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Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 03:55 AM Nov 2017

I lost my Cocker Spaniel, Roy, tonight.

He was dying...events started in the last few days and progressed rapidly. Tonight I took him to ER, and they explained to me how bad he was and that he may not make it through the night. So it was best to put him to sleep.

I am having him cremated and will keep his ashes alongside my last Cocker Spaniel's.

I have his companion, Rosie, still (a terrier mix). She seems to know, but I'm not sure. She's very smart and smelled Roy's blood and saw me crying, carrying Roy around. She gave me a special welcome when I came home, as if to say she knows. I hope she understands and won't start looking for him.

My heart is breaking. I loved the little Munchkin. He was so sweet and good natured and happy. He was 11 or 12 (not sure...he was a rescue). I will miss my little fellow.

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I lost my Cocker Spaniel, Roy, tonight. (Original Post) Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 OP
so sorry MFM008 Nov 2017 #1
Thank you. Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #4
Oh, no! I am so, so very sorry! Rhiannon12866 Nov 2017 #2
Yes, I'm going to give special attention to Rosie. We will miss him together. Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #5
When I lost my previous cocker, I had adopted a tiny Brussels Griffon, age 9, whose owner had died Rhiannon12866 Nov 2017 #8
What a great story. Yes...I expect she'll be upset or depressed. I am retired.... Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #16
Thanks - and I know. Rhiannon12866 Nov 2017 #24
Oh, I'm so very sorry. They are family. catbyte Nov 2017 #3
Thank you. Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #6
Sorry Angry Dragon Nov 2017 #7
Thank you for the hugs. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #17
So very sorry. CurtEastPoint Nov 2017 #9
Thanks. :) :( nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #18
My heart is with you. NanceGreggs Nov 2017 #10
Yes, it is. The pain...I don't know how a person could take losing a child. Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #19
I'm really sorry--what an awful shock... just a few days renate Nov 2017 #11
Thanks. He did have a sweet spirit. A happy little fella, tail always wagging. Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #20
So Very Sorry to Hear This DarthDem Nov 2017 #12
Thanks. He'd like that "RIP" kickoff. :) nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #44
Pets are our angels get the red out Nov 2017 #13
Thank you. He was a little angel. They are so pure of heart. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #52
I am sorry for your loss. Doreen Nov 2017 #14
Yes. Just as hard. Sometimes harder...they're so helpless. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #53
Not that I'm a religious sort, far from it but have always liked this saying Thekaspervote Nov 2017 #15
I agree! I take the position that.... Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #46
It is so hard to lose these family members. democratisphere Nov 2017 #21
Thank you. Yes, he was part of my family. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #54
Aw. The loss of a special dog hits hard, I know. My heart goes out to you. n/t pnwmom Nov 2017 #22
Thank you. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #55
I have 1000000% empathy with you. BigmanPigman Nov 2017 #23
Oh, my goodness! 14 1/2?!? Oh, my...and you're seriously ill, too? Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #47
All of the smaller dogs that my family BigmanPigman Nov 2017 #74
Very smart thing to do. Plan ahead. I've thought about whether I should get future dogs.... Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #79
If you are healthy and expect to live another 10-15 BigmanPigman Nov 2017 #81
That's true about the health benefits...plus they're fun. Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #86
Yes, they have it all don't they?! BigmanPigman Nov 2017 #87
My deepest condolences... Moostache Nov 2017 #25
It's a little too fresh right now, but I'm trying. I'm sure I will. Lots of good memories.nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #48
A friend of mine lost a Spaniel recently LeftInTX Nov 2017 #26
What a sad story. That poor dog, and that poor man. Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #49
I am so very sorry. CottonBear Nov 2017 #27
