S#!T - my husband found one of his friends dead tonight

[csziggy]

We've known him for over forty years and he is one of the guys my husband has played D&D with. The friend's daughter calls him "Uncle 'Ziggy'".

We should have known something was wrong since we haven't heard for him for a couple of days. The man has had multiple by-passes, stents, heart attacks, and strokes, and was a case study at one of the medical schools because of an injury to his heart as a child. He'ss been having repeated problems with his lungs filling with fluid and stays in the hospital to get his lungs clear, was tested for Covid but always negative. Last time they checked his heart they told him 25% of it was dead and it was working at 40% of capacity.

We knew it was not going to be very long, but this is horrible.

For years my husband has made sure he made it to medical appointments, that he got his medicine, got decent nutrition, and that his bills were paid. All his friends kicked in for the last - under $1000 on Social Security Disability did not give him much to live on.

My husband had to call 911, deal with the police who had to make sure there was no foul play (he was sitting in his recliner with his oxygen on), contact his daughter, help her set up transporting his body to the crematorium, and so forth. On Monday my husband will contact his landlord and make arrangements to pay for the apartment for a month so the family will have time to get all his stuff out.

Shit. He was only 63.

[MaryMagdaline]

1. I'm so sorry. Condolences to you snd your husband

[sfstaxprep]

2. Your Husband Was A Good Friend

His help probably extended his friend's life.

I give you and your husband my condolences. It must have been very traumatizing to find him deceased.

[qazplm135]

3. Way too young to die

My condolences.

[csziggy]

5. We always knew he'd go early

He's had serious health problems since he was in a car accident as a child that moved his heart out of place. The in another accident his pancreas was destroyed. In the last ten years his health has really declined, then when his wife died - in front of him and my husband - he stopped eating anything healthy unless my husband or some friend made him do it.

We were hoping he'd make it past the end of the year. Damn.

[Delmette2.0]

24. My deepest sympathies to your husband and you.

I truely know what it's like to find a loved one gone sooner than expected. I never know what to tell someone other than I've been there and know the pain your husband is going through. The man knew his friends loved him that is the best gift they could give.

[csziggy]

25. Thank you - this is a tight group of friends

And he was not the first to go. Since most of the group have no children, and some no family at all that they are close to, they try to take care of each other.

Tomorrow my husband is going into town to help his daughter go through his stuff. It's not going to be easy for either of them.

[Tumbulu]

4. I am so sorry

What a good friend your husband has been.

Hugs to you both.

[csziggy]

6. My husband is a very good person

Good thing or he wouldn't put up with me.

Thank you.

[Kali]

7. can this year suck any worse? I swear!

sorry for you, your husband and Uncle Ziggy's family.

[csziggy]

8. Thank you, it's been a tough year, hasn't it? nt

[Lithos]

9. F*ck

Your husband is a saint...

[csziggy]

11. He's pretty close to one, that is certain. nt

[Lady Freedom Returns]

10. ......

[GoneOffShore]

12. So sorry. You and your husband take care now.

[KT2000]

13. How sad and

traumatic. That is so young too. Peace to you and your husband.

[Aussie105]

14. There's enough trauma and sadness in the world

without COVID and Trump.

At least with those two, we can do something about reducing the sadness and stress they bring.

I know how it feels. Even worse if it's not expected. Lost my son to an overdose of opiods. Didn't even make it to half of the 63 years.

[MustLoveBeagles]

27. My condolences on the loss of your son

[calimary]

15. I'm so sorry, csziggy.

This is some kinda year, gotta say.

Feels like we’ve all been stepped on by some very heavy feet that won’t move off or away.

Virtual

[MFM008]

16. he was lucky

to have friends like your family.

[jdadd]

17. .....

[SheltieLover]

18. Deepest Condolences

So sorry to hear of your loss, csziggy.

Hugs to you and your hubby. That must have been awful for him to find your friend!

Healing vibes to you both. 💗💗💗

[CountMyVote4Reality]

19. So sorry.

Blessings for your friend. He got out early.

[sinkingfeeling]

20. Condolences to you and your dear husband.

[Phentex]

21. So very sorry...

My heart goes out to you both.

[LuckyCharms]

22. I'm very sorry.

[NNadir]

23. It was good of your husband to take care of him. Condolences & thank him for being a real Mensch.

[MustLoveBeagles]

26. Condolences to you, your husband and Uncle Ziggy's other friends and family