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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsDo you think "It's not right to say things about Bill Cosby because he hasn't been convicted" is
an acceptable position given everything we know at this time? Is it a decent way to handle 48 women accusing Cosby of similar rapes? Given what we know about Cosby admitting under oath to procuring Quaaludes in order to have sex with the women? Knowing what we know about rape culture, is it a Liberal or Progressive way to behave and to treat the experience of women to dismiss the allegations by saying "He hasn't been convicted"?
Whoopi Goldberg who I otherwise love and even several DUers have done this. Is this OK for you?
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ann---
(1,933 posts)by saying he hasn't been convicted. It just means
that the allegations haven't been proven in a court
of law.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)ann---
(1,933 posts)It would be "dismissing the allegations" if someone
said he was definitely not guilty. Saying allegations
aren't proven is NOT saying one is innocent.
What has happened to us that we cannot be reasonable
any more?
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)sad that there are so few reasonable people left
on the left.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)demmiblue
(36,838 posts)stevenleser
(32,886 posts)hypocritical it is for the folks demanding we not accuse Cosby without a conviction. Any of the folks doing that have been happy to accuse plenty of other folks i.e. Bush, Cheney, etc., of all kinds of things without a conviction. Why won't they do the same for the women in this situation?
I think it is a fair question. Why don't women, particularly women who have been sexually assaulted, rate in these people's minds?
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)DeadLetterOffice
(1,352 posts)The thing that really bothers me is when WOMEN don't believe other women who have been assaulted.
I mean seriously, wtf?
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)the way they got those other gals to gang up on her. So awful.
Major Nikon
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stevenleser
(32,886 posts)situation. Probably not an alert-worthy post, but in general, casually dismissing the experience of these women in this situation should be hide worthy, perhaps even PPR worthy. I would argue it is approaching, if not over the line of rape apologia.
marym625
(17,997 posts)But on this one, I agree 100% In fact, I think it is way over the line. It is more than a innocent until proven guilty in this case. It's blaming the victims and even calling them liars. So it's OK to prosecute and convict them here.
Makes me sick
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)marym625
(17,997 posts)You victim blame, "Seems that his actions were horrible - cheating on his wife and all.
I just wonder WHY these women didn't think it was risky to swallow the pills he gave them. Not blaming the victim, but just asking why ANY woman would do that and WHY if they thought they were raped, didn't they report it at the time that it happened."
If they thought they were raped? Jesus fucking christ!
You seem to think his cheating on his wife, who seems to have played a part in this, is worse than what he did to these women. Women who were little more than girls when he drugged and raped them.
Your comments in that post make me physically ill. I don't believe I have ever seen a woman on a progressive site say anything so egregious about rape.
And here you are actually saying, "Really sad that there are so few reasonable people left on the left." Absolutely mind boggling.
Let's say Dylann Roof is not guilty because only 3 people saw him shoot 9 people dead. After all, he hasn't been convicted of anything.
Cosby admitted to buying drugs and using them "to have sex" with women. 48 women have the same story. But one case from ten years ago doesn't have enough evidence to charge him, per one prosecutor, and that's enough for you?
You actually ask why didn't they report it at the time? Are you seriously asking this question? Have you any idea what a rape victim suffers through? Do you have any idea what it was like at the time of these rapes? Talk about victim blaming. Add in the fact we're talking about going after a celebrity. A larger than life, and as time went on, a beloved father figure, rich and powerful man.
I don't expect an answer to this question, because I understand how deeply personal it is, but I would like you to think about this. Have you ever been raped? Have you ever been sexually molested? Chances are, you have been. Chances are you have been more than once. Assuming you are over 30 and it happened to you more than 10 years ago, chances are you didn't report it. So was it your fault? Did you bring it on yourself?
I am disgusted with your response. You don't want to convict Cosby on a website but you have no problem whatsoever of convicting 48 women. It's absolutely disgusting.
I will take a hide on this. Your responses on this make me ill. I have been raped. Twice. I was sexually molested at the age of 5 by a neighbor boy 7 years older than I. Never reported any of it. I didn't even tell anyone about what happened when I was a child until I was 17 years old. So, according to you, I am suspect.
These women have nothing to gain from going public. Nada. Even the very few that can bring civil charges against their rapist could never receive enough money to make up for what happened to them.
Reasonable people left on the left? How is condemning a man that has admitted to buying drugs to have "sex with a woman," that has had different women throughout his career come forward to accuse him, and the women then vilified and found guilty in the press, that has 48 accusations against him, whose agent has admitted to "fixing the problems," unreasonable?