Thank you. Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #50
So sorry ironman25 Nov 2017 #28
What nice thoughts. Thank you so much. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #58
Rest in peace shenmue Nov 2017 #29
Thank you. (hugs) nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #59
I'm so sorry. I KNOW how much it hurts... hlthe2b Nov 2017 #30
An excellent thing to do. Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #60
I'm sorry. lapucelle Nov 2017 #31
Thank you. Yes...special attention for Rosie. As another poster said, she'll be mourning, too.nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #61
Im so sorry for your loss. May all of the good memories livetohike Nov 2017 #32
Thank you. Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #62
I am so sorry for your loss, please take care of yourself. FM123 Nov 2017 #33
Thank you. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #63
Sorry TEB Nov 2017 #34
I am sorry thay Roy has passed away. I know it hurts. irisblue Nov 2017 #35
Sorry to hear that. It's never easy. I bet it was fun being your dog though. That's what to brewens Nov 2017 #36
Thank you. I hope he had fun. I took him for walks frequently & spoiled him rotten. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #42
I am so very sorry for the loss of your best friend and fur child... samnsara Nov 2017 #37
Thank you so much. (hugs) nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #57
Our heart is with you roscoeroscoe Nov 2017 #38
I will. Lots of good memories. Thanks. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #56
I am going through this too. Drahthaardogs Nov 2017 #39
Oh, I hate to hear that. Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #41
I'm very sorry for your loss. sinkingfeeling Nov 2017 #40
Thank you so much. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #43
You gave him 11-12 wonderful years as a beloved companion. Fla Dem Nov 2017 #45
Thank you so much for your thoughts. I'll scratch Rosie behind the ears for you. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #51
My heart goes out cilla4progress Nov 2017 #64
I'm sorry for your loss. n/t sl8 Nov 2017 #65
I so sorry for your loss. MelissaB Nov 2017 #66
Very sorry. I have had the "special welcome" experience too. They know and want to comfort you. Hoyt Nov 2017 #67
My sister's ex in laws were named Roy and Rosie... Phentex Nov 2017 #68
Wow. That's a coincidence. Yes...the pain. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #73
R.I.P., Roy. The Velveteen Ocelot Nov 2017 #69
So sorry. All dogs, but Cockers are SO intelligent, loving UTUSN Nov 2017 #70
So sorry, for loss of Roy, friend + angel peacebuzzard Nov 2017 #71
((((((((((hc))))))))))) I am so very sorry for your loss. niyad Nov 2017 #72
I'm so sorry... lunamagica Nov 2017 #75
Condolences and love. Corvo Bianco Nov 2017 #76
I feel you, my friend hispanic white guy Nov 2017 #77
I'm sorry. My dogs were all rescues, and all cocker mixes. LisaM Nov 2017 #78
Thank you so much. Spaniels are my favorite. They're such happy little dogs... Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #80
RIP dear Roy. May we all be loved and missed as much as your dear one. MLAA Nov 2017 #82
What a nice thought. Thank you so much. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #91
He will be waiting for you on the other side, and he will live in your heart until that day. Jack-o-Lantern Nov 2017 #83
I choose to believe that. Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #88
That is so hard.. Permanut Nov 2017 #84
Thank you. A Jack Russell? What feisty, funny little dogs. Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #89
I had cockers. What great dogs. rurallib Nov 2017 #85
Thanks. Yes, Cocker Spaniels are happy dogs. I'm partial to them. I've had two. Thanks.nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #90
So sorry to hear this. spooky3 Nov 2017 #92

Rhiannon12866

(205,237 posts)
2. Oh, no! I am so, so very sorry!
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 04:05 AM
Nov 2017

But I have also been there and I do understand. I grew up with a cocker spaniel - since my father did - and have had four in my life. The last three were senior dogs who I adopted from rescue. My heart goes out to you, I'm getting choked up as I type this. The most important thing to remember, though I know you hurt terribly right now, is how fortunate your beloved Roy was to have found you. And your Rosie will need extra attention since she will be missing him too.

