Today, 11/17, I have been "gay married" for two years.
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Most people simply refer to this day, in regards to my situation, as an anniversary. It is. Two years. What makes mine so different from so many is mine was only made legal in my state two years ago (October 2014), and nationally in June of 2015. Last Wednesday, I was in tears because I didn't know if my, then upcoming, anniversary would be my last legal one. Sure, the love for my husband isn't based on a piece of paper, but that "piece of paper" makes a shit-ton of things possible for us both. There have been tons of discussions about this group or that one, but few have taken a hard look at the challenges the GLBT community is possibly facing with this new administration. Sure, the president elect has said marriage equality (and that is what it should be[/I called) is "settled". Yet, this is the same person who said in the third debate he would appoint a Supreme Court Justice with a "conservative bent" and wants to see Roe v. Wade overturned. Isn't "RvW" also "settled"? Not to mention his VP is a rancid, rabid, homophobic heterosexist POS and the platform for the party was the most homophobic it has ever been. The president-elect has also said he will "undo" all of President Obama's executive orders, a few which specifically protect LGBT people!
This election will have ramifications for many groups, including those of us who are GLBT. "Undoing" our marriages could lead to a host of other issues: will we have to repay tax refunds? will purchases made as a married couple be "null and void" in regards to who owns what? will children revert to having only one "real" parent?
I am thinking about what my mom says, "expect the worst, hope for the best, and you won't be surprised." The "worst" is pretty fucking bad. Will it happen right away? Of course not. However, the possibility is all too real.
Anyway, that is how I am feeling on my second legal anniversary, but I am not going to let it stop from expressing my love for my husband by making his favorite meal, mustard peppercorn rib roast, and leaving cards all over the house. But I cannot ignore the reality a part of my heart is darkened and sad. Still, I will hold him tight and remember, no matter what may come, he is the love of my life and I am richer for having him in it.
ETA: 
to all the "congrats" posts. Turns out my husband and I have "gay anniversary" buddies...DU's own, beaglelover! Spread the love to post #15!
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I do remember your happy post about your wedding from two years ago.
Yeah, I freaked out a few people with the way I announced it. 
Like you, I am so concerned with the direction our country may take/has taken. While my own rights/life are on the line, I also know others are facing similar battles, and you are correct, we must stand together! The straight person standing with the GLB! The cis-gender standing with the trans gender! The white person standing with people of color! The Christian standing with other religions and the atheists! Men standing with women! And, the disenfranchised standing with other disenfranchised!
Thank you for taking the time to let us know we are loved and acknowledge our special day. It means the world to me!
I would think a President Pence would be more of a threat in that way, but it doesn't help that Republicans pretty much have all corners of government secured at the moment.
Try to be thankful for having a close love in your life. I haven't even kissed a woman in 15 years.
If I could be gay, I might be better off considering how gay men have seemed more interested in me over the years. 
Long life and happiness to you both!!
stand with you and your husband and everyone else who needs support, including my transgender family member, to hold the line for your rights. 
It was a beautiful day for so many! 
So instead of proposing legislation specifically designed to hurt people, I just married a member of the opposite sex. Everybody went home happy. 
Congratulations on 2 years.
That was funny.
Thanks for the congrats and the laugh!
I wish you both many long years of love and happiness.
to you both~
My heat is so happy for you both!!
I remember when you posted about your pending nuptials and I told you my dear friends were being married two days later themselves! It was such a joyous time for so very many of us.
P.S. Thank you for reminding me to get them a nice bottle of wine and a card!
..as to the rest of it. Yeah, Pence is about as atrocious as they come on pretty much every Far Right social issue retrograde-ass position.
And the media was so enamored with the whole EXCITING! HORSE! RACE! OHMIGOD! aspect of the election, the fact that he is wildly out of tune with most Americans on pretty much everything got almost zero coverage.
