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alarimer

(16,245 posts)
Sat Nov 21, 2020, 07:59 PM Nov 2020

I'm so angry with my dad right now.

He went to South Dakota on a hunting trip. Now, I know some people object to hunting. I don't, but it seems like an insane thing to do in the middle of a pandemic. And South Dakota is a major hotspot (I mean it's surging all over, but seems worse there). He's 75 years old. They posted maskless photos (which, I know, is not really an indication that they didn't wear masks at other times).

It's hard for me to tell how seriously they have taken this pandemic. They live in South Carolina, so they are in a state that never really took it seriously, although it was better there than in South Dakota. No one is visiting them for the holidays, except my sister and my niece, who live nearby.

I have curtailed nearly my entire life to help stop the spread and it honestly infuriates me to see people (especially my family) traveling as if nothing is wrong.

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localroger

(3,602 posts)
2. But make him quarantine for two weeks after he gets back.
Sat Nov 21, 2020, 08:29 PM
Nov 2020

If he won't stay away from you, keep yourself and anyone else you care about away from him until you're sure he's clear.

MFM008

(19,776 posts)
3. not when hes putting
Sat Nov 21, 2020, 08:42 PM
Nov 2020

everyone's health in reckless danger.
Im getting sick of these people.
They are why this pandemic is EXPLODING.
They need to start treating them like the Chinese
did, just drag their asses off to jail to stop this shit, its killing everyone around it.

MFM008

(19,776 posts)
9. Im saying people who act with reckless disregard
Sat Nov 21, 2020, 09:08 PM
Nov 2020

for others peoples lives.
I get the same shit from my sister.....there is no pandemic whhaaaaaaa.
There needs to be something to seriously FOCUS their attention on doing WTF they should be doing
in the first place.
Take chances with someone elses life.
ive been holed up for 10 months and im tired of idiots.

JudyM

(29,122 posts)
11. People don't even know they're killing people, they just blindly assume they're not.
Sat Nov 21, 2020, 09:28 PM
Nov 2020

New research shows that over half of Covid infections are contracted from an asymptomatic or presymptomatic carriers. Meaning you don’t know who you’re getting sick, and you don’t know who you are killing!

alarimer

(16,245 posts)
12. I know.
Sat Nov 21, 2020, 09:44 PM
Nov 2020

I’m mainly venting here. He might be lucky and not get it or transmit it. It was just so risky.

lunasun

(21,646 posts)
4. When will safe people be able to go to a concert a movie out for a nice meal?
Sat Nov 21, 2020, 08:49 PM
Nov 2020

A very long time if this kind of activity occurs and a lot of people just don’t give a fuck Go on vacations now & mingle unmasked
I do not blame you for your anger but most importantly please stay away let them know you love them but you differ in approach to a pandemic

alarimer

(16,245 posts)
13. We are not visiting for the holidays
Sat Nov 21, 2020, 09:48 PM
Nov 2020

Or anytime soon.

I also know that shaming people does not really work, so how do we get through? I have no idea.

lunasun

(21,646 posts)
14. Just stay away let them know you love them but you differ in approach to a pandemic
Sat Nov 21, 2020, 10:28 PM
Nov 2020

Be firm in your stance & don’t let him
shame you! I would not expect a change just keep yourself safe 😷

silverweb

(16,402 posts)
5. That's *so* irresponsible.
Sat Nov 21, 2020, 08:51 PM
Nov 2020

One of my near relatives, a middle-aged male with immune compromise, has refused to wear a mask and actually moved from an eastern blue state to rural Utah so he wouldn't have to. Now virtually all rural areas are infected and Utah is one of the worst. So far he's been lucky, but he still won't wear a mask and continues to ridicule the idea.

I don't know what he's really thinking, but he's a hard-core Libertarian so it's probably this: "I feel fine, so fuck you all." That's pretty much what he's told me. There's nothing I can do or say at this point, and I'm thoroughly fed up with the aggressive insult attempts (i.e., "you and your socialist pals" ). It hurts because we were quite close when he was much younger, but we're getting old now and he knows better.

Doodley

(8,976 posts)
8. I'm with you there. I have hard-core Trumper anti-masker family members, I cannot stand to even
Sat Nov 21, 2020, 08:57 PM
Nov 2020

look at.

Doodley

(8,976 posts)
18. Some will drive you to school when you're a child. Some will drive you to drink when you're an adult
Sun Nov 22, 2020, 01:06 AM
Nov 2020

lostnfound

(16,138 posts)
16. South Dakota is 3x worse than most other states now
Sat Nov 21, 2020, 11:57 PM
Nov 2020

I wouldn’t go there for any amount of money right now. 141 New cases per day per 100,000 right now. If it lasts 20 days that’s about 3 out of every 100 people got sick in last 20 days.


https://covid.cdc.gov/covid-data-tracker/#cases_casesper100klast7days

lastlib

(22,978 posts)
17. Outdoors in the woods, he shouldn't be at much risk, unless
Sun Nov 22, 2020, 12:31 AM
Nov 2020

he gets really cozy with his buddies, maybe.

But, yeah, quarantine him when he gets back.

orleans

(33,986 posts)
19. i'm sorry. i know it drives me crazy when i see people
Sun Nov 22, 2020, 04:31 AM
Nov 2020

being careless or thoughtless or selfish pertaining to this pandemic

and if my parents were still alive and behaved in a way that i perceive to be reckless or thoughtless (to themselves or to others) i'd be furious too.

and i would feel the same way with my adult daughter.

i think it's that i would expect better of my parents, just as i do my daughter. (along the line of: just because everyone else is acting like an idiot doesn't mean you have to)

hope your dad is okay. (and i hope he misses and doesn't kill anyone or anything.

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