Rhiannon12866

(205,237 posts)
8. When I lost my previous cocker, I had adopted a tiny Brussels Griffon, age 9, whose owner had died
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 04:20 AM
Nov 2017

That's how my cocker had also become homeless, her owner had died, as well. And I found out awhile afterwards that I had actually known her. She'd been a nurse in the oncology unit of the local hospital where my Dad had been, she was memorable because she was so upbeat and humorous - and I had adopted her dog. Those two pups hit it off from the very first night. He'd been separated from his biological sister who was adopted elsewhere. And I realized that it was probably tougher on him than on me.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
16. What a great story. Yes...I expect she'll be upset or depressed. I am retired....
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 05:12 AM
Nov 2017

so I do some special things with her, like more walks in the park, petting her more, and such. I will need that, too. I am reminded that one day, Rosie will be gone, too.

That's the bad thing about pets. They usually die before you do. But better that than the other way around.

Rhiannon12866

(205,237 posts)
24. Thanks - and I know.
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 05:46 AM
Nov 2017

I often wondered if the two pups hit it off so well because they both had lost their owners. That was the worst thing, my little guy found another sister, then lost her as well. But you're right, it is better than the other way around - painful as it is. Rosie is very fortunate to have you since you still have each other.

catbyte

(34,375 posts)
3. Oh, I'm so very sorry. They are family.
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 04:12 AM
Nov 2017

And the only time they ever break your heart is when it's time for them to leave you. Again, I'm so, so sorry.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
19. Yes, it is. The pain...I don't know how a person could take losing a child.
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 05:14 AM
Nov 2017

If losing a pet is this hard.

renate

(13,776 posts)
11. I'm really sorry--what an awful shock... just a few days
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 04:59 AM
Nov 2017

On one hand, your pain and his weren't drawn out... on the other, how awful to suffer such a terrible loss so suddenly.

You did a kind and difficult thing for him. I know from experience how painful it is to make that decision. He sounds adorable and I'm glad he was so happy for so long. You must miss him and his sweet spirit so much.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
20. Thanks. He did have a sweet spirit. A happy little fella, tail always wagging.
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 05:18 AM
Nov 2017

Yes, it was so sudden. Maybe undetected cancer, although I always had the annual exams with blood work. But although I'm in shock at the suddenness of it, he was a senior, so I knew to expect problems soon.

DarthDem

(5,255 posts)
12. So Very Sorry to Hear This
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 05:01 AM
Nov 2017

Sounds like a wonderful, cherished companion. RIP, Roy and all my best wishes to you.

Thekaspervote

(32,757 posts)
15. Not that I'm a religious sort, far from it but have always liked this saying
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 05:06 AM
Nov 2017

If there aren't dogs and horses in heaven, I'm not going!

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
46. I agree! I take the position that....
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 10:13 AM
Nov 2017

until I know for sure, ANYTHING is possible. I choose to believe I'll meet up with my cherished pets again. Thanks for reminding me!

BigmanPigman

(51,585 posts)
23. I have 1000000% empathy with you.
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 05:41 AM
Nov 2017

Everyday I treat my little girl like it could be her last one, she is 14 1/2 and I dread the inevitable. I lost my first little one and it was devastating (actually it was worse than that). I have never experienced such loss and pain. The only silver lining is that I was recently diagnosed and I have only a few years left so I am grateful that the time I will have to endure the loss and pain will be shortened. I can't imagine going through the death of my girl again. My mother was right when she told me I should never have dogs. I need them, but the loss is so excruciatingly painful. I live alone and am sick so when she goes I will no longer have my best friend and my best medicine...warm, soft kisses on my toes from her and pink belly rubs from me.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
47. Oh, my goodness! 14 1/2?!? Oh, my...and you're seriously ill, too?
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 10:20 AM
Nov 2017

I can relate to your situation. I live alone and LOVE my dogs. I've wondered what it would be like when I get really sick or infirm...whether I should have pets. "Warm, soft kisses on my toes" and "pink belly rubs" is a good reason to have them. But like you, I probably wouldn't get a young dog or replace one, if I'm sick or really old. I don't know that that would be fair to him.

I'm impressed yours lasted 14 1/2! Anything special you did so she made it that long?