Shame on you. You disgust me. You won't accuse him but you will accuse the women, blame them and try to put doubt into the horrific experiences they had at the hands of this rapist and the people that helped him. You are a hypocrite.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)marym625
(17,997 posts)Hekate
(90,633 posts)Thanks for what you said.
What the rape apologists don't get ( or maybe they do get it and it's useful to them) is that long shocked silence is the norm, especially when the betrayal is by someone the victim trusted and someone who has a good reputation among people they both know.
I was "only" molested for "only" a year by my father whom so many loved. I was 12. I kept my silence for 20 years, and only broke it when my little girl was in danger. The consequences of speaking out rolled on and on and on. My mother never forgave me, and my brother still thinks I must be a liar, or at best exaggerating. My family of origin broke to pieces. I still have my sister, but the losses were crushing.
Bill Cosby wasn't just A father, he was the whole country's father. Loved, trusted, admired -- he bestrode the stage of this life like a god. Speaking out against that persona invites the wrath of a whole society, especially the media that can destroy an outlier like a pack of wolves.
But he's not a good father, or a sidekick/hero, or a cuddly doctor -- he only played them on TV. In real life he is a serial rapist of spectacular proportions, with a posse of protectors and enablers.
marym625
(17,997 posts)I'm sorry about what happened to you. I'm sorry about what happened with your family. Your comparison is perfect though.
I honestly don't think I have ever seen anything here that has made me as angry as this did.
Thank you for your reply. All of it.
bravenak
(34,648 posts)marym625
(17,997 posts)Just disgusted.
bravenak
(34,648 posts)Such an unassuming name to spew out vileness.
marym625
(17,997 posts)I can honestly say I have never seen anything here before that is quite so vile.
bravenak
(34,648 posts)Omfg! Why is someone like that still here?
bravenak
(34,648 posts)But it was about the slaves being just like family members and shit. All happy times. Don't know if the poster is still here. Probably is though. DU Whatchagonnado eh?
marym625
(17,997 posts)There are no words
mythology
(9,527 posts)to your position.
Just because you state something ardently, doesn't actually make you correct.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)The court is one of the very few ways at getting to the truth. (And unfortunately, it is not 100% reliable.)
Codeine
(25,586 posts)on the wrong side of yet another issue.
razorman
(1,644 posts)We are allowed to believe and say anything we want.
HFRN
(1,469 posts)that makes the public legitimately his jury
i vote to convict
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)was one of his early rape victims. This was on a panel with Gloria Allred on CNN yesterday.
What kind of person casually dismisses all we know with "he hasn't been convicted" given Steubenville and all the other things that women face in dealing with sexual assault?
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)I had a friend who was like that about OJ because she was a fan at a very young age. She didn't WANT to believe it so she didn't. She kept herself so ignorant she had no idea there was a big history of physical abuse. She would not grow up and take him off the pedestal.
ann---
(1,933 posts)judicial system works. You may "convict" him in the
court of public opinion, but legally, he is still innocent
and all of those allegations have yet to be proven or
weighed in a court of law.
HFRN
(1,469 posts)but enough evidence has been presented to show him to be a complete scumbag beyond any reasonable doubt
being liked and respected is not a constitutional right
ann---
(1,933 posts)to which you are entitled. I said nothing about liking or respecting him.
The question was about whether it is "not right to say things about him."
I assumed the questioner meant not right to say "bad" things about
him.
Everyone has the right to express their opinion. But, those who don't
jump on the "kill Bill" wagon should be allowed to have theirs, too.
HFRN
(1,469 posts)that his saying that he bought qualudes with the intent to give to women is not proof that he actually did it
he may have just intended to do it - LOL!
ann---
(1,933 posts)It was a CIVIL case - because the DA in PA said today that
there was not enough evidence to charge him - whether he
intended to give them to anyone. Giving drugs to someone
is not rape.
And - giving drugs to women may be illegal, but it was just
as illegal for the women to TAKE them. Why did they do it?
No all women would take an illegal substance and think it
was perfectly normal to do so.
DeadLetterOffice
(1,352 posts)is not rape.
And - giving drugs to women may be illegal, but it was just
as illegal for the women to TAKE them. Why did they do it?
No all women would take an illegal substance and think it
was perfectly normal to do so.
Giving drugs to someone can be done without their knowledge.
Taking a drug someone gave you makes it ok that you were then raped??
You don't know what the women involved were thinking, let alone that they thought it was "normal."
