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madaboutharry

(40,148 posts)
Sat Jul 22, 2017, 04:38 PM Jul 2017

The Men Who Never Have To Grow Up - New York Times

This is an interesting article. The backdrop is Don Jr. and his father's ridiculously referring to him as "a good boy" and "a good kid". The main point being about white male privilege, extended boyhoods, and the pass that comes with it.

In my parents generation, by a time a male was 21 they were expected to have become a man. My dad was married at 22 and was a responsible adult who had long left his boyhood behind. In my generation, it got extended to about 30 with the general consensus being that you needed to have your act together and know where you were going by the time you were 30 or else you were on your way to becoming a loser.

That doesn't seem to apply to a lot of people anymore. Adolescence has for all purposes been extended into the mid-20's. Now, when someone that age is a mature person exercising good judgment everyone remarks about it, as if it is out of the ordinary.

This of course, as the author of the article writes, doesn't apply to women and men of color. There is an entirely different set of rules for them.


https://www.nytimes.com/2017/07/20/opinion/sunday/donald-trump-jr-boys-sexism.html?action=click&pgtype=Homepage&clickSource=story-heading&module=opinion-c-col-left-region®ion=opinion-c-col-left-region&WT.nav=opinion-c-col-left-region&_r=0

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The Men Who Never Have To Grow Up - New York Times (Original Post) madaboutharry Jul 2017 OP
It's the old double standard. White men are "entitled" and take full advantage of it BigmanPigman Jul 2017 #1
The "old double standard"??? flotsam Jul 2017 #2

BigmanPigman

(51,430 posts)
1. It's the old double standard. White men are "entitled" and take full advantage of it
Sat Jul 22, 2017, 05:35 PM
Jul 2017

at every given opportunity, and they are getting younger and younger. I've had acquaintances over the years who fit this description. It makes me sick when I bring the subject up and they either deny it or try to justify it. When they deny it they know they are full of shit but say it anyway. I know how to shut them down immediately...I ask them if they'd rather be a minority or a woman instead. They rarely answer and usually change the subject.

flotsam

(3,268 posts)
2. The "old double standard"???
Sat Jul 22, 2017, 07:28 PM
Jul 2017

Do you mean the one that gave over 58,000 slots to men on the Vietnam Wall and only 8 slots to women?

While you're singing your song of "all white men are evil" you might want to check the lyrics to CCR's Fortunate Son....Just sayin'...

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