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imanamerican63

(13,668 posts)
Thu Oct 8, 2015, 09:48 PM Oct 2015

I am sad tonight.

Just got word that my cousin who has fought her battle with cancer with humility and courage, is being sent to Hospice care. She is in her mid 40's and has on daughter who is college on the east coast and a son in high school. It is not easy to accept what is going to happen, but by the grace of God, there will be a cure for this horrific decease soon. If you have a minute to huge a family member? Please do so. Also, say a prayer for my cousin and her family. Thank you.

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I am sad tonight. (Original Post) imanamerican63 Oct 2015 OP
Cancer sucks, but in a way there is a silver lining of sorts, in that it allows time to say goodbye Electric Monk Oct 2015 #1
I will do both and a hug for you too Person 2713 Oct 2015 #2
Thank you. imanamerican63 Oct 2015 #3
I don't think there is a person alive who isn't touched by that scurge. I roguevalley Oct 2015 #76
Thank you, imanamerican63 Oct 2015 #77
... shenmue Oct 2015 #4
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prayers for peace and comfort for your whole family. and know that your du family is here niyad Oct 2015 #6
Thank you. imanamerican63 Oct 2015 #8
My deepest condolences to you and your family during this difficult time in your life. GGJohn Oct 2015 #7
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Condolences to you and your family Dems to Win Oct 2015 #10
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My deepest sympathy and hopes that you can find some peace in the days ahead riderinthestorm Oct 2015 #12
My thoughts are with you and your family. n/t TDale313 Oct 2015 #13
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I wish you all some good news fadedrose Oct 2015 #15
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I will include your cousin, brer cat Oct 2015 #17
Thank you. imanamerican63 Oct 2015 #18
So sad for your family and I am so sorry. Mira Oct 2015 #19
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So sorry that they will lose their mother at such a young age BuelahWitch Oct 2015 #21
Yes indeed. We all thinking the samething. imanamerican63 Oct 2015 #28
... Mnemosyne Oct 2015 #22
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I'm sorry, imanamerican63... MrMickeysMom Oct 2015 #23
. Omaha Steve Oct 2015 #24
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Peace of heart to your family. Half-Century Man Oct 2015 #25
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With you all the way Demeter Oct 2015 #26
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() Jack Rabbit Oct 2015 #27
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Holding your family in the Light. Be there for each other. We're here for you. n/t TygrBright Oct 2015 #31
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My condolences to you and your family tularetom Oct 2015 #36
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(((hugs))) sueh Oct 2015 #37
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I am so sorry. Prayers will be said. 840high Oct 2015 #40
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I wish you and your family all my best. And yes, let's pray for a cure. (eom) StevieM Oct 2015 #42
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Cancer sux Lunabell Oct 2015 #43
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Hugs for you and your cousin too. mountain grammy Oct 2015 #44
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My heart goes out to you passiveporcupine Oct 2015 #45
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I am so sorry, such a hard loss for your family irisblue Oct 2015 #46
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I'm so sorry renate Oct 2015 #47
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I am so sorry MissDeeds Oct 2015 #48
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light and love to you and yours fizzgig Oct 2015 #49
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A prayer goes out to you, your cousin and her family. Unknown Beatle Oct 2015 #50
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Sorry to hear this. Sending good vibes Liberal_in_LA Oct 2015 #51
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I am really sorry lostnfound Oct 2015 #52
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Prayers and good vibes for your cousin, her family and you being sent. Live and Learn Oct 2015 #53
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Prayers for your cousin and family. mia Oct 2015 #54
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That's awful, I am so sorry. redwitch Oct 2015 #55
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Horrific disease. sellitman Oct 2015 #56
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{{{imanamerican63}}} leftynyc Oct 2015 #68
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That's heavy. I am so sorry to hear that. Xyzse Oct 2015 #74
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I am a breast cancer survivor. TNNurse Oct 2015 #78
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I wish your family and hers floriduck Oct 2015 #80
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so very sorry, imanamerican63 Skittles Oct 2015 #81
For your cousin, her family and you bearssoapbox Oct 2015 #82
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Sorry to hear this. GoneOffShore Oct 2015 #83
Damn, what a devastating curse this disease is. DinahMoeHum Oct 2015 #84
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my thoughts with you and your cousin riverbendviewgal Oct 2015 #88
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peace, comfort, and strength restorefreedom Oct 2015 #90
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Sending good vibes malaise Oct 2015 #91
Sorry for your and your family sadness question everything Oct 2015 #93
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so sad for you and your family... we are going through a similar situation with my sis-in-law.... secondwind Oct 2015 #94
Sorry to hear this about your sister in law. imanamerican63 Oct 2015 #96
 