What the fuck is WRONG with you?
derby378
(30,252 posts)If I give drugs to a woman, and they render her unconscious, and I proceed to have my way with her without her ability to give or deny consent, that is rape. Even fondling her breasts while she's knocked out can be prosecuted as a form of sexual assault.
I don't understand some of the people on DU today, and I'm not sure I want to.
DeadLetterOffice
(1,352 posts)... then you'd be irrational too.
best not to even try to understand some folks. It'll just make your head explode, and that's messy.
bloom
(11,635 posts)Guy Whitey Corngood
(26,500 posts)the post above. You're a fucking idiot or a troll.... or both.
I'll proudly take the hide.
Peace out!
marym625
(17,997 posts)I saw this stuff this morning and I am still absolutely flabbergasted. At least 3 of us have said we'll take a hide over this. And she just kept making it worse with almost every post
bravenak
(34,648 posts)Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)stevenleser
(32,886 posts)it's pretty easy to get annoyed with people discounting the 48 women who were raped.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)Guy Whitey Corngood
(26,500 posts)pnwmom
(108,973 posts)He isn't innocent in the minds of most of the public, even if his wealth allowed him to make substantial settlements and escape prosecution in the courts.
davidpdx
(22,000 posts)to be saying the same thing to just dismiss it. At the same time I think reasonably one can't claim he is guilty because that legally isn't the case. It is unfortunate that the statute of limitation ran out before any of rapes could be prosecuted. Even a conviction on one case would be better than nothing.
I saw the clip with Goldberg (who I also admire) and the gal who used to be on Cosby's show discussing the case on The View. Both are very bias in favor of Cosby, no surprises there. My take is there will be no amount of evidence to sway those who believe he didn't do it.
Personally if I were a prosecutor, I'd go after the doctors and anyone else involved with the cover-up for drug charges, perjury, or obstruction of justice. Then again, I'm not a lawyer or a prosecutor.
BKH70041
(961 posts)Do you think "It's not right to say things about Bill Cosby because he hasn't been convicted" is an acceptable position given everything we know at this time?"
Yes, it is an acceptable position, just not one I would take. And as you can see, she doesn't care if you like it or not, so I can admire her for that even though, unlike you, I don't really care for her.
Your question could have been made with fewer words:
"Do you think "It's not right to say things about Bill Cosby because he hasn't been convicted" is an acceptable position given everything we know at this time? Is it a decent way to handle 48 women accusing Cosby of similar rapes? Given what we know about Cosby admitting under oath to procuring Quaaludes in order to have sex with the women? Knowing what we know, is it a proper way to behave to treat the experience of these women and dismiss their allegations by saying "He hasn't been convicted"?"
I think that would have made your question even more clear.
PragmaticLiberal
(904 posts)I happen to think he's guilty as hell but if someone thinks differently, well whatever.
Just not something I lose sleep over.
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)Everyone knows he hasn't been convicted, so why bring it up. Over and over and over.
Rape cases very seldom make it to trial, even when the alleged perp does everything short of wear a t-shirt that says "I'm a rapist" to display his obvious involvement.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)I pointed that out and then one of those folks started accusing me of things.
I think their irony-awareness thing is broken.
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)We have cookies and snark, pull up a seat.
Octafish
(55,745 posts)I'm interested in learning something from you.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)I am sure there are hundreds of examples where you have pronounced judgement on people. You're just not willing to do it in this instance and are asserting you have some sort of principle preventing you from doing so, which you don't.
Octafish
(55,745 posts)What bettyellen wrote:
Full of baloney, you are.
Rape apology is disgusting- but not surprising though.
Nowhere does she show where I actually wrote any of that. Come to think of it, neither do you.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)Octafish
(55,745 posts)Should a journalist call a man a "rapist" when he has not been convicted of rape?
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)Octafish
(55,745 posts)It is no where to be found in the three threads on the subject we've both posted on.
tammywammy
(26,582 posts)Everyone knows he's never been convicted. I'm not the government or court, so I'm free to say he's guilty.
Anyone continuing to post a "but he's never been convicted!!" is full of bullshit.
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)There are all kinds of people who have never been convicted for acts we all know they are responsible for. It's called pattern recognition.
We don't have any power here but our opinions. The constant throwing up of a fact everyone knows smacks of circling the wagons.
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)It would be good to see DUers being consistent on this issue.
ann---
(1,933 posts)Zimmerman went to trial by jury and was found not guilty.
Cosby has never been charged, convicted or found not guilty of
any crime.
What is so unreasonable about the FACTS?
