone follows the rules, you will be rewarded.

However, the trap is that the rules are NEVER followed, and if you are in the position of being powerless (a woman) there is no way to appeal for justice. You're just supposed to suck it up and wait for your reward in heaven.

"Live on hay, you get pie in the sky when you die."

Coventina

(27,059 posts)
73. Like I said, it's a trap. The problem is, attempting to leave the mass delusion earns you a death
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:17 PM
Mar 2015

sentence as well.

 

Rex

(65,616 posts)
71. Wow. I've seen that look before. Reminds me of a few teachers I had in college.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:10 PM
Mar 2015

They knew their shit, but were arrogant and always felt like they were right on every subject in the world. He probably is a moderate considering how women get treated in the Middle East by some fiefdoms. Sad to say.

 

Rex

(65,616 posts)
94. I think some of them are also straight up women haters
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:01 PM
Mar 2015

that can hide behind the iman and their religion. So add sadistic to that list too.

Zorra

(27,670 posts)
78. He's just an ignorant, dangerous asshole, teaching other dangerous, ignorant assholes how to be
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:29 PM
Mar 2015

more effective at being dangerous ignorant assholes.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
80. Well, yes...
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:36 PM
Mar 2015

And sadly, a lot of them are impressionable young men who will take his 'teachings' on board, and think that beating their wives and heading off to kill the 'infidels' is just dandy.

Response to Surya Gayatri (Original post)

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
85. sorry Surya, I deleted before I saw you had replied. but, yeah -
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:40 PM
Mar 2015

this asshole needs to fuck right off. I don't want his heaven.

guillaumeb

(42,641 posts)
81. another view here
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:36 PM
Mar 2015

also from the text:

Contacted by FRANCE 24, the French Muslim Council (CFCM), the department of religions of the French Interior Ministry and the mayor’s office in Montpellier all refused to comment on Imam Khattabi’s remarks on women.
This kind of rhetoric has got Khattabi in trouble before. After ten years as the rector of the Grand Mosque of Montpellier, Khattabi was forced out of his post in November last year by the mosque’s governing association, ACMIR.
The association, which preaches “togetherness” and “openness” said the imam’s views were “not compatible” with its own vision.
"Mohamed Khattabi is alleged to have taken decisions and given 'orders without advising legal managers' and to have used ‘Friday sermons for personal goals", reported regional daily le Midi Libre at the time.
Yet, up to that point, Khattabi had been known more for his pacifism and tolerance.
In June 2013, while still imam of the Grand Mosque of Montpellier, he described himself to the French daily Le Monde as a “promoter of an Islam within French society, of coexistence”.
After the discovery of the death in Syria of several young jihadists from the town of Lunel, located 30km from Montpellier, he issued a warning to other young French Muslims not to get “bamboozled” by extremist organisations, like the Islamic State group.


When one speaks of Islam as a single entity, with one viewpoint, problems arise. The article speaks of the Imam being forced from a position by ACMIR, the governing organization of the Mosque. So my quarrel with the post is that by focusing solely on the Imam's remarks the poster is presenting the view that Islam IS a religion with one single view of the role of women.

(Mon opinion seulement)

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
87. Hey, thanks for looking into the 'back story' on this...
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:44 PM
Mar 2015
'In June 2013, while still imam of the Grand Mosque of Montpellier, (Khattabi) described himself to the French daily Le Monde as a “promoter of an Islam within French society, of coexistence”.'

Oh, reeeeally? How's that working out for ya, O Great One?

mnhtnbb

(31,374 posts)
83. See, it's all in the definition of "selfish". Any time a woman doesn't agree with a man
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:39 PM
Mar 2015

on his needs/wants coming first, well, that's selfish, according to this guy.

That penis is powerful stuff to the patriarchal types. Doesn't matter what the
religion, the penis comes first, and any woman who doesn't acknowledge that, well,
she's just "selfish".

OK, getting ready for my very first hide.






 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
90. I'll get behind that 'firewall' with you and say I couldn't agree more
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:49 PM
Mar 2015

about the 'power of the penis' in fundamentalist religious movements.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
98. Absolutely, I'd say even identical attempts to 'manage' women
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:09 PM
Mar 2015

and their 'scary' will to be considered as more than second-class beings.

 

riderinthestorm

(23,272 posts)
84. "Refuses to acknowledge the rights - or rather the goodness that man bestows upon her..."
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:40 PM
Mar 2015


He's pissed at uppity women in the west who don't know their submissive place in the patriarchy.

We won't "acknowledge" a man's "rights"...to sex, or the "right" to deny us equality, fiscal freedom, reproductive choices, independence and all those other crazy values.

Ugh. Sometimes religions is just such a brainwashing machine it makes me ill.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
92. And yet, paradoxically, he holds himself up as a
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:53 PM
Mar 2015

paragon of religious co-existence in France!

