I'm sorry, but this father is a self-important jerk.

[pnwmom]

After his daughter has had two previous trips postponed due to her cancer treatments, he's refusing to give her his consent to taking a trip to Disneyland through the Make-A-Wish Foundation because he doesn't think she's sick enough!


http://www.google.com/hostednews/ap/article/ALeqM5jSy2tMD6OcbUeJnXGNLwXcwX6lWg?docId=18fb347b95cd4a7aad997f1e82805476

TOLEDO, Ohio (AP) — A 4-year-old girl who went through two years of cancer treatments isn't being allowed to go on a Make-A-Wish trip to Disney World because her father said she's in remission and the trips should go to children who are sicker than his daughter.

The young girl, McKenna May of Haskins, had the trip postponed twice while she was undergoing treatment for leukemia and finally was set to go in August when the father refused to sign off on the trip, the girl's mother and grandmother said Thursday.

The family said Make-A-Wish requires signatures from both parents if either have visitation rights or is listed on the birth certificate. McKenna's parents never married or lived together. Her grandmother said the father only recently received visitation privileges.

McKenna's mother and grandmother are now collecting donations at local businesses to pay for the trip to Disney on their own. Money has poured in since their story spread beyond northwest Ohio. They haven't told McKenna why the Make-A-Wish trip was canceled.

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[appleannie1]

1. I read that they have already received enough donations to go so he can go pound salt.

[pnwmom]

3. Thanks. Glad to hear that! n/t

[1StrongBlackMan]

7. I'm taking bets that dear old dad ...

will use the money to buy a truck and another gun.

[REP]

9. "Dad" was never married to or lived with the mother - the money is safe

He's more of a non-anonymous sperm donor. Make-A-Wish requires the signatures of both parents who are listed on the birth certificate or have visitation rights; sperm donor recently was granted visitation, though from this piece, it's hard to say why - perhaps to torment the mother through his daughter.

[1StrongBlackMan]

17. Sad ...

But most likely correct.

[xxqqqzme]

2. He donated a sperm

so he gets sign off privileges?

[PoliticAverse]

4. Update: 4-year-old cancer patient ... will get to go after all.

A 4-year-old cancer patient who was denied a Make-A-Wish trip to Disney World by her father will get to go after all.

So many donations have poured in from around the world that the girl's mother and grandmother will be able to pay for the trip in August themselves and give the rest to charity.

"We didn't do this to get rich," the girl's grandmother, Lori Helppie, said Friday. "We did it to fulfill her dream, and people's hearts just opened up."

Read the rest: http://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory/donations-send-ohio-cancer-patient-disney-16820224#.UAmu7aNcOcY

[pnwmom]

5. Thanks for the link! n/t

[Enrique]

6. i have a hunch

his concern for the other children isnt his main issue.

[pnwmom]

8. I have a hunch you're right. n/t

[1StrongBlackMan]

18. No doubt ...

he's upset that HE can't visit the Magic Kingdom, too.

[laundry_queen]

10. Wow. Never ceased to be shocked

by pieces of shit like that. Disgusting.

[nichomachus]

11. From someone who has walked in the father's shoes

Posted on another DU thread on this same topic:

"I can say that I understand the father's intent - he wants dying children to get funded, and probably does not want to accept the fact that his child could die.

"No parent wants to accept that vision.

"Signing the Make a Wish paperwork was one of the hardest things I have ever done. It was a very early step in accepting that my boy was dying.

"I disagree with this father's decision, but understand it. Give this man a break. Until you have walked in such shoes, you can't judge this parent accurately, or with full empathy."

http://www.democraticunderground.com/1002981796#post4

[LadyHawkAZ]

12. While that is true

I will walk in his shoes right after he walks in his daughters shoes. I can sympathize, but it was still a nasty thing to do.

[pnwmom]

13. The parent was putting his own need for denial (and control) over his child's well being.

Speaking as a parent who has had a very ill child, that's not okay.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/18/dad-refuses-make-a-wish_n_1684037.html

"I think it should go to kids who only have six months to live," he explained.

Make-A-Wish states that any child between 2 1/2 and 18 years of age with a life-threatening medical condition may be eligible for a wish, and that medical eligibility is determined by the child's physician. While McKenna has completed treatment for her life-threatening illness, she won't be considered "cancer free" for another five years.

McKenna's mother believes his refusal stems from a grudge for not having visitation rights to see his daughter until earlier this year. According to Gawker, McKenna's grandmother thinks William "has made it such an ugly fiasco," further stating, "It's not about him - it's about McKenna. But he's doing this to get back."

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[Lydia Leftcoast]

14. Yes, the child doesn't actually have to be at death's door

The son of some friend's of mine had a brain tumor, and although he's in remission, and his type rarely reoccurs, he still got to fulfill his wish, a trip to London and Paris.

[pnwmom]

16. And a child at death's door is least likely to be able to gain from such a trip.

I'm glad for your friend's son, and I wish him a full recovery.

[Zyzafyx]

15. Schmuck!