My mother and best friend passed yesterday
She was the one who turned me onto DU. I would see her on the site starting in 2008. She didn't post, as far as I know, but she really enjoyed reading what other people wrote about the election and she agreed with everyone. One day I asked her what was it about DU that kept her coming back. She told me it was insightful discussions and the how polite people were to each other on here. She told me to try it and see. Well she got me hooked. She always called herself a yellow dog democrat- never quit understood that until she she said a yellow dog ( or any dog ) could run the country better than Bush and she vote for one if one ever ran. Then "it" stepped into the ring. She never addressed Trump with his name. She called him "it"- because he lurked in the gutters and scares the shit out of everyone"- She loved Stephen King. She said he would kill the country and everything it stands for. As she got sicker and was in and out of the hospital they would ask her who the president was ( to test memory ) she would say "it". They would at me and I would say she still has her memory, it's all good. This last week she was not here. She looked at me and never really saw me. She passed at home with me by her side. She was truly my best friend. People have been asking me what my plans are since I was her care giver and devoted so many years to being with her, I tell them keep reading DU and resisting "it", everything else will fall into place when the time is right
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So sorry, jovibennett
Moms and best friends are so tough to lose. 
Sounds like a great mom
And welcome to DU 
it's clear that you and she had a special and caring relationship.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
My thoughts are with you.
She sounded like a wonderful person. My sincere condolences.
about "it". My Dad passed four days after the 2004 election. He always called George W. "Dumbo". His oncologist would ask him who won the election and he would always say "Dumbo". I would say "He's fine."
That memory still makes me laugh. May all the good memories of your Mom make you smile when you think of her. .
So sorry.
I wish I had known your mom. I'm sure we would have been great friends. May she RIP now.
It is wonderful you had a close relationship and that she kept her memory of you, allowing you to feel bonded right up until her last awful week. My Mom had dementia for years. May you continue to share with us.
Peace and hugs.
One worthy of your love for her, and she'd be very pleased with you I bet. She did a wonderful job raising you. It's obvious you're an amazing person, just like she was.
My thoughts are with you tonight, and in the coming days. I'm sorry for your loss, and only ask that you focus as much as possible on who she was and what she wanted to teach you. From experience I can say that's what got me through my grief.
What a treasure your mom was -- the "it" story is priceless!! So glad that you were able to enjoy your time with your mom and care for her when she was in need...sounds like you have a healthy outlook...take good care...
understanding during this time.
And thank you for sharing your story.
Hope you'll stick around and join in.
I want to thank everyone on DU for all the kind words. My mother would be happy to see that there are so many kind people on DU. She always enjoyed reading all your posts, now I have been passed the baton and I will carry on, but I will respond to posts. So look for me to be very active on DU!! Looking forward to the lively discussions and many opinions of everyone on DU as long as they not trolls ( they just piss me off ) Carry on DU'ers!!