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)before concluding that he was not guilty, while no jury has ever evaluated the evidence against Cosby. So I understand that what you are saying is that Zimmerman is actually not guilty as a matter of law, while this obviously does not apply to Cosby.
ann---
(1,933 posts)Cosby is innocent until proven guilty - in the eyes of the law.
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)In fact, even more so with Zimmerman, because Zimmerman can never be tried again, so there is no possibility of Zimmerman ever being proven guilty. Cosby, on the other hand, could theoretically be convicted of rape.
ann---
(1,933 posts)He was found "not guilty" in the eyes of the law, which doesn't
mean he is innocent. Just because he cannot be tried again
doesn't mean he didn't really murder Trayvon Martin in the
eyes of many people who were NOT on that jury.
All the facts of Cosby's case have not be heard nor has he had
the benefit of a legal defense at court.
If you want to convict Cosby in your mind - go right ahead.
I'll wait for more proof.
To me, he was wrong to cheat on his wife in the first place.
But, it seems all the facts are not in as to how he was able
to convince so many women to take drugs and have sex with
him - without them going to the police about it when they felt
violated.
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)stevenleser
(32,886 posts)gollygee
(22,336 posts)DeadLetterOffice
(1,352 posts)lame54
(35,282 posts)tavernier
(12,375 posts)This is the same man who gave me the biggest belly laughs of my life, from childhood on. Some of his classic joke lines are still part of my vocabulary.
I guess the moral of that story is that people are not all good or all bad. Sadly, all of the smiles and the laughter that he provided are now tainted. I feel a bit like Emma Thompson's line in Love Actually: "You've made my life seem foolish."
And that's all I have to say about that.
😰
Algernon Moncrieff
(5,790 posts)He performed the same set that ultimately became the movie "Bill Cosby: Himself." I literally laughed so hard I cried.
Like you, I grew up listening to him talk about growing up in the projects; his brother Russell; his father; driving in San Francisco; Fat Albert; playing football at Temple; playing Buck Buck; installing aircraft engines in cars....
We let celebrities into our lives, and we think we know them. Then we find out we really knew nothing about them at all. I'm deeply saddened. I'm sad for my memories; I'm sad for Cosby's family; I'm sad for the victims -- and I'm sad for Cosby himself -- for the waste of most, if not all of the good he tried to do.
LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)and there seems to be more than enough evidence for an informed opinion.
Orrex
(63,199 posts)ann---
(1,933 posts)rapist.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)She doesn't understand the legal system in contrast with the court of public opinion. The two should in no way reflect one and other. She was attempting to address it as if it was from the public opinion standpoint, and that everyone around her was a doofus and she was enlightened. In fact, she is as wrong as it gets. Cosby is guilty in the court of public opinion. I will guarantee Whoopi, through education, would agree. Here is her education on the court of public opinion. Dear Whoopi, would you send a young woman you care about and love over to Cosbys house alone and unattended, tell her he is a sweet and fatherly figure, and tell her to sit on his lap and be sweet. There is only one answer to that. That answer goes against Whoopi and her thoughts on the topic.
To think as she is trying to put on would be a danger to herself, those she loves, and society as a whole.
Then again, Whoopi also refused to call a man who had sex with an unconscious 13 year old girl a rapist. She actually creates different tiers of rape in order to not call certain people rapists. This isn't her first time doing this.
http://jezebel.com/5369395/whoopi-on-roman-polanski-it-wasnt-rape-rape
alphafemale
(18,497 posts)Who, even among those still wanting to give him the benefit of very last remaining sliver of doubt, would not do every thing possible to stop this young, excited woman from meeting him alone?
If not able to talk her out of meeting him altogether who would not absolutely warn her against drinking a beverage he prepared.
I would tell the young woman to keep any drink well out of his arms reach and to be careful of him trying to distract you.
Paladin
(28,249 posts)And Bill Cosby is a sick, twisted, lying asshole.
Orrex
(63,199 posts)He's also a self-righteous, judgmental has-been.
Paladin
(28,249 posts)Orrex
(63,199 posts)Those pesky dames!
ismnotwasm
(41,975 posts)There are far too many stories--several of them from women who didn't have to come forward, they had nothing to gain--and he'll NEVER be convicted of some of the things he's accused of, it was too long ago.
He's a pig.
Adenoid_Hynkel
(14,093 posts)No denial whatsoever of the accusations from Bill himself (only through a lawyer, and, even then, tangled in legalese and not definitive), 39 women coming forward and a 2005 admission that he bought drugs for the purpose of giving to women for sex.
