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Mon Jul 30, 2018, 10:03 AM

I always want to ask - "Why the tattoos?"

You know what? I just 'discovered' it's really none of my business!


I Donít Want To Talk About My Tattoos With Strange Men by Emily McCombs HuffPo

Even if a man isnít touching or leering, commenting on tattoos can feel like a perpetuation of the entitlement to our bodies that women experience constantly. Never mind that weíre only riding the train home, or standing in line at the grocery store ― we are still on display, our bodies still up for discussion and commentary. It can feel mentally jarring to be minding your own business, perhaps daydreaming or reading a book, and have your attention drawn again and again to the reality of your thighs or your bare shoulders. The question or compliment itself often feels like a ruse, a thin excuse for men to gleefully exert that access to our bodies, to get away with something in public


Things I will be keeping to myself from now on:

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Reply I always want to ask - "Why the tattoos?" (Original post)
yallerdawg Jul 2018 OP
FakeNoose Jul 2018 #1
comradebillyboy Jul 2018 #10
lame54 Jul 2018 #14
hlthe2b Jul 2018 #2
Arkansas Granny Jul 2018 #3
yallerdawg Jul 2018 #4
hlthe2b Jul 2018 #6
PoindexterOglethorpe Jul 2018 #5
Aristus Jul 2018 #7
The Velveteen Ocelot Jul 2018 #8
NightWatcher Jul 2018 #9
mr_lebowski Jul 2018 #11
Floyd R. Turbo Jul 2018 #12
eppur_se_muova Jul 2018 #13
mythology Jul 2018 #15
MicaelS Aug 2018 #20
tonekat Jul 2018 #16
MissMillie Aug 2018 #17
yallerdawg Aug 2018 #18
Major Nikon Aug 2018 #19
Ron Obvious Aug 2018 #21
oberliner Aug 2018 #22

Response to yallerdawg (Original post)

Mon Jul 30, 2018, 10:07 AM

1. "Got any ragrets?"



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Response to FakeNoose (Reply #1)

Mon Jul 30, 2018, 11:59 AM

10. A classic!

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Response to FakeNoose (Reply #1)

Tue Jul 31, 2018, 03:27 PM

14. Is she lying?...

I don't have any either
Whatever they are

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Response to yallerdawg (Original post)

Mon Jul 30, 2018, 10:11 AM

2. No one's business but the "wearer"--absolutely

That said, I truly personally detest them but I'd never criticize anyone for having them. Everyone gets to make their own decisions. No doubt a lot of people dislike the way I dress, the shoes I chose, the car I drive. None of their business, either.

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Response to hlthe2b (Reply #2)

Mon Jul 30, 2018, 10:18 AM

3. I feel the same way. I don't like them, so I don't have any. What someone else decides to do

with their body is none of my business. One of my own children and all three of my adult grandchildren have tattoos. Their body, their choice and Granny keeps her opinion to herself.

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Response to hlthe2b (Reply #2)

Mon Jul 30, 2018, 10:22 AM

4. I thought some things we do were an 'invitation' to conversation.

I had never thought that was an unfounded presumption on my part.

Self-awareness can at times be startling.

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Response to yallerdawg (Reply #4)

Mon Jul 30, 2018, 10:57 AM

6. Depends on the person, the issue, and the question...

No doubt a lot of people chose their tattoos as an "attention-getter" and are happy to talk about them. Probably a good thing to get to know them first...

On that score, there is a big difference between commenting "I like your tattoo or I like your hat, or I like your shoes, earrings, etc" versus engaging in a head to toe "critique". I think the latter is what we are referring to. And to critique someone on a personal level is really a "none of your business if not asked" kind of phenom.

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Response to yallerdawg (Original post)

Mon Jul 30, 2018, 10:50 AM

5. Count me as another who simply does not get tattoos,

especially ones on the face or neck.

But I do understand they are none of my business.

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Response to yallerdawg (Original post)

Mon Jul 30, 2018, 11:03 AM

7. I have a lot of patients with tattoos.

If the artwork is especially good, I'll say 'nice ink!' and be done with it.

