so this is my choice, i guess.

[mopinko]

bury my daughter, or sell everything i have and live an impoverished old age.

she has about a dozen pre-existing conditions, and we actually still dont know the extent of it. she is in the hospital right now, w an intestinal blockage and heavy bleeding.

she has epilepsy, chron's disease, endometriosis, a bleeding disorder, fibromyalgia, likely ehlers danlo syndrome, migraines, a bad psyche dx, and more. we are hoping to get to the bottom of it all before gov ruiner guts medicare here.
she has been in and out of the hospital for the last year, having not really recovered from having her gall bladder removed.
she has 3 more years on her dad's insurance before we are at the mercy of the market.

i have enough for a secure retirement now, and hopefully her dad remains employed until he decides to retire. (there is some danger his job will get outsourced to india.) hopefully he can work till a ripe old age. but at some point he will have to retire, and he wont be able to bear the whole burden of her expenses. plus, she is on ssi now, and will get more when he retires.

i expect to live to be 100, 38 more years. hopefully medical science catches up, and she can regain some measure of health. i dont have a lot of reason to hope, tho. so far she remains a zebra.
i just hope there is enough left over for her funeral.

thanks thugs. may you burn in a hell that is hotter than 1000 suns.

[Ms. Toad]

1. Same boat.

I've been diligently planning and saving since I was a teenager - and am watching the retirement I'd hoped for (and been lucky enough to have the opportunity to plan for) slip away.

[mopinko]

4. yup. raised 5 kids frugally.

the ex made good money, and had a generous 401k match. this made our divorce possible. i got a settlement that i thought would allow me to do what i wanted to do- run my farm, and make it better every year.
also got to keep my paid for home.

it seemed so secure. now i can see it turn to ashes. in a flash of a fire.

#resist

[Ezior]

2. Words fail me (I'm not a native speaker)

Really, this is terrible. And knowing that you and your family are not the only ones suffering this fate, but there are thousands and thousands of similar hard-working people with maybe-soon-to-be similar problems in the US, that is so wrong on so many levels.

I can't imagine what your daughter's feelings are like because of this. I'm blaming myself for some problems that I cause for my parents because of mental issues, but it's minuscule compared to this.

I hope the health care situation in the US improves quickly (maybe in 2019 – Trump seemed to support universal healthcare some months ago – , maybe 2021?) before it destroys not only your daughter's life, but your remaining years too.

[mopinko]

3. she has been terrified since election day.

not just because of this, but because she is not cis-gendered. she and her friends, whom she loves dearly, live in terror even in a blue city in a blue state.

and yes, this is a very large boat we are in. either it will sink, or we will sink THEM.
trust me, i feel any money i have to give to this fight is an investment well made.

[mopinko]

5. i want to add to this post that she is in the hospital AGAIN.

she has been in and out for the last 6 months. she is in again today w a huge bowel obstruction and bleeding.

they swear they are going to keep her until she is well. she is not only a zebra, she is the god damned rainbow zebra from the bubble gum.

[mercuryblues]

6. I hear you

I hope your daughter gets the care she needs. And the r's get their due.

We will be in the same boat. Set for retirement, but I have several pre-existing conditions that will prevent me from being insurable from retirement to Medicare.