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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsSusie Orbach: in therapy, everyone wants to talk about Brexit
https://www.theguardian.com/global/2016/jul/01/susie-orbach-in-therapy-everyone-wants-to-talk-about-brexit?CMP=fb_guThe psychotherapist has been dealing with peoples emotional responses to Brexit in her therapy room. There is fury, uncertainty and anxiety. Now, she says, we need to address the divisions in a emotionally literate way
People express anger and despair. The image of where they lived, and what the country has meant to them, is pushing them to consider what kind of fantasy they (and, of course, many of us) have lived with until it came crashing down a week ago. Were they delusional, some ask, to not see the level of alienation and despair that has gripped so much of the country? Were they living in a fairytale in which despite the woes of the last years, it all works out in the end? Were they themselves complicit in a make-believe in which politicians can kick the EU and then expect people to support it? Has Britain become the kind of family in which one side is not talking to the other? There is too, a dirtiness, a sense of having cleaved to an alliance with people they didnt necessarily like while disdaining the political rhetoric of the other side. Yes, these are Remainers, for the most part. But lest you wonder, my practice is metropolitan, cosmopolitan, London-based, but it isnt essentially middle-class or Guardian-reading.
The alienations and sorrows that drove people to therapy in the first place are writ large in Brexit. Questions of insecurity and belonging are uppermost; do I have a place, do we have a place, how unbearable that others dont feel they have a place. These sentiments from the consulting room include a concern for self, rage and worry, mixed with concern for those on the other side. For some, the same psychological factors that led them to disown or split off unwelcome parts of themselves, or to repress them or project them on to others, rebound in Brexit darkness. A few have said: there are parts of myself that I dont want to know about, and there are parts of my country (or the country) I live in that are showing me a darkness I would rather suppress.
In this sense, Brexit, with its foreboding of irreversibility (although who knows on that one), has brought people into a confrontation with self, with helplessness. For some, there has been the expression of a desire to act, to be counted in a more profound way. Equally, there is fright and consternation about a racism now given oxygen. The barely visible, the shadow, is being seen and it is unwelcome. It has released a shockwave as people recognise that the political really is the personal, and that what is personal what counts as a response to alienation in some of the Brexiters is the ugliness of othering the foreign, the newly arrived, the people who are displaced from home. The starkness of this recognition, in the taunts and daubings and attacks that show a fear of the other, are sobering and scary. It hurts to know how powerful and how close to the surface such feelings are, and it is crucial that we contest the underlying terms of a political debate in which racism is acceptable expression of powerlessness. By contrast, it has shocked people to see the nakedness of political power, the House of Cards moves played out in plain view as though politics were a game, even a playpen, with leadership, stewardship and inclusivity barely on the table.
virgogal
(10,178 posts)Ghost Dog
(16,881 posts)Mussolini- then Nazi-style, over the alternatives.
Then, as probably now.
mainer
(12,018 posts)Now they can't agree who "the enemy" is.
Denzil_DC
(7,222 posts)much of it never diagnosed or treated.
Heck, I've looked back at some of the unpredictable and sometimes irrationally violent behaviour of some of my teachers at school who served in the war and suspected that they might be suffering from undiagnosed/untreated PTSD. I include my dad in that.
OnDoutside
(19,948 posts)enemies economies, Britain was left behind. That has always stuck with them, and there's an innate resentment towards Europe, "we saved your ass and what thanks did we get for it ?" That mentality has held many of them back, certainly on the UK right and it's split the Conservatives since the 1972 entry into the EEC. It's such a pity because the UK at its best can be a force for good within the EU, and that balance is going to be lost, if they trigger article 50.
roamer65
(36,744 posts)They still don't trust the Germans and I can't say I blame them on that point.
OnDoutside
(19,948 posts)and it's the EU's loss as a whole, that they are going. However, they have also been a running sore themselves, so a bit of perspective is needed.
edhopper
(33,491 posts)their finest hour.