They thank me, and that's all.

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Response to yallerdawg (Original post)

Mon Jul 30, 2018, 11:43 AM

8. I think most tattoos are hideous but I would never comment on someone's

because what other people do to adorn their bodies is their choice and none of my business. If someone asked my opinion of their tattoos I'd probably say something to the effect that it was nicely done, but I'd keep my opinion about tattoos in general to myself.

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Response to yallerdawg (Original post)

Mon Jul 30, 2018, 11:54 AM

9. I'm going to decorate myself in an extreme way, but don't you comment about it.

I don't care what you do to your body, but you cannot avoid comments from people.

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Response to yallerdawg (Original post)

Mon Jul 30, 2018, 12:34 PM

11. Man, this is a pretty damn wide range in the scale of 'offensive behavior' ...

I mean ... isn't blurting out "So are you f***ing a tattoo artist?" like 1,000X more offensive than "using your tattoo's as a conversation starter as a means to ask you out"?

Seems a bit cynical and disingenuous IMHO to lump these two actions together ... but then again, I'm neither a woman, nor am I afflicted by the recent outbreak, this scourge that's causing 'publicly visible tattoos' to pop up on so many people's epidermis, so ... I may be too privileged to really understand.

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Response to yallerdawg (Original post)

Mon Jul 30, 2018, 12:42 PM

12. My daughter is heavily inked, and I pity the fool that would say or do some of those things to her!

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Response to yallerdawg (Original post)

Tue Jul 31, 2018, 02:58 PM

13. So you're wearing a f*ing ***SIGN*** and you resent that it invites attention ???

Not. Thinking. It. Through.

No sympathy for the offended. NONE.

Don't want people to notice it, DON'T GET IT.

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Response to eppur_se_muova (Reply #13)

Tue Jul 31, 2018, 04:43 PM

15. I can sympathize on some of them

 

Nobody should be cat-called for example.

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Response to eppur_se_muova (Reply #13)

Wed Aug 1, 2018, 11:04 AM

20. Agree 100 percent.

I think tats and facial piercing are disguisting. I have no sympathy for people that get them.

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Response to yallerdawg (Original post)

Tue Jul 31, 2018, 08:42 PM

16. I have a friend with colorful 'sleeves'

She goes to stores and people think she's wearing a tight shirt.

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Response to yallerdawg (Original post)

Wed Aug 1, 2018, 06:05 AM

17. My tattoos mean something to me

One is on my ankle, where it can be seen by all.

The other is high up on my thigh, where it can't be seen unless I choose to show it.

I'd be happy to talk to anyone who asked about them. If someone asked, they might want to know something about me.

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Response to MissMillie (Reply #17)

Wed Aug 1, 2018, 07:17 AM

18. Do you disagree?

But Iím still being approached by a stranger who wants to take up my time and emotional energy to have a discussion about a piece of art that, at the end of the day, lives on my body. This makes for a pretty intimate conversation that often involves said stranger staring at my body parts, commenting on them, sometimes even trying to touch them.

When youíre experiencing it, that kind of attention doesnít feel like earnest interest. It feels objectifying.


What I'm talking about is my personal presumption that because you have a tattoo, you have 'invited' me to make personal, intimate conversation with you about why you have tattoos, what is their meaning, what is their significance - a damn intimate conversation to have with any person, let alone a total stranger.

That was my presumption. I believe I was wrong to presume that.

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Response to yallerdawg (Original post)

Wed Aug 1, 2018, 09:29 AM

19. Sometimes I ride the bus home in a speedo

Without fail, every day multiple people feel entitled enough to talk about it. Mostly it's things like, good god man, have some decency or I wish I was as brave as you. People don't realize how old this gets.

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Response to yallerdawg (Original post)

Wed Aug 1, 2018, 11:35 AM

21. I've NEVER seen anyone who looked better with a tattoo that without it.

But hey, people have a right to disfigure themselves I suppose.

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Response to yallerdawg (Original post)

Wed Aug 1, 2018, 11:38 AM

22. This has got to be a parody

 

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