Yeah, totally nothing to see here. I'm sure those drugs were totally going to be used for consensual, harmless fun.
Either he's guilty, or he has the dumbest, incomprehensibly weirdest luck of any man who ever lived.
QuebecYank
(147 posts)As a black woman, I do sometimes wonder if blacks feel the need to defend/make excuses for some black celebs. Whoopi seems unwilling to accept any proof whatsoever. I could understand her position up until the 2005 deposition came out; now it's obvious he did drug at least one woman, so that he could have sex with her. That's rape! He refused to answer the question about if the women wanted to be drugged.
He planned it from the beginning. He acquired the drugs legally (?), and invited the women over. He's a serial rapist in my opinion, pure and simple.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)I posted the link upthread. I think there are very personal reasons for her saying these things, I'm just not sure what they are.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)And consider anyone who has a personal relationship with someone more famous or powerful as trying to exploit it for their own gain.
And that they're taking their chances (being alone with him) and they get what they get. It's a convoluted way of taking the rapist off the hook.
But I assume so many are familiar with casting couch culture and they get fed up- and take it out on all women instead of the men who are exploitive.
Facility Inspector
(615 posts)Like 714s?
Go Vols
(5,902 posts)Quit making them in '84.
If you gave a woman 2 ludes,she is gonna be out in 30-40 min max.
Rex
(65,616 posts)The human court of opinion. Seem like most jurors believe he raped all those women or did something narfarious and should be held accountable. I don't know if the majority are right, but 'the accused rapist Bill Cosby' will follow him around (and his children) for the rest of his life.
My personal opinion, I think he is a hidden monster that could be preying on women to this day. I like Whoopi, but BFD that does not mean she is perfect. Nobody is correct 100% all their lives and she is wrong on this one. 48 women...I don't care if it was just ONE women...he is accused of rape and he has not even tried to counter the accusations.
One women...48 women...they all have a right to accuse their attacker and so far their accused attacker has not tried to mount any kind of defense against their claims. The fanatical defense of Bill Cosby is to be expected, some will always see him as wholesome and incapabile of doing these vile acts against innocent women.
Even when the number is 48 alleged victims.
IMO monster that needs to be exposed.
ibegurpard
(16,685 posts)But I believe these women and it's not looking good for Cosby. Makes me sad. I grew up watching his stuff and it's extremely disappointing to me.
Initech
(100,060 posts)I guess we'll have to wait for all the facts to present themselves first.
Liberal_in_LA
(44,397 posts)fadedrose
(10,044 posts)His wife, the women, his TV fans, etc....So disappointing. I'd rather talk about politics..
Beringia
(4,316 posts)and the others about Cosby. I made a post about him a long time ago and it sank, and I really wanted people's opinions on this. As for the people who say they hold judgment until it comes to a court, they can have their opinions. You can't psychoanalyze them on a message board, so who knows why they think that way. I think they are clearly in the minority, so that is something.
Generic Brad
(14,274 posts)I understand innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. But a long as you choose your words carefully, you should be able to say anything you want about him and avoid a defamation lawsuit.
I imagine he has few remaining supporters.
Agnosticsherbet
(11,619 posts)I think that is fair.
JI7
(89,244 posts)she defended Mel Gibson and Roman Polanski also .
akbacchus_BC
(5,704 posts)valerief
(53,235 posts)arrested, and we should never stop attacking them for the horrors they've foisted on us.
akbacchus_BC
(5,704 posts)guy would attempt the shit he is being accused of! However, those women who are coming forward are fairly honest. I Just wish Cosby is not guilty but if he is, then I rest my case! Gosh, if he is really that guilty, am so sorry for his family.
JI7
(89,244 posts)akbacchus_BC
(5,704 posts)Which means that the women he molested are not going to get any reprieve. That is very sad as the statute of limitations is over. Even so, when someone of his stature is accused, he should be investigated!
It begs the question -- why are these assholes allowed to get away after committing such travesty!
CBGLuthier
(12,723 posts)I am not on a jury, will not be on a jury in this case. I am fully entitle to judge what has been said and documented and form an opinion.
I think the asshole did it. Which is a real shame because despite his pontification of the last few years I used to see him someone to be admired.
To be honest I kind of thought he did it before the deposition was released. I even kind of thought he did it years ago when the first allegations came out.
akbacchus_BC
(5,704 posts)He has no empathy for the travesty he committed and the amount of lives he has ruined. I cannot imagine how those women are trying to live day to day knowing that an asshole molested them.