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Thu Apr 30, 2015, 12:43 PM

Prom Dress Sparks Debate for Being Too Revealing

Mireya Briceno, a high school senior, was kicked out of her prom for wearing this dress, which supposedly violated the dress code. (Photo: Connie Briceno)

The mother of an 18-year-old girl is speaking out this week after her daughter was kicked out of her high school prom on Friday for supposedly violating the school dress code.

Connie Briceno went prom dress shopping with her daughter, Mireya, and did so with the Muskegon High School dress code in mind, she says. “The guidelines specifically said backless dresses are acceptable,” the Michigan mom tells Yahoo Parenting. “The rules stated the dress needed to adhere to the ‘fingertip rule’ – meaning the dress had to hit below your fingertip when standing with her arms by your side. They also said no midriff showing, which to me means stomach. And they said the words ‘backless dresses are acceptable.’”



Seems like a double standard to me.

What irked my wife even more was down in the article her mother stated:

Connie says her daughter left the prom immediately, without inquiring about the unfair treatment. “I’ve taught her to be respectful, and that if you are told something by a teacher, you listen,” she says. “She’s not one of those people to ask why and question authority.”

Still, once she got to the parking lot, Mireya called home crying and asked what she should do, Connie says. “She asked what she can do, and I said ‘there’s nothing you can do.’ I told her to go to dinner with her boyfriend, and try to enjoy her evening,” she says. “She was really upset. She has her boyfriend’s prom in two weeks, but still, this was her prom. She missed out on a memorable time with her friends


My wife was irritated. You can question authority respectfully. Why didn't the mother go down to the prom ask to see the principal and ask why her daughter's backless dress was unacceptable when your rules state that backless dresses are acceptable.



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Reply Prom Dress Sparks Debate for Being Too Revealing (Original post)
diabeticman Apr 2015 OP
stevenleser Apr 2015 #1
notadmblnd Apr 2015 #2
Polly Hennessey Apr 2015 #3
LittleBlue Apr 2015 #4
MineralMan Apr 2015 #5
randome Apr 2015 #9
catrose Apr 2015 #11
NuclearDem Apr 2015 #14
stevenleser Apr 2015 #15
WillowTree Apr 2015 #6
JI7 Apr 2015 #7
WillowTree Apr 2015 #20
stevenleser Apr 2015 #10
DefenseLawyer Apr 2015 #8
Takket Apr 2015 #12
stevenleser Apr 2015 #13
Stallion Apr 2015 #16
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stevenleser Apr 2015 #17
muriel_volestrangler Apr 2015 #18
Iris Apr 2015 #19

Response to diabeticman (Original post)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 12:44 PM

1. I found pics of her dress. There is nothing wrong with it. Here it is

 

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Response to stevenleser (Reply #1)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 12:47 PM

2. she looks like Flo from those insurance commercials

I love the dress.

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Response to stevenleser (Reply #1)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 01:01 PM

3. Dress

Nothing wrong with dress. She looks great in it and looks very happy to be wearing it.

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Response to stevenleser (Reply #1)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 01:03 PM

4. Nothing wrong with it

 

People with nothing else to do, doing too much

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Response to stevenleser (Reply #1)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 01:03 PM

5. But I can see her back! The horror!

Cute dress. Cute girl. Stupid school.

It's not everyone who can get away with polka dots at the prom.

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Response to stevenleser (Reply #1)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 01:16 PM

9. I think the rules meant 'backless and heavyset'.

 

If you're slim, that's an entirely different story. Apparently.
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Response to randome (Reply #9)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 01:37 PM

11. I'd have said "curvy" or "Rubenesque"

or some other positive way of saying what a lovely, womanly body she's put into that dress--but I agree that that's the problem. She looks TOO good; it must be wrong.

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Response to stevenleser (Reply #1)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 01:50 PM

14. ...that's "revealing?"

 

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Response to NuclearDem (Reply #14)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 01:57 PM

15. Well... compared to the general attire at the convent...

 

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Response to diabeticman (Original post)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 01:08 PM

6. It was because it continued to be bare around the sides.

I heard her interviewed this morning and she said that she wore her date's jacket when they entered the dance because she knew that the dress didn't comply with the rules they had been given.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with the dress, but if she knew that it would violate the rules and she wore it anyway, my sympathy is limited. You pays your money and you takes your chance. In this case, it didn't pay off.

And the "someone else did it too" argument never worked on me, either.

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Response to WillowTree (Reply #6)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 01:10 PM

7. that is a common style in dresses these days

Hers is actually less revealing than many others still.

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Response to JI7 (Reply #7)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 06:02 PM

20. I get it. I think the dress is perfecty OK as well.

But she knew what the rules were, so she knew she was taking a chance. This probably won't be the last time in her life when she'll have to decide whether to live by a stupid rule made by someone in a position to make it or risk consequences.

We all get to face that particular monkey now and again. I'm up against one of those right now at work and I have to accept that it's their playpen so they get to make the rules, even if they're dumb........or take a chance of getting my hand slapped (which is surely all that would happen if it blew up on me). I'm going with not rocking the proverbial boat 'cause it's not all that important to me.

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Response to WillowTree (Reply #6)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 01:34 PM

10. Attempting to control outfits at senior proms is not OK IMHO. At that point, the kids are adults.

 

If anyone should be exercising control it's the parents. Parents pay for the dresses after all. I reposted my daughter's dress on my FB page as a TBT after thinking about this issue. It was less conservative than this poor girls dress https://www.facebook.com/steve.leser .

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Response to diabeticman (Original post)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 01:13 PM

8. I'm a small man in some ways, Bart. A small, petty man.

 

Three months detention.

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Response to diabeticman (Original post)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 01:40 PM

12. Couldn't her mom have just drove

A sweater up to the school for her to wear?

And I agree, nothing wrong with the dress

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Response to Takket (Reply #12)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 01:48 PM

13. In most cases yes. Although my prom was 35-45 minutes drive from my house.

 

I've heard some being longer distances. It may not have been practical.

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Response to diabeticman (Original post)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 01:58 PM

16. Ugly Dress-But Not Too Revealing

nm

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Response to Stallion (Reply #16)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 02:05 PM

17. .

 

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Response to diabeticman (Original post)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 02:34 PM

18. Link (although everyone else seems to know what the dress looked like

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Response to diabeticman (Original post)

Thu Apr 30, 2015, 02:37 PM

19. Every damn year. n/t

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