See here:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10026435980#post81
'In June 2013, while still imam of the Grand Mosque of Montpellier, he described himself to the French daily Le Monde as a “promoter of an Islam within French society, of coexistence”.'

Beacool

(30,247 posts)
86. Paternalistic bullcrap!!!
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:43 PM
Mar 2015

The kindness of men???????? Throughout centuries women were treated like second class citizens without the right to vote or even own property. They were passed from their father to their husband, as if they were children who couldn't survive without a man to take care of them. Every right that women have achieved have been fought hard by the women of the era. There's still wage inequality. There's still sexism in Western societies, let alone in other cultures.

What is this idiot talking about?


 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
99. I'm sure I don't know, but he holds himself up as a
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:12 PM
Mar 2015

model of religious tolerance and co-existence in France.

See here:

'In June 2013, while still imam of the Grand Mosque of Montpellier, he described himself to the French daily Le Monde as a “promoter of an Islam within French society, of coexistence”.'

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10026435980#post81

yuiyoshida

(41,818 posts)
88. Well guessing he won't recieve
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:45 PM
Mar 2015

Any Chocolates for Valentines day, or any gifts either from Woman. It must be horrible to spend your life with your nose wrapped in a book, and not living life with some of us around. He's certainly a bitter guy, ne?

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
101. I don't give a damn about the guy's personal
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:18 PM
Mar 2015

heartbreaks or 'chagrin d'amour' with females.

My concern is that he's preaching this misogynistic shite to hundreds of impressionable young Muslims every damn Friday in the 'proudly secular' country of France.

yuiyoshida

(41,818 posts)
106. I am pretty sure his personal heartbreaks
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:58 PM
Mar 2015

and failures is what influences him to teach this misogynistic crap..other wise why go all the trouble to focus on one aspect of Islamic teachings.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
107. In that case, he's not fit to preach or teach to young
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 02:08 PM
Mar 2015

impressionable minds.

If personal prejudices have corrupted his intellectual approach, he shouldn't be allowed to excercise his profession, Imam (teacher).

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Teachers_in_Islam

yuiyoshida

(41,818 posts)
110. I think you will find many examples of
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 02:33 PM
Mar 2015

this kind of thinking in among all kinds of religious teachings. Religions where ministers are morally corrupt and have passed down this kind of thinking for generations. Yes they should be removed, but who will remove them? Not much policing among their own peers. Perhaps its why the Catholic Church moved Child molesting Clergy from one spot to another, to avoid more scandal.

 

Manifestor_of_Light

(21,046 posts)
96. I've heard the same kind of sexist crap here in the U.S.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:03 PM
Mar 2015

Educated women such as myself are BAD. As far as I can tell, Christianity's formula is penis = wisdom. Just like the other two Abrahamic religions. The Trinity is all male, so there is no room for female deities unless you're Catholic and pray to Mary as an intercessor.

Where I live, men will assume that my husband owns the house so they address him. Or they call him by "Mr. My Last Name".

It's not funny when you realize that people take this crap seriously.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
102. "It's not funny when you realize that people take this crap seriously."
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:28 PM
Mar 2015

Especially in a country where over 10% of the population is Muslim and they can hear this kind of shite every Friday at the mosque.

Young Muslim men hear this crap and then go home with a pretext to beat their wives and girlfriends.

(Not to mention having a pass to go off to Islamic war zones where they can kill and torture with impunity...)

 

LittleBlue

(10,362 posts)
100. If he's moderate, what do the not-moderate imams in France think?
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:14 PM
Mar 2015

This is why I politely pass when people come to my door with their religious solutions to life. Nope, we are not interested, have a nice day! ........

 

Dems to Win

(2,161 posts)
104. The Abrahamic god is a sexist, cruel, capricious asshole
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:50 PM
Mar 2015

Not a being worthy of worship, in my view. I support Lot's wife.

In order to pretend that Islam, Judaism, or Christianity is not a sexist religion, practitioners have to be willing to ignore large swaths of their holy books.

Seeking a 'moderate' Islam is a fool's errand. This guy is representing the reality of Islam and Yahweh.

 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
105. Oh, they do exist, but only when educated enough
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:56 PM
Mar 2015

to understand that their religion's particular holy writ cannot be the prescription for a liberal, tolerant society.

Coventina

(27,059 posts)
114. Thank you!!!
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 02:55 PM
Mar 2015

It can't be said enough.

The entire Abrahamic tradition is misogynistic, racist, and violent to its core.


 

Surya Gayatri

(15,445 posts)
113. 'Mal-baisé' is an insult in France...LOL!
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 02:42 PM
Mar 2015

Means 'not getting any', and behaving badly because of it...

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