Electric Monk

(13,869 posts)
1. Cancer sucks, but in a way there is a silver lining of sorts, in that it allows time to say goodbye
Thu Oct 8, 2015, 09:50 PM
Oct 2015


on edit: Sorry if that seems flippant, but I have had too much experience, having over the years lost grandparents, a parent, and also recently losing a good friend, and my dog (who just turned 7) is currently battling lymphoma, having been diagnosed in August.

When Dr. Oliver Sacks was diagnosed, he wrote an interesting article for the NYT http://www.democraticunderground.com/11462029

roguevalley

(40,656 posts)
76. I don't think there is a person alive who isn't touched by that scurge. I
Fri Oct 9, 2015, 01:58 PM
Oct 2015

have only love for you and your family, imanamerican63 and everyone on this list who has been harmed by this. Your cousin is a brave person and I think in some strange way they are trailblazers for the rest of us about courage, grace and unconditional love. My pa had 3 kinds of cancer. he beat them all but the last one. You are held in love by everyone here because all of us have had a touch of this blight too. Your cousin is going home to a good place and will be around all of you for the rest of your life. If you listen hard enough, you will know. Take care and know all of you are in my prayers.

niyad

(112,434 posts)
6. prayers for peace and comfort for your whole family. and know that your du family is here
Thu Oct 8, 2015, 09:59 PM
Oct 2015

for you, as needed.

I, too, pray that there are cures for these horrendous diseases, and very soon.

GGJohn

(9,951 posts)
7. My deepest condolences to you and your family during this difficult time in your life.
Thu Oct 8, 2015, 09:59 PM
Oct 2015

Your cousin is in our prayers.

fadedrose

(10,044 posts)
15. I wish you all some good news
Thu Oct 8, 2015, 10:18 PM
Oct 2015

That some drug is working and she is getting better, but that does not seem likely from your post.

I wish you all strength above all, to get through this. This time will pass, and maybe in the near future, you can all have a day free from pain...

love

brer cat

(24,401 posts)
17. I will include your cousin,
Thu Oct 8, 2015, 10:31 PM
Oct 2015

you, and all her family in my prayers. It is horrid to lose someone so young, and with children who still need her love and care. It will be hard for all of you, so I will pray for strength to carry through this time, and that you will someday find peace.

Mira

(22,378 posts)
19. So sad for your family and I am so sorry.
Thu Oct 8, 2015, 10:38 PM
Oct 2015

Brings back memories of when my 51 year old brother was moved to hospice with cancer.
My heart goes out to you all.

imanamerican63

(13,668 posts)
20. Thank you.
Thu Oct 8, 2015, 10:41 PM
Oct 2015

Sorry this brought back sad memories for you. I will say a prayer for your brother and you.

 

Demeter

(85,373 posts)
26. With you all the way
Thu Oct 8, 2015, 11:14 PM
Oct 2015

I'm finding it's all downhill...so many deaths, illnesses, losses....the sadness can kill.

I find solace in the gardening I do...my attempt to counteract death.

tularetom

(23,664 posts)
36. My condolences to you and your family
Thu Oct 8, 2015, 11:23 PM
Oct 2015

Your post really affected me.

I will hug my wife, my great granddaughter who is visiting us, and also my dog.