BigmanPigman

(51,585 posts)
74. All of the smaller dogs that my family
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 04:38 PM
Nov 2017

has had and that I have had lived to be 14-16 since smaller dogs live longer. My family also believes that if you can't afford to take care of your dog properly (like a person who gets ill) then you shouldn't have one. I would rather hand my money over to my dog's vet than to Blue Shield. My neighbor's dog lived to be 18 and Fran Dreshers dog (who was on The Nanny with her for 6 years) was 19 when he died. If my little girl lives that long it would be perfect timing (meant to be). I do not want to get all of my stuff and affairs in order until after she dies since she is a creature of habit and I do not want her to be confused (no needless stress for her). I want to keep a comfortable routine for her sake. Why upset her, you know. After she dies I will do all of that stuff. It will keep me busy and hopefully I will not be curled up in bed and in tears for 6 months. You can tell I have given this much thought.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
79. Very smart thing to do. Plan ahead. I've thought about whether I should get future dogs....
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 05:38 PM
Nov 2017

I'm retired and healthy. My current Rosie is about 11 (she's a mix and healthy, so may live a few more years). But then...do I get another dog? I'll think about that when the time comes.

BigmanPigman

(51,585 posts)
81. If you are healthy and expect to live another 10-15
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 05:49 PM
Nov 2017

years definately get another dog. My parents did 3 years ago when they were 80 and my granmom did when she was 83 (she outlived her 15 year old schnauzer...she died when she was 104). If you are from good DNA and know of someone who would love the dog as much as you in case you died first then do it!!!!!! They DO make you healthier since they provide unconditional love and just petting them immediately lowers your blood presser and anxiety as well as theirs..

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
86. That's true about the health benefits...plus they're fun.
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 11:23 PM
Nov 2017

Oh, yeah...I will live at least another 30 years, probably, unless I get cancer or something. You never know.

BigmanPigman

(51,585 posts)
87. Yes, they have it all don't they?!
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 11:27 PM
Nov 2017

Fun, cute, happy, unconditional love, loyal..... I never have met a single person that has all of those qualities and in such endless amounts.

Moostache

(9,895 posts)
25. My deepest condolences...
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 05:49 AM
Nov 2017

May time and warm memories of better days carry you through this loss.
It never goes away, but the thoughts of happier times make it seem less painful every day.

I still miss my departed pets...years after they passed, but I also remember fondly the times we got to share.
I hope you can dwell on the happy thoughts soon.

LeftInTX

(25,267 posts)
26. A friend of mine lost a Spaniel recently
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 06:12 AM
Nov 2017

He was on his way to Austin to file a complaint with State Board of Veternarians (actually it was to testify) on behalf of one his Spaniels that had died a year ago. Anyway, he took his other two Spaniels with him. Apparently one of them got overheated in the car and died suddenly. He dogs were adorable. I think they were pure breeds. Adorable dogs and a bit smaller than most Spaniels. Long moppy coats and you just wanted to pick them up and hold them.

I'm so sorry. It is a bad time of year to lose a beloved pet

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
49. What a sad story. That poor dog, and that poor man.
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 10:25 AM
Nov 2017

His a/c must not have been working? I've heard that purebreeds are more susceptible to illnesses, but I don't know that for sure. Mine was a purebreed, but adopted from a rescue organization (as is my other dog...but she's a mix).

It IS a bad time of the year. I lost my last Cocker Spaniel during the Thanksgiving holidays, too. AND...I adopted Roy around Thanksgiving about 10 years ago.

