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Wed Jul 3, 2019, 02:19 PM

When you find out something you did 20 years ago mattered,

And it will come when you least expect.
I get a FB mssg from name I don't know from Myrtle Beach.. We do not live there but visit often as we have a perm camper site there. So I ask Mrs K if she recognizes name. Nope. hmmmm. Mrs K comes back a few mins later and says,,wasn't your ex wife's daughter that name? Last name was diff cuz of marriage ,but yeah. I hadn't seen her in 20 years. She wanted to tell me her mom/my ex had passed.We started online texting and then I said,, Im old, dammit,,just call me.
Long story short. We are talking on phone, we are gonna go down and meet her and her family, it touched me so much when she reminded me how many times I stayed up late and just talked to her when she was a teenager, and always had time for her. Her mom passed from drugs,she was a DR. jumper back when you could do it, before the computer systems ,reason for our divorce.
But to hear this grown up woman, tell me, I remember "when you said", just touched me. I cant wait to see her. Her whole family talked to my handicapped daughter on phone last night. I have not seen her since she was 17,,now she 37.
Do the right thing every day,every situation. It make take a while,but someone will eventually say THANKS!!


ty for reading

Koz

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kozar Jul 2019 OP
spooky3 Jul 2019 #1
SWBTATTReg Jul 2019 #2
llmart Jul 2019 #3
genxlib Jul 2019 #19
Mach1miles Jul 2019 #4
in2herbs Jul 2019 #5
pnwmom Jul 2019 #6
lillypaddle Jul 2019 #7
panader0 Jul 2019 #8
Honeycombe8 Jul 2019 #9
FailureToCommunicate Jul 2019 #10
cilla4progress Jul 2019 #11
Phentex Jul 2019 #12
justhanginon Jul 2019 #13
Chalco Jul 2019 #14
kozar Jul 2019 #15
wryter2000 Jul 2019 #16
MBS Jul 2019 #17
Karadeniz Jul 2019 #18
kozar Jul 2019 #20

Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Jul 3, 2019, 02:37 PM

1. You are a good hearted soul. Nt

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Jul 3, 2019, 02:45 PM

2. Most people realise that things do have a lasting impact but a lot of them don't realise...

just how much things CAN impact others. What a nice story and thanks for sharing w/ us on DU. Take care.

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Jul 3, 2019, 03:09 PM

3. What a lovely story.

It's also nice for us to remember to tell someone from our past a memory about something nice they did for us that has stayed with us all these years.

So many people in my past did things for me that just made life a little better/easier for me. Some of them are dead now, but I still think of and talk about the thing they did or said to me that made a difference.

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Response to llmart (Reply #3)

Thu Jul 4, 2019, 12:55 PM

19. This too

I go out of my way to tell people how they impacted my life in ways they probably wouldn’t even remember

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Jul 3, 2019, 03:17 PM

4. I'm so happy she called you.

 

❤️❤️❤️

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Jul 3, 2019, 03:23 PM

5. Like the ad says: "It only takes a moment to make a moment." Congrats & good job.

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Jul 3, 2019, 03:26 PM

6. That's an inspiring story. Thanks for sharing it! n/t

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Jul 3, 2019, 03:32 PM

7. Wow, that's really something

Good for all of you! Thanks for sharing.

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Jul 3, 2019, 03:46 PM

8. beautiful.

So sorry about the ex, but so cool that you made such an impression on
her daughter.
Your last sentence is so true. Smile at strangers--it helps.
There's a DUer with a sig, something like "be kind, everyone you meet
is fighting a battle inside."
My step-son was three when I married his mom. We had three of our own kids.
When our relationship went south, he and I stayed in touch until she forbade it.
It was several years later, when he was a grown man, that we got back
together. My heart soared. Now I am the granddad of his kids.

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Jul 3, 2019, 04:17 PM

9. What a wonderful story.

You sound like a great guy. And she sounds like a great gal, to remember and call.

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Jul 3, 2019, 04:28 PM

10. Well done Mr K!! And yes, 'do the right thing, always' even if no one EVER

eventually says thank you.

You'll know... in your heart of hearts.


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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Jul 3, 2019, 04:34 PM

11. Beautiful story!

Doing something good for no acclaim or recognition, out of kindness and empathy, is a reward unto itself. This is icing on the cake.

Respect, man!

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Jul 3, 2019, 04:52 PM

12. Very nice...here's the part I relate to...

Im old, dammit,,just call me.

I hope you have a great time catching up.


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Response to kozar (Original post)

Wed Jul 3, 2019, 05:18 PM

13. Best damn post of the day! Thank you for sharing.

All of a sudden I feel better about what was initially a crappy day.

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Thu Jul 4, 2019, 11:01 AM

14. Dumb question

What is a DR. jumper?

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Response to Chalco (Reply #14)

Thu Jul 4, 2019, 11:30 AM

15. someone who would go from Dr to Dr to get pills before they had the computer database

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Thu Jul 4, 2019, 11:48 AM

16. How wonderful

I hope you have a great reunion.

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Thu Jul 4, 2019, 11:53 AM

17. I'm so happy to read this story

You did good and you are so right that the things you do for people matter more than you know. A wonderful local columnist for the Boston Globe, the late Donald Murray, once wrote, “you have more friends than you know.” That simple statement has reassured me and encouraged me more than once. The corollary is (really the same statement viewed from the other side of the fence)is “you do more good for people than you know.”
Thanks for making my day.

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Thu Jul 4, 2019, 12:54 PM

18. It's never too late to show appreciation! Out of the blue, I recently received a note from

Someone who'd adopted one of my foster kittens 15 years ago. Kitty had passed and the purpose was to say thanks for fostering someone who'd become a beloved member of their family! Boy, made my day!!!!

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Response to kozar (Original post)

Thu Jul 11, 2019, 08:08 PM

20. What a blast it was,,

Her kids are amazing,, She is amazing,,we talked laughed more than we cried and Mrs K and Tess loved them. And they all returned the love to us all. I felt complete!


Koz

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