Lunabell

(5,920 posts)
43. Cancer sux
Thu Oct 8, 2015, 11:43 PM
Oct 2015

My mom died from colon cancer way too young. Sounds like your cousin is way too young too. My best wishes for a comfortable transition.

passiveporcupine

(8,175 posts)
45. My heart goes out to you
Fri Oct 9, 2015, 12:16 AM
Oct 2015

I have a family member in hospice too, so I understand your feelings. I hope you have loved ones to share this with. It is never easy. I sure am glad that hospice is available though...so much nicer for them to end their lives at home instead of stuck in a hospital or nursing home.

renate

(13,776 posts)
47. I'm so sorry
Fri Oct 9, 2015, 12:22 AM
Oct 2015

She's so young, and it's so unfair. I'll say a prayer for her and for her family and for you.

 

MissDeeds

(7,499 posts)
48. I am so sorry
Fri Oct 9, 2015, 12:39 AM
Oct 2015

Wishing you and your family strength and courage as you face the loss of your loved one, and sending your cousin prayers as she faces this last hurdle.

lostnfound

(16,138 posts)
52. I am really sorry
Fri Oct 9, 2015, 04:41 AM
Oct 2015

Reach out to the kids with food or something in their sad days ahead. I think it makes a huge difference to them to not feel like they are drowning at sea alone. The kindness some relatives showed me, who i barely even knew, is something I remember 30 years later.

My "cousin" Ruth made us two huge trays of lasagna, one of which was vegetarian especially for me.

imanamerican63

(13,668 posts)
67. Thank you.
Fri Oct 9, 2015, 09:52 AM
Oct 2015

I agree what you have said about her young kids. Sorry about your loss too, but I am glad you were given support when you needed it.

redwitch

(14,933 posts)
55. That's awful, I am so sorry.
Fri Oct 9, 2015, 06:39 AM
Oct 2015

I hope you and yours are surrounded by loving care. Thank God for Hospice too.

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
68. {{{imanamerican63}}}
Fri Oct 9, 2015, 09:52 AM
Oct 2015

You, your cousin and your family will be in my prayers. Cancer took my father so I know how hard it is to lose someone to that wretched disease.

TNNurse

(6,911 posts)
78. I am a breast cancer survivor.
Fri Oct 9, 2015, 03:33 PM
Oct 2015

I watched people fight at the same time and lose their battles. My husband now has a sarcoma in his leg which has not spread and can be removed without too much damage.

There have been days when I thought the damn stuff is contagious.

Today is my 66th birthday, the first thing I saw in the newspaper this morning was the notice of a settlement for the family of a coworker who died in 2009 of mesothelioma. The suit was against her father-in-law's employer and the amount was not disclosed. I would be happy for them if her husband was a nice person and did not alienate his teenage daughter's after their mother's death at 46. I worry that the girls will not see anything and that he and the woman he married almost immediately will have a good time because of her death. And no, I did not like him before she got sick.

Cancer is everywhere.....

Your post tells me your cousin's children will have family support, I will be thinking of all of you.

GoneOffShore

(17,309 posts)
83. Sorry to hear this.
Fri Oct 9, 2015, 04:47 PM
Oct 2015

You might or might not get some comfort with this - http://www.lindsredding.com/2011/08/10/hello-world/

An advertising guy who chronicled his life with cancer right up to the end.

riverbendviewgal

(4,251 posts)
88. my thoughts with you and your cousin
Fri Oct 9, 2015, 07:48 PM
Oct 2015

It is truly sad and heartbreaking.

I have had my son and husband in palliative care due to cancer It truly wonderful that hospice and palliative care exist.
They were taken care of with kindness and so was the family.

Peace and love.

question everything

(47,264 posts)
93. Sorry for your and your family sadness
Fri Oct 9, 2015, 09:35 PM
Oct 2015

She is much too young to leave her family behind. Wishing all of you cherished memories to remember her.


secondwind

(16,903 posts)
94. so sad for you and your family... we are going through a similar situation with my sis-in-law....
Fri Oct 9, 2015, 09:45 PM
Oct 2015

we are almost in a vigil now...

Blessings to you and yours,

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