 

ironman25

(26 posts)
28. So sorry
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 06:49 AM
Nov 2017

I am so sorry for your loss, it is like having your heart ripped out. Upon being born he was going to live somewhere in this world and he was lucky enough to end up with you. I can only say cherish the memories and be thankful he was yours.

hlthe2b

(102,233 posts)
30. I'm so sorry. I KNOW how much it hurts...
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 06:53 AM
Nov 2017

It took me nearly 18 months to move on--aided by obsessively long walks that inc;uded a lot of crying on less populated trails. Allow yourself the catharsis and then remember how many pets in need there are... FOR YOU

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
60. An excellent thing to do.
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 10:38 AM
Nov 2017

I will go on long walks, and take my remaining dog. We loved to go on walks. Maybe getting involved in a rescue organization is in my future. My heart goes out to these discarded and mistreated and neglected dogs. Hard to believe that people just threw my two dogs away like trash. Adorable quirky fun loving doggies who gave my life more meaning. Thanks!

lapucelle

(18,252 posts)
31. I'm sorry.
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 06:54 AM
Nov 2017

This must be heart-breaking. Be kind to yourself and stick close to Rosie. My thoughts are with you.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
41. Oh, I hate to hear that.
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 10:00 AM
Nov 2017

But it usually happens that htey go first, because they don't live as long as we do. Better than that us going first, I suppose. Maybe it's not the time for yours to go...I hope.

Fla Dem

(23,654 posts)
45. You gave him 11-12 wonderful years as a beloved companion.
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 10:12 AM
Nov 2017

Your love was returned a 1000 fold I'm sure. Always hard to let any loved pet go. I dread the day. Sending a hug your way and a scratch behind the ears to Rosie. May you both comfort each other.

 

Hoyt

(54,770 posts)
67. Very sorry. I have had the "special welcome" experience too. They know and want to comfort you.
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 11:30 AM
Nov 2017

Take care.

Phentex

(16,334 posts)
68. My sister's ex in laws were named Roy and Rosie...
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 11:33 AM
Nov 2017

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how much it hurts.

niyad

(113,275 posts)
72. ((((((((((hc))))))))))) I am so very sorry for your loss.
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 02:40 PM
Nov 2017

Lady of the Beasts, please take Your little one gently home, and send peace and comfort to those who love him.

 
77. I feel you, my friend
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 04:55 PM
Nov 2017

Exactly 50 years ago today, Nov 20. 1967, my father succumbed to lung cancer. He was only 44 years old. And over the ensuing years I have learned that the loss of what society calls a "pet" but is actually a member of the family can hit every bit as hard.

Godspeed, Roy. (See, I'm an agnostic, but I gotta believe there's a nice, gentle place where animals go after leaving this earthly plane. Because they deserve such a place, because they're so much better than us!)

LisaM

(27,803 posts)
78. I'm sorry. My dogs were all rescues, and all cocker mixes.
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 05:01 PM
Nov 2017

I loved them all dearly, and I'm really sorry about Roy.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
80. Thank you so much. Spaniels are my favorite. They're such happy little dogs...
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 05:39 PM
Nov 2017

and a good combination of couch potato and athletic at times. (Well, some of them aren't so little. Roy was a big boy.)

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
88. I choose to believe that.
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 09:32 AM
Nov 2017

I really do. Silly or not. If I don't know for certain, who's to say it's not true? It helps.

Permanut

(5,602 posts)
84. That is so hard..
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 10:09 PM
Nov 2017

Losing a little pal. I have Murphy's ashes beside me as I type, so I know where you are emotionally, and lots of other DU'ers do too.

Thing is, we have a great gift in being able to feel the love and loyalty of a little critter. The flip side is that we feel so deeply when they go on to their next spiritual adventure.

Now I have Joey the Jack Russell terrier. Got him at the shelter, and he is a rescue dog. He rescued me.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
89. Thank you. A Jack Russell? What feisty, funny little dogs.
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 09:37 AM
Nov 2017

Very smart, too. I wouldn't mind getting a smallish Jack Russell next time, if I'm lucky enough to find a rescued one.

My last several have been rescued. I am convinced they know they were rescued, and can tell it used to be a bad life, and now it's good. They've all been loving and devoted, as I was to them.

Thanks so much. I love the name "Murphy." Roy's name came about because that was what the rescue organization named him, so I just kept it.

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