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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI am sad tonight.
Just got word that my cousin who has fought her battle with cancer with humility and courage, is being sent to Hospice care. She is in her mid 40's and has on daughter who is college on the east coast and a son in high school. It is not easy to accept what is going to happen, but by the grace of God, there will be a cure for this horrific decease soon. If you have a minute to huge a family member? Please do so. Also, say a prayer for my cousin and her family. Thank you.
Electric Monk
(13,869 posts)on edit: Sorry if that seems flippant, but I have had too much experience, having over the years lost grandparents, a parent, and also recently losing a good friend, and my dog (who just turned 7) is currently battling lymphoma, having been diagnosed in August.
When Dr. Oliver Sacks was diagnosed, he wrote an interesting article for the NYT http://www.democraticunderground.com/11462029
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(3,263 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)roguevalley
(40,656 posts)have only love for you and your family, imanamerican63 and everyone on this list who has been harmed by this. Your cousin is a brave person and I think in some strange way they are trailblazers for the rest of us about courage, grace and unconditional love. My pa had 3 kinds of cancer. he beat them all but the last one. You are held in love by everyone here because all of us have had a touch of this blight too. Your cousin is going home to a good place and will be around all of you for the rest of your life. If you listen hard enough, you will know. Take care and know all of you are in my prayers.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)Nicely said.
shenmue
(38,501 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)niyad
(112,434 posts)for you, as needed.
I, too, pray that there are cures for these horrendous diseases, and very soon.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)GGJohn
(9,951 posts)Your cousin is in our prayers.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)Dems to Win
(2,161 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)TDale313
(7,820 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)fadedrose
(10,044 posts)That some drug is working and she is getting better, but that does not seem likely from your post.
I wish you all strength above all, to get through this. This time will pass, and maybe in the near future, you can all have a day free from pain...
love
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)brer cat
(24,401 posts)you, and all her family in my prayers. It is horrid to lose someone so young, and with children who still need her love and care. It will be hard for all of you, so I will pray for strength to carry through this time, and that you will someday find peace.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)Mira
(22,378 posts)Brings back memories of when my 51 year old brother was moved to hospice with cancer.
My heart goes out to you all.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)Sorry this brought back sad memories for you. I will say a prayer for your brother and you.
BuelahWitch
(9,083 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)Thank you.
Mnemosyne
(21,363 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)MrMickeysMom
(20,453 posts){{{{{{{{{{heart}}}}}}}}}}
For your cousin...
Omaha Steve
(99,067 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)Half-Century Man
(5,279 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)Demeter
(85,373 posts)I'm finding it's all downhill...so many deaths, illnesses, losses....the sadness can kill.
I find solace in the gardening I do...my attempt to counteract death.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)Jack Rabbit
(45,984 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)TygrBright
(20,733 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)tularetom
(23,664 posts)Your post really affected me.
I will hug my wife, my great granddaughter who is visiting us, and also my dog.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)sueh
(1,818 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)840high
(17,196 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)StevieM
(10,499 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)Lunabell
(5,920 posts)My mom died from colon cancer way too young. Sounds like your cousin is way too young too. My best wishes for a comfortable transition.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)I will say a prayer for your mom and your family too.
mountain grammy
(26,568 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)passiveporcupine
(8,175 posts)I have a family member in hospice too, so I understand your feelings. I hope you have loved ones to share this with. It is never easy. I sure am glad that hospice is available though...so much nicer for them to end their lives at home instead of stuck in a hospital or nursing home.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)I will say prayer for your family.
irisblue
(32,828 posts)((imanamerican))
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)renate
(13,776 posts)She's so young, and it's so unfair. I'll say a prayer for her and for her family and for you.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)MissDeeds
(7,499 posts)Wishing you and your family strength and courage as you face the loss of your loved one, and sending your cousin prayers as she faces this last hurdle.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)fizzgig
(24,146 posts)eff cancer
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)Unknown Beatle
(2,672 posts)Stay strong.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)Liberal_in_LA
(44,397 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)lostnfound
(16,138 posts)Reach out to the kids with food or something in their sad days ahead. I think it makes a huge difference to them to not feel like they are drowning at sea alone. The kindness some relatives showed me, who i barely even knew, is something I remember 30 years later.
My "cousin" Ruth made us two huge trays of lasagna, one of which was vegetarian especially for me.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)I agree what you have said about her young kids. Sorry about your loss too, but I am glad you were given support when you needed it.
Live and Learn
(12,769 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)mia
(8,356 posts)I'm sorry for your loss.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)redwitch
(14,933 posts)I hope you and yours are surrounded by loving care. Thank God for Hospice too.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)sellitman
(11,596 posts)Hugs to you and your family.
Someday in my lifetime I hope there is a cure.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)leftynyc
(26,060 posts)You, your cousin and your family will be in my prayers. Cancer took my father so I know how hard it is to lose someone to that wretched disease.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)Sorry for your loss too. I will say a prayer for your family also.
Xyzse
(8,217 posts)Prayers will be sent.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)TNNurse
(6,911 posts)I watched people fight at the same time and lose their battles. My husband now has a sarcoma in his leg which has not spread and can be removed without too much damage.
There have been days when I thought the damn stuff is contagious.
Today is my 66th birthday, the first thing I saw in the newspaper this morning was the notice of a settlement for the family of a coworker who died in 2009 of mesothelioma. The suit was against her father-in-law's employer and the amount was not disclosed. I would be happy for them if her husband was a nice person and did not alienate his teenage daughter's after their mother's death at 46. I worry that the girls will not see anything and that he and the woman he married almost immediately will have a good time because of her death. And no, I did not like him before she got sick.
Cancer is everywhere.....
Your post tells me your cousin's children will have family support, I will be thinking of all of you.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)I will say a prayer for you and your husband.
floriduck
(2,262 posts)comfort and hope that she not suffer anymore.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)Skittles
(152,964 posts)bearssoapbox
(1,408 posts)imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)GoneOffShore
(17,309 posts)You might or might not get some comfort with this - http://www.lindsredding.com/2011/08/10/hello-world/
An advertising guy who chronicled his life with cancer right up to the end.
DinahMoeHum
(21,737 posts)Hugs are here for you.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)riverbendviewgal
(4,251 posts)It is truly sad and heartbreaking.
I have had my son and husband in palliative care due to cancer It truly wonderful that hospice and palliative care exist.
They were taken care of with kindness and so was the family.
Peace and love.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)restorefreedom
(12,655 posts)to you all
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)malaise
(267,808 posts)question everything
(47,264 posts)She is much too young to leave her family behind. Wishing all of you cherished memories to remember her.
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)secondwind
(16,903 posts)we are almost in a vigil now...
Blessings to you and yours,
imanamerican63
(13,668 posts)Thank you and God bless your family.